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2 weeks ago my fiance and I of nearly 2 years broke up, she said I had become like a brother to her, but we were going to try to work it out. We were already dealing with a lot of stressful family situations as it was. Things were going as well as they could be, until her cousin called her, and said that my parents and I said that she left for a bunch of reasons, none of which were actually mentioned. She got mad at me, because obviously she believes her cousin. We got in an argument, and she said she never wanted to see me again. The next night she called, and we talked about things. After that stuff was ok, until she talked to her cousin again. Then she decided there was no chance for us to get back together. She tried to call later that night, but i had fallen asleep for a couple hours, i didn't want to call her back, and wake her dad up, because he drinks a lot, and I didn't want to start trouble. She got worried that I did something to myself, and had a friend drive by, which I was already up(this was 3 in the morning), and she saw me through the window, now she thinks I'm lying about that. Then someone told her I was going to hurt myself, so she'd come to see me, but I never said it. Now she's deleted all history of me from her life it seems, right down to deleting me from her myspace, and all the pics of us. I really think this is the girl I was meant to be with. Is there any hope of me getting my soulmate back, or did her cousin win? And what exactly might be going through her head?

First confront her cousin and find out what in the world is wrong with her! Her dads a drunk right?, what would he know. She obviously has feelings for you but with the stress of things and all the rumores going around shes not thinking straight. If shes seemed to delete you from her life then give her some space and let her miss you. Find a way to talk to her and remind her you were engaged and how happy you both were together. It sounds like she doesnt trust you. Good luck I hope this all works out.

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I love this boy but you see he acts different when he is around his friends. I told him that he does but he doesn't listin to me and blams the whole thing on me saying i am changing and that im not the same person he feel in love with. i don't know what to do and my friends just seem to not know either. i need help. Do you have any advise for me?

What a freaking jeark you deserve better then this, dump him. I would of said comfront him but you did and he blamed it on you. You said you love him well loves a two way thing. But you might not want to break up with him so bring him around your freinds and treat him like he does you. But know if you do break up with him it will teach him not to treat you or any other girl like that also if you dont he will keep treating you bad and it will just get worse.

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okay so im not bad looking. a lot of people think im cute and hott in ways im nice and funny and i cant get a boyfriend any tips?

i bet there are alot of guys out there that like you but are just to shy to ask you because they think your to amazing. Go talk to one of them and get to know them more. One way or another a guys going to want to date. Go for it. oh also looks are nothing compared to personality.

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18/F

I've liked this guy for almost 5 months, and have been waiting for something to happen. He really is one of the sweetest, nicest guys I've ever come to know. He's also a bit shy, and his last few girlfriends were quite aggressive, which I kind of am not Finally, after 5 months of me liking him and flirting he kissed me (just a couple of pecks on the lips). Apparently, he had been texting my sister for advice about me and has been telling her how much he likes me, and he likes how different I am. This was two and half weeks ago.

However, lately I feel like I'm back to square one. While he was away for the first week (he had a family reunion about an hour away) we would text and he would tell me missed me and stuff. But now that he is back, I still have not seen him, and I hardly get any calls. I understand that he is super busy with football (he has practice from 2-8) but I feel like every attempt I try to make with him gets shot down. I know for a fact that some of his friends go out after practice, too.

Some of my guy friends tell me I should give up, while my other guy friends tell me to keep trying. I don't know what I should do. I'm sick of being the person to make all the effort. I WOULD talk to him about this, but since we never actually have had a conversation about "us", I feel like I would come off as the crazy stalker girl.

Deffenilty talk to him. He likes you obvisouly. Dont put it as us. Bring up the fact how you kissed and how he said he missed you.

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ookay, so there's this guy and we were going out for a little while and i really love him and we were really close for a little while but then we started falling apart and he said he just wanted to be friends but that he still loved me and i said that was fine just whatever he wants to do to make his life easier is fine..i was a little happy about the fact that he was happy but now i feel really empty and depressed and just thinking about him being with other people really makes me really sad and there is this thought at the back of my head telling me that I want him to ask me out again but i want him to be happy so badly..what do i do?!
PS- female ...13

Give him his space and put up with the heartbreak. In the end you come out a stronger person. Your only 13 you have your whole life to find someone you love and they love you back.

