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Okay... My boyfriend Chris and me started going out this tuesday (9/6/05) I really like him but my friends cousin told me that he was kissing my best friend and asked her out. When me and him started going out my friends cousin told me that my friend called her cryin because me and him went out. Should I talk to them about or let it alone?

Thanks,
Ashley

talk to her about it, it cant be your fault if you had no idea. dont let it be because it might teach you about this boyfriend of yours

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Hey, major question i have. Ok, i went to a softball game and i was sitting on the bleachers...and on the other side of the field i saw 2 people...the one of them looked like a guy from were i was sitting and the other one...was a girl, and i thought they were friends or somthing...so, then i started thinking, wow that guy is pretty cute...so then, i realized i looked at him a bit longer...and realized it was a girl...a very tomboyish girl,so...does that mean i'm like...lesbian or just made a common mistake?
~Brina

hah thinking someone is hot is just a girl thing. i explained this to my bf last night. girls look at men & women, not because were cheaking them out . just because were nosy. men just usally look because there checking them out. dont worry, just thinking someones hot is a common thing. its more like 'what you wanna do to them _ feel you get _ thoughts you think_ ' that kinda thing is completly different

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My girlfriend of two years recently lost her father to cancer. That was about two months ago and it was a tough time for her but in the last week she has begun to bounce back and smile agian.
The problem is, we haven't had sex since her father passed. I don't want to sound like an ass or anything, but we used to have a really active sex life and now it feels like there is this wall between us I can't get past.
Anyone know how I could bring this up without offending her? Do you think it's too soon? I miss the sex of course, but I can live without if she's not ready.

obviously she knows you care. if you have a really open relationship getting into it after a romantic evenining or something, and her pulling away, simply asking is it to soon? because ill wait for you. that kinda line will do wonders on a girl. Id personally wait a week before anything, specialy with her just comming around, but being very loving and affectioning, will bring her around slowly. maybe you should take baby steps.. after days or nights together taking the bases slowly will get her confortalbe.

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Does braces affect making out?? ive kissed my bf loads of times but he wants 2 make out n i really dunno how 2.. hes made out with tons of ppl i feel so stupid can someone give me some good advice?? I have braces btw.

I RATE EVERYONE 5'S!

in a way maybe, but you dont really use teeth when it comes to kissing. well at least i hope not lol. kissing comes natural when you let it. trust me. we all get over it. making out isnt really a big deal, and being norvous aint gonna really matter, plus if he knows your not really exsperienced and he cared about you he wont make you feel unconfortable, you will only do it to yourself. braces really should hurt, less hes got it to and you get stuck or something.. but thats just dumb =p

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First I just wanna say thanks for responding. And your right he can be an ass sometimes. But other times I dont know he is just different when we aren't around everyone. I mean I can tell by the way he looks at me that he likes me and the other day I told him I was mad at him and he wanted to know why so obviously he cares right?? My friend thinks that he is just playin me but my other friend thinks that he isn't and he will come around he is just shy. What do you think?

see its tough, you gotta remember that just because us girls have fell for a guy doesnt mean hes so nice not to take advantage. It depends how mean hes been to you latly, and yeah hes gotta care if he wanted to know why you were mad, but its the exstent hed go to get you 'unmad' that lets you know he cares, a simple why ect. is really easy, caring enough to make it better is different. did you talk to him about what hes said to you? maybe you should tell him that hes sending you mixxed signals, les you dont wanna talk to him cuz it can be embarrising, but id honestly just go talk to him about how your feeling, the fact that hes acting like he likes you but like hes an asshole the other times. tell him you wanna no straight up weithor he likes you more then a friend or if its just friends. and if he says anyhting about just friends, dont get upset or anything. maybe you should een treat him like your strickly friends and see how he reacts to that

