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out of nowhere my ex texted me last. i didn't even know he still had my number because i surely didn't have his. it's been 2 years since we broke up and it was a mutual decision after he found someone else. he's still with that other person. how do i respond to this? is he just trying to catch up as friends? (link)
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Just respond as if you two are friends. Don't assume anything right away.
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im almost never jealous or suspicious or paranoid, but for some reason, I don't want my girlfriend to drink when she's at a party without me. we live like 2 hours apart, and i only get to see her every other weekend. is this an irrational fear? i trust her completely at all other times, and it's not that i dont trust her, but i'm just worried that if she's too drunk, some guy will take advantage of her. idk why I'm thinking that but I just am. I know i can't control her or make her not drink, but is there anything I can do? (link)
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It's completely normal for you to feel this way. You're just being a good boyfriend. =)
Since you live so far away I'd call her more often. Let her know how you feel. She'll probably think it's sweet that you care so much.
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i'm 16/f. i really like this guy who's a year older than me and i know he likes me too. we hang out at school some and after my soccer games. we've only been on one date - out to dinner after a game. he's not a christian, and i'm a very strong and dedicated christian. he's into partying. i'm not at all. he's already hinted about having sex, i'm for sure saving myself until marriage. i really like him, but is this too much of a risk for myself? i might be able to help him change for the better, but i might end up being brought down. i'm really not sure of what to do right now. any advice would be helpful. please give me some honest answers. thank you so much! (link)
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I wouldn't date him. Not only is he not a Christian like yourself but he just doesn't have very good morals. He just doesn't seem like a nice guy. If you have a strong faith like you say you do then I'd wait for a guy who shares that faith with you.
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alrite so i have this really close group of friends,its pretty much the 4 of us all the time. over the summer we got close with this group of guys, my 3 friends all had their flings but i never was interested in any of them. untill the end of the summer and i started crushing on this one boy, mike. we were friends awhile back but once i started haveing feelings with him it was always very akward. on day we hooked up and then didnt talk again for a while. we both know that the cheimstry is there, alot of ppl tell me he likes me but he wont call me or come up to me in school. it bothers me because we would be hanging out a lot more if it wasnt for his friends that ended the "flings" with my friend. ugh its soo frusterating! sometimes he flirts with me and then he doesnt talk with me for a week.=\ should i say something to him of should i just forget about it (link)
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I would definitely talk to him. From what you're saying about him he seems really shy. Just be sure that when you do talk to him about this make sure he's not with any of your friends cause it seems like that makes him really uncomfortable. But I'm sure if you let him know how you really feel, and if he really likes you, then he'll change.
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I like this girl and I asked her out but she dosent know to say yes or no, How do I get her to say yes. (link)
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First don't bug her about it. If you keep asking her for an answer she will say no. Show her little things to let her know that you care and really do like her.
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I'm a girl and I'm almost 16 and I have never been in a relationship with a guy. I cant figure it out! I know myself that I'm easy to get along with, im friendly to everybody, and nobody dislikes me. All my friends say I'm so cute, but I know im not gorgeous. But I like my body/who I am... I am not self-concious. I have crushes on guys, and somtimes they find out about it, but they never ask me out! So I've never had a boyfriend, and I've never been kissed. Frankly, at my age, it's embarrasing! I've liked this guy for a couple of months now, so I told my friend to slip it to him, but she said that she thinks hes already in one of those "we like eachother, we know it, and were kinda dating" relationships with somone else. and she dosn't want me to get hurt and I dont want him to feel bad or akward. I feel like all the guys and girls in the world are already coupled up and I'm the odd one out!! What can I do? About the boy I like now? What about my situation in general? i welcome any advice, or just comfort. because this is really bringing me down. (link)
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I am in the exact same situation you are except I'm 17! I get compliments all the time saying I'm cute and skinny. And like yourself, I know I'm not drop dead gorgeous but guys like cute girls too. I normally get really really really creepy guys hitting on me or asking me out and I turn them down immediately. A guy that I've actually liked never likes me back.
