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Hey.So i'm pretty good at advice and try to give you the best answers you need. Hopefully my words will give you what you were looking for, When in doubt, ask aloud!
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I was dumped by a boy and he said the only reason he did it was because he felt bad going with his best friend sister but now he goes with somebody else and I think he lied about it. We don't get along as friends and I can't stand not talking to him and only time we get along is when going out. He's like my heart but at the same time he's acting like a douche bag to me. When I'm with my brother only thing he does if he's with us is talk about his new girlfriend. So help me. How do you get over boys when they live near you ride your bus and is at your house 24/7??
MOTIVATE yourself and think ;"two can play at that game" ,whenever he comes over and when u see him. you must not even look at him, and just blank him. act like he never did exist it will be hard but its the end result that counts. & it will take time but as long as you have patience it'll be allright. keep yourself busy and social and slowly forget about him, try to think about the hurt hes give you and how u do not deserve to be treated like that and by each time he hurted you or been a douchbag to you he's thought of you less. and doesnt respect you enough if he makes you feel that way, when you remind urself of these, then you will be over him in no time. Plus try keep your options open and availability for other guys, hang out with them more! Goodluck.
im 21 years old...and heres my story , sorry if its short but i really need advice ,ok so i have a boyfriend who ive been in an on and off relationship for the past months, there was one time where we broke up for good like the other times we used to say we were broken up but kept comunicating and eventually got back...we were back now for good and things where better than ever, but i noticed there was a girl who has been trying to contact him like calling nonstop and texting alooot and he never replies to her messages he didnt wanted to tell me the complete story and kept giving excuses, today he had finally told me the truth, he told me during that time we were really broken up which was like 2 weeks... which is the only time i really felt we weren't gonna get back together, he told me he hooked up with this girl and they kissed , and thats why she's been trying to contact him cause she never felt like that with anyone or whatever, i dont blame her cause she didnt knew i existed , my point is..should i still be upset about this? it did hurted ALOT cause even during that time i was thinking we were gonna get back together and we kept speaking during that time but not like suggesting getting back just casual speaking, so i really dont know what to do now, please i need an advice i really gave my heart to him and eventho he tries to justify it by saying we were broken up, i still feel he cheated , cause we talked about this girl and he said nothing happened, and he told me he hasnt hooked up with anyone ever since we started dating which was february,
Hey,
I'm sorry you feel that way for starters.
Basically, it's completely understandable and normal for you to feel hurt by this, but you have to realise the truth of the matter was that you both did split. It doesn't matter how long for or anything, it's just that you broke up. Which is permission go separate ways. I read you say, that you're relationship was on and off? Just think, why was it on and off? Why not just "on"? It means it wasn't working right from the beginning, and even though you must've broken up a couple of times, you went straight back to him. To him that indicates that you're no longer a challenge. That he can hurt you whenever but you'll come back all the time. If the relationship is on and off all the time and you kept going back shows the damage of the relationship is doing nothing but bringing you back each time. So he probably thought that it's not that serious that you both broke up and that he must've got bored with the same routine and hooked up with some other girl while you both were split up. If YOU feel somethings not right then go with you're sensible instinct and end it, before you get hurt even more.
This won't be to long but anyway I have made mistakes in the past with guys and I am not going to go there but lets say I know good methods that work to get a guy but I just was wondering if anyone had anymore because I really need some help. I know everyone says be be yourself I know that its just do you have any like fun ways or you know what I mean haha?(:! see I am trying to get back my ex boyfriend and I can't really use the same approach anyone have any ideas?? -ThAnks(: Happy Holidays(:
Hey,
If you want to get back together with you're ex, then you'll have to start off slow. And I'm talking slowww! Like a "Hi-bye" when you want past eachother. Then get to talk more when you have more time to see him. Make him laugh, dont seem flirty! Be safisticated and friendly, plus it'll make it look like your not coming on too strong. Then when you feel you've been acting enough friendly, start flirting a LITTLE. Don't make it seem obvious, just drop little comments here and there, this will make him wonder many questions! So it'll look mysterious and guys like that! When you feel you're getting the right reaction from him and he does it too, then progress more on the flirting, then also go back to innocent. Do both at different times. It'll make him think "what is she trying to say.." which means he will think about you more!
18/m
Ok, so I went to this restaurant the other day and had this waitress that was the most beautiful woman I have every seen. I really want to speak to her again. I know her name, and I remember what she looks like (how could I forget?) but I don't know if it would be too creepy to maybe find her on facebook or something, and I'm not even sure if she'd be interested in talking to me. What should I do?
