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Q: does anyone knoww where u can find like summer quotes for profiless ??

I found a couple of good websites.. try:

- http://www.gardendigest.com/summer.htm

- http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/summer.html

- http://www.spritzels.com/poems/summer.html (my favorite ;)

Q: hey..ummm..well i like this guy...but he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is one of my good friends. But she is gone for 2 years..so..how should I get him while she's gone..or is that wrong? please help! :)

Dee

Shes gone for 2 years?! - Where the hell is she going... haha.. ok besides the point. There is no way you can steal her guy! Shes on of your good friends Dee! What are you thinking?! lol.. Ask him if hes going to stay with her or just end it.. afterall hes not going to see her for 2 years.. he probably will eventually end it with her.. all of his other friends will probably have girlfriends and he will probably get tired of waiting for her to come back.. thats when you can jump in and be flirtacious.. her guy will soon be yours ;)

Q: I've been married for 20 years & never have, and never will cheat on my husband.
A single younger man where I work started flirting with me. He basically expressed his attraction towards me, which was extremely flattering. I let him know right away that I would never cheat on my husband. He seemed to accept this & we have continued to commincate throught our email at work & a couple of coffee breaks.
I have really enjoyed the flattery - I'm 48, he's 37. Once I realized that he really wasn't just trying to get me into bed & truly liked me as a person - I felt great.
He's extremely careered oriented & doesn't have time for a comitted relationship at this point.

I just don't understand why when I started flirting back with him, why he has backed off. I liked the flattery, and am hurt. He started all this.

I simply don't understand why he is reacting this way, I don't need a lecture on why this is unhealthy, I already know from the way I feel.

After he found out you were married and would never cheat on your husband he was probably wondering why you flirted back when he flirted with you. Hes probably just confused- so you may want to tell him how glad you are that you can still have a friendship with him- he may start to feel less confused!

Q: over the course of this school year, ive finally met a guy im comfortable with and has led me to believe he feels the same. although neither of us have come out and admited our feelings, we both have mutual signs/flirting that gives an obvious clue that we're into each other. he told me he wanted to hang out this summer and we traded cell numbers and everything, except im a bit new to this.
1) we're both going to be at camp/away this summer.. and i dont want to get all in his face about when he'll be home.. so im not sure when to expect him to come around
2) should i wait for him to contact me? or no?
3) if we do end up wanting to hang out.. ideas on what to do/where to go [id like some varied answers if possible]

thanks for your time, and i hope everyone has a great summer

Sounds like you have started a pretty good relationship with this guy.. props to you! Dont get in his face about when he is coming home from camp.. you could call him up and casually ask. I'm not sure if you should wait for him to come in contact. If you want to show him you are outgoing, you shouldnt. In my opinion, if he doesnt call, he may be shy, so you call him up and make the first move... invite him to do something with you and ask when he is going to summer camp and when he is coming back! If you hang out you could try going to the movies, bowling, going out for something to eat, just hanging out at the mall, or double-dating =-]

Q: I really like this guy but i dont know how to tell him that i like him. He kinda likes me too.. but i dont know how to tell him...I rate high!!!

love,
how to deal

Call him up and asks him if he wants to hang out =D.. Be flirty.. and if he doesnt ask you out first.. you make the move (it will show him you are outgoing and not afraid of rejection.. guys usually love that kind of thing) and ask him out!

Q: LONG STORY
well i've liked this guy for a very long time and we've gone out and recently hes been flirting with me alot, well today a friend of mine was having a bonfire and me and my friend we'll call her "person x" were the only girls there. Well my ex has been known to flirt so he was casually doing it with both of us. then him and i break off from the rest of pack and we both get the wild idea to go swimming in the river. so we both strip ( not totally )and the whole time im scared hes holding me really close to him and he even carried me back to the house because someone lost my shoes. anyways at the end of the night he takes "person x" away and i already knew what was happeing and you guessed it he asked her out and she said yes after knowing how much i like him. Its not just that but in the morning she'd been telling me about how the love of her life "was being a dick" but she couldnt help but still like him and then when i asked her if she really liked my guy she said yea and i asked her more than the other guy and she said "as of right now yea, cuz hes being an ass". I dont know what to do! she's known for being fickle about the guys she likes. she like a guy alot and then after they go out for a couple weeks decide she really dosent. Also at the party she kept saying how much of a retard my guy was and she always makes fun of him, like what he wears and what music he listens too and they hav almost nothing in commen they're so different. I'm just so lost on what to do! HELP!

