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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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Hey people...Happy Holidays...hopefully you guys aren't having a confusing holiday like me lol. Well I am going out with this kid and he's a year older than me and let's just call him Kevin. Well Kevin told some of my friends that he liked me and they kind of made me go out with him. I didn't really know him and I still don't at the moment. So I really don't like him because I barely know the kid, I'm not good at learning to go out with him either. We've been going out for about a week now and it's just driving me crazy. He calls me all the time and is sooo clingy! He bought me a diamond promise ring for christmas and OMG he shouldn't have done it. Obviously I don't like him as much as he likes me. Well on New Years I want to go to my best friend's party (it's a guy) but the thing is they don't get along that well. I don't want to lead Kevin on either but I don't want to have to tell him I don't like him that much because I do NOT want to hurt him. I need to like break it off and I don't know what to say!!!!! Does anyone know what to say to him? Besides I don't like you or besides being mean to him. I mean I definitely don't want to hurt him but that means I might just have to make something up to tell him I can't have a boyfriend right now! Anyone have any ideas?

Try telling Kevin that you really dont know him that well and you'd rather be friends before having a relationship. Just tell him your not sure about your feelings and not sure if your ready for a boyfriend yet. You'd still would like to be friends and see how things go.You dont want to see him in a relationship when both people dont feel the same way , when there could be someone else out there for him.Hope i helped and you have a Happy Holiday.

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There is this guy who i really like and he says that he really likes me to but the weekend he was flirting with my cousin and she told me that he was suppose to get a girl on the go this weekend. After all the shit i have been through with him i am really confused on what to do.What should i do?

You really gotta listen to your heart on this one.If this guy doesnt seem like he's ready for a relationship, i would wait to see.You deserve someone who's gonna be there for you and care for you and you there for them just the same.If you really really like him, well maybe give him a chance cuz @ the same time you'll never know until you find out.Hope i helped and good luck with that.

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okay...well thier is this guy i that i really like. alot of people like him too! should i go for it or just forget about it?

Yea, i mean you'll never know until you find out.If it doesnt work out or he says no, it jsut means there's always someone better for you out there.Hope i helped and Good Luck!

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Hi! I'm 14/f and I kind of like this guy friend of mine. We'll call him Dave. Anyway, as I said, I kind of like him...that way. And he recently told me that he likes me, too...that way. Except I'm kind of afraid of him asking me out because it would be my first real boyfriend, and I don't know what I would do with a boyfriend! It would be SO awkward going on a date to dinner or something with Dave, and I'm not really big on huge public displays of affection. And I think he has a few friends who don't really like me all that much. Any advice?? (I rate!)

I know everyone hears it alot but you have to do what your hearts telling you.Don't worry if its your first time, you just gotta let things happen as they go.Once you stop concentrating as much on the fact your b/f and g/f it seems you know what to do.If you both really like each other you should try going out.Talk to him and tell him that if it doesnt seem to work you feel better goign back to being friends.Hope i helped and good luck with everything.

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Im 15 male and from scotland. Currently i am in a long distance relationshop and i am confused!
I love this girl, im sure of it. And she loves me too, but i dont know, things seem hazy, its not that i dont trust her of course i do. But like she has a load of male friends and is rather shall we say "close" to them. I dnt mean anything goes on or that jus im not sure what goes on coz i cant be there and see. Like i sed i do trust this gal with my life i jus dont know wot 2 think at the moment, plz help me sum1.
Youres anon

Aww that's really sweet.Maybe you should let her know that.That you love her so much and you trust her but sometimes you just get uneasy feelings sometimes.Alot of the times girls are jsut realyl close to guys more than girls.I know thats how i am adn some of my other friend who are girls.Just keep in there.Let me knwo if you need any more advice i'd be happy to help.Good luck with you and your girlfriend.

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when it comes to asking ppl out...am i wrong to think that guys should ask the grls out? be serious plz..

No, girls can ask guys out ,its really not that much of a difference.Unless they like the traditional way where the guy asks the girl out but it usually all depends on the person.Hope i helped.

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this is kinda long beware

hey 15.f.cali here

ok i have a few questions and i am in need of some insight... Well i like this guy and he is so flirty and we are friends and we have been for about 4 years and now we hangout alot and talk alot and we have all the same friends and what not and he knows i like him cuz he asked me in a note (we have 2 classes together and he sits next to me) and i said well you but i dont want anything to change if you dont feel the same way. ok and so after i said that he wrote we need to hangout more. and everyday almost he tells me i looke really cute and tells his friends im so hott and because they ar my friends too then tell me...we have so much fun together and i think we would make such a cute couple cuz we are both open minded people and we are into the same things... my question is what do i do? like a few of my friends are like he is shy when it comes to that so ask him out. but i am too and i could never do that. whats a girl to do???

muha thaks
Lisa

I think you should ask him out.It sounds like you two would be so happy and really like each other.Maybe have one of your friends ask him for you, write him a note or send him an e-mail or through IMing or something.Hope I helped and everything works out with you two.

