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Hey I'm Kerry :)
Im 17 and hope to be an advice columnist or a counsellor when im older
Ive been told that im good to turn to when people need advice and im a good listener and will try to help the best i can
I love nothing more than to help people :)
I have had my fair share of relationships, not meaning ive had tonnes, i mean some good, some bad.

Things i Like :)
My Friends. Socialising. The bf :). Laughing. Random Shizzle. Chatting. Msn. Bebo. People With a good S.O.H. Hugs. Tea. Generally having a good time :)

Things I Dont like :(
Chavs. (the ones that stereotype me. Crying. When my friends are upset.When i dont feel good.Beans.Nasty People. Backstabbers.

So yeah :)

Do not hesitate to ask me things as i believe in being nice to people if they are nice to me :)

Hope to hear from you soon :)
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advice

Me and my current boyfriend have been going out for 4 months now, ever since our prom night. Beofre that, me and him have been best friends for 4 years, since grade 9 all the way to the end of highschool. This summer, between university and highschool, I had gone out of this country for vacation for a month and a half. Before leaving, my boyfriend was being the usual guy that i fell in love with. He said he would miss me a lot and everyhitng. When i came back a week ago, he had gotten a job with very long hours. We barely talked for half an hour every night which is very little in comparison to the long hours we would talk before this summer. A few nights ago, we got in a fight about how little we have to say to each other n i said "i think we need a little time away from each other" At that moment, he had said"sure, watever you want" THe next morning i called him and told him i didnt mean that but he insisted I did. Then the next day, he calls me and tells me that i was right, things really weren't the same with us and maybe we should take a break for a week so he can figure out what's wrong. I asked him if this was a break up n he said " no this is just a break because we had something good going on and i wanan fix it" I really love this guy with all my heart but i'm not sure if he does anymore. If he did he wouldn't want a break right? Should I message or call him before the week ends? What do i do?

Hmm, well maybe your boyfriend got that job with very long hours because he missed you and wanted to take his mind of it.

A month and a half is a long time to be away from someone.

It sounds like he adjusted to life away from you while you were gone and now that you're back it means he has to readjust all over again.

He also may not be used to the fighting as it sounds like you guys were getting on really well before.

It sounds like he made the break because he loves you and doesnt want to lose you. He'll need this time to think about what he really wants and how you guys can get back on track.

the breakl could do you both good. Hopefully it will show you's how much you miss each other and itll motivate you both to get through this and get things back on track.

I really dont think you should call or text him before the week ends. Give your boy time to think and then have a long talk after the week ends, but try not to get in another fight about it or it will make matters worse. Be grown up about the situation and just both get your feelings out.

Alot of couples sometimes need space when they have been arguing and it works a treat.

You guys can get through this. it has been a big barrier for you too. But if the relationship is worth fighting for, you can do it. :)

Hope this has helped :)
-Kerry :) xxxx

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Ok, im 17 years old and a female and this one boy thats in my first period class is like the cutest guy that i have ever seen. We haven't ever talked to each other but i have a mojor crush on him for like that longest time. I really want to know how i can tell if he likes me. We're both seniors and i want to go out with him this year and real soon. i feel like im in love with him and im not quite sure but i think i saw him looking at me today and when i looked at him he moved his eyes away fast but im not sure it that means he likes me. we live by each other for about 3-4 years now. please help me real soon so that i know what to do and i dont wanna go up to him and talk to him because im like really shy especially around guys that i like, like him. thanks

Sometimes its really hard to tell if someone like you, especially if they are very subtle about it.

The staring at you would seem like he likes you, but you never be too sure i guess.

Boys are very confusing creatures!

I understand how you feel, i was exactly like you, and i know its much easier said than done to just walk up to a guy that you like.

But you definately need to talk to this guy. Maybe try finding a subtler [if thats a word lol] way of talking to him, like texting etc. or if thats not possible, maybe wait until he's in a group and then you and a friend can go and mingle. That way you would get to know his friends as well. If it doesnt work out at least you tried.

Just look for little things to tell if he likes you, like the looking at you. the fact he looked away may show that he's nervous. When you do start talking to him for real, look at his body language for clues. If he looks into your eyes and leans in close then i would say thats a good factor.

Just try and build up a friendship with this guy first, instead of trying to dive into a relationship straight away. You need to make sure you like this guys personality as well as his looks.

