It's probably best if you sat him down for a chat. Tell him how you feel, but be really nice and polite about it.

"I like you alot, and I'm happy to be your girlfriend, but since we've been you've been kind of clingy and needy. I didnt except that from you, and I just need for you to be less clingy. If you can work on that, then we can still be together"

something like that. If he can't agree to try and change, then you should probably break it off. Likewise, if he doesn't change and isn't trying very hard to give you space it's probably not gonna work out.

Hope things work out!

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Oh definately.

People's feelings change really rapidly, and maybe your guy friend is seeing you in a different light now.

I have a guy friend who is best friends with one of my girl friends, and he never liked her romantically for the longest time, but recently he has just started liking her...

If you think he might like you, it's still not best to get your hopes up, in just case.

Just try to 'read' the vibes your guy is giving you!


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There are many ways you could go about asking him out.
It also depends on if you're just going to be asking him like on a date... or "out". If you get what I mean.

You could do it over the phone, on an IM, in a note, or in person.

Obviously in person is the best way to go.

Get him alone, perferably somewhere outside of school and just straight out ask him.

don't beat around the bush or get someone to do it for you.

You already have a pretty good tip that's he's gonna say yes, so dont worry about it. Go with the flow.

If you are asking him out specicifly on a date. be sure to ask about a certain day, not just whenever, if you want to better secure a date.


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Well, it is prefectly natural to be curious about that kind of thing when you learn about your maturing body and all that.

if you want to try to stop this or not is up to you, but if you let these dreams continue it is likely you'll have desires to do more sexual things as you get older. These dreams may lead you to want to masterbate, which will only lead you to want to do more things to fulfill your "desires" that you'll cause yourself to have.

If it were myself, I would try to make an effort to stop these dreams.

You mentioned two things. Pretending, and Dreaming. They are two entirely different things. If you find yourself pretending to do things with your crush, as you fall asleep then it's something you control. You can alter this by thinking about other things, listening to the radio, watching TV, etc. Think about something that will keep your mind off "sex with your crush". but if you are actually dreaming about these things, there isn't much you can do. dreams are a product of your inner concious. Try to clear your brain before you sleep and avoid before bed thoughts of your crush.

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Sometimes, being exactly alike doesn't make people perfect for each other.

You've got to understand that Ben probably had a reason to break up with you, and you gotta respect that.

It's ok that you're having trouble getting over him. When you like someone it isn't easy for it to just go away. Just allow yourself to realize that he isn't your guy and you shouldn't get jealous or angry. Try to convince yourself that there are plenty of other people who will be perfect for you. you're still young.

Just like you can't make yourself get over Ben, your friends can't stop themselves from liking him. forgive them. you aren't going out with him, so they are more than welcome to crush on him. In regards to the "rule" it really depends. It's fine that they like your Ex. and if they don't know your true feelings, then they dont think they're doing anything wrong... You need to tell them that you still aren't over Ben, and they should be sensitive to that fact. If one of your friends does get the opportuinty to go out with Ben, then you need to let her be happy. Or she could sacrifce that relationship so you would be comfortable. Whatever, just talk to your friends.

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Here's a few sites to try:

~http://www.quotegarden.com/christmas.html
~http://home4christmas.com/cquotes.html
~http://www.neloo.com/Christmas/quotes.html

Quotes From Christmas songs,books,and movies will all work.

And you can also just try googling "Christmas Quotes" or "Quotes About Chirstmas"


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Oh wow.

major drama.

I can say I've definately been there.

You need to try to be true to your heart, but try not to break this "idiot" 's heart.

It would probably be best if you wrote the "idiot" a note to explain what's going on. It'll hurt him no matter what, but try to do it gently.

