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Q: there's these two guys that I like lets say ones name is Bob and the other 1's name is Jeff well me and bob have been dating on and off for about 2 years i like him so much...id do anything to make him happy and i mean anything but since my grades were going down because i was paying more attention to him then my homework. Well me and bob decided to break up for a while until my grades pull up... Bob lives in texas down in corpus chrisi and there was a huricane down there his friends talked to me and told me that he said he hated me and i havent hear from him since. That is until today. Well since his friends told me that he said he hated me this other kid asked me out and i said yes. Well this other kid's name is jeff and i kinda like jeff...he comes to my house and we hang out alot. He likes me too. I don't know what to do i really love Bob and well i know im too young to say that (im 14) but i really do love him and id do anything for him well i dont want to hurt jeffs feelings and i want to make bob happy i have no idea what to do! SOME1 PLZ HELP ME ILL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ADVICE!

It sounds like jeff would treat you better. He doesn't talk crap about you behind your back to his friends. So get over bob, your 14 it may seem like love but its not. all bob's gonna do is use you, belive me Ive gone through it. stay with jeff.

Q: Flirting...wow i am soo confused what flirting is and what some examples of flirting are...could anyone help me out please?

Flirting can be almost anything it can be hair twirling, smiling, or teasing. But flirting isn' just something you do with tha guy you like every1 u meet. like when you joke around with a friend that's a type of harmless flirting. I hope this helps.
Bad_gurl

Q: well theres this guy that ive been dating for like the past 2 months or so and we both really like each other and we liked that we were dating but not officially b/f and g/f.. well ive decided that i like him enough to be with him but he says he still doesnt want a g/f and see im 14 and hes about to turn 18 ( tomorrow actually ) and about to graduate so i mean for one im jailbate or whatever you wanna call it and hes about to move on and i can kinda understand why he doesnt want a g/f but then at the same time he always says he doesnt care if i go on a date with another guy but whenever he even thinks i might like a diff guy he gets jealous and he calls me his baby and everyone associates us together so i dont know what to do -- ive talked to him about it before and hes just said he doesnt have the answers.. all he knows is that hes really grown to care for me and trust me but he isnt sure he wants a g/f right now.. what should i do? wait around or give up?

have u ever seen bring it on? because hes an Aaron. ur only fun until he can get away and find bettter booty. tell him to get goin

Q: OMG i have this huge problem i have this boyfreind taht im absoulty in love with! i would do anyhitng to be with him every second of mi life ! and if im not with him im not havin fun and if im not on hta phone with him im not havin fun! if im without him im tahinking about him and i dont kno whut to do mi cousin is 16 and she is tha same way and now all she does is hang out with her boyfreind! and she never does anyhting with her freinds OR ME and now im becomeing like that but tha thign is a cant control it it feels soo good to be around him
IS this ok whut can i do to help this
!!! IM CRAZY BOUT HIM !!!!
ps: me and him r really colse on our 2nd day goin out we kissed 5 made out adn now all we do is that im afraid of whut might happen next!
Plz HelP ASAP

gurl snap out of this hes just a guy i have sayin "ho's b4 bro's" which means that ur friends and family should come first i mean come on he could dump u in 3 months the world doesnt revolve around him. the reason u feel this way is probably because u feel needed but going crazy wont help beleive me ive been there and once he got what he wanted he was gone so dont get 2 attached

Q: Hi, there is this guy i like and i think he mite like me cuz we danced a lot, about a month ago, and he sorta follows me around school and one time he and his friends were sorta all lookin at me and pushin him towards me almost. anyway, i wanna go and try and talk to him but im really shy and he is too. Is there a way i can start up a good convo wit him and keep it goin, cuz heh doesn't talk much..tnx

find out an intrest that both of u have like music, go up to him and ask him his opinion on a cd that way it starts a convo and it makes him feel needed

Q: How do you go on after infidelity?

u kick ass if ur husband cheated on u he needs his ass kicked and it will make u feel better, also have a lil "talk" with the gurl 2

Q: Sorry this is long, i rate high though! :)

