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I really think im gay im almost 16 im male and i was 14 when i became attracted to guys i kept looking at guys and it turned me on and even now i still like guys im not really attracted to girls i havent told anyone yet but i really like this guy he seems to like me he friendly towards me makes me thinks he likes me more than a friend
im a bit nervous about telling him how i feel
so im not sure if hes gay so do i tell him flirt a little to let him know how i feel what should i do?

Well, if you aren't attracted to women that is fine. You should try hanging out with him A LOT more. Hangout with him after school and things like that. Once you guys get closer, you may want to flirt but if you aren't comfortable with that then don't.
If he becomes your really good friend, why don't you just tell him the truth. Tell if you are gay, that you aren't attracted to girls.
But at first dont come off to strong because you are unsure if this guy is even gay or not.
Good luck!

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I finally had my first kiss. It felt like a suction on my lips, so i'm not sure if thats right. was i supposed to use tongue? i don't know, i think i was really bad. was it supposed to feel like a suction on my lips? please help

17/ f

Well, have you ever kissed a family member or something? If you use just lips, then the kiss you did with a family member should feel about the same as your first kiss. I'm not sure if "a sunction on my lips" is what it is supposed to be like.
You don't have to use tongue until you feel you already. Don't stress about it otherwise it won't be good. A lot of people say the first time you "tongue" a guy, it just comes naturally. But some people say that their first time sucked, it all differs.
Congrats! By the way. :)
Good luck!

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Or that maybe he's a little jealous when she's with someone else?

We're talking about a 17 year old guy who hasn't quite grown out of caring what other people think of him, and a possible crush on a 15 year old girl in his class who is far from what people are expected to like. He's said she's 'so fun to mess with/tease'.

I don't know who you are talking about (girl or guy) which made this seem confusing. So i'll just answer your question.
Signs a guy likes you: He'll smile shyly/or crookedly. He'll look at you a lot, especially when he thinks you aren't watching him. He'll try to make you smile a lot and will try to impress you. He'll wink at you or move closer to you and might talk to you a lot.
If he is jealous he might narrow his eyes, or look at you a lot. He might also go and talk to you more, to make sure that that other guy isn't taking you over. He may try to put that guy down, and tell you things that might not be true about that other guy.
Things like that!
Good luck!

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im 16 male and well a lot of my friends have had sex they talk about it a lot i feel a bit weird i dont want to hear it some of them are surprised im still a virgin but im glad i dont think im a prude im from a christian family and i dont wanna have sex until im married i strongly believe in waiting and i hope to find the right girl who also wants to wait for marriage theres nothing wrong with not having sex until marriage is there?

Of course not.
Don't let those people get to you because if you do they your pride will be taken away.
Believe what you want to believe, stay clean until marriage if that is what you want.
Hold your head up high and be proud that you are still a virgin. Of course, their are those people that'll laugh at you because they made the choice of having sex before they were mature enough.
Most of your friends are probably virgins too, or are bregging about something that they wish had happened. It's nothing to be proud of, really, unless you truely love someone.
Don't let your beliefs be broken just because your friends are weak.
Good luck

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how can you know if i guy is a virgin

You can't really know if a guy is a virgin just by looking at him. The best way to know is to ask him.

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im 15 male and im gay ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months and well we had an argument the other day i was talking to this guy were friends only friends weve talked a bit lately but my boyfriend seems to think theres more to it he asked me why im talking to him all the time i think he maybe jealous but i told him were friends nothing else i told him i love him hes the only one i do love my boyfriend is he jealous what do i do?

We could definitely be jealous, but it's normal in a new relationship. Give it another month or so, and if he doesn't trust you what-so-ever, it won't work out in the end because trust is the key to a GOOD relationship.
I would continue talking to this guy, depending on how much you love your boyfriend, if you start to develop other feelings for this guy, you should either:
1: cut off all communication.
2: tone it down a bit.
I suggest the first. :)
Talk to your boyfriend the next time you see him. I mean, a serious talk. A sit down, no interruptions, talk.
Tell him HOW you guys are just friends, and tell hm he doesn't have to worry, tell him how much you love him, tell him how you would NEVER cheat on him EVER. But most importantly tell him that if he doesn't trust you, then it won't work out. Trust me, it won't. You two will get on each other's nerves way to much. :P
Anyways, good luck with your boyfriend!
I wish you two the best! :)
If you need anymore help or you want me to explain more my email is on my advice column.
xxXX

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13/f Well I started talking to this guy on facebook and he goes to the other middle school in my town and I started talking and flirting with him and he asked me if i had a skype so i got one and we chatted and then he started making fun of my friend and saying things like boooobies and i want booobies and making wierd noises. Plus he is really popular an the preps at my school no him, and Im scared he will say something what do i do??

