I hope to help those in need in life lessons, love, friendships, and hardships.
It's a tough life to live for anyone, either in their work world, love life, their children, their money...."There is always Hope"....and I aim to help those find that hope and successfully get passed the woes of the world :-)
I carry a degree in Information Technology, but have also taken previous courses in Child Psychology and General Psychology to gather an understanding of our emotions and how we deal with them as humans.
I also have my own travel business EGVacations.com and I care for my 4yr old son, (I have 4 children; 18, 16, 12, and 4) so the range in ages allows me to see all aspects of what children are going through. Whew!!
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heheheheh that is so true. well am actually looking for a job but i canr seem to find none .. ahh its so stressing :'( (link)
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I understand that 100%. I have been unemployed for 8 months now and jobs in my field are so scarce. I've moved on to just find whatever kind of work I can...
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that is true .. he just wanted one thing :( there is this other kid i was talking to but when he messages me i reply back but then when i do he doesnt responds back :( (link)
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Well, if anything, do yourself a huge favor and dont focus on what guy is next..they all so complicated at young ages...hopefully you have your schooling to focus on and possibly looking for a part time job... guys should not be first...they just a big headache! hahaha
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i know..he thinks he is going to get something out of them ..but i will just let him be becaue he is cheeting on that girl he has in dominican republic and he never cheeted on me..which am glad..but then he changed and he did cheeted on me :( (link)
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I know you can see he is just not healthy to have in your life. The things he does brings you down...and you don't want to start feeling bad about yourself.
Let this one go, and keep your eyes and heart open for the better possibility that might be right around the corner.
Don't lose hope!
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Uh im gonna shorten this as much as I can but i think more detail would give me better answers so... bare with me.
Me and my best friend met when we were 12. She moved in next door. I liked her in that puppy dog kinda thing ya know and she liked me to. But nothing ever happen. About 7th grade we dated for...3 days i think. She was like its awkward your my best friend my brother whatever. I was like ok its cool. We kissed on a truth or dare thing, both of our first kisses.
So 11th grade high school were 17. Shes dated this kid named *bob* for about 4 years. They break up on and off, he treats her bad, yea. Well i liked her this whole time and it was terrible, picking her up from his house crying at like 2 am. Hanging out with her and shed be like can u drop me off at *bobs* or come pick me up.
Well they broke up for the final time and we started talking serious again for about 2 weeks. then she broke it off and went back to *bob*. Im gonna input here that i was basically her best friend and she told me everything, from sexual to school. Thats hard to hear btw, but i was always there because if she was happy, i was...yea.
Well family crap came up and she moved across the country, in January. We visited her during...July? We hung out the whole time she blew off her bf for me and everything and then after about a week we went back home.
So we txted, aimed, just talked to each other the whole time. She came down about 2 weeks ago to visit us for Christmas. When she got here she told me she always knew i was the one and she always liked me. Surprised me but I told her I still liked her to. So we chilled together all week laid in bed, cuddled, watched movies, all that good stuff.
2 days before she left she said she had a headache so i was rubbing her head. Then uh things got a little hotter and ended up with me fingering her. The next day we talked about it and she was like i let my hormones take control but the kiss during it was all me. Next night were cuddling together and were getting a little hot, but shes stopped my hand once or twice, and her family decides its time to leave. I kiss her goodbye and shes moving back in may and is like im gonna wait for you when i come home ur all mine.
Ok I really am sorry for the long story and if i get no help i completly understand. But my question.
1. WTF do i do?
2. She was seriously into me, i turned her on from rubbing her back, thats not possible.. I know. So that means it wasnt where I was rubbing its the fact that it was me. right?
3. Was I wrong to do that if i knew it was just hormones. Like she kissed my neck at one point, girls only do that if hormones are involved.
Any advice at all is amazing because that means you read all this crap about some random person and you cared. Your amazing, or just really bored. (link)
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I'm gonna go with the really amazing comment.
I get on this thing everyday scoping out the questions, and I'm choosy. I dont answer just random things...
