19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?
Think about what you're doing to Blake, now immagine it was the other way around. You finally found the perfect guy for you, he's hot, sweet and just perfect for you. Now imagine that he goes to a party, screwz up and has sex with another girl, only its not just a screw up b/c it keeps happening. When you look at it from Blake's position, who must care a hell of lot about you to keep taking you back, what you're doing is not exceptable and just isn't right. All girls have a craving now in then for bad boyz, but the truth is they usually don't want to be "stuck" with one girl, they like to play, and you'll only get hurt. You just need to quit talking or seeing Nate and focus on building a stronger relationship with Blake, and appologize and admit what you've done. And don't feel bad about Nate's history, having sex with him won't change it.
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ok this might sound pathetic but... so im a f/13 and im 5'2 and fairly skinny. I have medium lenght straight red-hair, and i guess you could say that im kinda popular. Im friends with a lot of popular peeps, but im not snobby or anything.. I have a lot of friends, and some are boys too. its not like i have trouble talking to guys, i mean i do, but NO one has every asked me out ever! I flirt sometimes, and ive given a hole lot of hints to the guys that i really like, sometimes my friends would practically be asking them out for me!! But no one has ever asked me out.. any sugestions?? Also to top that off, my mom doesn't think that 13 is an ok age to have a boyfriend, so i would like have to keep it a secret from her! should i say yes if a guy ever askes me out, and not tell her or what??
Anything would help!
Many many tthx in advance~
Just wait untill your in highschool, you'll get asked out a hole lot more. I like almost never got asked out when I was 13 (at least not by a guy my own age) but my freshman yr, sophomores, juniors, and even seniors(stay away form them they just want sex) asked me out. It might be flattering but it really gets annoying when you already have a bf. Freshman guys are more likely to grow up a little and ask you out too but I'd aim for grade ten when u are a freshman.
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help im 10 and my bf wants to have sex with me!
i dont want to but he does he says we're ready
weve been going out for a year and he says its times
hes 11
HELP
WAY TOO YOUNG! Tell him you won't do it and if he keeps pressuring you, then you need to break up with him.
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so i like this guy i hardly know him but we've flirted online and he seems pretty interested and i am too. but the thing is i know it wont go anywhere. he drinks and smokes and does weed. i have never drank or done drugs or anything i am a goody goody but i still like to have fun! if this had happened a while ago i would be like ew no way but for some reason this guy has me interested in him. should i start backing away? i realy dont want to. could it work out even if he does drugs and im a good girl
It could still work out, my boyfriend went from failing every class to honor roll; if he really likes you, he may eventually change. I haven't gotten my boyfriend away from drugs, but if you pretend you don't care, why should they assume otherwise? Tell him that you don't go for that shit, and that if he's going to do it, don't expect you to.
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Hi. I got this lil problem i can’t stop thinking about. one nite I was at this party. I hooked up with this girl I went back to her place and I said to her this is my first time with a girl she goes that’s all right. But me or she did not have a condom lol so we did not have sex. so I stayed over her house for the nite her lil sis came in the room and saw us so I snuck out of the house and I heard a lil story around town saying I got chased form her dad but thats all shit.. now its my brothers 21st party in 2weeks and my family is going to be there and if I see her lil sis at the party I no she will say ha ha you got chased form my dad and I do not no what to do......and I do not no what to do if I see that girl I hooked up with
Yeah, that sucks! If you still like her, which it sounds like you do, when you see her, just stay calm, act like nothing happened, Im sure its akward 4 both of you. Just be like Hey and start talking to her. As for the little sis, if she starts saying that shit just act like you aint got no idea what she's talking about and keep your cool and it'll all work out.
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ok so i'm a freshman(girl) and this kid is a senior(boy). we are dating, although my father doesn't know that or i'll be dead. but anyways, my brother is a junior and he's tellin my parents he's a crack pot and a drug dealer, which he's not his friend is, so they don't like him. my mom is more leanent on this situation but my dad is horrible. the kid called the other night and my dad was like DON'T CALL HERE YOUR A SENIOR GET SOMEONE YOUR OWN AGE. and so yeah he hasn't called back. so he doesn't have computer so he told my friend that we needed to talk. so i call him up and we were talking about what to do with my parents and i said blow them off. and my dad walks down and gets on the phone and screams at him and is like I'M GONNA TELL YOUR FATHER AND SEE HOW HE FEELS IF YOU CONTINUE TO TALK TO MY DAUGHTER I ALREADY TOLD YOU ONCE NOT TO TALK TO HER. then he gets off the phone and is screamin at me and is like I DON'T WANT YOU TALKING TO THAT KID HE'S TOO OLD FOR YOU. IF THIS KEEPS UP I'LL EITHER BEAT HIS ASS OR GET HIS PARENTS INVOLVED. so my question is, WHAT SHOULD I DO?!!!!! i don't know because i really like this kid and he really likes me and i don't wanna end this but i don't want anyone getting hurt
Parents get in the way alot when it comes to dating, especially older guys! Your dad doesn't want this guy presuring you into sex, or getting hurt. From what I've seen, any Senior willing to date a Freshman girl only wants one thing, sex. I'm sure that's why your Dad's so uptight. If he keeps getting in the way, which he probably will, your relationship probably won't work out. I dont know how serious your relationship is with this guy but you should probably just move on. sorry, parents suck!
