Hi my name is Ashley i'm an aspiring writer,poet,and photographer. I don't know if anyone has heard of Brashai Griffin on this site but alot of my friends are mourning her loss, as am i. I still want to help other people though so ask away i have nothing but time. I'm not an expert but people say i'm pretty good at giving advice.I just want you to be happy with the advice i give and help you the best i can.
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before i get into this, yes i know, i'm probably a slut. so sorry.
ANYWAY.
so this guy has been my best best friend for about two years, he's so nice and he's always been there for me.
last summer he asked me out and i said yes.
we've been going out for 9 months.
he was my first time having sex, and i was his.
...but during that 9 months, i hooked up with 4 other guys.
not in a row, not even in the same week.
yeah, again, really wicked sorry.
he doesn't know about them.
no one does except the guys.
i feel awful.
but the truth is, the guy i'm going out with now, while he's super nice to me, is a dick to everyone else, allergic to cats (so he can't ever come over to my house), allergic to lettuce (i'm a vegitarian), not very attractive, listens to mostly different music than me, gets terrible grades, can only talk about things he's interested in, and is militantly straight-edge and i'm totally not.
i really do want to go out with someone else.
i have for a really long time.
i've tried breaking up with him 5 times but i always feel bad and like an hour later get back together with him.
it's so so hard for me to make him upset.
and even though i don't want to go out with him and i know that if i drag this out any further i'm just going to resent him more and he's going to get more attatched.
he says things to me like "i love you forever, please don't leave me" and "you complete me" and "i need you, i love you more than anything"
and i just feel awful, i hate being mean to him.
but i really really want to get out of this relationship without completely hurting his feelings.......
WHAT THE !@#? do i do?! (link)
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well heres the thing you have to be honest and tell him you don't feel the relationship is working any longer and you would like to be FRIENDS....and it will hurt but you have to be strong for you because if you aren't you're going to be stuck in something you don't want to be stuck in....Its not going to be easy but it will work out eventually definitly not right away. Good luck
ASHLEY L@};-
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I've been with my boyfriend 3 years in June. We recently even won the "Cutest Couple" category in Senior Superlatives. A while back, maybe January, we had quite a large fight. It started when we were planning our senior trip to the beach, and I asked if he minded that we slept together in a bed (because we don't have sex, but we do everything else). He said he'd rather not, which was fine, so I simply asked why. He said it didn't "feel right" and that he wasn't ready to share a bed with my overnight, even though we take naps on our couches sometimes. So I said that, and it eventually lead to "I've had a confusing week, I don't want to hurt you", even "I'm not in love with you anymore". We both cried, almost broke up, etc. But I told him to give me another chance, and for a week, we were weird. But after that, things kept getting back to normal, and now, we're happier than we've ever been.
Now, here's the thing.. a few couples that have been dating around the same amount of years we have have been breaking up because they've gotten "bored", and so I tell him often that I don't want that to happen. His answer most of the time is "Yeah, a lot of people don't". Yeah, what the heck? I would think his answer would be "Me either, it won't happen to us" or something along those lines. When I tell him this, he says that should be "implied." Many of his answers to other questions are long these lines, and he tells me they are "implied" too. And another thing- I feel like I always have to say "i love you" first so he will say it back.
I need reassurance a lot, because of the fight we had. I love him more than anything, and he feels the same. Just the way he says those things makes me feel like he doesn't want to say what I think he should at this point in our relationship. Don't get me wrong- we are very much in love and we even talk about getting married every now and then. I just need to be reassured every now and then. I'm sorry if this is confusing. I just need advice- am I worrying way too much, or should these things be something to worry about? (link)
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well it sounds like something is bothering him a little bit and you might want to try and ask him if everything is ok....it also sounds like he's scared you're going to leave or that you are just saying you love him because his answers sound skittish.it may just be him but at the same time with everything thats going on it sounds like the relationship may need a break so you both can think and clear stuff up.i hope it works out
ASHLEY L @};-
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ok well me and this guy have been friends for like 2 yrs now we r kinda beast friends but not really.i started liking him at the begining of this yr.some of my frinds know and so does he.he told my friend he likes me but he also dont but didnt tell her why he didnt. he said he might ask me out.one minute he asks like he likes me then he acts like a friend the next also he is with his friends he acts like he does like me but when he is with other people he acts like he does.im really confused and i was wonder what you think i should do (link)
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All guys act that way...They're ALWAYS embaressed about girls when they're with their friends.Maybe spending more one-on-one time with him as friends will help it along. Also it is okay for the girl to ask the guy out....i know its hard to get the courage but be confident and YOU for sure. i hope it all goes well and....
I hope i helped
ASHLEY L @};-
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how can i make my boyfriend for almost a year in 2 months be a little more affectionate not only when we are by our selves but when we are around others too but WITHOUT making it seem like i want him to change who he is.
I just want a little bit more affection i guess.
but he is REALLY good to me so dont get the wrong idea. (link)
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you can't make him show you affection...but you could tell him you would like more affection. In a realtioship you have to be 100% honest with your partner....so try that and if it doesn't work i don't know what you can do.
