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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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If he is obviously still in love with his ex then you know what you must do. The fact is the the ex is not coming back so.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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If it bothers you that much I would confront them and cordially state that you don't like it, but that they're free to do what they want. Maybe explain to them why it bothers you and the example they're setting for young impressionable children. Direct approach is always the most effective. Good luck.
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There is this boy who really likes me and I did like him...we were a 'thing' for about 2 weeks and then I realised he's too serious about it and I'm too young and stuff. He still likes me but I don't! I told him that we're better off friends and seriously that's a good thing right now.
How do I get him to get the clue again?????????? (link)
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Make sure you are clear about it. There shouldnt be a clue babe. There shouldnt be a clue. Women always think that we men are smart enough to figure out a subtle rejection or even not one so subtle. BUt the truth is that we like you already, and we are gonna either deny the rejection, or keep trying (is our nature). If you really want him out of your face, you have to be very clear. Tell him the truth, you dont like him. Dont say something like "I dont wanna bf right now" thats the classic. To men that means "if I keep trying, she might want a bf later. Obviously u dont want anything to do with him, so say it. Be honest even if you hurt him a bit. He'll get rejected probably a thousand times in his lifetime, is something he must get used to anyway...all of us guys have to.
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Okay so I'm a girl and i'm 14. I like this guy he's 14 as well. He's been flirting with me alot, he thinks i'm gorgeous, hot, he says noone can resist me and such. A friend of mine asked him if he was gonna ask me out cuz he was going to a while ago but he had a girlfriend. He said that I'm a cool girl and he wants to but he's afraid cuz of how his relationships have beeng going. So, I want to ask him out. The problem is that one of my best friends likes him too. It feels like if I ask him it'll be betraying her. But if he asks me it'd be different since i didn't pursue it even though I knew she liked him. Plus, she's laid back and i'm sure she wouldn't really mind if this guy and i go out.
My question is: Should I ask him out? Or wait for him? (link)
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Sweetie, this guy you are talking about is his own person. You and your best friend should not treat him like property; I think that if you like him and he likes you, there is no reason why you should not pursue the relationship. You'll realize this once you get a little older. Its a little sad that your friend likes him too, its great that you had a concern about your friend, but neither of you can decide who he goes out with. If you ask me, I think the guy is fair game. I wish I had two hotties fighting over me. lol
I hope I helped.
William
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ok so i just started going out w/ this guy but i REALLY like him and we talk every night unti like 2 in the morning on the phone. so i always have the urge to say i love you... but i know htat i don't. but i don't want to say "I like you" because that doesn't sound quite right and he already knows that. what is an alternative to saying " i love you" to someone you REALLY like but don't exactly love yet. cuz i still want to mean what i say. (link)
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Babe,
You just started going out with this guy. If you don't love him, than dont say it! And if you do love him, then he's going to think youre psycho since you guys just started dating. I was with a girl for a while, and jokingly one night after talking for some odd 4 long hours, As I was saying bye,I said "I care about you." There is nothing wrong with CARING, right? "I care about you" doesnt carry all the weight and history an "I love you" does. You are just letting him know that you are developing feelings for him, not that you are crazyly obsessed. I would tell him "I care about you" when saying "good bye." Also, after telling my girl that, she started saying it back, next thing you know SHE confessed her love for me.
Good luck.
William
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im 16f and all my friends go out with lads...but i seem the only one not 2...i havent had my first kiss yet and that makes me feel more down and like that no one would ever want me (yes i no its sounds stupid but thats how i feel) i talk to lads but they dont seem interested or anyone who does like me are ugly and i dont like them or there too young...
is there a way too make lads like me or talk to me more often so they start to like me ?
(sorry if its confusing) xox (link)
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Bleieve me hun, lads are intereseted (thats their purpose in life as mammals). You could try being more outgoing. Guys don't expect a girl to just come and talk to them, they usually expect to make the effort themselves; so think about how much a guy would appreciate it if we didn't have to go through that social obstacle. Also, dont be shallow. Try to find something you like in some of those not-so-desirable lads. Give them a fair chance, you're not likely gonna find the lad with looks, humor, and money, so you gotta make some sacrifices. Good luck.
PS: Dressing slutty works too (last resort).
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Okay, theres this guy, that i talk to on myspace, and we go to school togeather, and i talk to him there to.
ANYWAY, whenever we talk, we always end up "fighting" but its SOOOO fun to fight with him, and i just love annoying him, and he's the same way with me.
My friends say that this is flirting, but i dont see how it is. Cause were just pretty much arguing...