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Ok. This is a long story but i hope i can get some advice. i really like this guy, and i've liked him bout 3 months now. well, this whole day today, we have been flirting and stuff. and we talk alot, he is in all of my classes and we have alot of fun together. well, today in my science class, our teacher aranged our desks around. my friend sat down, then i sat next to her. and the guy that i really like said "i'm going to sit by you today" in a funny voice cause we always do this funny voice w/ each other. then, when he sat down my friend was like "aww thats cute". (he doesn't know i like him). and then his best friend walked by and said "do you two got somethin going on??" and you could tell we were both emmberresed cause we just looked at each other really quick and playing around, kicked his friend. i know this is confusing, but does all of this mean he likes me???? i really need some advice guys!!! thanks!! luv ya much!!
Yep! He likes you and I wouldnt sit around waiting on him to make the first move, though maybe he already did by sittin beside you. Start up convos about stuff he's intrested in, and if you're bold enough to do it this early, just ask him out. Im sure he'll say yes!
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so, this guy likes me. and i don't like him, not like that. but... he sorta won't give up. he calls me a lot, and he just keeps asking if i like him, but in different ways every time. (like, one day he'll say "do have any feelings for me?", then the next day he'll say "do you ever think about me?" and that sorta thing). Its really stressful. I keep saying no and feeling like a total jerk for a while afterwards. it's a sucky situation for both of us, but he won't give up. I dunno what to do!
Firmly, don't yell it or nothing, tell him how far you think this relationship can go, if it's no more than friends, tell him that.
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alright i really like this guy. and it seems like he likes me to. but he has a gf. he cheated on her with me but i didnt know cause he told me he broke up with her but i found out he didnt. we talk on the phone and he flirts alot but he'll tell me he will call me back and then he doesnt. it happens alot. like sometimes before he hangs up he'll be like "ill call you in like 20 minutes..love you bye." soo i dont know what to do. hes two years older but his gf is my age and were in the same grade and school. i dont have any classes with her and i never talk to her so i dont know what is goin on with her and him. he told me we wanted to hang out today and for me to call him around 1230.. but i called him around 1.. and he didnt answer. then i called again around 230 and he still didnt answer. i dont know if hes avoiding me or if he was busy. and i dont want to call him again cause i'd feel like a stalker. so what should i do?
Back off, he's taken. Not to be mean but geting involved with another girl's man just aint right. Even if he was single and the two of you got together, he'd end up cheatin on you and be talking to other girls. You need to find another guy, a single one, and just forget about this one.
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okay so i've liked this guy named derek for a long time.and so do alot of other girls. i was his first friend an we are still friends as well i mean i have been his bud since 1st grade and all the other girls liked him since 5th grade when he got taller and junk but anyway its weird to have to like him because he is a major flirt to every girl and if you like him everyone that doesnt have a crush on him or anything will think your weird even my best friend sorta knows that i like him but im shy to tell her because well you know
so should i keep quiet and never ever tell derek i like him so know one will judge me or should i just go for it
if i do go for it how???
-kimberly
Just go for it! Write him a note so it wont be as akward.
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Hey,
Well theres this girl who wears like a little tiny bit of like guys body spray as purfume. you know like axe and stuff. I think it smells good, but thats probably because it reminds me of a guy...and guys that smell good are hot. Anyway, my question is, would guys think that is hot or sexy or whatever or would they think its weird?(guys oppinions, or girls who have heard from guys)
I love the smell of axe and told my boyfriend i was going to start wearing it (just Kidding with him of course) and he was like PLEASE DONT.
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ok well me and my gf just broke up and well i really really liked her. well she dumped me because she said that all she saw herself getting out of this relationship was a friendship. and that wasent an excuse because the last couple days she has actually been trying to be a good friend. so im really sad and all being my pathetic self. but then the next day she was telling her best friend that she was having second thoughts bout doing it and that she dosent know if she made the right decision(i got the forwarded message from aim)
ok well my question is
is there anything i can do to influence her to come back to me
i really really like her and i dont want to loose her as a gf
Just tell her that you still have strong feelings for her and that you miss her.
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im 13/f
say i have a guy friend in my class and we are just friends. if my friend starts to like him.. i start to like him too. i dont know if its because im jealous and i want him to like me over her or if i just really do like him. does this ever happen to you? and why do you think this happens?
Yeah this happened to me too. I was talking to this one guy, kinda liked him but we were just friends. When one of my friends started liking him I REALLY started liking him. I think part of this is jealousy, because I got kind of mad that she was out to get attention from this guy who had been giving me attention, even if it was just as friends.
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okay so i am 15/f and i have been dating this kid for 10 months. He is wicked sweet to me when we are alone but in front of his frends and in school he always is yelling at me for no reason. i dont know if he is nice with me when we are alone just to get stuff and is being a jerk or he is just shy in front of people. but he does call me late at night because he is talkin to his other girl friends online and he gets mad when i say he doesnt love me. is he a jerk and should i move on or is he just shy in front of people??
(15/f)Other girl friends? If your not the only one, especially after 10 months, then you need to find someone else. Some onewho will respect you in public and treat you nice ALL the time.
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i don't feel like i am pretty enough to get a b/f.....i mean i wish guys would go for personality instead of looks......i would have a b/f but every guy that attends my school are into the same girl.....do you think anybody will ever like me....because i want somebody real and somebody that will treat me special....and just love me.....do you think there is such thing as him out there....??
Yeah but you can't be all about looks either (not sayin you are). Im guessin that if your in Middle or High School, your going to run into a lot of superficial guys who see one pretty girl who has it all, or models on tv and think that every girl should look like that. Most guys grow out of that by the tenth/eleventh grade at the latest, nut there are good guys out there, there's somebody for every body, no matter what you look like.
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