Example of a Note:

Dear "idiot", I just thought i needed to let you know an update on what's been going on with me. You see, I'm just not very into you and I think it's best if we didn't go winter formal together. I just need to stay true to my feelings. I'm sorry.

or something like that. make it short, sweet, and to the point. also, do it as soon as possible so the guy doesn't have lots more time to get excited about going with you.

and about the other guy that you like: honestly, there is really no way you can stop the "idiot" from talking to him. Freedom of speech. but just try to causually let this guy know that you're single. if you see the "idiot" talking to him you could go over after the 'idiot' leaves and bring him up. "yeah, for some reason i agreed to go to winter formal with him, but i realized there was someone else i really liked who i wanted to ask me" if he asks who just say "oh well i can't tell, he hasnt asked me yet" or something clever like that. but be catious. this guy might like the "idiot." also, be careful about direct hinting that you like him, he might not get it, and think you're intrested in someone else!!

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Well it's since you like him so much, it's only natural that you'll get a little jealous over nothing at all. But just because you like him alot doesnt mean you have to be insane. I totally undersand about the whole not being able to tell anyone thing. but honestly, if u were able to tell someone, it would make you a whole lot more sane. think of anyone- a pen pal, a friend who's moved away, a distant cousin, even a random person on myspace!

also, a another good way to let out everything would be to write in a journal. write about why you like him. what's so great about him. why you can't tell anyone. what you would say to be if you could. etc. just write out your feelings.

and when you feel yourself getting a tad obsessed or jealous, simply remind yourself that he isn't "yours" it's fine to like him- obviously your heart controls that, but help your brain keep your heart in check by reminding it that it's ok for him to leave comments for, or talk to other girls!

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It's all based on personal opinion really, guys can date younger girls, girls can date older guys, guys can date older girls, and girls date older guys. Age shouldnt matter as much as maturity level, and attraction. While in your teenage years, it is best not to date someone more than 3 years older than you, becasue you are at a crucial age of development in your life, and spending time with someone that much older could hinder your personal growth. but do waht feels right to you. there is more important things in a relationship than age

Wow. Well this may seem like a very difficult decision, and I'm sure it is, you really just need to focus on what is important to you. Is being with a guy who things might not work out with more important, or is it more important to go to school and do what you what to do... something that will affect you for the rest of your life. The fact is things with your boyfriend could end at any minute.. but the decision to change majors will affect you for your entire working life. A boyfriend who has already made his decision to break up with you if you go far away seems a little iffy to me. If he really loved you he would at least be willing to see how the relationship works out at a long distance. if it doesn't, it happens, but he shouldnt already throw something away that might work. I definately think you should go into the major that you want... and just tell your BF to try and see how things work out. If he isn't willing to try for you, and allow you to do what you really want, then he isnt good enough for you!! Hope i could help!! let me know what you decide to do, and how he reacts!! if you need anything else ask me a question, or AIM me Squeakyshoes567

Well this is definately a tricky situation. After reading your question it's obvious that you are disgusted by how OVERLY affectionate Cat is to Anne. From the way you describe it, it doesnt seem like it, but it is a possibilty that Cat just thinks Anne is a super amazing person and thinks she's really great in a friend sorta way and just wants Anne to know how much she likes her. It is of course possible that Cat just can't hide her true feelings about Anne. My best suggestion would be to try to talk to Cat. Kinda hint(not too obviously) in regular conversation that you have nothing against bi people, and that if one of your friends was bi you wouldn't care, but you would want to know. in a few weeks when you and her are both on good terms and in good moods, get her to talk to you alone, and just nicely calmly say to her something like "hey Cat, i'm not accusing you or anything, but I've noticed you've been acting very affeciationly toward Cat... It doesn't bother me if you are, but i just need to know. if you are, i'll be here for you and keep it a secrect if you want me too, but are you bi??" remain very calm and let her know it is ok if she is bi, and you will still be her friend. If she says no... ask her why she is all lovey dovey to Anne. If she isn't bi, at least you'll get an explaination for her behavior. Just know nothing will get better if you don't talk to her!! I hope this advice can help you, but if you need anything else, or more suggestions feel free to ask me another question or AIM me at SqueakyShoes567

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