So in short, try and build up a friendship with your boy. It may seem tough, but at least you will know him better, and your relationship is probably has more of a chance of working if you's were friends first.

Hope ive helped :)
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16/f
My boyfriend and i have been together almost a year now...he is a senior in high school and he graduates in january and then we are supposed to move in together...well my problem is, he goes to school everyday and after school he works, so i dont see him all week until friday. during the summer i saw him everyday and i got used to being around him...Its making me depressed because i miss him so much. i have four months until he graduates but each day is going by so slowly...what can i do? how can i not be so sad???

You dont need to make not seeing him such a negative experience.. i mean, you guys are moving in together so then you's will be together all the time.

dont sit in and think about how much you miss him, cos i know from experience that it just makes it worse. try and get out there and take your mind off it. try and see your friends and make sure your week is filled before friday and the time will seem quicker.

you have to put up with the rain to see the rainbow. just think in 4 months you wont have to go through it again :) just focus on that. and just make sure you make fridays extra special :)

the time may seem slow but just remember itll be soo worth it in the end :)

just think that you're boyfriend will be going through the same thing, so u guys can get through it together :)

hope this helped :)
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13/f 8th grade

Ok I have a crush on this guy. I've only talked to him like once or twice. I want him to notice me more or have him talk to me. Ok I am unpopular and he is popular. I know that doesn't matter much but you know, its harder that way. So anyways I hardly talk to anyone except friends. Well I do talk to other people but only when they talk to me. But I am working on that. But its like they label you for life as the shy quiet girl who hardly talks. I mean I don't even know if there is hope for me with a guy. I have had only one boyfriend and thats it. Should I even try for the guy? And just have a crush on him and just try and focus on something else? Or should I do something else? Also its pretty hard to talk to him since I have only 2 classes with him and one is History and the other is PE. So please help me out. I feel like I'm not worth anyones time because guys would never want to go out with me. I don't think I'm that ugly but I'm not gorgeous. And I'm not super skinny. So please help me. Thanks.

Being unpopular doesnt mean that it wouldnt work between you and the guy :)

well if people label you, then its your time to shine. show them that you arent always the quiet shy girl :)

well maybe you should try and find a way to contact, like a mobile number or email or something :)

then even if it doesnt work out, at least you'll have him as a friend :)

And you are worth peoples time. dont get down on yourself just because your shy. Many guys prefer the shy type as they think it is cute.

And even just smiling at people as you walk by or a nice "hey" here and there wouldnt go a miss :)

so at least if it doesnt work, then at least you've done something for yourself. but dont feel pressured into changing for anyone :)

if this guy is half decent then he will like you for you. :)

Plus, your young, theres plenty of time for guys, and itll happen if its maeant to. :)

Hope this helps :)
and good luck for everything
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ive been going out with this guy for awhile now and he just yesterday broke up with me out of no where and whats worse is he dosent really have a reason he says he still cares about me and has feeli for me but if he dosent break up with me now it will just be harder later i just dont understand and i dont know what to do do i try and win him back and make him realize we really had something or just move on and if i should move on please tell me how

i think you deserve to know why this guy broke up with you, but i wouldnt keep asking him for the explanantion.

Maybe his feelings changed and he thought it wasn't working, im not really sure. Or since it was a long time, he may be one of those guys that are scared of commitment.Only he really knows why.

I think what u need to do now, as hard as it is, just have some space, and just try and be friends for the time being.

If you's were going out for a long time, i wouldnt want u's to lose friends over it.

It's up to you if you want to move on, but still be friends with this guy. I cant tell you what to do, as you know whats best for you.

In time, you never know, your boy may start to feel like he wants you back again, but dont wait around. :) Just take any oppurtunity, if it feels right. :)

Just take everything as it comes and follow your heart. :)

Hope this helped :)
good luck
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okay me and my boyfriend is having an complicated situation going on and he decided to "break" or cool off. he said" see if we're gonna miss each other but im missing you already " . So he said to set the date and i was like"no you" but he wanted to me to set a date how long we're gonna take in our relationship so i said 2 and a half week(but we have a winter break so its gonna be 4 week and a half) and he said"okay" and then next day he came up to me saying the cool off wont work and i was like"you planned it" and he was like"but its too long because of the winter break" and i said "why are you changing your mind? you planned it" and he was like "but can we talk just after class?" and i said no and he was like "are you serious?" and i said "yes" and we said goodbye and we left.
whats his deal?