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my boy friend has been ubducted by the new game halo 2...he is obsessed! how can i get him back???

It's taking over everyone.Let him go for a couple days, then he should be fine.Thats how everyone is right now.It's mostly a guy thing i think.If he starts getting really bad where he wont do anything.Just go over his house and ask him if he wants to go out or something.Let him know that your happy he has his game but it shouldnt come before his friends or girlfriend especially.If he doesnt listen to you just unplug the system, that way he'll know your serious.Hope i helped and he's not as hooked on halo.

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I was thinking...do any of you agree with the saying, the right guy will come when you stop looking?

Yea, i think that when people are too concerned with looking for something they wont find it but when they stop concentrating it finds them.

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Hey, theres this girl that I really like. And it turned out she liked me too, so I asked her out last night. She said she wanted to think about it. So then later today after school she gave me a note... it explained that she said "I hope we have a good time together, not only as friends but also a couple..." But also later in the note it said "I also found out that (friend of mine and hers) likes me too, but I felt sorry for him because I told him I like you, do you see how I'm feeling? Anyways you're so shy!! You made me feel like a 'sister'~~ haha! Sorry! Hope you can understand what I'm trying to say!" Well anyways my question is... does that mean we are going out or does she want to stay friends??

If she started off on how happy she is about you two being a cou[ple, your still going outfromw hat it sounds liek.She's pry just feeling bad that another guy likes her and she's telling him that she likes you.I think she also wants you to be more open with her.I'm pretty sure your still going out but she just had mixed up feelings.some girls arent always clear when they talk to you.Hope i helped and good luck with your girlfriend.

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im 13-f i have a bf and i luv him its just we've been going out since summer and i know i shouldn't have done this but i've gone really far with him but my friend likes me soooooooooooo much and i sorta like him to. the thing is he has a gf but he said he'll break up with her for me! but i dont want him to because i dont want to break up with my bf. i cant decide who i like better but i've known my bf for 2 years now and i went out with him in 6th grade and in 7th but now since im in 8th grade i sort of want a knew bf because i've known him so long........im really confused about what to do....help please! thnx

Maybe you should dump your b/f now.If your not really sure what you want its usually the best thing to do , that way you can figure out what you want and who you wanna be with.Try to spend time with both of them and see if that helps.Hope i helped and you figure out what you wanna do.

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i like a few boys and i broke up with my bf just to look . do u think its wrong

No, thats actually really smart compared to what most girls do.They just go look around while thier going out.Most girls should be like you.Good luck with those other guys!

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okay well theres this boy.. hes 15 i think and im 13/f
hes the kinda guy who does drugs, drinks, does stuff with girls, everything like that..
hes really nice to me and he talks to me a lot. he says he likes me but idk if he really does cuz he might just be fooling around. he touches me in the halls n stuff but him and his gf of 6 or 7 months just broke up a few days ago because he made out with someone else and lied to his gf about it. well some of my friends are sayin i should ask him out but idk what he will say. what do u think? thanks! :) (sorry so long)

If you really like him and you want to , you should.But if he cheated on his old girlfriend just be careful because you should deserve someoen who'll treat you right.It seems like he likes ya though.:)Hope i helped and you figure out what your gonna.GOOD LUCK!

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Ok well to start off the question...I have a boyfriend named..lets call him bob....well we broke-up over a really dumb reason, but we got back together yesterday....I like him a lot but He is always rude to me and He told me [when we broke up] that he was thinkin about it a week be4? and I think now that were goin out again hes just screwing me over I dont kno!..well plz help me
Also I have feelings like I just want to break up with him because I love bein single and I have a crush on sum1 else!

I think you should break up with him.There's no point in your relationship if hes not treating you right and if you dont really want to either.You deserve someone who will treat ya right.If you have a crush on someone else, try going after him.;)or staying single and having fun with that.Hope i helped.

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im in a real jab. i like my best friend and he likes me but... he also likes my bestfriend. And we both know about it. he's really sweet and a good friend but lately weve been getin to know the real him and its perverted. then suddenly he goea out with this girl micheal and didn.t tell us. at first we didn't think it was true until he told us. a big fight happened and we ignored him for a while. Now while he's going out with her i feel jealous. i care for him and its hurting our friend ship. does he like me? does he like my friend? or is he just playin us both?...