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Ok here it goes I have tried so many other websites to get advice back and all the other websites are just too busy or liars. So here I go for the third time telling my story and hoping to get some advice back for once. Ok there is this guy I have liked since last year. We met when I started as a freshman and he was a sophmore. He likes to joke around with people so earlier last year for no apparent reason he and his friends start calling me deuce. This goes on for awhile and it gets really annoying but then I start to like him and I didnt tell my friends about it until 2 months of liking him. Anyway we eventually become friends. And his best friend was calling the guy that I like my boyfriend so ok you could say that he liked me I mean it was pretty obvious. But nothing ever happened b/c my best friend started liking his best friend and then the guy that I like just I guess kinda got annoyed and told my best friend that he didn't like me but then told me he never said he didn't like me. An this all happened back in March of last year. In April we started talking again until he supposdly went out with a 7th grader for like 2 days I don't know if it was a joke or to make me jealous but whatever after they ended he came right back to me. In May our friendship got even stronger we started flirting constantly and talking online and over the summer we talked online and we had some really good conversations. Once online he told me he cared about me and to stop being friends with my best friend b/c she brought out the worst in me. And when school started last week and I walked in the cafeteria for our break he just looked at me and smiled and then at lunch he came over and talked to me(and he hugged me on Friday.) And after school all of last week we talked everyday after school. Until last Thursday when he gave me mean looks and said I look at him too much. I know he doesn't like that and I try to not look at him but its just so hard.( and I catch him looking at me too) I really like him I think he does too but is just afraid of what people will think or of having something great with me.)r maybe he is waiting for me to make the move. I mean I just dont know. SO what do you think???

no offence but he sounds like an ass. I think you really need to talk to him about this, you need to tell him that hes leeding you on. after a guy says thoses kinda things to you he shouldnt want to take them back or treat you the way that he is. looking at someone shouldnt be a crime, specially if he looks at you too. my advice is to go and talk to him and ask him if he even likes you or just ask him why hes being mean to you. if he liked you hed tell you whats wrong, instead of ruining the relationship youve got going

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Hey, me & this boy named Kyle have been best friends since 2nd grade, he's liked me since then (2nd grade) for a girlfriend & I've liked him as a boyfriend since 5th grade. We never dated because I didn't want to ruin our relationship as friends, and if we ever broke up I didn't want it to seem awkward for us! So, now I'm in 10th grade & I just moved 26 hours away from him (We both still live in the USA) Just I live in Texas and he lives in Pennsylvania. We talk on the phone & internet. I love him to death he's absolutely amazing, and he tells me the same thing back. Except, he won't wait until we graduate for me, he says "Whatever happens, happens!" I guess he's right in a way, I can't stop him from seeing other people, but I want him to sooo bad. He doesn't believe in long distance relationships, so. I don't know what to do. Is he right about the whole situation? Or, do you think I'm just over reacting about the whole thing? Thanks for your help!

well this is comming from a girl that has had a long distance relationship for over a year now. i met my bf online and didnt actually meet untill about 3 months into it. if he really liked you hed probably wait. i know men will be men and are honry but if this guy loves you like you love him, he shouldnt even have other options. if you love someone others just seem to fall short. then again i also heard from a married women that she was apart from her husband atm for 5 years for collage and such and she cheated on him and he with others but it wasnt relaly cheating to them.. it was more like using people to satisfy a certain thing but they knew they were gonna be together at the end and stop with others. so its what you make with him! if hes certain that hes gonna be with you after HS then thats something i guess, but if he doesnt even wanna wait for you at all.. idk how much hed be worth waiting for you...

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if your boyfriend and you are making out and he is doing all the touching and kissing and you just sitting there getting all the pleasure what should i do in return? also if he trys to kiss you once but you turned away your face because you were shy what can you do you make that person want to kiss you or should i make the first move on him with kissing?

knowing men, if you turned away in shyness hell try again, men are persisten, specialy if your really nice to him and just touchy touchy, let him kiss you. the return thing is what your willing to do, i persnoally arent in to doing things with guys, gets you a bad rep and id just rather give a blow job to someone im confortable with and fully trust like my boyfriend of one year.. but if a guy doesnt understand that you really shouldnt do it. no matter what you hear. its more of a deal foor a girl to do something to a guy then a guy to do something to a girl. but any touching any griding is liked by a guy.. anything lol