Well first of all, defend your friend. No guy is worth hearing mean things about your friend.
And don't try to impress a guy just because you like him. He sounds immature to me, and you don't. That is a bad combination.
If you still want to be friends with him and things, do that, but defend your friends first. Don't be scared that he'll say something, because if he does, then he is just an ass, and you can't change asses.

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22/f.

I'll make this to the point. I was browsing my boyfriend of 7 months' Facebook, and discovered that he is still friends with girls on Facebook who he has dated (not been in a relationship with) Is this right? I don't have anyone I've ever been remotely involved with on Facebook anymore, but before I speak to him about it, I just wanted some opinions/thoughts on the matter. BTW, I'm not angry and don't intend to approach him with anger, just curiousity.
Thanks!

Well, it could be just because he wants to continue being there friends or maybe because he forgot he had them on there. Or because he's curious about what they are up to these days.
I honestly thing you should talk to him, calmly and express your feelings.
It isn't wrong that he still has his ex girlfriends on his facebook, but unless he is their friends, there is not reason to keep them on there.
Good luck!

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Okay i am 15 years old and am a female. And i was hanging out with my friends and i met my friends friend Donny. He turns 19 next week. He has a son who turns 2 in october. i've hung out with him starting back a few months ago. But i do like him. Which i know is really bad...but no one can help feelings. And my bestfriend is trying to figure out if he likes me back...everyone thinks him and i would be cute together but there is many faults.. age for one. 2. the son. 3. some of the friends we share i am not aloud to hangout with. 4. he has some issues at home. but i cant help but be attracted to him. I just want to hear peoples opinions on how you guys think this would work out. Should i go for it, or should i drop it?

My sister had a similar situation. The guy is 25 and she just turned 18 in october.
First of all, before doing ANYTHING, you wait until you are 15. At least he cant go to jail for you being underage,
but your parents can still send him to jail for sagitary rape until you are 18.
I'd be careful. My sister's boyfriend also has a son that is two.
It will be hard on her, so I'm guessing it'll be fucking hard as HELL for you.
I'd wait a little while, until you are more mature and can handle a baby, and things, if you really want to go for him.

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Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half have been going through a really rough time in our relationship. We have been trying to take some time apart in hopes that it will help. Unfortunetly it has done the exact opposite because he has been thinking that i am going around with some other guy. I haven't though, i have barely left my house. And now I have permanently destroyed the relationship i think because I completely freaked out and lost it. i told him that i did sleep with some one even though i didnt. i dont know why i even said that to him but now i dont know what to do. Is there anything at this point that i can even do?

Yes you can tell him the truth.
Also, tell him that you did it because you were pissed that he would even think you would screw around with some other guy, and wanted to show him how much it hurt to be accused and be TOLD that you cheated. Because that is why you did it, right?
If that doesn't help, then give it some time.
He'll either come around or move on, you'll never know unless you try.

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So last night I was at a dance it was kinda boring but the my group went to dinner and around ten I decided to text the guy I liked who said he couldn't come to the dance bc he switched schools like a week before the dance and so I went some other guy but I couldn't stop thinking about the guy I liked so I texted him and the whole night no response and I felt stupid now this morning I wake up and it says he texted me back at 2 am well I fell asleep at one so now I feel even more stupid what and when should I text him bc last time a while ago I texted him back in the morning around 12 and he didn't respond after that should I wait till tonight or what?

You should just text him back, otherwise he might get the same impression as you. Say you're sorry you didn't text him back because you fell asleep, asked him how his night was, etc.

