My first real boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about a month and a half ago and I am still very upset about it. At first he told me he was breaking up with me because I was possesive and jealous and then he told me it was because he wanted to be single. Two weeks later I found out that he started dating another girl who lives 3 hours away and is 2 years younger then him. He is 17 and she is 15. A few days later they already started telling each other they love each other and they only met the weekend before we broke up. I wanted to be friends but he told me he wanted nothing to do with me. I stopped calling him but everytime I see him I still get upset. What should I do? Do you think he will ever realize he made a mistake? Why does he act like he doesnt care about me?
If possible, try to set up a certain time that you would talk. Tell him you want to go for a walk or something one day, because you really need to talk to him. Tell him you are still hurt about the break up, and that it's hard for you to not even have anything to do with each other anymore (or something along those lines, since I don't know exactly how you feel). Just be honest with him. You could also ask him when you talk to him if he realizes he made a mistake. I don't know exactly why he doesn't act like he doesn't care about you. He might be scared or mad or something, but like I said before, I don't know exactly why. And a tip, try not to be too clingy, it annoys guys. It sounds to me that there is a missing part of this story. Whatever you do, be honest to yourself and him. I hope I helped. :]
[view]
ok, on dec 22 this guy whom i liked gave me a ring. after skool that day, we started going out. we go places after skool and talk on the phone all the time and we're going to the mall tomorrow (tuesday)...but i still feel kinda distant from him...like on the phone there's long silences.how can i make it so that i don't feel like that without telling him i feel like that?*kinda confuszing but plz help!*
Ask if anything's wrong, not asking why he's distant. Don't come to any conclusions immediately, just seem concerned in his personal life. Try to get involved in his life too, don't stay as "just a gf" or anything, ask him to go do things. Hope I helped!
[view]
I'm a 30 yr old male. My situation is a bit complicated. Several years ago I became very close to this girl. Problem was she was seeing someone else and her family expected her to remain with this person. Our relationship was never really defined, but we were close. Abruptly, things changed. She wouldn't see me or talk to me anymore. I suspect that someone may have mentioned me to her family,which caused a problem. We were supposed to talk about it but were not able to after that. Anyway, this was seveal years ago and I've always regretted not getting the chance to say goodbye or tell her what she meant to me. I would like to write a letter resolving these issues, but seeing as so much time has gone by, I don't want to come across as a nut or scare her off.
What kind of things should I write and what should I avoid writing? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Tell her your feelings. Say that you miss her. Ask why she stopped talking to you, and tell her that you care for her (as a friend or more, whichever you feel) and avoid being sentimental. Give her a call and leave a message, saying maybe you and her could meet sometime. Hope I helped!
[view]
well... i broke up with my boyfriend like a month & 1/2 ago but it was because i couldn't stand never being able to see him (we live like 4 hours apart and nither of us can drive yet) and i got really depressed because i broke up with him. like really depressed, i even cut my self and ate lots of ice cream, and eventually became a depressed fat-ass. then i realized i needed him back, so i called him and asked for a second chance the other night and he said yes. i still love him just as much as i did before, but can someone please help me by telling me ways that i could deal with not being able to see him? i don't want it to ruin everything again... any ideas? thnks so much
Call him a lot, and email. Send letters, just somehow keep in communication with him. That's the only way a relationship can work, is if you communicate. Also, if you still want to lose weight, ask me a question about it and I can give you a lot of tips on it. I'm only here to help, and I know a lot about weight, because I am struggling with it myself. However, I started a diet on Friday, and I've already lost about 2 pounds (exercise, eating less, eating helthier). I have a ton of things to help, so ask dancindanger another question about it if you feel you need to get some more help. Hope I helped!!
[view]
ok welll i am like in love with this kidd but he doesnt like me i do everything he says like wear whath he says but this one girl likes him and i was joking and said he is mine soo she gott madd at himm and hess mad at me when i was joking what do i doo!
Apologize and say you really didn't mean it. Why do you do everything he says if he doesn't lke you back like that? Sorry, but I don't think it will work out between you two. Next time, I would say to just stay out of it to be on the safe side. Hope I helped.
[view]
my freind and i have been flirting so much and people would tell us oh why don't you two go out already! well i told him i liked him and he told me he wasn't ready for a gf right now and i'm kinda waiting and yet i'm kinda forgetting about him! we talk more then we have done in the past! does this mean something?
Ask him his feelings. If he isn't straightforward with you, then maybe he won't be honest in a relationship too. Don't forget about him, just act normal. Only time will tell. Good luck! Hope I helped.
[view]
Okay... Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months... it will be 3 months on the 6th of january..! Well see my friend and her boyfriend have been going out for not even 1 month and they have already kissed (tongue) and held hands and more! Me and my boyfriend have kissed but it seems that we are never alone because of this girl that likes him... she is always there, she won't just leave me and him alone for just a little bit! What should i do? it is bothering me so much that my friends are afraid of me breaking up with my boyfriend over this girl always being there!