About the boy you like know I'd stay away from him for a while if he's trying to get with someone else. I think if you got in the middle of it it'd only make a huge mess. But ask your friend to keep you updated on whether or not he's still with this other girl. And about this whole situation in general just know that you're not the only one! I'm going through the same thing and I'm older then you! Our time will come soon. =)
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I live in lansdowne my boyfriend live's like 15min away we barely see eachother its not effecting the relationship i just miss him and I REALLY REALLY like him please help we want to be with eachother badly HELP (link)
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I know you really want to see him but there are many other ways of keeping in contact with him. Email him, instant message, Myspace, the telephone... I know it won't be as good as seeing him face to face but at least you'll be with him in a sense.
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Okay there's this one guy names Aurthur I really like him. He's two grades above me so I don't have any classes with him, but he's always in my choir class second period because he doesn't have a class assigned to him. (He's in show choir and I'm in concert choir)
Anyway I had to interview him for newspaper because he had a solo for the last show choir concert and he's a really good singer so I presented the idea of a student profile on him and my editor assigned it to me.
So I interviewed him and he was really sweet and funny, he didn't just give me really crappy monotone answers like guys usually do when I have to interview them. But now the articles done and I still see him in class sometimes but I don't have a clue as to what to say or how to start a conversation with him. He's usually running around a lot and helping out...but what should I say as a conversation starter. I don't want to sound like a total idiotand I don't want to sound like I'm trying to get him to talk to me.
P.S. I'm in 9th grade and he's in 11th.
To anyone that helps; thanks in advance. (link)
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Well since you're obviously both into music maybe start talking about that. You must know quite a bit about him if you interviewed him. Whenever you have down time in class and you see that he's not doing anything, I'd go over and talk to him. At this point you really can't tell if he's into you or not. Try not to be to pushy and don't let it be too obvious that you like him.
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why do boys hate it when girls cry? (link)
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Many of them see it as a sign of weakness. And I think it makes a lot of them feel uncomfortable. Since many of them have never cried over emotional things they don't know what to do to console a girl.
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OMG!!!!
Why are guys such A-holes!?!?!
Ok so I have this friend and we have dated previously and that was along time ago before I knew him and now I really do like him and I know he likes me its just that I feel used by him...Like he wont talk to me if he is talking to or hanging out with another or other girls and he like only talks to me when he isn't and tonight (Halloween) I was with him and he ditched me for another girl and yeah it just makes me mad...he acts like "oh I don't have anyone to flirt with so I'll just go hangout or call me!!!" and yeah he is one of those guys that treat you differently around his friends than when you are alone with him and as much as I wanna hate him I just can't because whenever I hear his voice of see him i just feel that attraction for him and I just don't know what to do about it and it just crushes me and tonight after I get home he calls me and he is all like "you sound sad or mad" and I was all like "well thats because I am" and he asks "well why is that?" and I was like " I have my reasons" and yeah Im still kinda pissed at him but I know I can't be mad at him for too long but it hurts me because he treats me like that...Please help me... (link)
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Even though you like this guy a lot you need to ditch him. Or stop trying to get into a relationship with him. I don't even think he'd be that good of a friend though. He's a player and he's good at getting other girls to like him but he'll only break their hearts. Please be careful and don't let this guy hurt you.
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alright so me and this guy are dating and like i have no problems keeping conversations with guys at all..like i never have in my life.EVER! soo im going out with this guy and we never talk at lunch or ever..we cant keep a conversation..we talk sometimes in the hallways..i mean its not awkward...but i want more to talk about. me and him are going to the mall together this weekend..how do i keep a conversation without trying to sound desperate or cheesy (: thankss
and p.s. we both like eachother and i think its nerves..but any ideas on how to get over them. cause i like him alot an he likes me too but i dont want him to stop liking me cause we never talk.. (link)
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I'd just try and find things that you're both interested in. That should be easy at the mall. Point out stuff you like, and he'll probably point out stuff that he likes and in no time you won't be able to stop talking!
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well lets just say i think i like a younger guy..and he is about 2 and a half years younger...would it be wrong to date? (link)
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a guy that is two years younger then you. It really depends on your age though. Cause if you're 15 and the guy is 13 then yeah that's a little weird. But if you're 17 and he's 15 then I really don't see any harm in that. If you like him then why not?