Hope I Helped
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ok so im a freshman in highschool
and my boyfriend is a senior
and yesterday he came over and stuff
and he asked me if i wanan go to his prom with him and i of course i said yes
but im like freaking out now cuase my parents dont really see me like the type of girl to have guys over all the time and do that stuff when i really am and if they find out hes a senior idk what their reaction is gonna be and im scared to tell them. and idk what to say
cause it would be differnet if my brothe wasnt a senior also and if i wasnt only a freshman so i really need help on what to tell them and stuff
because is less then a month away
and normally on prom night you go to a hotel and yeahh hah
and i know there not gonna let me do that soo
im hoping they will say i can go but i need help on what to say to them (link)
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Well you have to first understand your parents definately want you to be happy and safe, You do have to tell them and set up a good way to do so.
you might want to definately list the reasons you should be able to go and that you'll act as responsibly as possible so that you'll have there trust.As for the whole hotel thing...your parents won't go for that....but if it does happen make sure you're not forced to do anything you don't want to. Just be honest and upfront and if they do say no its because they care. Be Careful
Hope i helped
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lately ive been having such random dreams about this guy who i used to be friends with.
we havent talked in about a month though, we have just gone our seperate way. i know that i miss him a lot, but im not sure if he misses me.
my question is why do i keep dreaming about him? could that be a sign that he may be thinking about me too and that we are going to make up? please help (link)
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most dreams mean something about how you feel...recently my friend Brashai passed away and i keep having a dream i see her disappear...that means i wish i could have saved her.You keep dreaming about him because you want to be near him and be friends and talk like you used to...You're missing the friendship
Hope i helped
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welll this boy and i have liked each other for like 2 yrs off and on. we have been best friends the whole time. then this yr since like the beginning of summer he really, really, liked me. he and i decided to date and we fell in love. we onl dated for 3 months tho. the last month we have had a lot of problems because im moving and he feels God wants us to break up and is calling him in another direction. he told me he doesnt love me anymore and lost interest in me but still wants to be friends. i am leaving in 2 months. at first i told him i hated him because i did but then we talked and i understand. i do think its good to do so but also bad because we had so much planned. i hope we can still be best friends because we have always had that and he told me we could still be friends. the thing is even though i do agree would should break up because fighting with him is hell. i still love him. please what should i do? m not like completely depressed because i know God will make it ok and hes not the right one for me but if you can understand he and i were in love. we have ALWAYS flirted and had attraction to each other. he was my very best friend. and i do still love him. how should i get over him and now that he and i r 'just friends' what should i do and not do? this is so hard and i just need some help and to get through it. as well as leaving my friends, church, school, and everything now im leaving him and our realationship before i even leave. but i still really want to be close friends. how do i show him i can do that? he didnt dump me btw we kinda just broke up. i dumped him then he told me he lost interest in me then i was like no we can make it work then i agreed he was right.
its just so hard because he is the first boy i truly loved and we were only together for 3 months and im leaving and me moving ruined everything. we had so much planned and so many memories to make and so many sweet times i keep looking back to. and he always told me how much he loved me and cared for me and that he would always remember me and i believe those things but its so hard now because now he doesnt love me. i agree with breaking but i still, at least love him. oh please help me and thank you so much in advance.
and i tried so hard to be the best girlfriend i could be. i would do anything for him. it just hurts. a lot. because now its over. forever (link)
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Well the thing is you still have the friendship and thats a good thing...most people can't pullthat off.Its going to hurt for a while untill you finally decide that moving on is the better thing to do.You always have to be honest since you are still friends you have to tell him you still have feelings for him and that its going to be hard to stay 'just friends' for you....if he cares about you and he's a good friend he'll understand.I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out
Hope i helped
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ok so me and this boy have been dating for a wile... except he is my brothers friend so we have been dating in seceret and he always talkes about how hes going to tell people which i would love him to do he really is the love of my life but and i want to be with him forever, he is quite a few years older than me so for the rest of our lives is different and dont want to be tied down to someone i cant even be with in public... i want to be with him i just dont think now is the time i just dont know how to say it without hurting him or i just dont really know what to do... i know its a mess but any help would be great.. thanks in advance
xo (link)
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Well with the age difference you'd have to be really careful because you don't want him to get in trouble for sure...and you don't want to completely tie yourself down because your still young and you want to be able to experience everything and anything you can. Just tell him that you honsetly aren't ready for a really serious relationship...like you can do the whole dating thing but you don't want to get wayyyyy too serious.
Hope i helped
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My boyfriend's friend says That my bf's
Really loud and obnoxious with his friends
But quiet around me. is this good or bad? (link)
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Most guys are like that...boys feel they have to ACT a certain way around girls for them to be liked.Just let him know he can trust you and he'll act the same way around you he does his friends...so it can go either way.
Hope i helped
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im 13 and a girl.
so i met this guy on myspace. he is my friend's best friend ex-boyfriend and he still likes her. i like him and i dont know why. my friends tell me i should stop talking to him because her still likes that girl amanda and told her he wants to finger her while making out with her.But i like talking to him and i dont how to stop talking to him and he says ily to like evry girl???should i stop talking to him and forget him?? (link)
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Okay he likes his ex you like him and he's saying I LOVE YOU too everyone. He's a major heartbreaker/flirt and that's not a good thing. He'll string you along till he gets bored and you don't want that kind of a relationship. You could be friends with him and talk to him but you don't want to date him definately. You don't want your heart to get broken like that trust me
hope i helped
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