The guy i used to date over the summer on and off started REALLY hitting on me last night. He practically offered for me to have sex with him (dont worry, i wouldnt have sex, but i could tell he wanted to do something with me) Then he told off this person for me that was pissing me off. And he said i owed him one. And I asked what he wanted from me. And he said he wanted to make out with me. (Keep in mind this was online so we couldnt have made out right then and there) So i said ok, because i still have feelings for him. Then a little later i asked if he liked me, or just wanted to make out with me. And he said "I dunno, never thought about it..." What do you think about all of this? Should i go for it?

gurl he is just playin u dont make out with him he'll expect more.
bad_gurl

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. We have our own home and we are usually happy. BUT sometimes we fight. When we fight I get an urge that lasts a really long time. Sometimes I want to leave so bad, but I never do. How do I get the strength to leave somebody I love even if it is the right thing for both of us. ( I am 19 he is 27 ) PLEASE HELP

ok all u need 2 do is pack your stuff and leave, that urge u feel is the feeling that tells u that u can do it u just needed some1 2 tell u how strong u really r

Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for a few months now but weve known and liked eachother for about a year...well we r really close n i decided to tel my parents about him and ive met his parents n stuff already...well 2dae i went to the movies with him and his family n his dad brought me home n dropepd me off and my bf walked me to the door...well my mom was like
"OH CAN I MEET UR PARENTS??" n my bf was like sure..and he walked her to his car...and i was like NO mom omg i cant believe u!1 and now i feel stupid! im scared to talk to him now bc im scared he mite think im a loser or watever for having my MOM go meet and talk to his parents and me standing ther having a lil fitt....wat can i do? idk im so embarassed im like not wanting him to call...=\

its perfectly normal 2 feel this way it happens 2 every1 dont worry he'll call if he really likes u

Q: Ok. So I'm a junior and I like this guy whos a senior. I have a sister whos a senior and she told this guy that I wanted him. The guy told my sister that I was fine as h*ll and asked why i never talk to him or ask him for his number. well that was 2 weeks ago nand then my sister told me this weekend that he said: why dosent your sister ever come and talk to me? well... i see him all the time and he never talks to me either.... so what sould i do? should i wait for him to talk 2 me? should i talk 2 him (i'm kinda shy around guys i like) or wHat? haha thanx!

just talk 2 him u cant let the guys make the first move

Q: my boyfriend always calls me sayin "oh me and ____ were flirting again today"..and then the whole story like i wanna hear about that b.cz last time he did this we broke up so he could get with some girl (he didnt) then we hooked back up so i think were gunna break up so they can hook up and then when their done its back to me...whats he doin??? and then hes like "she rly rly cute but ur better"..which i dont belive bcz we dont go to the same school so i dont kno her and i wanna talk to him about this but i dont know how i mean if were gunna break up juss so he can get with sum other gurrl then i shouldnt stay with him right?? what should i do?

Gurl this guy is using u 4 in between his flings move on hes not worth the time if he wants to do shit like that play back

Q: A friend of mine and i went to the movies the other night, and as were pulling up, i see the guy i like standing next to a car down the lot. I was getting all excited when he stood up, and then i saw what he was holding, and i was repulsed. In one hand, he was holding a lit joint, and in the other, a half empty bottle of vodka. I had no idea he did these things!! And i have my values..i try not to associate with ppl who do harm to themselves in such ways. Even though his lifestyle goes against my beliefs, i cant seem to get over my feelings for him. I just dont how to do it. How do i 4get this guy?

I no this is hard and it happens 2 every1 but u just need 2 move on, find another guy 2 crush on

Q: holy crap people i want to beat the shit out of everyone at my school.

There is this grl that i sit with every single day at lunch and i chill with her at school all the time and i really like her cuz shes 1.REALLY HOT..but 2. shes the nicest n sweetest person i have ever met in mi whole life and like seriously i love her..ppl r like kid ur so shallow u just like her cuz shes a cheerleader..when thats not even the reason...wut do i do?? beat the shyt out of all these gay kids or just ignore them cuz theyre just people and i shudnt care wut they think??

ignore them their opinions shouldnt effect how u do things, if u like this gurl go 4 it