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I sent my girlfriend a text message. In the text message, I asked "Are we
still boyfriend and girlfriend." A couple of minutes later, I didn't get a
response, so I sent another message saying "I would really appreciate a
response." She sent this reply " yes David..... I have to say its kind of
getting old having to tell you over and over again.. I m not sure why you
worry so much.. I have a class now..so I'll talk to you later "

Question: She used excessive periods after saying “yes david”. She used
five periods after that sentence. She only used two periods in her other
sentences. She put extra space between "yes david....." and the next
sentence. When I copy and pasted the exchange of texts into advicenators,
the extra space didn’t show up, but it was there in the original message.
You can’t see the extra space here, but it was in the original message.
She didn't use this extra space between her other sentences. What do the
five dots in "Yes David....." mean? I understand they mean she is annoyed,
but do they directly express annoyance or do they mean that something was
unwritten and it is up to the reader to assume what was supposed to be
written?

Oh wow, David, you are thinking this out THOROUGHLY. Don't. You are pushing her away because of it. The dots mean a few things: she is annoyed, she is tired of repeating herself, and she won't repeat herself again.
If you weren't her boyfriend she'd make it CLEAR. Don't obsess over her or else you'll lose her okay?
Maybe something happened in your past where you are afraid a girl will leave you, but this girl doesn't seem like she is going to leave any time soon, otherwise she would have told you off ten text messages ago.
Don't ask her again, or you're through bud.
.....

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i have this guy i like he was my best friend i never told he that but he always told i was his he would text me everyday over winter break but once we got back to school it stoped and he started ignoreing me and not sitting with me and stuff like that people would say he liked me but i wasnt sure and know im certin but i like like but im not sure he does we dont really talk but idk what to do

You should go up and talk to him. If he was your best friend, it shouldn't be a problem, right?
Either that or text him telling him how you feel. Ask him why he is being such a dick after leading you on like that. Tell him not to do that to a girls heart, because it isn't right.
My advice: don't like him, or even love him even.
He isn't worth it if he totally ignores you after you guys talk for HOURS on end everyday.
Good luck.

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Im male ill be 15 next month and well i think im gay ive become really attracted to guys i keep staring at guys and at it turns me on i dont get turned on by looking at girls i like gay porn
i know im still young but does that make me gay?
is it normal to feel like this?

Well normally it's okay to experiment with your sexuality because a lot of teens are confused by if they are bisexual, straight, etc.
It's never too early to tell, but I'm not going to say that you ARE gay, but there is a strong possibility that you MAY be gay, yes.
I say you should wait at least a year, to be sure. Of course, if girls don't turn you on at ALL, and guys do, then yes, you have the possibility you are gay.
The best thing to do is to act on these intentions, find someone that is gay as well, or you don't have to. But the best way to figure it out is if you date a boy, so that you will know for sure IF you are gay or not.
At your age, yes, girls should attract you, unless you are not straight. But if you are, don't fret on it, yeah...kids hate people that are different, so what? You should embrace it and love it! It's what makes you who you are :)

good luck! (PS, I like gay people better anyways. They have a feeling of what girls ACTUALLY go through, plus they are more fun and more sensitive to women's feelings ;)haha)

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Im 16 male im gay ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months but im not sure if i want to stay in the relationship anymore weve seemed to have grown apart we spend less time together i like him but lately ive grown feelings for another guy we talk a lot we hang out a lot i havent done anything else i wouldnt cheat on my boyfriend but i have strong feelings for this guy we seemed to have more in common he is gay and he told me he likes me im torn between the two of them but i have stronger feelings for the other guy and i think i want to be with im torn how do i go about it?

Well, I've been told before that you should never make a guy think you two have something going if you don't have feelings for him. So, I would be honest with him. Tell your boyfriend you really like him, but you don't think you two should date anymore. Never feel pressured into staying in a relationship.
If you really like this other guy, go for him. It's better to be happy with someone you have strong feelings for than to be unhappy with someone you just like.
Good luck. Wish you the best.
xxxx

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15 f Bf: 17 m

To start off, I'm a very paranoid person in my relationship, because things happened which made me even more paranoid, and I don't know how I can just stop and relax.

I love my boyfriend, very much and I don't want to lose him. He has a hard life, his girl friends never treated him right, one actually slept with her step father, and said that he stalked her. His first girl friend passed away, in a car accident. I'm the only girl who has actually been faithful and loyal to you. I Love him very much. I just want him to be happy with me, he had feelings first for my best friend..who isn't my best friend now. His feelings recently came back because he spent more time with her, He resolved things with her, and he promised me he only wants to be with me.

I noticed, that he can't look me in the eye when he says "I Love You." I noticed him doing that, at the last dance at our school..and he said it's because he has been hurt so many times..:/ So, should I just relax and stop worrying or what? Do you think I'm just overreacting?