Maybe you could talk to the girl, and ask why you can't have come alone time with him. Don't be mean though, because that will probably come off the wrong way. Try to hang out with him outside of places that you always see her. For instance, if you always see her at Safeway (just an example!), maybe you should hang out at Albertsons. Just go to a place where you don't think you would see her. Also, maybe you too could hang out in the house, not just in public places. Hope I helped!
[view]
Ok i am DAting this guy and i am like the kind of girl who likes to take things slow and build up are relationship first and on or third date hoe is already wanting to kiss me i dont want to hurt his feelings but i do want him do be my boyfriend _HELP_
Tell him flat out. "I don't want to go that fast, maybe we could take it a little slower? I'm just not used to going this fast..maybe we could wait a little while until we kiss." Or something like that. Hope I helped!
[view]
ok I go to church with one of my friends, and there is this guy there lets call him "mark" well I have thought "mark" was cute for awhile but i never knew what his name was or anything i just knew he was cute. Well at like the middle of November I became friends with his girlfriend, but I have never seen her in person, I only talk to her on Windows[MSN]Messenger. And the other day I introduced myself to "mark" cause she was always telling him about me but he couldnt figure out who I was so I just told him, I was like "hey im (so and so)" and well the other day one of my guy friends that also goes to that church was saying that another one of our friends,that doesnt go to that church, is goin to try to "steal" "Mark's" girlfriend away from him. So is it wrong for me to like "mark" and be friends with his girlfriend? sorry if this does not make sense
There's nothing wrong with being friends with his girlfriend. If someone tries to steal his girlfriend, then he may just need a friend for a while after she is gone. You can still like him, but I would say don't be all flirty at first, just be a supportive friend. If you just act like a normal friend, he may notice you and start to like you. Just wait, time will tell. Even if someone tries to steal his girlfriend, that doesn't mean she will acually leave "Mark". Hope I helped!
[view]
ok well im 13/m and i have feelings for my friend. The problem is that she has been going out with her boyfriend for a long time (year and like a month) andso i've been trying to be there for her and be her friend but now her and her bf are going through some rough times and she doesn't think he likes her anymore. I want to make a move but think that might be taking advantage of her and her situation. Should i go for it? Is it taking advantage of her current situatuion?
I think you shouldn't ruin their relationship. If they're going through some rough times, wait it out. I think it would be taking advantage of her in her situation. Don't pressure her. Maybe you could find out his realy feelings, and help her through it, rather than taking advantage of her. Hope I helped.
[view]
About a month ago, I got asked to go to a concert. Well, this guy's mother asked my mom if I wanted to go and bring a friend. Our parents are like best friends, so that's why he didn't ask me in person. And I have no problem with that. So I invited a friend to go with me. We had a really good time. My friend and I were the only two girls there. All the guys that were there were really nice to us. There were seven of them. He picked us up and brought us home too. He was really nice to us. Anyways, the guy that we went with- I don't like him as a crush, but we're friends. He has a girlfriend, but it wasn't at the time of the concert. I was just wondering what that means. Like, are we just friends, or more. I think that we're just friends, but what are some other opinions.
P.S. I've been over to his house a lot to swim, he's been over to mine for lots of stuff too. But our parents are really good friends and so are our sisters.
Well, it sounds like you too are pretty similar. It all depends on your feelings though. If he has a girlfriend, don't try to ruin their relationship for something that may not be real. Let your feelings tell you what you really feel. I would help more if I could, but only your feelings can tell you what you are feeling. Hope I helped.
[view]
My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!
Just wait. Don't lose a best friend for a guy. If he is supposed to be with her, you'll find someone else. If it doesn't work out, see if he is the guy for you. Hope I helped.
[view]
Im a 15 male.. and im gothic, is it wierd that i wear black nailpolish? give me some details and convince me if it is..
It's your personality. Be what you want. Don't listen to others. Though it can sometimes be a bit hurtful when others look at you different, that means they aren't people that would be good for you. It's not weird. It's just you. Hope I helped.
[view]
I like this guy and i thought he liked he but yester day he called me and he said'' I need advice, i like this girl and i think she likes me ... but do you think i should ask her out?'' well i thought he was talking about me, but then i found out it was this other girl. i dont know if he acutually likes her or not because she is not his type at all. Should I just let it go or should i say something?
Talk to him. Are you really close friends? Find out about the girl, and ask him what she finds in her that is similar to him. If they are nothing alike...he will at least be thinking it when you ask him that question, even if he doesn't say it. He may be embarassed too. Hope I helped.
