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Q: My best friend is a lesbian and has been for awhile now. I think she came out to me like 2 years ago now. Anyway, lately she's been hanging all over me, begging me to spend more time with her, and everything. Sometimes I feel like she's flirting with me because she's all about cuddling on me and really touchy. I know like a two months ago her gf broke up with her so I guess she could just be lonely and clingy but she wasn't this way with me before. How can you tell if your lesbian friend has developed a crush on you? I don't want to be rude either way, but if she does like me then I want her to know I'm not interested in her that way. I just don't want to embarrass myself in the process if she doesn't like me :P
Well, if I were you I would just tell her that you do not like it when people are all over you and touching you a lot. That might help her realize that you do not like her in a romantic way.(Thats if shes interested in you in that way)And being that you guys are best friends she shouldn't take that offensively

Or, if I was in your position the next time i hung out with her I would talk about a cute guy in one of your classes and ask her advice if you should ask him to a movie or not. Even if your not going to talk to the guy or whoever it might remind her that your straight and that you guys are nothing more then good friends.

The last thing is to put yourself in her position. If you were her how would you want your best friend to tell you that shes straight?

I hoped this helped, if you have any other questions feel free to ask :)

Q: Shes been doing it for about a year and really seems to enjoy it.

but now it seem to be getting to her head. When I told her to do something yesterday she got mad and said that she knows karate and that I should watch out.

Do you think I should take her out of the class?

Btw she's 13. I'm her dad.
Martial Arts has nothing to do with anything. All you need to do is talk with you daughter and tell her how your the parent and how you make the rules and that she will not beat you up or use her skills on you. A mock fight is totally uncalled for. That would just help her in case she does win, being that shes a girl, if she was anything like I was when I was 13 she will win no matter what. For example, I would race my father at a track, and I would pretend fall and cry. He would stop to help me, and I would stand up and sprint to the end to beat him.
It would be a good idea to talk to her master about this as well. It is also his job to teach her when it is appropriate to use her techniques and when it is inappropriate. Good Luck!:)

Q: I know everyone is just going to say "eat!" but that's not what I need people to be telling me. I think I need serious help. I haven't been "starving" myself yet but I have begun to try to limit myself to only eating once a day to lose weight. I know that starving yourself is bad for u obviously but I'm so desperate at this point that I don't even care anymore. I'm not overweight I dontthink but I hate the way I look. I'm 5'8 and 120lbs. I can't look at myself in the mirror without wanting to cry and have found myself browsing through pro anorexia websites and pictures. I have nobody to talk to about this! What do I do?
Let me first start off my saying, I am a female and I have been in the same position as you. I was 5 foot 7 inches, and weighed 125 pounds. For the longest time I wanted to starve myself and only eat on every other day. However, I talked to my friend about my decision, and she told me some very helpful information.
When you do not feed your body its basically anorexia? ... thats my take on what your talking about. But all I can say it is horrible. You might think if you starve yourself you will look better, but you will not because you will have so many new problems to deal with. Like my mother always told me, you will be robbing peter to pay Paul.
Anorexia Nervosa is when you think that you are so fat that you need to starve yourself to get thinner. This is a horrible disorder that can lead to so many horrible side effects. Such as, depression, loneness, mood-swings, withdrawal from others. Besides these horrible ones you might also want to consider that you could have a loss of hair and you might grow fine hair on your body, even on your face. If you do not think that these are enough reasons not to starve yourself you can access the following website; http://www.angelswings.com.au/sideeffects.htm
I am sorry if you think I am one of the annoying people who will just tell you to eat, but having gone through this before I think you would want to hear the reasons why I choose not to.
I realized that if anyone did not like me for who I was, then I did not want them to like me. I found that the good thing was that guys still looked at me when I walked through streets and I still had a large number of friends. However, I was happy because I knew that all of those people who liked me for who I truly was. I also liked how I did not have to change for them. If you think that you need to change how you look to please your boyfriend or anyone else, then you should space yourself away from those people, because right around the corner there will be people who like you and respect you for who you are.

Q: Helpppp. Ive been going to an all girls school for all my life and for highschool ill be going to a co-ed school.how would i be able to get used to guys?when would i know that itll be a good time to date?and how would i be able to get their attention?
By btw im 14 and female
A co-ed school will be a pleasant change for you. All girls feel better when they are around guys. However, your first priority needs to be your grades. You will always be making new friends and boyfriends, but you can never be able to go back and fix your grades (for the most part)The bottom line is that your grades will follow you forever and always be important to where you go in life. Your friends are important to, but not your first priority.
When you first go to your new school, it is important to be nice to everyone, no matter how annoying they are.
This year I went to a new high school, and I found that if you are mean to one person you don't know, its like being mean to about 10-20 people. When you act with the tiniest disrespect for someone then they will go and tell their friends. Then later one when you meet them, they might think that you are mean as well and not even talk to you.
Now, I can tell you are excited to go to a school with guy. I would be too! But my opinion is that it is not the right time to date. Not because of your age or anything but because of the label it will give you. If you walk into school, being the new girl, and then in two days your already dating someone that might give people the wrong impression of yourself, if you know what i mean ;)
However, if you do want guy attention I think you should just act like yourself. If you act like a totally different person to the guy you are dating, it will drive you crazy. it would just be easier to handle one personality.
My last piece of advice is to put yourself out there. When I was an incoming freshmen at my new school I was very nervous and scared. I would wear some pretty crazy outfits, no matter how uncomfortable, but every time I would get compliments, from girls and guys. I know that always made me feel special.
Sorry for writing so much..but I really hoped this helped :)If you need anymore advice just ask:)

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