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My girl friends doing something she promised she didnt......
Hey guys....
I'm kind of really sad right now....Since my girl friend and I have been going out (8 months) she has promised me time after time that she doesn't pleasure/finger herself. In fact when I used to say Krysta I think you do she would get so mad and say shes not like that and she really doesn't.
Last night I was going through her email, and she had signed up for www.loveforum.net. The user name that was in that email was never activated so I didn't think about it again until I asked her why she signed up.
On first off she said she NEVER heard of the site and her brother probably did it, or maybe she did it awhile ago and forgot about it. I took that and accidently clicked on a link called 'Pleasure for girls' in the Sex Talk forum. The user name was PhillyChick847, which is what she goes by sometimes.
She was asking for advice on how to give herself pleasure, and hide it from me. She said she does it 3 times a week in the forum when she told me she NEVER has ever done it.
She denyed that she typed that and said there is more than one phillychick online, I took that! Then just for myself, I tried to login with my name as the password and it WORKED! After me telling her I would dump her on the spot if she didn't admitt it she admitted it.
She was so upset that she cut herself...I was really upset because I can't believe she would go behind my back and do this....its almost UNBELIEVEABLE. She told me she loved me sooo much and she was sorry...she said she just did it because it felt so good when I did it to her.
She still said she doesn't do it that often, but she can't explain why she typed that. Heres the link to the post: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
She made 3 posts and they ALL disturbed me ALOT.
I threw up like 4 times last night, I can't belive she would do this....I'm so upset...I mean maybe if she didn't lie to me it wouldn't be such a big deal. The thing that even disturbs me more is on the time stapms right after I walked her home from the bus stop she went in and did this...and shes really interested in finding more ways...I think the damage to my head is already done.
I still LOVE her so much but I don't know if I want to be with her....she can say shes not going to do it again but no one can stop once they do it, especially if she does it that much...I really do LOVE her but I don't know what to do...That really disturbed me ALOT! can everyone please help me?
Should I break up with her...please help guys...please....
Thanks in advance
Dave
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she is just shy and ya know "secretive" about her sexuality. if i was you, i would def. not be mad at her! DONT DUMP HER! just talk things out with her and tell her you understand why she didnt want you to know. and for another thing, you should respect her privacy and not log into all her stuff! she might just be the one to dump you if your not careful. but good luck anyways. Keep Me Updated and i will check out the site. *Bethers*
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Ok well I don't have an answer for this question. Because if anyone does thats stupid. There is nothing wrong with her masturbating. If she wants to do it she can. Whats th edifference between her doin git to herself an dyou doin git for her? I'm sure you masturbate a lot too. Guys do it so why can't a girl if she chooses to? Second of all.. what gave the the right to GO THROUGH her email. Invasion of privacy? I think yes. I'm suprised she hasn't broken up with you. I'm sorry cause I'm usually not this mean but that is fucked up.. it really is.
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Most guys masturbate.Just cause she's a girl why can't she?You definately found out the wrong way. You shouldn't have to read through her emails and shit to find out things like that.She also shouldn't have to hide it from you.If it grosses you out so much don't think about it.It's not like she does it in front of you.So Davey,your quetsion was if you should break up with her.My answer is what the hell is wrong with your girlfriend...she should of broken up with you!
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Wow. lol Seriously, this post disturbed me. Probably for the fact that you're really ignorant. You say her pleasuring herself is perverted, but you do it to HER so that's not perverted?
I read her posts, and they're not bad at all. It's not like she's cheating on you or anything. She's making herself feel good...what's so wrong with that?!
Masturbation is not a sin.
And I say she break up with YOU.
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first of all WHY DID U GO THRU HER EMAIL ND CRAP? GET OVER URSELF!
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okaaaaaay. Do you mind me being a little harsh here? WHY THE HELL DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT???!!!! I mean, I wouldn't admit to MY boyfriend that I masturbate, even if I do! No offence or anything. Seriously though, nearly everyone masturbates, why are you so upset that your girlfriend does it? Ok so she lied to you and that's probably hurting you more than anything but she only did it because she obviously loves you alot and wanted you to stay with you. If you love her then you'll have to accept that she pleasures herself. You love her, she loves you, I know it's really hard but you have to find it in your heart to accept it, even if you can't forgive her. If you have that much of a problem with her masturbating then maybe you should end things with her.
Also, maybe you're being a little hypocritical talking about her lying and all because you DID go through her email didn't you? Maybe she was there or something but if she wasn't then you're in the wrong too.
I really hope it all works out. xxx
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ok if i wasnt trying to be nice id tell you, that you were an asshole. but maybe its just cuz i havent met you. Women pleasure themselves, men masterbate and women finger themselves or rub there clit, its a fact, that over 95 percent of mature people do it. you cant loose your virginity by fingering yourself eithor so whats the big deal about your gf doing it to herself?? it wasnt like she was asking another man to do it, she was taking care of herself. and the fact that she told you she never did it, its embarrising! i dont go around telling everyone that i do it, but fact is, i do. just last night i explained to my bf of over 3 months what i do to myself, and i felt really weird! its nothing you want to share. and you, have some trust issues you need to work the out, your going threw her e-mail. thats something you shouldnt do to begin with, then you read her mail. thats 5 times as bad, and then you even go to the site and look for a sn that she would use. if my bf ever read my emails and checked websites for the sn i usally use, wed need a serious talking. but back to the subject, you got mad at her cuz she fingers herself, are you saying that youve never masterbated? because men usally find out around when there 5 that touching it feels good sometimes, so im doubting that your that clean eithor. why do you have such a problem with her doing it? are you doing it for her? or are you against going that far with a women.
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***editing answer***
Thats normal for girls though. Its normal for everyone.
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