He could be playing both of you.Once and a while you find a really rude guy like that.Maybe not though.There could be a reason why he didnt tell you.Maybe try talking to him about it.Anything thats one your mind just let him know.Hope i helped and everythign gets straightened out.

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hey guys im ryah

well ok there is this boy Jake that i have dated before but I like him again, only because he calls me every day and is so sweet but it was so randomly that he started calling me, i mean we have been seeing eachother outside of school because we have the same friends and all but like we weren't really close since we broke up, we still kept in touch and talked online and all.i mean i have never really STOPPED liking him but i kinda moved on for a while but the feelings were still there. well anyways when we do see eachother OUT OF SCHOOL (keyword lol b/c we just act like friends in school which is odd) we are all over eachother and makeout and stuff, thats the farthest its gone since but he has mentioned to do other things. well anyways us doing all this stuff makes me attracted to him even more. i just don't know where to go from there like i would want to date him again officially you know, but i just don't know what exactly to say to him about i can't straight out say 'i like you, so let's go out' but i don't know what to say!!

Sorry it was long :(
Thanks if you help me :) I need it lol

Maybe have one of yours or his friends bring up that you two should start going out again.That might give him a hint to ask you or to bring up the subject.Or in person, online or the phone just be like listen i was wondering what'd you think about going back together or something to that effect.Hope i helped and good luck.

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Hey ..
I was just wondering..
does anyone have any ideas on places my boyfriend and I can go to just hang out? We just like to hang out and spend time together....I'm 15 by the way. Also..what are some good jobs to get at this age? I heard Culver's hires at this age, but I'm not positive. Does anyone know of any work places to help earn money towards college? Thanks so much!:)

I know the obvious places are the movies and mall.Maybe go to the park if its just you two.I know these arn't great jobs but cashiers at a grocery store or department store.I know summer is far away but if you play a sport you could ref. for your town or cities teams.My brother does it and he's 15 and started at 13.He makes between 12-20$ a game.Maybe even babysit.Put up flyers around your neighborhood and see if people respond.Thats always an easy and sometimes fun way to make a good amount of money to start putting away.Hope i helped.

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I am talking with this dude. And I asked earlier what to get him for his 16th Bday, but I didnt get any good answers so I'm asking again! He likes bands like NFG and Blink 182, hes beachy/country, and he plays soccer and football! I really really want to get him something special! Please gimme some sweet ideas! Thanks!

I know a couple people sometimes get a person likeba soccer ball (or any type of sports ball)and have thier close friends sign it with a lil message to that person.Maybe get your a friend a nice soccer ball and have people sign it.It'salways saomething people save as a memory.Hope i helped and you find something for your friend.

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Sometimes my computer goes really fast and sometimes its soo slow. Well I was trying to go on advicenators and it wasint even loading then I tried another site and it worked fine. I then tried to go back onto advicenators, and it was going slow. Is it because my internet is sick of being on advicenators so much(lol) or what? I'm confused! I'm on right now because it just started getting fast again..so yeah anyone know whats going on? Its making me sooo mad :D!

xo_sherry_ox

i dunno, it's been happening to everyone lately.it's like it never wants to load up advienators only the wbsites i havent been to lately.sorry i wasnt any help.

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okay...well on wednesday i went to church with my boyfriend..well not really we went to his friends house that is right across the street ...and he told his dad he was goin to church...his dad happened to drive by and saw him out of church..he made him leave so i just hung out with my bf's friends..and he called my cell when he got home n he didnt talk 2 me..i was like wats the point of callin you kno? well finally he was like WELL ILL JUST LET U GO HAVE FUN WITH THEM...and he hung up..the next day he called n apologized....he was like "im sry its just that i dont c u alot and i was mad at my dad for making me leave u" i was like its arite...well on friday we planned to do somethin today..saturday...and he called me n changed the plans to goin to c a movie @ 6....he sed hed call me back with the information lyke wat theater n movie we wer gonna c...he sed this @ 12 30 today....AND HE NEVER CALLED ME BACK!...i cleaned to get money n erything....and i cancelled everthing i had goin ontoday to c him...and he never called...and then friday (yesterday) he sed he was in trouble from wat happened on wednesday so he couldnt do nothin or go nowhere....but i called him later that nite...AND HE WAS GONE! i called like 2 times n his parents wer like o no hes not here hes gone for the nite...idk wats up with him....wat do u think i shuld do...im really mad about the movie thing....=\

When you get a hold of him ask him what's really going on.He could have had something really going on.If he doesnt or denies it i would consider dumping him.I mean it doesn't seem like he's at the point were he's dedicated to spending even a little bit of time with his girlfriend.Hope i helped.

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