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Hey the name is Brina, sounds like Sabrina without the Sa. I'm a sax major, and have been playing for 12 years. I've been on this site for a few years now, and just made a new profile because I forgot my other username.I'd say I know a lot about life, and love giving advice on life. So please feel free to ask me anything. If you don't want to ask a question on my page, email me!

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Last year I met this guy in one of my classes and he was everything i look for in a guy. We flirted alot and we went out twice. We always talked about getting together but i had surgery over the summer and he just stopped talking to me. I was mad and depressed because i liked him sooo much. I deleted him off facebook so i could forget about him but this year he is in 2 of my classes and i see him everyday. Now we barely talk and i never found out why we just stopped being close. I thought about talking to him about and ask him what happened but idk if would be awkward after...i still think i like him, any advice on whether i should pursue him or not?

Unfortunately, him not talking to you after you guys went out a couple times means he's probably not interested. Not talking to him, and deleting him off facebook is a good start to not liking him anymore. Try to move on to someone else, and eventually you will get over him. It might be hard, but you can do it! Hope I helped!

-Bri

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Hi. I really need to find a way to be alone with my bofriend. I want to give him a blowjob, and he really wants one. The only problem is, we're never alone. When we're not at school, we're being supervised by our parents. How can we find a way to be alone with each other? Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Try going to a movie, and sitting far away from everyone. I know, it's not the ideal situation, but you could suggest your parents see another movie if they want to go with you. Or, you could sit your parents down, and let them know that you want to be giving the opportunity to show your maturity, and that you'd like no supervision. Let them know you're a responsible young woman, and that you appreciate their supervision, but that it's time you two didn't have it. If that doesn't work, go for a walk with him, and go in the woods or something. Hope I helped!
-Bri

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I started dating somebody about a year ago. We broke up for a month, got back together for a month, broke up for three. during the last breakup i started talking to another guy, who used to be my ex's close friend. my ex then told me he wanted to get back together. i was entirely honest with both individuals about the situation, and now i can't decide what to do. on one hand, my ex never did anything for me. does not hold meaningful conversation with me, try to make me happy, tell me he cares or anything along those lines. at first things are great and then essentially i feel like his good friend with benefits, so i dont know why i care so much. the other guy though, goes out of his way to make me happy, asks me about my day, can tell if something is wrong,he pays attention to me,but will be stationed with the military out of country within the next year or so. i have absolutely no clue what to do.

Well, if you kept breaking up with your ex their were most likely good reasons for it. I say stay with the one you're currently with because he seems to be the one that makes you happier. Even though he's going out of the country, he's still their for you, maybe not physically but everything else he is. When someone's yonder, the heart grows fonder is my saying. Hope I helped!

-Bri

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Nicknames for your girlfriend

Sweetheart, Babe, Baby, Hun, Hunny, beautiful.
Hope I helped!

-Bri

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My ex and me broke up a few months ago. It wasn't a nasty breakup but I was angry & upset. I did tell him that if we were seriously done, then we were to have no contact so I could move on. So, obviously, we've had absolutely no contact since then. I'm not completely over him and I admit it. I am at the point though, where I'd like to be in some contact with him. I'd like to see how he's doing, what's new, etc.. possibly even start to be friends. I really think I could do that. I just don't know whether I should try to contact him or just let it go/leave it alone. I think if I didn't, I'd always wonder 'what if'. How do I figure this out? What could I say that wouldn't sound dumb/pathetic and more along of the lines of upbeat/curious? I'm such a prideful and stubborn person, but my gut keeps telling me to say something.

The best, and easiest, and non awkward thing you can do is text him a "hey how are you" or "hey how's it going." It's simple, and from there, the ball is in his court. Hope I helped!

-Bri

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I'm a 13 year old girl. I like this guy from school. At first we started off real close friends and then I told him that I liked him. He said he only liked me as a friend and began avoiding me from then on. He began seeing another girl and I'm really confused and hurt. After school he avoids me as well. We live on the same street and every time when he's outside and sees me playing basketball he'd go back home and pull down the curtains. And also at school, when I'm sitting in the cafeteria near where he and his mates are sitting, they'd go and find another spot. I really like him, and I suppose he just thinks I'm being stupid.
Any advice available?

Well, if he doesn't like you then there isn't much you can do about it. Unfortunately, he is being immature about the whole situation, unlike you who is being mature. Boys at your age are very silly. Just try and focus on other things for now, and a new guy will show up I'm sure. You have many years to find someone to date! Hope I helped!

-Bri

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Here is my current situation. I am a 20 year old female, been in my current relationship for 3 years with a girl I fell head over heals for, I never knew I was bisexual until I met her, she was so nice and caring towards others, she made me laugh all the time and she taught me a lot about life, she is my best friend and i love her very much. Just before we started dating I was getting out of a 4 year on and off relationship with my high school love (boy). We had the typical break up make up relationship until I left him for her. I have been thinking about how my life would be if I never jumped straight into a relationship with someone just before I graduated high shool. Her and i have been living together for about 2 years. She hates my family because a few of them had a "meeting" about how they didn't want us to be together because she has no aspirations but they still try to get along with her, she wont come around, so for the past year I have hardly seen any of my family in fear of her being upset. I physically cannot take the stress anymore. About a week ago I tried to break up with my girlfriend, she wasnt having it and tried to overdose on pills, begged for me back. So I did. I now live pretty much everyday thinking why I did that. I love her very much but we argue so much about the littlest things and we never have sex. I feel like the past 7 years I have never gotten to do what I want because I have been with another person. It's not that i don't want to be with her anymore, it's that I am wondering what it is like to have my own life. I don't know how to break it off clean with her and leave things okay between us. Here's the catch.. She is from another state and has no family where I live , no one to rely on if I leave her. I feel so bad and I love her so much that's one of the reasons I let myself be unhappy, she has no money saved up to go home by yet if I break up with her I may as well be handin her a ticket and saying goodbye forever. She is my best friend. I don't want her out of my life, I just want to have my own. How do I break it clean?