Hey,
NO! Don't add her on facebook, especially if you haven't even spoken to her yet. Just next time you go to this restaurant, be polite and say thankyou everytime she does you a favour, like if she brings you something or takes your order. Be polite, and at the end start a little conversation with her about anything, but I say talk about the restaurant to her, make her laugh somehow and ask her if shes interested in going out.
So, over the past months I've been second guessing my love for my Boyfriend. I've been dating him for 4 months now, but I've known him for about 2 years before we started dating. Before we started dating you could tell that there was always something more between us. And this year we finally started dating. and It's been an awesome couple of months. I never knew i could care about someone so much until I met him. But this last month, I've been thinkin about everything. Do i really love him? Is this guy the one? and i've been so depressed the past month. I'm so confused. I cry about how I don't know if I love him, then I'll cry about how I'm hurting him not being around him. then i cry about how i don't want him to leave or go. I've never been or acted like this until I met him. and its only been like this the past month. Oh and his family is AMAZING. i LOVE him family and they love me. I feel like i've been dating his family the past month, not him. and i really wanna get back to dating just Him. but when he tells me he loves me, i just wanna break down and cry. i just miss the way things use to be, just having fun with him and not worrying about Love.
Oh and i have a doctors appointment next week, because I'm crying so much and so badly. my mom thinks i have unbalanced hormones because its been so bad.
What do i do? what do u think?
HELP.
Hey,
Sorry for to hear that first of all.
What I advice you to do is to take sometime to go for a walk or something, alone. During the day. A place where you can clear your head and think about things peacefully. I personally dont think there's anything wrong with you, your just having doubts that's all. When you see him and start crying it means you just feel guilty. Just take sometime out to think things through! You have to realize that you DONT have to love him right now, love might come later in the relationship, there's no rule that says you MUST love him! Its only been a few month. You'll know when you're in love. You'll know inside. Take my word for it. But for now, if he makes you happy, and You KNOW he makes you happy, then stick with him. Because what you need right now is happiness, dont fret about it. It's totally normal. So do what I suggested. Remember that, you don't need to be in love right now. It'll happen later, you'll know. It takes time and patience.
Merry christmas! Enjoy this day because it's a day of joy. So forget about you're problems for today! :)
i used to talk to a guy. he's 17. Lets call him A. we've been talking for about 8 months (i know. way too long to be "talking") about 2 months ago were hanging out and one thing led to another, i lost my virginity to him. we we're really good; it seemed to have brought us closer. about a month ago he told me he loved me but i didn't say it back. he understood why i didn't say it. about a week ago I was talking to one of our mutual friends and she said that A has been telling her he's "done" with me for a while. A and i had plans that day too which i ended up canceling. he said he didn't care anymore. the next few days another one of our mutual friends (he's closer to me) was with me a lot at school. he's also 17. i'll call him B. every time i was with B, A would come NEAR us with a serious face and not say anything. A's also been coming too close to me. i was sitting down and he was literally over me reaching for something that was on the opposite side. he comes around me a lot but he doesn't talk to me. he talks to everyone around me while staring at me. I just realized how stupid he sounds haha. I'm not sure why he's acting like this when he supposedly told our friend he's done with me. I still have feelings for him but i'm not sure what to do. I still haven't confronted him about him saying he's "done" with me but i will. i don't think it has to due with sex because we rarely have it and there's A LOT of girls that are always trying to get with him. I need advice on what I should do? any ideas on what's going on with us or why he's acting this way?
Heyy.
Basically "A" is becoming bitter because you didnt say you loved him back. So he's not quite sure on how to deal with what he feels is "rejection". Basically, "A" does like you! But because you "rejected" him by not saying i love you back, he's trying to be a big shot by saying he's "done" with you. To make it sound like its Even and to make you as hurt as he is. Why else would he act bitter? Know what I mean? It's nothing to worry about, he's just having a hard time and is trying to get back at you for not saying it back, he's trying to hide his feelings. Which are that he still loves you and can't stand the fact that you dont love him. So he's trying to get closer to you to catch you're attension and to make sure you dont forget about him, and finally talk to him again.
I've had the biggest crush on this one guy for a while and we use to talk bit then all of a sudden we stopped talking. It was wierd but anyways I'm a freshman and he's a sophmore he's in two ofmy classes but I never get the chance to say something. Any advice how to get me into his mind again? Oh btw I'm the kind of girl who's kind of awkward at conversations startingit off and carrying it on so?