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I'm 15, I'm a girl, I'm in love with a 28 year old man, he is in love with me, we have never done anything, not even kissed, but we go on dates and meet up about 3 or 4 times a week.

Is this wrong? And does he just want sex? Because that is what I'd normally think, but we've been dating a few months and he's never so much as suggested anything. And we were friends for ages before that too. I don't know what to do.

And I know I'm young, and people say I'm to young to be in love, but I've never felt like this before.

I dont think your sure what love is but he makes you feel happy and thats important, As for the age difference I dont think anythings wrong with it but its not looked upon lightly and people wont think of him as "normal". It doesnt sound like he wants sex from you. Ecspecially if you havent even kissed. Older men tend to have more respect when it comes to woman. Dont let this ruin your freindship. Also some people wont be so understanding and openminded as me. Just be careful with your decisions.

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im a 15 year old guy.. my girlfriend and I have talked bout it and want to go further. we already make out. next is feeling up. we've talked bout that too. she's fine with it. I kno when we make out to put my hands on her hips and work my way up under her shirt but where do I put my hands. do I move up and place them on her boobs? what's after that?please help

Lol well as a girl I would say take it slow and be very touchy. Im not sure how she would like it though so you should ask her because all girls are different. Just try and experiment. Which things gives you the most pleasure what gives her the most pleasure. If your going all the way use protection! Good Luck!!

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My ex broke up with me about a month ago. The main reason was that my parents don't allow me to see him very often and are very restricting in general. It's summer so naturally I can't see him at school. It's been tough since the day we broke up. We both say we love eachother. He also happens to be my best friend. We decided to keep hanging out but one thing led to another and we started acting like a couple again. Kissing, holding hands, ect. The problem is that over the summer he developed feelings for another girl as well. They aren't dating or anything but they do see eachother a lot. I suspected that something was going on and yesterday my mutual friend spilled the beans to me and the other girl. I decided to talk to him about it and see what was going on exactly. I wanted to protect my friend from being attacked by him for not keeping this a secret, so I lied and said that I had read a text message between them on her phone. But then I decided to tell him what really happened and for some reason he got incredibly angry. I know that it is because I lied to him and betrayed his trust, but I was only doing it to protect my friend. Now he very upset and although I talked to him, I've never seen him this hurt. I'm supposed to be his best friend who tells him everything, but I messed up. At the same time I also feel hurt that he didn't tell me that he had feelings for this other girl. I know that he is single and can like whoever he wants, but I love him so much and I know what I want. The problem is that even now he doesn't know what he wants. He's very confused. I'm not sure how I should handle this. I told him that I'm still his best friend and that I was really sorry for everything. I think I am going to give him some space so that he can figure things out, but it's so hard not talking to him. He's the person I turn to for everything. And now I can't do that. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

This is why you shouldnt date your guy freinds because it can mess up your freindship! Since it already happened nothing more can become ruined. Now is the time to tell him to give you another chance tell him why you lied and how hurt you were when he kept this a secret. Hopefully he will understand and you can both go about earning one anothers trust back. Its good to just give him space. If hes smart he will talk to you once more. As for the other girl dont bother with her eventually shell be gone.

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Right well, im 15 and im a girl, but see, im really small. Like short, little, skinny, i dont know, just small. I get "awwh!"s its SO annoying but whatever, thats not my question. I wasnt really sure where to put this, but i guess since my crush does this too, i put it here. So i guess since im little, the guys i know think its okay to just man-handle me or something, i dont know. Its wierd. When they want to get me to move, like out of a doorway for instance, instead of just saying "excuse me" like they would for any other girl, they literally pick me up and place me out of the way. Its soooooo aggrivating. I give the whole firm "no" thing and im serious about it, and I ask them to stop but it doesnt. And its not just a few guys, its all of them. They just pick me up and do whatever they want with me. Hello?? Im not a toy, just say excuse me. And its not like my reaction eggs them on. As i said, i firmly (but calmly) say no, and ive asked ALL of them to stop countless times (even though i dont mind TOO much when my crush does it... hehe) but it doesnt. One time, a guy (hes not really my friend) picked me up and put me on the top of a fridge... like really?? what the heck? Most of the time, its just the harmless picking me up and moving me but even that drives me crazy. Why does it bother me so much? How can i get it to stop? Am i doing something that provokes it? Am i just going to have to live with this?