If you're both in high school then I don't see any harm in dating him at all. =)
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I met this guy at my dads friends party. i liked him ever sense i saw him he was soo cute but i didnt REALLY like him till he was talking to my dads friends son and i saw his personality, a bit. then we started talking and i liked him RIGHT away. soon he had to leave but i asked for his number and he asked for mine. soo long story short whenever i talked to him from then it allways made me soo happy and in such a good mood he would waste his time talking to me. but you know i was allways cool about it i never called him to much or text him to much just like once in three days or whatevr cause i didnt want to get annoying. but i felt annoying when he didnt talk to me for a long while. so i decided to lay off about a week l8tr without talking to him i felt so bad i accualy screwed it up with this guy [i was THAT insucure]and accualy cried overnight. worst night ever over me not even talking to him! then i called him mad i thought i DONT deserve this! im gonna call him and figger out what the heck is going on cause he never calls me back, imagine that he didnt pick up. the next day though he texted me, and we talked and i was happy. the day after that i called and we talked. then stopped till i texted him a few days l8tr. now a few daays ago i talked to him and as allways i felt great talking to him, we talked about everything, and his friend was there too and he accualy flirted with me then . ALOT. he would tell me i was hott and whatnot and that he wanted to see me, stuff like that . i asked him why he hasnt returned my calls. his friend yelled out CAUSE HES LAZY! and he laughed on that. afew days later called again, you get the picture. i feel it keeps going over and over he have a GREAT time talking then he dissapears on me. he gets me all happy but know later i will get in a bad mood feeling i did somthing wrong cause he never returns texts. i dont know, is he just not into me or not much of a talker or what ? i like him soo much and think of him every day. he seems into me on the phone but after that nothing. but hey if he says hell call me that night in a few he will that must count for somthing. please advice !
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Guys are weird like this. He might really like you but he might not want to seem desperate and continuously call you like you want him to. It doesn't seem like he's not that much of a talker cause you said you've had really good conversations with him. I'd plan more dates with him. Talk to him more in person. It might make him feel a little more comfortable on the phone. And let him know that you like to talk to him on the phone. If he likes you and knows that you like his phone calls then he should call more.
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im having real boyfriend issues lately. my boyfriend and I have been together for little over a year. For the first 7 months everything was perfeectly wonderful, until he broke up with me for 3 weeks. Reason being he wanted to get his schooling in order and caught up and what not, and a relationship wasn't what he wanted. It sucked but I knew I had to eventually accept it. But after the first week of being apart, we had drivers Ed together, and we were spending a lot of time with eachother. Then it didnt seem like we were apart. We acted the same behind closed doors and on the phone. It was nice but so confussing. It confussed him really bad too cause he knew what he had to do, but knew that it was soo hard for us to stay apart. We ended up getting back together because he realized the whole thing was pointless. But ever since we have, things slowly have changed between us.
Within the past few months we've been fighting a lot. It all started with him inviting his friend over to work out at his house for two freaking hours while I was there. At the time we werent able to see eachother very much b/c my parents found out we were havin sex. So I'm thinking why would he spend time doing other things while I'm there when we hardly get to see eachother? he totally didn't consider that, or how I felt, and just did what he wanted.
then a couple weeks later I was over there again. I didnt have to leave until 9pm. Well he gets a call from his friends inviting him over to the movies @ 7:30. So basically he wanted to go, and if he went I would have to leave really early. I'm not one to tell my boyfriend he can't do something. I don't feel right about it because I'm not a controlling girlfriend. I would just hope he would consider how it would make me feel. Well his mom helped us talk it out and we compromised me going home at 830 and he being an hour late to the movies. BFD. But still..it's like..the thought of him ditching me to go hang out with his friends, sucks. Without his mom I would've gone home early. Espically when its cutting into our time of hanging out when my parents were all weird about us having sex.