You have a serious issue...and from the woman's point of view, you guys really have it bad for each other, but have kept this odd distance based on what 'she wanted'. What a great guy you are to be there on stand by, you know?
I watched this movie today where this guy was really into this hot chic, but she didn't dig him like he did her, but told her he'd swim across the ocean just to be with her...la la la..he met someone else on his little journey, and he kept talking about this chic, right...it took him a while, but he saw that this other woman was his true love.
Point being is that you guys have the potential to be each other's true love...no more of this Bob on and off junk.
You guys got hot and heavy because its what you really wanted..both you and her...not just you.
Women run on their emotions, and it's obvious she cares about you if she let you get that far..and if I were her, I'd want you to try harder, and focus on what you could do to show your love and how much you want to be with her...that is, if its truly what you want.
You have a long history together, and you know her ins and outs and her ups and downs...You were best friends first, and it's a great foundation for a healthy relationship.
If you can put all that BOB stuff in the past and see if she can too, I can see you guys doing really well together.
Keep me posted...May is not too far away...I hope it works out.
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i have a boyfriend named derek lyons.i have a father named bill vondran. my boyfriend loves me so much and im helping him with his drug addiction and he cant keep his anger in. my dad hates him he thinks i should brake up with him so he thinks i cant get anywhere in life with him but i can. he does grawls the metal voice and he can play bass perfectly. my dad is a christian my boyfriend is a demon.my boyfriend needs me everyday and we cant be away from eachother we are bound. my father wants me to get another and he thinks that im scared to brakeup with him. but im not im inlove. my dad truely hates him always trying to tell me horrible things about him but he dont know him. i only know him truely. i love him i dont want to leet him go. am i the only one that goes away from my father and follow my love??? (link)
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I've left my parents to follow my love many years ago...I have had 2 loves since then...it was not worth it.
At a young age, we think we know what love is, but it turns out just being the emotion of being accepted by someone else besides our parents.
I had that same demon boyfriend that only ripped me away from the people I love, and did not provide me with everything I needed as a woman. He became disrespectful and uncaring of what I needed.
It doesn't happen like that to everyone, but if a man comes into your life and approves of you pulling away from your father, then he is not what's best for you. Your BoyFriend should care that you have a loving relationship with your father.
Haven't you heard the term "Daddy knows best". I guess I say most of this because I am a true Daddy's girl, and noone could be there for me like my father.
Years later, I am happily married with a man who is very much like my own father. Caring, tender, makes me feel protected and completely loved.
Take a moment to Step outside your box and look several years down the road, where you will one day look back at this situation. Perhaps try to see your own daughter doing the same thing. Do you see it to have worked out to your benefit and can you see yourself really being happy with being with this demon person??
Keep me posted and good luck!
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no..he is not going to come back he is too happy with other girls out there ..and on myspace he sends them messages and friend request so i can see it..and also when he send me messages for me to go to his house he erases them afterwards..i seriously dont know why..but then when he is having a conversation with another girl he doesnt even erases it :( (link)
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That's some crazy nonsense right there...Just like men cant understand women, its plain to see we have a hard time understanding their mentality too. Just silly boys playin their dumb games..
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what are some things i could do to my girlfriend to make her feel good or tingle while we're making out, i already kiss her neck and squeeze/rub her a$$, she says that that feels nice, so what else could i do, she doesnt really like me playing with her boobs much so anything other than that would be great haha
thanks.
oh ive started breathing heavily in her ear aswell, that makes her tingle alot :) (link)
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Try slow and passionat kissing...not hot and heavy and hard, but slow, take your time. Too bad for the boobs, that's a big woo hoo for most girls! lol
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I have a crush who doesn't like me. He doesn't even talk to me. And I'm just too shy to talk to me. He is part of the "gang". And the gang makes fun of people, like me. My Crush won't even add me on facebook. Theres nothing really that I love about him, except that he's handsome. Not really handsome. But Joe Jonas is way handsomer. :) If my crush won't even talk to me, add me on facebook and be nice to me. Is he a good choice? Because I only like him because hes handsome. And I also want to stop liking him. There are other guys in my school who are kinder than him but not so handsome. Any ways I could stop liking him? Im really obsessed by the way. If I see a letter of his first name...I go crazy! I also tend to stare at him a lot (which was last year) but now I hardly look at him. I don't show that I like him. Just so he likes me more. But seriously I love him!! (link)
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Ahhh, to be young and have a crush...