And please, dont tell me to like kick them in the balls or be really mean or something like that. I love these guys, theyre my friends (and my crush, i dont want to be a jerk to him) and i love them to death, but this has got to stop.

Oh and sorry this is so long, i like to rant... haha.

If they dont listen to you then I would kick them. I can guess it will make them stop because being nice about it.

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I've known this girl for a few years and I missed my chance out of pure stupidity several times. It wasn't just some stupid hormonal attraction either - it's like she's the first person who treated me like a human being and respected me for who I am. (I like the way the 70s were better than now - not that I was alive then - and people tend to harass me because of my style in everything.)

So she looked past the surface and saw who I really was, which is what made it so impossible to even ask anything. I wasn't used to this treatment.

Anyway, she moved LAST summer and I still can't get her out of my head. Any ideas?

Oh im sorry to hear. Thats so stupid they would treat you like that because of your style, everyone trys to blend in but you show who you really are that takes courge people should respect this, I know I do. I also have a weird taste I change my style alot like goth then skates then caussually. She must of been pretty kewl to see you for who you really are. Its a shame you didnt take the chance when you had it but dont think of it as a loss but rather a gain knowing someone saw you for who you are.

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Okay we all have a point i think at witch we are stuck in between two people right? Well i am currently dating someone, who is absolutly amazing and there is no doubt that i love him and id never risk anything to lose him. BUT the thing is one of my really good friends says he loves me. He lives about 2 hours away from me so we dont see each other very often. I have always been interested in him and i love him as more than a friend but im not IN love with him. We have been friends for almost a year. Now heres the catch i got pretty close with his best friend and he told me a whole bunch of stuff about collin that threw me off, basically he was a huge player and would say anything to get into a girls pants, it fit considerably well with all the girls around him and his myspace. So i backed off and began questioning his intentions with me. Then i found out that Aaron, his best friend had it really bad for me. Of course collin denied everything but i question some of the things aaron told me not all but some. Not to mention i flat out told collin that i wasnt going to sleep with him and he still tells me that he loves me and im still number one on his tops. Not to mention hes very loyal to his girlfriends. He calls me 'his baby' and makes me feel all special inside. I let him know that i love him but that nothings going to come out of that because i dont trust him. he understands that. i guess i just need some advice on what everyone thinks of him.

If you want something outa this then I say take a chance and if you get your heart broke thats a bummer and you will know that you deserv someone better. Love can make you do some crazy things! Can you trust were your hdarng this info from? Be carefull or you might loose something then wish you had given him a chance. Let him in and dont give him sex. If he treats you any different then u know thats all he wants. If he doesnt then you have a pretty decent guy. I hope this helps!! Becca/14

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i am living with my boyfriend at home with my mum i am 16 & he is 25 & i have been with him a year now i know about our age diffrence but i love him so much and i want to be with him forever but we have been arguing latly and one day i went on his imesh a website were you can download music and meet people and he had set his own account up and he had pictures of himself with no top on and o the acount it asks a question 'what i'm here for and he has clicked the date and hook up choice i confronted him about it and neally kicked him out but he got really upset and told me it was a mistake i forgave him but now he should be making up to me but hes just acting the same way as he always did and i am startin to wonder wether i had made the right decision ????

First of all I would like to say age is just a number. If hes making more then 1 more mistake like this I would begin to have seriouse doubts. Also he has no right to treat you like that you deserved way better then that! I know you dont want to hear that because you love him but be cautiouse because in a realation ship anything could happen.

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