Heyy,
Find ANY chance you get to see him and talk to him a little, even if it's a Passing-By-Hi kind of thing! Everything counts. Hopefully it should expand from that. Its important for awkward people to step out of the shell and just GO FOR IT. It's only for the best. It's either your awkwardness or losing this of yours. Overcome this awkward feeling and give him a smile time to time. Just anytime you see him, you have to speak to him.
Ok so I like this boy and apperently he knows. My friends decided to message him on Facebook to ask him if he likes me and for his cell number and all of that. Then my friend hacked my account and asked him out for me but i deleted it before he could see it. Then thIs week he commented on my status saying that I was cute. Is there any chance that he likes me after all that?I want to move on but I really do like him...
Hey,
What do you mean by "apparently" he knows you like him. You should find out for sure if he knows,it would make everything more clear. Did he reply when you're friends asked for his number and asked if he liked you? I think there is a chance! I mean he only knows you like him, theres nothing bad about that, he should be flattered. And he probably is! He might like the fact you like him and might like you back. But only he can answer that. You'll need to tell him yourself you like him especially if you're hung up on him so much that you don't want to get over him. Try talking to him more
i have been unintentionally sluttying it out this past month.
i get with a lot of boys who are all close friends and im usually drunk but im so sick of being treated like worthless ass.
i know i sound stupid but to them i prob seem as though i have zero reespect for myself and enough is enough!
how to i change my reputation?
how do i stop being percieved as the slut and start being taken seriously?
i know the first step is too stop drinking and stop gettign with byos obviously...
thanks agian
Hey,
Firstly let me say, I'm very proud of you for wanting to change. The first step IS realizing the type of person you are, and if you're not happy with what you are, you change. Your doing that. So well done, must take courage. My advice to you? Is to literally TAKE yourself seriously. Show everyone your drastic change. DONT do anything with any guy, for a very long time. Control yourself and resist. Make sure you never come across as EASY, be extremely hard to get and have BOUNDRIES. Dont tell people "Im changing now. I've changed"..because who doesn't say that? Just keep yourself to yourself and dont tell noone about your changing process. They'll notice themselves. Also, Good luck and stay motivated to change your ways!Have boundries.
so im going out with this guy and he's super amazing!!!!! but then theres this other guy who im best friends with but we've been a little bit more then just friendly lately...i dont know what to do should i break up with my bf for my best friend or just stop being as friendly? im 15 and female
Hey,
What do YOU want to do? What do you feel suits you? It depeneds on who you like more? I say you stick to you're boyfriend especially if he's super amazing, you seem like you're really in to him. Friends and boyfriends are completely different things. If you decide to go with you're best friend, things might go bad in the future, and you wont have only lost him as your boyfriend, but you would also have lost you're best friend. So stick with the boy you're already with, unless you think otherwise. Just that if you have you're best friend as you're boyfriend then you will lose him as both, and he will no longer be in you're life, because things might go bad
how do you know if he really loves you
Hey,
You know if he truly loves you if he's compeletely honest with you, doesnt act any different when he's with friends. Respects you and you're decisions. And when you know you can trust and feel comfortable around him. Also especially if he doesnt pressurise you into anything, and he always talks you whenever he gets the oppurtunity.Especially if he tells you he does love you, and if you see that look in his eyes, that he means it, then its true! I hope i helped & hope he does love you :) all the best.
Ive known this guy since 6th gradee, and we have dated since then, a little affer last Christmas we were dating&i ended up screwing up andd left him for someone else which was a mistake. We finally started talking these past few weeks or so andd seeing&talking to him made me miss and want him back so much more, but unfortuantley he's dating someone now. I want him to be mine for Christmas again, what should I do?! Could there be any creative or cute ways to get him back?!
Could i please get feedback asap!!
Heyy!
If you've dated this guy since 6th grade and then you both separated, the chemistry you both have had with eachother doesn't just disappear like that! I'm sure he feels a little something for you deep down too. He might like this new girl hes dating, but a strong possibility is that he's trying to get over you. Sounds odd, but trust me on this. It may look like hes REALLY in to her, but deep down I'm sure you name keeps on popping up! You're not guaranteed to get him back for christmas, but hey! What's life without any risks,right?! All you have to do, is speak to him, face to face preferably. Tell him how you feel and let him know you made a mistake by leaving him and you've learned you're lesson and that as soon as you left him, you left a big piece of yourself with him. Also that you need him back and also say how you will completely understand if he wants to stay with his girlfriend and that you don't want to cause any fuss, you just wanted to let him know how you feel rather than avoiding it and wondering the rest of you're life how it would have been if you didn't take any action. I really truly wish you luck, and i hope i helped so don't worry about it! Good luck!