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I am supposed to be hanging out with a kid I like and that likes me. I went out with him 3 times before but he's changed a little since that. We're supposed to hang out at my cousins house with her boyfriend too. What I wanna know is what if he asks to do anything with me (I want to by the way) but i'd feel a little uncomfortable infront of my cousin :-/..and it's at her house..what do I do??

well it is your cousin.. i know.. and it is kinda weird infront of anyone sometimes, but they do the same thing, and if your that unconfrotable, maybe wait till her and her bf does stuff, that might make you loosen up right away, but if it bothers you.. go for a walk, go somewhere else, or maybe not even do anything... but i suggest gettin away from your cousin, the dark outside is always fun =p

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Alright well a little while ago I found out that this girl I know gave head to my now boyfriend 5 days before we started going out (we have been going out for about 8 days now) even though it was before we were going out for some reason its still bothering me. Any suggestions on how I could make it not bother me?
x0 love maddie

i understand that one my bf of one year got like 6 blow jobs before me but did nothing else.. i was his first kiss. *weird* but it still kinda bothers me.. i dont really wanna do it to him cuz i know hes had so many before but it had nothing to do wit me or you in your situation, talking about it really helps, him reasuring it was nothing, which it probably wasnt anything, helps alot.. but just saying its kinda odd to him will help alot, and just remember it really had nothin to do with you, unless you were really close before you went out like together but not kinda thing, then you should be pissed or really talk to him

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Long story semi-short. I like 2 guys, one asked me out before the other so I agreed. Now I have a boyfriend but the other guy is mad and isn't talking to me. I atleast want him as a friend, but I don't want to ruin the relationship I have now. What should I do?

it may be stupid i know, but explain to the other guy you like him and that you didnt mean to hurt him, tell him that if he did like you, hed at least want to be your friend, wich is true, you shouldnt go out with someone if they dont wanna be your friend at least! and your new relationship shouldnt care, you had friends before him, just dont get 'to friendly' with the guy your not going out with

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This kid likes me but I don't like him because he's NOT a good kid. I like my ex boyfriend and my ex likes me but if i go out with my ex the other boy will hate me along with my friend who's my ex's ex. (sorry if this is confusing by the way.) BUt the kid that likes me that I dont like keeps accusing me of liking my ex and if i tell him i do he'll tell EVERYONE and then if everyone finds out they'd hate me. What am i gonna do??????HELP ASAP!

sweetie when you get old youll realise that LOTS of friends come and go along wit boys specialy, if you know your x is special or just like him that much go for it, maybe talk to your friend first thats his ex. the kid that likes you, well if you dont like him at all dont pretend you do, just tell him the truth, you dont like him and true friends wont be mad if you go out wit someone

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Coming up is my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary. I have no idea what I should get him! He's 18 and he likes football, clothes, etc... I want it to be a nice gift... Suggestions PLEASE! WILL RATE 5'S!

well my bf and i just had ours SO if hes anything like my bf, hell love hats, i got mine a giftcirtificate to a hat store |hes like a kid in a candy store|, that or give him something that smells like you, it may sound stupid but even a bear or sumthin that has your perfume on it, my bf even tells me he smells it lol

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the other day, my boyfriend came over and we were sitting on the couch. then we started kissing. he slipped his tounge into my mouth and i did the same. (we were kissing for like 10-15 seconds) is that considered just french kissing or making out?

making out is usally something that you do for alot longer or more then once, usally you think makeing out is the type of couples that sit on the couch for half an hour and suck face lol but if you just do it for a few minutes youd prolly consider it makeing out

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there is this guy i like that says i am to young for him but i am bout be 16 and he just turned 17. i think this might be an excuse but he acts like he likes me.am i "too young"? i don't have a clue what should i do is there any way to show him i am not to immature and how do i talk to him about it? he also told me his last g/f was B**** and she was immature and she was my age. could this be why? i really think it might be an excuse. plz help i really do need it!

it is an exscuse because, we all have different ages that we think are "to young" but one year difference isnt to young, if he was 18 youd be iilegal and thats understandable but hes 17... plus women mature mentally and usally phyiscally faster then men, and just because his last gf was like that, has nothing to do with you, he kind of sounds like the immature one

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OK...telling this story is getting really annoying, and I'd appreciate it if I didn't get snide comments about it, I already feel like a whore.

