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Q: I met my best guy friend 3 years ago (lets call him mark)...we were friends for about two months before we started acting like a couple but we'rent going out. About a year later we were nothing but friends and a new friend of mine (lets call her aly) needed a bf. So I introduced them. Aly went out with Mark on and off for about 5 months...they have been broken uhp for 6th months now and me and aly have been best friends for a year. Me and mark have recently (2 months ago) had feelings for each other again. I went to the movies with him yesterday and I relized that I had fallen completely in love with him. I dont want to hurt aly but is it ohkay for me to date mark eventually? what should I tell aly so she can accept it. Ive know mark for at lesast a year longer than aly...and I used have a realtionship like theirs before. what should I do??? i'll rate high

you should talk to aly about it before she shouldnt have a big problem with it because you and mark have had a thing before and you have known him longer 6 months is a long time she should be over it by now..goodluck.best wishes

Q: In November, this guy liked me. I liked him too. We didnt become a couple until January. We've been together since the 12th of January, and Ive fallen in love. Hes the best thing thats ever happened to me. But I have a problem. Ive been having some family issues, and i wasnt myself for the past 2 weeks. Its too late. Today was the last day of school, of 6th grade, were going on to middle school, and he doesnt love me as much. Were trying to decide whether to break up or not, but i really dont want to. I love him so much. It will be hard though. Were so young. No one has ever made me feel this way. I miss him so much and have been hysterical all night. I dont know what to do. Someone help me either get over him, make it work, or atleast calm down. Its gonna take more than that though.

all i have to say is your barely ending elementry school you will get over it soon i promise when you look back at this relationship you will laugh and remember all the goodtimes it brought you but there will be many of those good feeling great memories relationships trust me you have 6 more years of school you will have at least 8 more of these relationships good luck with junior high and high school

Q: Ok I have a problem I'm currently going out with this guy *lets call him bob* and I really like him, but the thing is that he has dumped me many times before but this time he says that he really likes me. Now there is this other guy *jeff* and hes pretty hott but I haven't ever gone out with him before and It's the summer so I could go to the beach with Bob and i don't know what I would do with Jeff but I don't know who to choose!

PLease help me I'll rate you a 5 for a good answer please

well i think before you go out with bob again you should make sure he knows that if he hears a rumor he should talk to you and ask you if its true instead of assuming its true i didnt give advice much on which one would be best but i would say pick which one you see yourself having most of the fun with

Q: ok im 15 and sometimes i feel like my boyfriend wants me to do more than just making out. But i dont think im ready and i dont want to yet. We've been together for 6 months and some people say thats a long time. But what should i do? is it bad for me to be 15 and not wanna do anything yet? is 6 months along time?

no its perfectly fine dont do anything you arent ready for dont let anyone pressure you to do anything you dont want to..its not bad to not want to do anything ever

Q: ok see im 16/f and my mom hates my boyfriend. like when we first started talkin she was ok then out of no where she hated him. then she changed her mind and let me go to his moms wedding reception. so we were ok. then he called me a fag on the answering machine(just playing around)she got upset he apologized and we were ok now she hates him and wont let him call my house, so he calls my cell. i love this kid and he loves me but shes messing things up. what should i do?

try to talk to her about it tell her how you feel about her hating him explain to her about the message..not much advice sorry

Q: umm I’m turning 16 in a couple of months and I haven’t really had a real boyfriend. I mean I did when I was in 6th grade and only for a week and we did nothing it was a waste. I have never had my real kiss but all my friends have and they think I have too even my best friend thinks so. Also all the guys I talk to think I have to because I’m very flirty. I never really set my friends right about all this because I was scared to tell them. But I’m going into freshman year and I haven’t had a boyfriend, my real kiss or anything and I’m really sad about that im also scared to kiss someone now because i could be bad at it and that scares me a little. I don’t know what to do. Guys have asked me out and guys have hit on me but I just never liked those guys that have. My question is: what is my problem is there anything wrong with me?? and I’m VERY picky about guys if that helps u answer my question. thanks for the help.

P.S Sorry that it is so long I'll rate high thanks!!