Hey! I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. Okay well the thing, I have this thing where I get really uncomfortable with people man handling me... Haha I'm around 5'5 and I wiegh a little over a hundred pounds (106?) so I'm not big and I'm not strong. See I wasnt exactly raped but oneof my ex boyfriends did force me to give him a hj and held ne down and fingered me against my will. He also hit me a few times.. Only my closest friends know about this. Its just made me really paranoid when a guy grabs me... I'm scared (irrationally,probably) that they'll do something to me even if it's one of my friends and were out in public.. My immediate response is I just shut down. I basically try to make myself as small as possible and shut my eyes and then it gets hard to breathe. I just don't know what to do. And I have one guy friend thar does this a lot and it really freaks me out, just the smallest thing like holding me back from getting shotgun... I don't wanna tell ppl what happened to me but they'll get suspicious of me being so uncomfortable with such a small thing... What's wrong with ne and what do I do??
Hey,
first of all, its completely natural for you to behave that way, its understandable that you get paranoid. My advice to you? Is to just take a minute to calm down, when you're alone, think about what happened to you and you must think about how much STRONGER that experience must have made you. Its sounds like a stupid idea, but once you go through the whole thing in you're head and realise thats the worst that could happen, and you'll have got over this fear. Its gone now, and it'll never happen again. Do you understand? It's gone. & If you really dont want to tell people, then don't. You DON'T have to. As it would make it very uncomfortable. As long as a few friends now, surround yourself with people you know you will be safe with. This paranoia will disappear before you know it, next time just dont panic and always remember that, that experience has gone, and it isn't coming back! Good luck and dont worry, its only a fear. We all get over them sooner or later, no matter how long it takes, it depends how you handle it. You need to realise to calm down and remind you'rself that you're safe!
Okayy well i have this boy in my school and my bus and i like him and he really likes me and all. Last year he asked me out but i said no because he did things that could ruin peoples live ( drink, Drugs) and im on the right track and i plan to stay on that track!! But the thing is He told me he doesnt do those things anymore for me i part of me thinks he is lying and part just want to run into his arms but mY Friends made a excellent point to me he has nothing going for himself and That isnt part of my right track plan. Im a Straight A student who is also a very talented athletic person i play many sports and so does he. I thought his grades was the deal breaker * Its a No* But two days ago he told me that he is going to try and work harder and do better. I still have a strong feeling that he is playing me just because he likes me. I want to maintain my grades and talent but i like him. Im a 16 Year old Girl Who is Very Confused. Usually in my school my advance classes the boys( my Ex's are extremely hot and smart but jerks There is something different about him i mean its not his looks Because i dated plenty hotter. He isnt stuck up he is funny Not like the guys i usually date. He is ALso TWO years older than me so my think he wants to get in my pant so to speak but i dont cause he knows i never let him i would see pigs fly before that happens. YOU SEE HOW CONFUSED I AM??? Ughh I need ADVICE, ANYY TOO GIVEE :)
Hey,
First of all, stop worrying!
If this guys really in to you, which i think he is, he could change. People always say people don't change, but that's not necessarily true. I mean he could be one of those guys that could change because they're inspired by the girl they like. And you could be that girl! The girl that changed him, right? I'm not saying get your hopes right up, but set a good example for him. Make sure he knows whats right and wrong. If you like him, go out with him, and if you see any signs that he's still doing drugs and drinking then dump him. You never know unless you try, so give it a shot!
i started dating a guy in june, we dated for 4 months. his ex broke up with him a month before we got together. she just told him she didnt love him anymore.
now he has broken up with me and gone back to her cos she wants him back. i cant help but feel hurt, i will never take him back but i cant help but think what goes around comes around, do you think it will???
Hey,
I'm sorry to hear that.
It's his loss if you ask me.
Listen to me, he seriously looks like a fool
for going back to her as he looks a little desperate. Do you know what this means? It means she will treat him good for now, then later it will get worse, she can treat him however she feels and get away with it, as she did the first time. He will probably keep going back to her. Which means she can walk all over him and he doesnt even know it, and when he does realise that, he will regret breaking it off with you and realise that he's lost a big part of his life, not only you, but his dignity too.