Well, don't beat yourself up, because this is so very normal...I will assume you are in your teens, so yeah, absolutely normal.
I used to have a crush on my neighbor and boy was it crazy mad! I knew it could never be, because he was like way older than me, but man, I dreamt about it..hahah.
Anyway, as I grew out of that phase, its neat to look back and just see how I could possess such strong feelings for someone that had absolutely no interest in me. In your position, you have the same thing, but not only is it unrealistic for you two to be together, but he is part of a group that ridicules you and demeans who you are.
This is where a line is drawn. He wont add you on FB or acknowledge you, so there is a good chance that if you ever built up the confidence to talk to him, he would ignore you, only to not be ridiculed by his gang members, you know?? Guys in their young state are not out to find out who they can fall in love with. they are about being cool, or looking for a quick booty call from a random girl so they can brag to their buddies.
I know it's going to be hard, but for your own benefit of not being hurt or dissed, merely look at this guy as a cutie or however you see him, and that's it...
You have to see things for how they are, not how you imagine them in your mind. It's hard to explain, but when you take a reality check and look at your situation from 'outside the box', you would be able to see what I'm talking about and see how silly it is to obsess over someone.
If by chance, you actually end up trying to talk to him, try to be optimistic, and be ready for anything. If he diss's you, then just say to yourself, Okay, I'm not shocked and now I know how it's going to be.
At least, when you look back on this one day, you can say, hey, I put myself out there and tried.
Good Luck!! Keep me posted!
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awwww thank you very much.. i really liked your advice..welll humm i actually whent last night to his house and i know i shouldnt had done that...and yea i kinda regret it ..but now when he askes me to go to his house late at night am not even gonna go because is true wat you say..then i willl have to deal with another havy pain...but i just wished i would forget this kid..i dont even know why its so hard. :( (link)
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It's only as hard as you make it. You have to keep the positive things at the top of you mind and know that your priority is to do what's best for you and not what's best for him, especially if he not giving back as much as you are giving. Relationships have to be fair. Give and take, you know? Balance the love out.
I think I've said this before, but you will never forget him, as he has played a role in your life that has taught you a lesson that you will look back on one day.
Where do you think my advice comes from ;-) lol.
From all the silly mistakes I've made in my life. You want others to avoid those same mistakes, to avoid the same pain you have felt from a boyfriend or girlfriend. Sometimes, in the end, it is from your own mistake that you truly learn.
But nonetheless, Good luck and take care of yourself!! :-D
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is true..he thought i was never going to find out about his new over..but what i find weird is why he did that?? he loved me so much that he actually did alot of things for me and to keep on going with the relationship..i just dont know what he had on his head when he was in the dominican republic cheeting on me with that other girl..ahh am so confused ;/ (link)
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Try not to get in their heads and make sense of what or why they do this type of thing. It could be merely because they can. I too felt that my bf was in love with me with the sweet things he did for me, and then to find messages between he and other women just made no sense to me. He said it was because of the attention. They are so driven by their ego's they need so much attention.
If it doesn't make sense, it's okay. If he's lost you because of what he's done, it will be his lesson learned. But he wont stop cheating until he is ready. My ex still has his cheatful ways with his new woman...it's pretty sad. he's going on 40 and just a player. Hate to think he'll die alone...
Anyway...Keep your hopes up and don't dwell on him possibly coming back.
I will say, if you give him a chance to come back and he says he's going to be faithful, then he only gets the one chance. Even God gives people second chances...Draw you're line there.
Good luck!