You need to do what's best for you. I know, that sounds selfish, but, it's your life, and if you aren't happy then she needs to respect that. Tell her exactly how you feel, and that you love her no matter what, but that you don't want to be in a relationship with her. If she does try and overdose, it's not your fault. She might need to seek out some professional help. You can't keep trying to make others happy, you need to make yourself happy. In situations like these, you can't always stay close with the person you broke up with, but in time you might be able to. So keep your head up, and do what's best for you. Hope I helped, good luck.

-Bri

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on saturday night i asked out a very sweet girl from my school, thinking she was very innocent. Her random drug test this morning came back positive for many different narcotics. I am a sensible person who will never go near drugs, and quite afraid of this date with this girl. I want to go out with her, just don't know what to do with her situation.

Well, since you already planned a date with this girl I say you should go on it. If she talked to you about her drug test and the details, then you have every right to talk to her about it because she made it your business by telling you. It is very hard to be with someone that does drugs because 1. You don't agree with the choice, and 2. You don't want to start because she is. So, go on the date, and just let her know you'd like to just be friends because she's in a different place in life than you are. You need to do whats best for you! Good Luck, Hope I helped!

-Bri

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Hi(male and gay,26),well I'm a self-confident 26 year old gay boy,I'm very happy with who I am and the way I am as well,I have a boyfriend,even though he says to love me with all his heart,he hasn't presented me to any of his relations yet and we've been dating for over two years now,I'm like his secret relationship,nobody who knows him knows anything about me,not even a cousin of his,what can I do?Because I know for a fact that he really loves me and so do I,but I would like a true relationship,I mean I'm not a criminal,I'd like to adopt children in the future,to live in our very own house and even to get married one day,but he keeps saying that those are privileges that are meant to be for straight relationships,I know I should dump him,but I love him very much,it sucks!I wish I didn't,thanks in advance;)

It seems like your boyfriend is afraid. Afraid of being gay, and I might be totally wrong. The only thing you can do is accept his feelings, or to not and break up with him. Everyone is different, as you know, but if you feel like you can't see you two making a legit future with him, then that's not good. At your age, you know what you want. Good Luck, hope I helped!

-Bri

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17/f

I have liked this guy since the end of my freshman year, more like off and on. I'm a senior right now. He's 19, he actually turned 20 today, and in college far away. I'll give you the whole story..sorry for it being long..
We've been good friends since then. I've been around him a lot since I'm best friends with his sister.

When I was a sophomore, he and I were close. I'd talk to him about everything and he'd help me with bf problems.
My junior year, I liked him a lot. We told each other we liked each other but he didn't know what to do cause he was going to college in the spring. We never really talked about it and then I got with another guy. He was angry, ect. But at that point I thought he wasn't interested in me anymore. Well I spent the night at my best friends house, and he and I had a moment and ended up making out..soo yeah.
Well eventually he left, we got in a fight over the phone, stopped talking for about 2 months, then he texted me and apologized.
He came back and we started up where we left off. Then he went back to college.

Okay..soo I miss him. We've been texting and he said he missed me, ect.
Guys like physical things. That's pretty much all we were except we talked all the time. I'm sure there were feelings there somewhere but it was a confusing friendship.
I always liked him but I'd keep it cool and act like it was nothing.

A couple weeks ago he texted me and we were talking. Somehow the subject came up about us and where we stood. I told him I'm not really into messing around anymore. He understood. At some point he asked why I couldn't see myself with him. I told him we wanted different things. He said he wants more than just physical things and told me he wished he dated me instead of just messing around.

I've dreamed of him being mine for a very, very long time. I don't know how to believe him. I feel like since I won't mess around with him that he won't come around and he's just saying that stuff. He is a good guy but I don't want to be fooled by all that. I'm graduating this year and I am going to that college.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do or what I'm supposed to say. I don't have the guts to ask him what's happening with us. Do you think he means what he says?
Sorry for the length. Thank you :)

If he said that he doesn't only want physical things, and talks to you a lot about non physical things then it seems to me like he's in it for real.
Test out the waters, and see if you two can try something for a little while. It'll be a while until the summer before he comes home. If you're nervous to ask him what's happening with you two, wait for him to bring it up again. But, if I were you, i'd say, "hey can we talk about you saying you wished you'd date me." etc. If he really cares about you, he won't think it's weird or anything talk about it. Seems like he does care about you, and you def care about him. Good Luck, hope I helped!

-Bri

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12/F Ok well I've asked a question about this before about me not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend and well I kinda took the advise until a few weeks ago:(it was his birthday and we were at his house in his bedroom and then we were playing truth or dare I got dared to have sex with him...infront of everyone!so well I said no at first but then everyone got mad so I said yes and well we did! And now I have missed my period and I'm gettin symptoms of pregnancy and I don't know what to do! Help please! I hate myself for doing it!I feel like such a slut!

Just try and relax. You are not a slut, but you do need to pick better friends. For them to peer pressure you is not cool. You shouldn't feel like you have to have sex, especially at your age. I highly recommend you wait at least a few years before even thinking about having sex again. But, to each there own. Definitely go to a doctor ASAP, if you go to plan parenthood, they won't contact your parents. Just, think twice about the people you hang out with, including your boyfriend. Good luck sweetie, hope I helped!

-Bri

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