So, to sum up, Yeah..what goes around will come around, maybe not today, nor tomorrow, but it does eventually
Well l am a teenager and I'm dating a guy who has A LOT of experience. He wants to have sex, and I do to but there's only one problem....I am over weight and I have stretch marks on my stomach. I don't think he knows because I haven't told him and I always wear a shirt around him. We've been dating a long time, we know all about protection, and I can honestly say I love him and we are planning on getting married when we graduate high school. But I need help, I am scared to death that when we are going to have sex he will take one look at my disgusting body and never want to get physical like that again. Please, any advice? Serious answers only please. Thank you for your time.
Hey,
He seems sweet and committed, so I doubt he will
take a look at you and leave. This isnt how reality is, so stop worrying for starters. He seems like he makes you happy, and I'm sure you make him happy, why else would he be with you for a long time? He won't care about any of that sort of stuff, everyone has flaws. My advice to you? Is be happy,bold and confident! Dont let him know that you're self conscious otherwise that could also come across as you not wanting to do stuff with him! And if you cant be confident about it, then FAKE IT. Fake the confidence and soon enough you will start to think that way and become truly confident. Dont put yourself down, I'm sure your super beautiful, inside and out.Good luck! Be confident and Fierce girl.
So im having my boyfriend of 7 months over. He usually comes to my house but only when friends are coming. We are both 16 andI want to avoid doing anything ill regret but im afraid he will get bored easy. What if its awkward? Im a little nervous. If hes coming during the daytime and we cant go anywhere what are some thinks we can do? I need advice pleassee and thank you!!
Hey,
If you both have been together for that long, I'm sure he wont get bored of you! Go out to the mall or something, go outfit shopping, try out a bunch of wacky clothes and have a laugh! Or go to the movies? See something you're both interested in.
ok so i am 16f/. me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 months this december 22nd. its really not long, i know, but i got him a present in october(bc it was cheap and i knew it would go up in price if i wait, and if we broke up then i could just return it or keep it. i got hm a chain with a duck emblem on it since he likes to hunt.) so he needed to know what i was getting him bc he was going to tell people he wanted that, so i told him and thought that he might as well see it.when he saw it, he was sooooo happy and he hugged and kissed me and it was really sweet. but now he has nothing to get from me for christmas. im happy he liked it, but im kind of dissappointed that i couldnt wait to give it to him on christmas :/ so now i need to know, what is something i can do for him for christmas. i dont want to buy anything for him again bc he would get mad at me for spending more money on him (the necklace was $77)so i just need something sweet to do or say to him (i was going to do the whole writing down how many reasons i love you, but I'm saving that for something else.) and he already told me what he got me. its a nice necklace. but i would really like to do something sweet for him ON christmas lol. please give me as many ideas about it as you can!!! every little bit will help:)
Hey,
You both sound like a sweet couple!
Go to a peacful restaurant on christmas eve
or on christmas, a place where you both can just talk..about anything. That is real romantic believe it or not. Or organise a picnic with just you two or a group of friends too, and have a lot of fun, keep your guy smiling. I'm sure he'll appreciate anything you do for him, its the thought that counts right?
Good luck .
20F Ryan- 19
So I seen this cute guy that's on my friends hockey team. We've been texting and he seems like the sweetest guy ever. I don't think he knows how tall I am but I'm a taller girl -I'm almost 5'6 and he's about 5'7. We haven't met in person yet, I'll be going there to watch them play again in about a month. But we're almost the same height. I don't know why it bothers me so much but I can't wear like anything with any sort of heel or I'll be taller than him and it's just awkward, don't you think?? I hope he's not weirded out either that i'm almost taller than him. Ehhhh, what should I do? Has anyone else gone through this issue. Do you think it really matters?
Nope. It doesn't matter one bit if your tall, being tall is great, it even gives you the model edge. I bet you didn't know that, did you! Its natural for you to worry about this kind of thing, who isn't? But if hes as sweet as you say he is then it shouldnt matter, and it wont matter to him either. If you really want to wear heels then i suggest 1 or maybe 2 inches, max. But it wouldnt make that much of a difference, what matters is if you both get along. You shouldnt worry about it at all. Height is only Height, so embrace your model inheritance and strut in you're heels and dont care what others think. People dig that sort of stuff you know!