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7 years tied down
Here is my current situation. I am a 20 year old female, been in my current relationship for 3 years with a girl I fell head over heals for, I never knew I was bisexual until I met her, she was so nice and caring towards others, she made me laugh all the time and she taught me a lot about life, she is my best friend and i love her very much. Just before we started dating I was getting out of a 4 year on and off relationship with my high school love (boy). We had the typical break up make up relationship until I left him for her. I have been thinking about how my life would be if I never jumped straight into a relationship with someone just before I graduated high shool. Her and i have been living together for about 2 years. She hates my family because a few of them had a "meeting" about how they didn't want us to be together because she has no aspirations but they still try to get along with her, she wont come around, so for the past year I have hardly seen any of my family in fear of her being upset. I physically cannot take the stress anymore. About a week ago I tried to break up with my girlfriend, she wasnt having it and tried to overdose on pills, begged for me back. So I did. I now live pretty much everyday thinking why I did that. I love her very much but we argue so much about the littlest things and we never have sex. I feel like the past 7 years I have never gotten to do what I want because I have been with another person. It's not that i don't want to be with her anymore, it's that I am wondering what it is like to have my own life. I don't know how to break it off clean with her and leave things okay between us. Here's the catch.. She is from another state and has no family where I live , no one to rely on if I leave her. I feel so bad and I love her so much that's one of the reasons I let myself be unhappy, she has no money saved up to go home by yet if I break up with her I may as well be handin her a ticket and saying goodbye forever. She is my best friend. I don't want her out of my life, I just want to have my own. How do I break it clean?
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You need to do what's best for you. I know, that sounds selfish, but, it's your life, and if you aren't happy then she needs to respect that. Tell her exactly how you feel, and that you love her no matter what, but that you don't want to be in a relationship with her. If she does try and overdose, it's not your fault. She might need to seek out some professional help. You can't keep trying to make others happy, you need to make yourself happy. In situations like these, you can't always stay close with the person you broke up with, but in time you might be able to. So keep your head up, and do what's best for you. Hope I helped, good luck.
-Bri
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Everything you typed about how you felt regarding the situation you should tell her. You need to be honest with her and explain exactly how you're feeling. It's the best way to do it. You made it pretty clear in your question. By reading it, anyone can see you still care for her and that's what she needs to keep in mind when you are explaining it to her. You worded it pretty well.
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