[view]
I use to date this guy he was very kind to me we only dated acoulple weeks but i feel we told eachother everything, now 6yrs later i still think about him i was never treated so kindly by a man,he knows the guy im with now and says i should get far away from him(he doesn't like him at all) we ran into eachother out one night and i smiled at him to see if he would smile back he had to look twice the first smile was little then as he walked by he had a smile that lit up his whole face as he looked at me and walked by,so i thought it would be safe to talk to him when i asked him if we could talk he dropped the guy he was talkin to and said "yeah yeah sure" so we talked the rest of the night he bought me a drink and when this other guy came up to me he said to him look man theres any one over there that you can bother but leave her alone and the guy thought we were together so he apoligized for making my man upset(lol) i went with it. so i ended up giving him a ride home and we talked more and when he went to get out he was alittle hesitant so i asked if i could have a hug he said he could definatly do that we hugged and towards the end for a few moments he squeezed tighter, now recently i heard from a friend that he was talkin about me and said he doesn't know why im with the guy im with and that i deserve better, What does this mean does he still like me? please help me because i can't stop thinking about him and i do know i deserve better do you think he means he can treat me better?(I am 24yrs he is 25yrs) (im female)
Well, which one do you care about the most? If you know you don't deserve the guy you're with, why are you with him? I say you should go back to the guy you were with because it seems like he really cares about you. Go with your instinct. In the end, it's all up to you who you want to be with. And look at it this way: who do you think you would like to spend the rest of your life with? Hope I helped.
[view]
So this guy that i've been off and on with for about a year just told me recently that it was over for good and i don't know why! He won't talk to me or look at me or anything! but thats not even the bad part! I really like him! I can't stop thinking about him or being with him! I don't know what to do! Should i just leave it alone?
Talk to his friends, ask them if anything is wrong with him. Otherwise, it sounds like there is nothing you can do, if he's just avoiding you. Sorry, but you might want to just move on. Hope I helped.
[view]
ok so i have this friend john and i like him. there was a dance on friday and since alexia (my friend and his ex girlfriend) couldn't go she asked erin (another friend) to see if i danced with john. And i did just 1 little slow dance. And then l8ter at the dance erin was talking to him while i was dancing and then for the rest of the dance he was like avoiding me. i am wondering was he just trying to protect me from alexia getting mad at me, (she would get mad even if we talked) or was he avoiding me because he didn't want to be around me?
The only way to find anything out is to talk to them. Ask Erin what she said. Ask John what he was told. Just ask. Hope I helped!
[view]
I have liked this guy for a LONG time now but not too much has happened between us. I want to be with him romantically and we've fooled around a few times but we act like it never happened the next time we're together. He does things that make me believe he likes me back but I can never be sure. What should I do? I really want to be with him.
16 years old
Female
Ask him! That's the only honest way. If one of your friends asks him, he may not be honest, because he might get shy. If you've fooled around, why doesn't he want to be with you? He may not want a long relationship, maybe he only wants to fool around. Hope I helped.
[view]
my family is very religious. so when they found out that i had sex with my ex boyfriend a while back they went crazy. i promised that i wouldnt do it again, but now that i am seeing someone else it's getting harder and harder to say no. i'm only 17, i know thats young, but should i wait until i am married for my family? or should i just give in for myself?
I would say that you should wait until your married. If you didn't get pregnant last time, you were lucky. Are you ready to be a mom at age 17? Or would you rather be a mom when you have a supportive husband there too? If all the new guy wants is sex, maybe you shouldn't see him anymore, because sex can be really hurtful to your life. In this video I saw that asked young mothers what they would do if the could go back in time, they all said they would not have sex because they had no idea what they were doing to themselves. If you are involved in any sports or active things, you wouldn't be able to do those things anymore. Think about the consequences before you go and have fun for one night. Hope I helped.
[view]
ok well yesterday me and my boyfriend broke up..he told me and my best friend that it was cause when we were on the phone that all I said was oh and thats cool and he didn't think I cared when he said stuff so I wasn't that upset about it..but then at school today everyone was like awww I feel so bad and I'm like I'm not that upset and there like wow how could he like her and I'm like what and no1 got a chance to tell me what that meant until my other friend was like I heard what happened and I was like yeah..and shes like do you know the reason and I was like yeah and shes like and your not upset and I was like no not really and shes like do you know this reason and was like he likes this girl (-shes such a slut and he has broken up with me before for her-) but thats not what he told me..and he also told my other friend that he thought I liked this one kid named Jordan but I dont we're in 7th and hes in 6th and hes just a friend..I can understand why he would say that though because my best friend likes him so we're always hanging with him..and so like I really wanna go back out with him..I like him soo much! and like health at school he was like staring at me the whole time and then in tech ed I was hanging out with my best friend and some other people like 2 boys and just my best friend..and he looked like so miserable..and like kept looking over at me..so I dunno if he still likes me or not and I'm gonna talk to him online tonight and I was wondering if hearing that story if you think he still likes me and what I should say to him and if I should ask him back out or just talk to him adn if just talk what should I say! sorry its so long..whoever reads this I'll rate you high!
I think you should just talk to him. You know, don't come onto him or act like you're gonna go farther, just act like a good friend. A lot of my friends have broken up, but they're still friends. So, just because he broke up with you doesn't mean you can't still talk to him! Just talk to him, see his reaction and what he does. If he seems like he still likes you, ask if he does. Also, ask him out if you feel like you should! Follow your heart, if you really think it would be better to stay as friends that's okay too. If he goes out with the "slut", that's not your problem. But still be his friend. Hope I helped.
[view]
|