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hey..i been struggling for 5 months after my boyfriend broke up with me..i been really sad and dont know what to do :(...
here is my story am sorry if its too long..
ok we we lasted 2 yrs and 2 months going out but then he left to the dominican republic and he cheeted on me overdere with another girl...he posted pictures on myspace and when he came back i confronted him about it..he told me that was his cousin..but i actually got to talk to the girl and she told me that he was her boyfriend.my heart just dropped...i cant believe he actually did this to me because he loved me and he did alot of things for me...now he is here and he tells me to go to his house in the night so his parents wont see me ..but its just to have sex..i dont even want to go because i dont like doing those types of things with him...but its been 5 months since he broke up with me and my heart still hurts..its like its carrying a heavy pain..i cant seem to move on,its just hard for me, i try to let it go and not think about him but its hard, and no i dont go out because i hardly have friends here.am always stuck in my house.but can someone please tell me wat to do or do you guys have a similar story similar to mines..i appreacited .thanks :) (link)
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First and foremost, you should not just try to forget it and move on...You have to look at your situation and see what you have learned from it...it's what's going to help you as you do move on and move forward.
Ok, he lied, he played you and insulted your intelligence. It hurts like hell because you loved him. Now he wants to use you for sex and hide you from the parents. Do not sell yourself short. Say to yourself that you are better than this game. Look at him as someone that is not going to find his happiness soon while he tries to carry on this relationship with you and this other woman. I know that if you were to give in and go over and give him what he wants, you will regret, and yet have another pain to deal with. He would be the one to benefit from it and not you. You will suffer.
It is hard to pull out from under the covers and see the good things around you if you want to keep dwelling on what this unworthy person has done to you. You ultimately will have to 'choose' to do other things to help you move on. You wont forget what's happened because it will be listed as a learning experience when you look back at it one day.
Dont give up on love, it is out there...
I thought I was giving up on it from all the hell I went through with my horrible cheating and lying ex, but love found me unexpectedly, and from my exeriences, I was not afraid of letting love happen, I was able to welcome it.
Good luck as you grow from this experience!!
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:( well i actually whent to his house last night at 1am. and it was for nothing . i feel so sad..last night i was just crying and crying because i have had so much bad luck in love..and i noticed that he only wanted to get inside my pants thats why he wanted me to go and specially at 1 in the night...now i regret it and my heart hurts so bad :( because i really did loved him and i still do..its just a heavy pain my heart is carrying! (link)
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It must be early in your love life, because as you mature in relationships, you will be able to determine what a guy is wanting from you when he's all nice and showing you the great things about him and so forth. It takes a long time to really get to know a guy, for his bad and his good, and during this time, you will learn if he is just wanting one thing, or if he's actually considering a dedicated relationship with you.
In the early years, for most guys, they are typically out to score and learn the ropes about sex. It's sad, but I haven't been able to really explore whether they know or not, that most of the women they are after, are looking for love and not just sex.
But surely they have to know the we girls love the attention from a cute, sweet and nice guy. And when we fall, we fall hard, thinking they will catch us and take us under their wing and love us.
The hard truth is that they are not ready for that. You have to know the signs, tho, you know?? Heck, I'd ask them up front, hey, you just want sex, or what?? Well not really, you dont' want to scare the good ones off, you know?
Breaking it down for you, is that you will have to move on from this, and only know it's a mere mistake on your part for falling for the wrong guy, and just know that it's okay. When you found out what the guy really wanted, of course you wish it was easy to just brush it off, knowing that he was just going to use you, and he insulted your intelligence. Bite your lip and know that you have to move forward and know what to look for the next time.
Pain is something we have to experience along the way, and I know from experience, it makes us smarter and stronger. So dont give up on love...it will come...but just be careful along the way.
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So ive been dating this guy for almost a year, and things are going great! Except for the fact that i sometimes find myself thinking im not over my ex.. my ex and i had dated for almost 2 years, so its sorta obvious that it took a bit to get over him.. but i cant understand the reason ,that almost a year an a half later, i still catch myself falling for him... i sometimes think that i ant to be ith my ex again... i kno its not right to be feeling like this since im in a great relationship, ho can i get over this, or do you think itd be best to go back ith the ex, since i cant seem to get over him? any advice is appriciated, thanks! :) (link)
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Soooo sooo common, for sure. After a lengthy relationship, the feelings you developed during that time do not just go away simply because you had your differences and decided to end the relationship.