No you aren't overreacting. And why I'm telling you that is because, when I told my bf i loved him and wasn't sure i meant it, I would look away too.
You shouldn't be paranoid because chances are he probably is just scared.
Reassure him you aren't going anywhere. but MEAN it. If you don't, then don't say it.
Work it through with him. Talk more about his past and talk to him about how much you mean to him and everything. Just give him time as well, he probably just wants to make sure you are for real.

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im 15 and i don't want to be single anymore. i know i do not need a boyfriend and shouldn't rush it (etc.) but my main problem is where to find teenage guys? i go to the mall, the beach or anywhere else but i don't know how to apporoach them first of all. what do i say without sound creepy? haha "hey your cute wanna go out?" lol. it would be great if they would approach me but that doesnt happen. so i need to know where to find them and how to approach them. like what to say and any tips on what you do. thank you(:

Well try bowling places and ice skating and roller blading rinks. There should be a lot of teenagers there, mostly on weekends. How about school? If you go to school.
You approach guys and just be like "Hey! Having fun?" Or say "Hey can i play?" if your at the beach and you see guys playing a game. Something like that.
Be confident and if you get turned down, try again with someone else. If you go with friends, that would really help ya out.

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I killed my baby - now i can't live with the guilt. I don't know what to do.I am angry at the father for not caring and so I harass him as much as possible. My therapist says I need to let it go but I can't. Help me! How do I move on?

I'd say keep your mind on something else.
Do you mean like abortion?
If it was abortion, then there must have been a good reason for you to abort your child.
Just keep telling yourself that what you did was the right decision.
Time will heal your wounds of what happened.
You just need time. Don't forget your baby but also think of it as a blessing. If you couldn't raise the child, it is in a better place.

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:( the boy i love is taken. Its an online relatonship between him and a girl. They've "dated" for a few months now, about five or six. She lives in the US, him in Asia.
I've loved him since when he was single..
I was wondering...do you think this'll last?
I cry every night..and wish I were dead.
Nothing for me ever seems to go right.
He knows how I feel, and he says he likes me as well, but is already in a relationship. I don't blame him, but I'm very depressed... :( Please help me..? What do I do..?

Well i suggest you let things play out. Right now he can't be with this girl actually, because he lives too far away. I'm going through a similar thing only not another girl.
I suggest you talk to a counselor about the wishing you were dead and depressed thing.
But the best advice I can offer you is his friendship. You could be happy that he is happy and wait it out. You could try finding someone else, who knows? Maybe you'll move on. Just take each day one step at a time.

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hi, i am shirin bansal, male, 18 years old from india. its about my first love.we got to know each other in a coaching in October,2009.to keep the story short, i started liking her, proposed her for being a girlfriend, she never said yes or no, it was all well for just 20 days, then everything went wrong, we never dated, i lost total contact after 17th march,2010 but always sent her messages on her phone and facebook profile, i stalked her.meanwhile, in that time, she got admission in a far city for college.one day, i got her number, called her but i was too desperate and nothing changed.i tried once more but this time she was too loud and rude, so i stopped contacting her since October,2010.

Everything went wrong because of me. i never understand any situation, never gave her space, i was too desperate and never used my brain.

The thing is even today, i think of her every second, i feel its incomplete, i want another chance as i feel i can now handle it very well.But she is completely screwed up with my constant desperate behaviour. i want to start from nil, to be friends again, then take it to the level of relationship,slowly and gradually

how can i start from scratch,how will she become normal and atleast be my friend?she has set up her mind not to talk to me?i love her, i miss her but i am mature now and can be her boyfriend if she forgets the past.will time normalize her? how much time will fade away my past image?

I say give her space for a little while. Maybe even a couple months. Girls like their space and like to think things through. Then, call her. Tell her (if she doesn't answer, leave a message) that you are sorry for being so stalkerish in the past. You really just want to be friends and you two should hangout some time. Give it a couple weeks, and if she still doesn't call you, then oh well. At least you tried. Time will only tell if she wants to be friends with you or not. Though you can't force her to like you.
Some tips: girls like feeling wanted, but they also want time alone as well. They don't like being called every single minute five times a day. Once or twice will do. For your girl maybe one or twice every few days. Dont control her, trust her. All will be well. XX

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