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Will our relationship work?
Hi(male and gay,26),well I'm a self-confident 26 year old gay boy,I'm very happy with who I am and the way I am as well,I have a boyfriend,even though he says to love me with all his heart,he hasn't presented me to any of his relations yet and we've been dating for over two years now,I'm like his secret relationship,nobody who knows him knows anything about me,not even a cousin of his,what can I do?Because I know for a fact that he really loves me and so do I,but I would like a true relationship,I mean I'm not a criminal,I'd like to adopt children in the future,to live in our very own house and even to get married one day,but he keeps saying that those are privileges that are meant to be for straight relationships,I know I should dump him,but I love him very much,it sucks!I wish I didn't,thanks in advance;)
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It seems like your boyfriend is afraid. Afraid of being gay, and I might be totally wrong. The only thing you can do is accept his feelings, or to not and break up with him. Everyone is different, as you know, but if you feel like you can't see you two making a legit future with him, then that's not good. At your age, you know what you want. Good Luck, hope I helped!
-Bri
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as i'm reading... i had to stop at the privileges of straight relationships part. It sounds like right there your guy might have never even came out to his family and if he did they probably aren't a fan of homosexuality. Sit down and talk to him about it. Ask him directly about this and why you feel like his "dirty little secret". he may tell you and if he makes it difficult saying it doesn't concern you or he won't tell you... your relationship most likely won't last because you just saw one of the worst things to have in a relationship non-communicating.
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You know you should dump him, and that is the answer.
He DOESN'T want a full, honest relationship. He's told you that. He doesn't want to be honest with his family. He doesn't want the 'privileges' of having an actual relationship, because he seems to honestly believe that because you are both gay, he can't have an 'actual relationship' with you.
You love him, and he might love you too. But he's told you straight up that he can't share love with you the way you want him too, and that he can't be a loving partner for you.
Stop living in the closet with him. Make a clean break.
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