*K

you dont have a problem you just know what you want and dont settle for less and there isnt much wrong with that just try to think of one person who fits all of those qualities it probably rare you will find someone my advice to you would be set your standards a little lower no guy is perfect they all have their imperfections but you can find one whos near perfect and you will never know if you are a good kisser unless you give it a try but dont go and give your first kiss to just any guy you see make sure its special..and the whole never having a boyfriend really isnt bad because well think about all the good times you had flirting with other guys come on being single isnt that bad..telling your friends you havent kissed a guy before isnt bad either some of them probably havent and they say they have because they feel the same way as you do..hope i helped

Q: well, i've known this guy for about 2-3 years, and he's one of the sweetest guys i've ever known. i can talk to him about anything, and everything. and if i asked or wanted the world, he would give it to me. he means a lot to me, and i dont want to lose him. im not sure if he likes me, or is just being a good friend. he calls me hun, sweetheart, and his little princess. i know what you're probably thinking, whats the problem, why not just ask him out or something. well heres the problem... i'm sixteen (almost seventeen), and hes, twenty-three. is this right? i dont think my parents would have a problem with it, because they really like him. but im afraid my other friends/relatives will,because of such the difference in age. i really like him, and he's basically what i've been looking for. and i think im in love with him. can you please help me out?

well i would just make sure that he isnt trying to get something from you but after 3 years i think thats not the case so i say just ask him or bring up the subject of a higher relationship with him and hopefully youll get the answer your looking for the age thing shouldnt matter much just as long as you know how people can be out there in the world and how they can talk but if you love him then all of the things people say wont matter

Q: 16.f -- i met this guy at a party i had this past weekend, hes 21, and really nice .. he seems like hes into me and invited me to his party this saturday. the only catch is that hes 21, and hes 1 of my sister's, boyfriend's best friends. Either way, i'm probably going to go to the party, but i just want to know if yall think i should "persue this"..?? thanks yall

well i know im younger than you but i would tell you to take a friend even though you think you can handle yourself sometimes girls get caught up in the things boys can say to them sure your saying no i wont ill be careful but most likly it wont end up that way so anyways back to my answer which would be take a friend and have fun make sure you get drinks for yourself so you know noone is slipping anything in..goodluck and have fun
-Marissa

Q: ok i like this guy, and i have off n on for like a year. well now were talking n stuff n im starting to like him again but everyone makes fun of me cause i keep on going back to him everytime. i dunno if i should try and get over him because they all say i can do betta or like him n hope things work out this time. hit me up plzzz!

~confused

okay the question i want to ask you is do you think he likes you and do you think this off an on relationship is worth it because if he likes you then i say keep with him but if you know he doesnt for sure like hes told you he likes someone else then you can still like him im not telling you not to but i think you should maybe expand out to liking other people but if your heart keeps going back to him then maybe it was meant to be but im thinking unless this guy is like totally perfect then hes going to do or say something that is going to be a huge turn off for you all guys do it
hope i helped send me something if you need more help
..*..MarissA..*..

Q: I met this guy online. I have been takling to him for like 8 months. I like him and he likes me. We live in diffrent states. What should i do!?

okay make sure hes not some physco killer thats like 45 pretending to be 13 and then if you think you both can handle a long distance relationship i say go for it
hope i helped
..*..MarissA..*..

Q: my bf and i have been together 4 2 yrs now.. we love eachother completly and we trust eachother and all.. my parents r really strict and they dont noe im wit him! i found out tat my bf is going to another skool so he can improve his grades.. n i really dont mind i meen i do cuz im not gunna see him as much but i trust him and he told me tat no matter wat we r gonna b together.. he said tat we could see eachother during the weekends n stuff but i dnt think ill b able to see him tat much and i donno im scared about the whole thing.. any advice would b helpful.. tanx

first thing i have to say is you very good at keeping things hidden i cant lie about a b/f to my parents but if you want to see him on weekends your going to have to tell them or find a way to sneak around and see eachother
i probably didnt help that much but good luck
..*..MarissA..*..

Q: In the 3rd grade i used to always hand out wit this boy and i liked him to death. he liked me 2 this might sound childish but plz listen, he moved nad i did see him again until a few weeks ago.And i walked past him and he said hi gloria (my mom) and to me he said..."uhhhhhhh what is ur name"!! I was sooooooo mad! what the heck is goin in?

well what i am wondering is how long ago was the 3rd grade cuz if it was like 4 years ago then well of course he wouldnt recognize you you probably changed alot and usually your parents dont that much