Your falling for him from time to time is probably just a relapse of some good times you guys had in your relationship, and the kind moments of affection. But you know, don't overlook the goodness you have now.
I went through this early on in my new relationship. My ex was a total player and a disrespectful buttmunch, but I loved him after the eight years we toughed it out. But it's over for sure and despite those unexpected feelings I had for the ex, I just had to rehash in my mind why we are not together and embrace my new love, who is kind and loving and nurturing and a total gentleman.
We all make choices that make what our future is going to be. We can never think out our mistakes before we make them, but I'm thinking you are way better off really moving on and for sure, never express in words or expressions to your ex that you have these feelings. If you already have, just dont do it anymore ;-).
Good luck to you!
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thats truee..but i think am just going to let things be from now on..am not even goint to think about boys anymore..for me they are all the same and they aint gonan change..like my ex boyfriend he is diying for me to go to his house..speacilly in the night and i serioulsy do not understand for wat for..he told me is to hug and juts chill there...but i think he is juts looking to have sex..because he has a girlfriend in the dominican republic..so i really dont understand..see what am talking about?am s ukker for love :(..so sad :'( (link)
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Don't sweat it too much, girl. We girls are all suckers for love.
When me and my ex split up, I was devastated, but knew in my heart that it was best for me and for him. He was a player and I tried and tried to just be loyal and show him I wanted to be in a faithful and loving relationship.
With us,when it was good, it was good, but when it was bad, it was real bad..cheating, disrespect and all that stuff that just hurts so much.
I went to therapy to make sure I knew how to say no and not go back to him (we split up twice before and I kept going back). I gave up and men and my friends knew I was just not into looking for new love anytime soon.
I did find it, eventually, and it came out of nowhere; totally unexpected.
You can't lose hope...
And keep in mind, the next love you have in your life, make sure it's real. Make sure you look at the conformity and compromise you both are willing to give each other. And if he's not perfect, it's okay!!
We choose our battles. We are strong women and can deal with those little annoyances, all in the name of love. Love is hard work.
Keep your chin up. You're still young. :-)
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what will you do if your ex boyfriend keeps texting you every day tellin you to go to his house at 1am in the night?..but he has a girlfriend in dominican republic . (link)
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Great question...apparently, he is still a player and not happy or faithful to his woman. Why bother, u know? What benefits you? The sex? Big whooop. To me, it's just never worth the trouble. My ex had me when he had me, and if we've moved on, then I wouldn't play that game.
I guess, I just feel I have more respect for myself. I would feel degraded, like a piece of ass to him, and I'm worth more than that.
Surely he's not all there is to offer.
If I were to go, i'd regret it, and feel lousy.
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First of all i would like to say thank you to all those people who told me to stick with my vow, b/c it turns out he was playing me anyway.(God my love life sucks)anyway i had this friend with benefits over the summer who helped me get over some serious greif, and we kinda became attached to each other, he's the only person who knowd my deepest secrets. And we contiuned being friends with benefits until say mid-nov. Recently i found he has a girlfriend and that kinda broke my heart...not tht im not happy for him or anything thats not the case. its just the fact that whenever we were together it was like we were going out...that and people expected me to go out with him. Now, whenever im around him i get a hollow feeling and when hes with his girlfriend(who hates me for being ex-friends with benefits)i want to burst out crying. Question: What am i supposed to do about that heavy chemistry between us?
PS we still hang out and goof off.
thxx-olie 14/f (link)
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Friends with benefits always have to be looked at as a temporary fix. Otherwise, if you or he would only have sex with each other, then you'd technically be going out...right??
So, he came to find him someone steady (gf), AND made the mistake of telling his new gf about your relationship with each other. Having a friend for the benefit of sex should be a secret thing, but I guess it's hard to hide sometimes.