Anyway, I really like him, and i'm not so sure if he likes me, but he can be a real jerk.
So, the quistion is, should i go after him, even though he seems to only like to use me to argue with?
~Melissa~ (link)
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Sweetie, dont kid yourself. Its not "just pretty much arguing." You said it yourself, you like this guy. Have you thought that maybe this is the one thing right now that you have in common with this guy? and that you might just be capitalizing on it? To me, it seems thats the only thing you two have in common (the arguing). So, instead of arguing. Why not ask him about his day? What does he like? Favorite food? etc. It seems that you guys are just struggling to get eachother's attention, and I would bet that he likes you too, hence he continues with the flirting, I mean arguing. lol. You could come out two ways out of this, annoyed or with a new boyfriend. Its up to you.
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yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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Sweetheart, you need to dump him as fast as you can. Have some common sense. He obviously didnt love you enough to not cheat on you, nor did he love you enough to tell you the first time he did it. There is a big breach of trust there now, and having a third party involved is most certainly not going to help any of you. I know you love him, but you just have to let go, unless of course your "like that."
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This is going to be long... BEAR WITH ME!
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now, and we are very much in love. Just like any other couple, we have our fights and our ups and downs.
A few weeks ago, at my homecoming dance a friend of mine was driving me and a large group of my friends back to a girls house for a sleepover. (Don't worry, there were no guys sleeping over) In the front seat there was a guy sitting there from another school. He used to go to my highschool but was transfered out, not sure why though. Anyway, we were tall talking in the car, and I said something and the kid in the front seat turned around and turned on the light and said "I want to get a good look at you". We were talking about random things for about 20 minutes then we got to the girls house I was staying over at, and I left.
A few days later, he added me as his friend on myspace, then we started talking alot online. We realized we had SO much in common. We like the same foods, have the same aspirations, he lives RIGHT next door to my aunt, alot of the same beliefs... About after a week or two of talking online he said to me "I'm so in love with you". I figured he meant the kind of I love you that you'd say to your close friends. And I was said "Yeah, I'm sure". He said "No, I really do. You're the most amazing girl I've ever met. I talk to you more than other girls. You're beautiful, sweet.. Everything I could ever hope for in a girl". He does know that I have a boyfriend and that we've been together for a while and that we love eachother. He says he doesn't want to get in the way of our relationship.. But he is.
I've found my self slowly but surely falling for this guy, and it sucks. But I've noticed a few things about him.. Everything he says doesn't seem sincere. He tells me how much he likes me yadda yadda yadda... But then he goes and says the same thing to other girls. So, at this point I'm thinking to myself that I'm just another girl to him.. Nothing special. I'm trying to not think about him because I DO love my boyfriend dearly.. But I keep thinking about this boy. And I hate it.
I need help to stop thinking about him.. I don't want to stop talking to him completely because he's really nice and a great person to talk to. I'm so confused... What do I do? I'm not about to ruine my year and a half relationship for something I don't know is going to even last... I'm tired of taking chances. (link)
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Do not, I repeat, Do not go for this guy. Beleive me, you will appreciate and cherish what you have now once you go for the other guy. I've been there and don that and have found out that the grass is never greener on the other side. stick with your boyfriend. you'll thank me for it.
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Ok guys, how do you like girls flirting with you? Like how much flirting and what kind? I would really appriciate it!
*I rAtE hIgH!!!!* (link)
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Well, act interested. Just throw in a smile here and there. Most of the time the guy will be asking questions if he is interested. All you have to do is answer them with a happy face. Ask a question every so often guys like that you show interest.
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There's always articles in magazines saying how you can REALLY get the guys to like you.
Smile, be nice, be funny, yada yada yada.
But, in your opinon how do you REALLY get guys to like you?
I mean different magazines say different things so, what do you think? (link)
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Most guys like the slutty-protraying girls. The ones that are outgoing and are not scared to talk to you. Also, if you are hot, then you sould try being more outgoing. Most of us guys are a little intimidated when we see a hot girl.
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Okay, Im kinda big if you kno what i mean but im not like huge and i cant get a boyfriend..but all my friends say im really pretty and everything but i dont think i am..is there anyway i can change how guys look at me ?? I wanna do it for me and not for them. I rate 5s
14/F ( if that helps ) (link)
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Well, if you truely are unhappy with the way you look like then you are probably not happy with yourself. What I suggest is embrace what God has given you or do something to change it. Like work out, take a walk, get a healthier diet. There is plenty (well maybe less) of guys that love bigger girls. I hope I helped you out.
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