After a while after we worked through things, a few weeks later it just got worse. Me and him were planning on going to a football game. It was the first time we were going to be able to hang out without supervision. I didn't care about the game at first, but when I found out we were playing our rival and I had never seen us play against them, I really wanted to go becfore I graduate this year. I got home and called him, and all I got to say was Hi before he asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with him and his friends. NO I DIDNT WANT TO GO, I wanted to go to the game. He tried to make me decide but in a qay he was emphasising how he wanted to go to the movies instead and how the game didnt interest him at all. But I told him that i had planned on going to the game and I wanted him to go with me. Then he finally decided to say he'd go to the game, but he said it in one of those ways where they make it seem like you're making them do something so horrible, and then afterwards you just don't care anymore. So I said fuck it. I told him that I wouldn't go to either one and I was just going to stay home. He said he really felt bad and probably wouldn't go out either. I ended up going out to dinner with my family (which is different then hanging out with friends). I came home and called him only to find out that he did end up going to the movies. It hurt my feelings because he just went and did whatever he wanted, and he knew it hurt my feelinggs that he completely ditched me and time to hang out with me for his friends, who he sees all the time. My feelings were really hurt, which is when I started to consider breaking up with him. I told him that he was being really selfish and he wasn't considering my feelings. I told him no mater what he was always my #1, but I felt like he was his own #1 and I was #2.
I'm trying really hard with himlately. But I can't help that in the back of my mind I feel like I shouldn't waist my time anymore. He slips up here and there with me, but now I'm starting to notice his selfishness in his relationships with his mom and friends. And now thats starting to make me think even more about if this is worth it or not. Within the last 2 years I've grown up a lot, and he hasn't at all. I ned him to be on my level, but I don't want to let him go. I do really care about him and how he does in life. I just want whats best for him. I don't want him to grow up just for me, but for himself. Today I talked to him about everything. And he seems to be wanting to make changes. He's really confident about it, and he never has been before. I just hope hes not talking out of his ass like he normally does. I really hope he grows up, because otherwise he's going to learn the hard way. And I realyl don't want that. I dont want to break up with him, and I don't want him to ruin his life. (link)
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I think it would be a good idea if you guys took a break for a little while. I think the whole idea of you two dating is putting a lot of pressure on both of you because you both feel like you have to spend a lot of time with each other. It seems like it's almost forced. And I know you care about him, but I think it would be for the best. When you guys were apart it seemed like you two got along just fine. I'd keep it like that for a while longer and then see if you're ready to take it to the next level again. Maybe you should wait until you feel he's matured a little more.
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okay i am going out with a guy named alex and i used to call my last boyfriend jeremy, jer. so i was wondering is there any thing like AT ALL that i can get from alex. and i kno i can call him babe and baby. but i want like something for his name (alex!). like i had for jer. (jeremy!) mmkay. thanks in advancee! :D (link)
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Lex sounds pretty cool. Or combine the first two letters of his first and last name if it sounds cool. Like some guys are called JT or AJ. Just plain A sounds cool too.
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i have a guy that i love soooooooo much, for 2 years now, iwould do absolutly anything for him. i pretty much have giving up my entire llife for him... i stayed in town when i had offers to move away and have everything paided for me,have all my expenses paided for me, to basically life for free while i went to school... but i passed it all up to stay here for a guy.. who isnt even my boyfriend..., he says he loves me..but he never proves it or even acts like it... he is not my boyfriend but more like a friend but more... well i have come to realize after 2 years that he and i will never be more.. even though i pray for it! but i will not be ignorant anymore.... nowi really do love him so much and cant imagine my life without him... but lately i have been thinking maybe i should take up the offers to go to school in another place... to get away.. to start over... forget about him and find someone that will love me the way i should be loved.... but i dont know..im afirad to leave him... do you think i should stay here with the boy i love so much even though i know we will never be "real", or should i move and start over and get a real life.. and start being happy... (link)
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It doesn't sound like this guy cares about you very much. I'd leave him. And I know you love him a lot, but he's probably not for you if he doesn't even care. Even though it'll be hard I think you should move on. Go to another school, start fresh. But just because you're moving away from him doesn't mean you still can't talk to him. Email him or call him once in a while. If you move away he might realize that he really does care.
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14/f nikita if u wouldent mind...
welll its sorta a longish story
well i went to this art work shop for school
and it was so fun
but i met this guy named peter
he was so funny
but long story short
we now chat on msn heaps
and we have seen eachother after the art works shop as friends
but think i really like him and i dont know what o do
coz' i dont want to ruin our frindship
but i dont want to see him taken away by another girl
HELP ME PLEASE!!!
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I would first do little things to show him that you're interested in him. Flirt with him a little. And if he flirts back then that's definitely a good sign. Compliment him and even if he'd like to hang out with you during the weekend. Then when you're ready you should tell him how you feel. You never know, he might tell you he likes you first!
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