Well, to start it out, I had just gotten this new account on vampirefreaks. My friend had some crazy-cool people posting on hers so I went to check it out. One of the guys was so awesome. His profile was freakin' long and crazy, and he seemed really sweet. I left a message on his site and toddled off. Then he left a message on mine and so on. Well, anyways, we started talking on IM. The first time, I thought I had thoroughly annoyed him, so when we spoke next I apologized. Well, during our second conversation, we started making out. We pretty far, but not quite THAT far. Before I'd really talked to him, I thought he was really great, and when I did talk to him, I began to develop a crush on him.
A few days passed, othing happened. But then, his birthday came around. We had talked a little bit...and then we started doing a few things. It was mostly me doing, well, everything, so it was sort of weird. but that time, we did everything... In the end, I thought it had meant othing to him, but it didn't really bother me. but then after we did all of that, I felt sort of guilty, dirty...
Later that same night, after talking to 2 of my very close friends (one online, one not), i still felt bad. Then I was IMed by another guy from vampirefreaks, that I had become friends with a few days earlier. (NOTE: i had been at school, trying to sign in to vampirefreaks, and I wandered aimlessly onto this one page and it said the name Eryk. I looked at the pics and thought he was pretty, decided to look later. I looked him up later, and it wasn't him, but this other guy. There weren't any pictures of him so I read his profile. I left a comment, then he looked at my profile and IMed me. Thats how I met him.)
I Started talking with him, and he seemed sweet and he was always really nice and funny. I did like him, yeah, but I didn't really know how much. So, on the same day as the incident with Dion, I also did stuff with the other guy (his name is Dan). After all of that Dani and I talked... and he said that he'd liked me. I did like him to, so we just talked. Then after a few days we're like in love... My mum finds out about the cyber because I had printed it *dolt* 'cause I needed to talk to my friends about it. Mum banned me from IM. I snuck on to talk to them both, last night. Turns out it did mean something to Dion, and now he won't tell me how he feels about me. Dan and I are currently split up because he needs to think about some things, but he says that once he's done, we can go back to that. So, everything with Dan is ok, I think. But what do I do about Dion? And what about mum?

no offence but that made almost no scence and made your self sound very slutty

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ok me n my boyfriend broke up...n it hert me so0o0o bad cuz i really really love him...n i told him i wanted him back...n he wanted me back...well one nite (last nite) i was talking to him n he was like i've been thinking about us n i was like ok wat n his like hold on let me call you...n he jst keep stolen trying to piss me off(which was wrking) well he calls me n goes i want you back...but not right now...ill get you back soon..sooner then you think...n i'm not going to go out w/ anyone else...so we talked a lil bit n when we went to get off the phone he was like hey i really do love you...n i started crying cuz it really meant alot to me that he told me he loved me...but idk what i should do cuz i don't want to wait for ever...n i'm still kind of scared that it's going to be a long time....???i'm jst so confused about it all...srry that this is so long i ussallly(SP?) never type this much!!...

give him at least 4 days with out saying anything, one of my boyfriends just wanted to get his shit straight and his life too but i rushed him and he ended up cheating on me the 3rd day we were goin out cuz he wasnt ready and i rushed him... but weve been happy goin on 2 years so.. dont worry about it seriouly untill a few days have passed. some guys really just need time, dont even stress yourself over it.