Q: okay, this question is to guys (and gurls, but mostly guys). theres this guy who i have feelings for (he has feelings for me too), we used to date but not anymore. he tells me he cares about me, sometimes he really shows it and sometimes he acts like a jerk. when i show him i care, he acts like he doesnt care, if i give him "attitude", he shows he cares a lot. why does he do the opposite of what im doing??? what is wrong with him? does he really care about me or is he just playing games?

the reason hes acting like this is b/c he doesnt no how 2 express how he cares
bad_gurl

Q: hey!
this question isn't for me it's my friend, i need to know what to tell him.
ok..
my friend and his girlfriend were going out...all is happy. Well, then one of his ex-girlfriends gave him a note that said she wanted to go back out with him. well he hadn't talked to her in a while, and he started to talk to her again. so she assumed that meant they were going back out. well he's all caught up in it and he's not a cheater...he's really not.he hates when people do that. but now since he's gotten all caught up in it he doesn't know what to do. he really likes his original girlfriend, but this other girl thinks that they're going out and doesn't know about the other girl.

so what should i tell him?

sry it's kind of long and confusing...

tell ur friend that he needs 2 let the other gurl no that he has a g/f and that they r not going out just b/c he talks 2 her doesnt mean anythang, he also needs 2 tell his g/f about wat happened so if it gets 2 her she nose wats true

Q: hey, ok.... ive been feeling sad lately b/c my bf dumped me. we went out for about 3 weeks and then someone told him i was breaking up w/ him. that wasnt the first time it happened. we continued to have these problems until one day he told me he wants to be single anyway for the first marking period. i didnt know what to say so i just acted like it was ok with me but its really not. were still acting like friends but sometimes i get some clues toward thinking that hes with someone else now. hes asked my friends many times why i broke up w/ him. he didnt want to be with me then b/c he thought i couldnt decide whether i wanted him or not. i think hes moved on but sometimes thinks about me again. i wish he would really want me back. this guy is really important to me alot. ive only had like two bfs b4 him and this one means alot. i feel like ive lost something i didnt deserve to lose. every day i wonder if he will go out with me again in the second marking period like he promised. if he doesnt i dont know wht i will do. please if u have any advice let me know so i wont feel as depressed. thanx so much! ~tepy - 13 -female~

im goin through the same thing rite now and its just best 2 let it go if he wants u back he'll let u no and if he doesnt then try being friends itll hurt 4 awhile but ull b ok

Q: Okay, just for a little background info, my guy and I have been together eleven months in 2 days. We're totally in love, I know he'd never cheat on me, and I totally trust him.
He told me that he went clubbing with his guyfriends and was kind of surrounded by girls (I don't doubt this, he's really hot...*drool*), and was dancing with them and all that...
His guyfriends apparently were telling him "ooh, your girlfriend's gonna be pissed" and stuff like that, and he said I wouldn't.
The thing is, I told him I wasn't, but I kind of am...I mean, I've always said "oh, I'm not the jealous type" and I'm not, really. I trust him, and I know it's not cheating. It's just dancing. But it still bothers me for some reason.
I don't want to make him think I don't want him to talk to girls or anything, lol. I mean, that's hypocritical. Most of my friends are guys.
What should I do/say? Should I do/say anything, or just leave it alone?

u need 2 let him no how u feel it wont help u ne 2 keep it in just talk 2 him about it b4 u do something ull regret

Q: can yall give me some tips on what i shouldnt do when im around a guy im dating or just friends with so they dont get mad or annoyed at me? thanks!

just b urself if they dont like who cares

Q: hey, i was wonderin if you can help me?
i like this guy and i am pretty sure he likes me
but he is KINDA dating this girl. me and him have done stuff but he is still not telling me what is going on between us. what should i do!!!

Hey if this guys got a gurl wait it wont last 4eva just let him know how u feel and dont get obsessed o by the way mary im getting back 2gether with tank luv ya bye

Q: well theres this guy...we'll just call him bill...well i rlly like bill and i think he likes me too...he's moving to florida and the end of the school year which is in june...im really upset b/c i rlly liked him...i want to leave him with a good im pression today so that he'll go crazy and like me even more...i was thinkin of my friend askin to take a picture of us and then after she'll be like wait one more..and when she counts to three ill kiss his cheak in the picture...what do u think?