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I care about him too much to let him go but i'm too mad to go after him..
i used to talk to a guy. he's 17. Lets call him A. we've been talking for about 8 months (i know. way too long to be "talking") about 2 months ago were hanging out and one thing led to another, i lost my virginity to him. we we're really good; it seemed to have brought us closer. about a month ago he told me he loved me but i didn't say it back. he understood why i didn't say it. about a week ago I was talking to one of our mutual friends and she said that A has been telling her he's "done" with me for a while. A and i had plans that day too which i ended up canceling. he said he didn't care anymore. the next few days another one of our mutual friends (he's closer to me) was with me a lot at school. he's also 17. i'll call him B. every time i was with B, A would come NEAR us with a serious face and not say anything. A's also been coming too close to me. i was sitting down and he was literally over me reaching for something that was on the opposite side. he comes around me a lot but he doesn't talk to me. he talks to everyone around me while staring at me. I just realized how stupid he sounds haha. I'm not sure why he's acting like this when he supposedly told our friend he's done with me. I still have feelings for him but i'm not sure what to do. I still haven't confronted him about him saying he's "done" with me but i will. i don't think it has to due with sex because we rarely have it and there's A LOT of girls that are always trying to get with him. I need advice on what I should do? any ideas on what's going on with us or why he's acting this way?
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I think you need to confront him and ask him what he ment when he said he was done with you. I can tell you really care about him. But A does kinda sound like a jerk no offence. Im not trying to be mean or nothing but if he has sex with you and then ingores you there is something wrong with that. But when you confront him tell him how you feel, tell him you really care about him. Who knows, you may be better off without him. Just rember no matter what happens that it happened for a reason. I everything turns out good for you.
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Heyy.
Basically "A" is becoming bitter because you didnt say you loved him back. So he's not quite sure on how to deal with what he feels is "rejection". Basically, "A" does like you! But because you "rejected" him by not saying i love you back, he's trying to be a big shot by saying he's "done" with you. To make it sound like its Even and to make you as hurt as he is. Why else would he act bitter? Know what I mean? It's nothing to worry about, he's just having a hard time and is trying to get back at you for not saying it back, he's trying to hide his feelings. Which are that he still loves you and can't stand the fact that you dont love him. So he's trying to get closer to you to catch you're attension and to make sure you dont forget about him, and finally talk to him again.
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You know, you may be over-thinking this.
To me it sounds very simple:
He told you he loved you. You made it really obvious you don't love him, and at the same time started hanging out with another guy about which you admit: "(he's closer to me)" ...
Doesn't sound complicated at all. Kinda sounds like you broke his heart.
When you look at it like this, is it any wonder he is acting jealous?
He thought you two had something special. You rejected him, hardcore, which is why he probably said he was done with you for a while.
If you are doing any of this on purpose to hurt him, then I hope he done with you for good. Nobody deserves to be treated like that.
If you were just clueless and going around hurting people because you didn't know any better, then you need to sit down with him and tell him what happened from your point of view. Ask him what happened from where he sits, and see if you two have a future together.
Even if it was by accident, it is possible that after you rejected him when he told you he loved you, he will never take you back.
When a guy says that and means it, it is the most vulnerable he can be. If you reject it, it causes the most pain possible. Most guys who have a brain will NEVER give you a second chance... especially if you IMMEDIATELY start hanging out with another guy and tell the whole internet you are closer to the second guy.
As a thought: Did you ever think that maybe you and the second guy have a better future?
Don't hurt the first guy anymore than you already have unless you really did it by accident. If you really don't love him, let him go, and tell him the truth so he can find someone who actually cares about him.
Good luck!
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