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Hi i have liked this kid james and i went out with him 3 other times, but i am still in love with him.
he wants to hook up but i wanna be a couple do u think he likes me or just using me for hookin up. thing is he is one of my best friends so..yeah!
HELP
how can i tell if he likes me
and
is he using me or not?

female

if all he wants to do is hook up with you sweety, hes probably useing you or not thinking about it, if he likes you hell be really sweet, and mention going out, not just try and make out with you with out even mentioning more

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Hey guys....
I'm kind of really sad right now....Since my girl friend and I have been going out (8 months) she has promised me time after time that she doesn't pleasure/finger herself. In fact when I used to say Krysta I think you do she would get so mad and say shes not like that and she really doesn't.
Last night I was going through her email, and she had signed up for www.loveforum.net. The user name that was in that email was never activated so I didn't think about it again until I asked her why she signed up.
On first off she said she NEVER heard of the site and her brother probably did it, or maybe she did it awhile ago and forgot about it. I took that and accidently clicked on a link called 'Pleasure for girls' in the Sex Talk forum. The user name was PhillyChick847, which is what she goes by sometimes.
She was asking for advice on how to give herself pleasure, and hide it from me. She said she does it 3 times a week in the forum when she told me she NEVER has ever done it.
She denyed that she typed that and said there is more than one phillychick online, I took that! Then just for myself, I tried to login with my name as the password and it WORKED! After me telling her I would dump her on the spot if she didn't admitt it she admitted it.
She was so upset that she cut herself...I was really upset because I can't believe she would go behind my back and do this....its almost UNBELIEVEABLE. She told me she loved me sooo much and she was sorry...she said she just did it because it felt so good when I did it to her.
She still said she doesn't do it that often, but she can't explain why she typed that. Heres the link to the post: http://www.loveforum.net/showthread.php?t=3965
She made 3 posts and they ALL disturbed me ALOT.
I threw up like 4 times last night, I can't belive she would do this....I'm so upset...I mean maybe if she didn't lie to me it wouldn't be such a big deal. The thing that even disturbs me more is on the time stapms right after I walked her home from the bus stop she went in and did this...and shes really interested in finding more ways...I think the damage to my head is already done.
I still LOVE her so much but I don't know if I want to be with her....she can say shes not going to do it again but no one can stop once they do it, especially if she does it that much...I really do LOVE her but I don't know what to do...That really disturbed me ALOT! can everyone please help me?
Should I break up with her...please help guys...please....

Thanks in advance
Dave

ok if i wasnt trying to be nice id tell you, that you were an asshole. but maybe its just cuz i havent met you. Women pleasure themselves, men masterbate and women finger themselves or rub there clit, its a fact, that over 95 percent of mature people do it. you cant loose your virginity by fingering yourself eithor so whats the big deal about your gf doing it to herself?? it wasnt like she was asking another man to do it, she was taking care of herself. and the fact that she told you she never did it, its embarrising! i dont go around telling everyone that i do it, but fact is, i do. just last night i explained to my bf of over 3 months what i do to myself, and i felt really weird! its nothing you want to share. and you, have some trust issues you need to work the out, your going threw her e-mail. thats something you shouldnt do to begin with, then you read her mail. thats 5 times as bad, and then you even go to the site and look for a sn that she would use. if my bf ever read my emails and checked websites for the sn i usally use, wed need a serious talking. but back to the subject, you got mad at her cuz she fingers herself, are you saying that youve never masterbated? because men usally find out around when there 5 that touching it feels good sometimes, so im doubting that your that clean eithor. why do you have such a problem with her doing it? are you doing it for her? or are you against going that far with a women.

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My best friend is a guy. I've known him for a while and we're really close. He sleeps over my house a lot and hang out together a lot. But for a while i've been having strage feelings. I look in his eyes and wanna kiss him right then and there. I hug him and i never wanna let go. Im starting to think about him all the time. And i really think i like him. But should i tell him? I'm afraid if he knows what i'm thinking, he'll be afraid to hang out with me anymore and we'll stop being friends. And that would be the worst thing in the world. What should I do? xo0x ANO

If you were really that good of friends, if you did like him, that shouldn't freak him out, you should tell him sometimes or mention it, what if he really likes you like that too? You'll never know untill you say somthing

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