Tell your friend that you have had a crush on the guy she is going out with for a long time.. as if she didnt already know! Explain to her that you dont appriciate her making fun of the guy you are going out with! You arent doing it to her, and its bad enough she is going out with the guy you had a crush on. Ask her if she could do less bragging, and tell her that she shouldnt go out with guys if she is just trying to get back at another one. Dont ruin your friendship over these boys though.. Boys are whatever! Friends are forever!

Q: okay..
there is this guy and ive known him for 2yrs and we've always been close as freinds like i can help him with problems and vice versa but we always flirt and i think he likes me hes been droping signals and i think i like him to. schools out and i dont see him as much but when we talk or hang out we flirt im goin to a party next week i think he'll be there--could u tell em somthings i could do to really send the message

Wear a flirty outfit.. and if he is there definetly flirt with him. If hes really into you he might go ahead and make the first move. If people start dancing.. and he doesnt ask you to dance.. ask him!! It will show him how outgoing you are. If he still doesnt get the message write him a note or tell him in person how you feel about him. Good luck!!

Q: okay. well i was the person who said about me and that guy and asked if he was into me.
we kind of had a relationship before. KIND OF. i mean he liked me for like.. 2 months after i left. i liked him forever i went to visit him. turns out im seeing him SATURDAY. i really like this guy. can you give me more advice? and can you tell me some moves to pull?

You are the one who hasnt seen him in 10 months and gave four lines of your conversation, right? Sorry if I'm thinking of the wrong person.. refresh my memory if I am.. heres my answer if I'm not:

Well, it sounds like he really is into you, but since you "kind of" went out before he COULD be messing with your heart. If you still really love him, you should be flirtacious and outgoing around him. If he makes the first me, go along, that is if you really like him, but if he doesnt.. you should probably tell him you still have feelings for him or go ahead and make the first move yourself =D

~ Maddie.. I'm not exaclty sure what kind of relationship you had with him before.. so I hope this helps.. and I hope I have the right person lol

Q: most people say im too young to be in love, but there's this guy, i've known him for as long as i can remember.he's one of my really good friends.i find myself daydreaming about him all the time. i get all these weird emotions around him. lik when he smiles, and laughs. when he looks at me with his soft blue eyes.i want to tell him but i dont no, could it mess up our friendship??wat should i do? tell him? or keep it to myself?

Does he hint to you that he may be in love with you too? If I were you, I'd tell him. Yeah, of course there is a possibility it could make your friendship a bit awkward if he doesnt share the same feelings, but if you have known him for a long time I'm sure he will understand your feelings. In my opinion it would be better to get your feelings out in the open. And if he feels the same way about you would, wouldnt it be awesome that you finally opened up to him?

Q: i otld this kid that i liked him and he has a gf. Now hes saying hes gonna break up with her and then he started asking me all these nasty questions like "if we went out could we have sex" and "do you shave" and "would u let me finger you" and then i told him that no i wouldnt have sex with him and when i told him that and then hes like "dude this isnt even him bye" and then they got off but i kno it was him and now im afraid he'll tell everyone PLEASE HELP ME ASAP!!!!!!!!!!

This guy sounds like a real jerk! My Advice: Stay away from him! If he was willing to dump his girlfriend, just because you told him you liked him, hes a big loser! Definetly do not have sex with this guy or let him finger you. Who cares if he tells everyone? Virginity is something special. Guys just want to see how many girls they can get with, most are pigs! Once they are out of high school/college they will look for the true girls who dont give themselves away to just anyone.

Q: me: i never look good lol
him: yeah you do
me: you havent seen me in like.. 10 months how would you know
him: b/c i just do

is he into me?

He could very well be into you. You mentioned that he hadn't seen you in 10 months, so does this mean you two have went out before or did one of you move away? If you are into him and you havent went out with him before, try and pursue the relationship you have with him. But, you havent seen him in 10 months, so would you really want to be having a relationship with this guy, are you going to see him anytime soon?
If you answer the questions, I could probably give you more advice.. let me know

Q: why dose it seem like my bf dont really like talking to me? he seems like hes mad.?

Your boyfriend probably is not mad at you, unless he thinks you have done something to hurt him (ex. cheated on him, told someone something he asked you not to tell anyone). If he continues to act this way toward you, you should try talking to him in a private area away from his friends, unless you know you have done something to hurt him, then you should just apologize. Ask him if hes mad at you, or if he is just having a rough day, or going through a rough time in his life. If he cares about you, he will open up and tell you why it hes not talking to you and/or if hes mad at you. He may just be shy!

bio

My name is Maddie. I love to play softball, and I work on my pitching everyday. I desire to play in college. Standing on the mound, your heart beating fast, stike 1, strike 2, strike 3. SHUT OUT =D Feel free to ask me questions ANYTIME and I will answer them to the best of my ability.