Anyway!! Ok, she doesn't like you, but you guys still hang, like I guess when she is not around, so God forbid she should find out, then she might end up dumping your friend...not good, you know? It would surely disappoint him, and I know you wouldn't have meant for it to happen, but you have to kind of know your boundaries.
Almost every woman is always insecure of the EX! And it's hard to maintain a healthy friendship with your guy friend having this tension, you know? I hate to say it, but if he's choosing to be with this girl, even though she hates you, then he is doing what he wants, despite what you may be feeling.
You can tell him you're going to distance yourself a bit and see how things work out for him and his girl, and if things dont work out for them, Don't let the next girl find out about y'alls relationship! Just try to be friends and work on being "friends".
I've learned the hard way that it's a battle within yourself to separate sex and emotional feelings. It's those emotional feelings you have for him that are hindering you.
If all else fails, why don't you guys become a couple, to alleviate all this awkward tension :-D
Brush off the gf's comments. She is merely insecure, and perhaps, she is stating the truth, but so what, she's probably not worth the stress.
Take good care and good luck!
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...it said "i really dont believe in love but am partially taken" (link)
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Ahhh, ok....
This is just saying that Love is not something this person really partakes in and might be afraid to, but the thought has occurred to them, and they just might have considered trying love out to see what it really has to offer.
Does that help any?
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:(...you just wont believe what happened. last night i was looking at a girl he has on his myspace in his top friends and i was reading her about me and it said taken..so i asked her oh wats your boyfriend name? and she said luis...so i was like humm.. is it the kid you have in your top for third and she told me yeaa!..am so dissapointed i thought he didnt had a girl friend but just found out he actually does...and its weird because she is only 16 and he is 20. and also he wanted to come see me but then he has a girl..which is all weird ....last night he texted me soo late he told me his phone was dead ..but then i read her status on myspace and it said "had a great day today" which i know they were together thats why he didnt texted me..but then then he told me oohh and i wanted to see if i could of had seen you today but i didnt know any numbers by heart..which makes me think he had his phone and it was dead..but then he could try and turn it on..and then wen he got home he texted me telling me the story but humm i thought his phone was dead...i dont know its just weird..am so dissapointed..i thought he was different..am sorry if this is too long i just need somebody to talk to :( (link)
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Sorry so long for the response, just a busy Christmas Shoppin day.
I'm really sorry to hear about this happening. I know that ugly feeling you can get in your stomache when something shady like this is happening. You want to do your best not to assume anything, but it's too hard when things just kind of run together and only make sense. You have to keep in mind that some men just look over the fact that they are testing someone's own common sense or their intelligence. When you put 2 and 2 together and it looks like it adds up to 3 or 5, you have to confront him and get the correct answer.
It's going to suck, I know, but the truth lets you have that will to move on and not worry about adding up any other unusual occurrances.
Just let him know that you confronted this girl and about the things that just dont add up to his story.
It's always best to catch these kinds of things and address them right away.
If you let it slide, it might just show him, Hey, she is slow, she didn't even realize I was lying....
I hope you know what I mean!
Keep me posted!!
Lots of luck!
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hey! what does partially taken means? (link)
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Well, depends on what it's being said about.
For instance, if a boy is only 'partially taken' by you, then he's only 'sort of' interested in you.
If it's about a 'thing', then partially taken would mean that only part of it has been taken...
Make sense or is more detail needed??
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thats true..now i liked this kid which is way better..he is really nice,goes to college..and works 2 jobs..and is 20 yrs old and has a jeep and a car..my ex is only 16 yrs old..is really obsessed with sex..before was working 1 job now is in 2..goes to school to play around and look for girls in lunches..and doesnt have a driver's license...the kid i like he is really cute and sweet and he invited me to go to the movies with him..what do you think?? (link)
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Go for it, for sure. It's always nice to see the potential in others and a drive to do things, u kno? Rather than waste time in figuring out what girl they can get with next, u know?
I hope this other guy really likes you.
Show him your interest and one thing to think about, is if you two hit it off, be considerate of all he does and be impressed for sure. Guys are big on keeping their egos up. And if you see him doing things for you, always be considerate and show appreciation. Lots of thank you's.
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