Even though you and your boyfriend are having trouble, it occurs to me that he may be scared of the concept of not being with you for so long.

He may feel like its more like breaking up than being on a break so he may be scared that he's losing you.

And also it may be more of a problem that its over spring break because couples tend to try and spend valuable time togther during the holidays and maybe the concept of not being able to spend time with you then is playing on his mind.

Its hard to tell but i think you should ask him frankly why it is such a problem without losing your cool.

If you feel that its the right length then you should gently tell him this and then remind him that it is only a break for you's to get your head round, its not an official break up.

Hope this helps and good luck.
Hope you's sort things out soon :]
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Hey I heard you're amazing at giving advice so I thought I'd ask you something. I've been going out with the most perfect person in the world for just over 5 months now. I've fallen completely in love with her, she's everything to me, and so much more. All I see in her is how beautiful, pretty, sweet, special, amazing, and perfect she is, every second I'm away from her seems so long and I miss her so much, even right now I just want to be in her arms so bad. I'd do anything for her, and I want to support her and show her how much I love her every single day of her life. I know that she's my soulmate and that we'll be together Forever & Always. She was really worried about how her grades were and got really upset, but now she's doing so well :) and I'm so proud of her, she just passed a college nab today and I'm so happy :) I love her more than anything, and she is the most beautiful person in the world to me. Can you think of anything I could do to really make Saturday special for her? Thank you very much :) She's my angel :) and I love her with all my heart.

well person i have not met before. i think that it seems to me that you and ur girlfriend are in love. and you obviously love spending time together.

Saturday will be special because spending time together for people in love is special enough.

just do what you normally do, or have a specail meal, say...chinese?

Just live for the moment and do what ur heart tells you too.

Hope this helped.
As an adviser i can tell that this girl must love you more than anything because you appear to be very sweet.
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my boyfriend is obsessed with my tits. he always wants to go up my shirt and see them and everything. we love eachother so it's not like im uncomfortable with it and i honestly dont care, so i guess my question is..why do guys like boobs so much?

I know eaxctly why you are confusing!!

Frankly i dont see the fuss about them but hey hehe

i asked my boyfriend this question as im so curious and he claims that they look nice and are soft to touch.

Thats his opinion, wont nesessarily be the right one cos everyone has different views cos frankly i dont think they look nice!!

Thats in no offense cos im straight and have no experience but from having them myself i just dont see the stigma behind them.

but to be fair, some men do have boobs. in the kindest way possible but they do. So its not common that a man will rush to play with them because he doesnt have them.

Not the greatest example i know im sorry.


Hope this helped a bit :)
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does anyone know any beautiful love poems with modern english, something teen couples today can understand, relate to and enjoy?

i came across this poem and thought it was nice :)

A BLUE STAR IN YOUR EYES

Author: Jo'Lene Tover

On the wings of an eagle,
My love for you flies.
Soaring higher and higher,
And touching the skies.

I reached up above,
And pulled a star from the sky.
To place it within,
Your precious minds eye.

To dwell there forever,
As my love for you.
On the wings of our love,
Enduring and true.

I honor you my darling,
With all that I am.
Please darling please,
Will you be my man?

There are so many things,
My heart wants to say.
I love you sweetheart,
There is no other way.


hope this one helped :)
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What are some ways that you REALLY know your in love? From your personal point of veiw.. what are some ways you just know your in love?

hey. im in love at the moment and you kinda know your in love when just seeing them can perk you up. You will also think of them constantly and miss them when they aren't around.

Its really weird but you kinda just know. You'll know yourself when the time comes.

You should feel comfortable with this person and be able to tell them anything. Because if you do not trust them or respect them then you are not in love.

Also many people feel a spiritual connect with someone they love. you should be confident witha future with this person. Not saying you have to marry them or anything but you have to see yourself with the person.

But everyone is different.

but you will know because when it happens, its one of the most amazing feelings you can get.

I hope this helps :)
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Has anyone on here ever re-dated a guy and had a successful relationship? I want to know if a second try is always disasterous.

hey, i am currently re-dating a guy and it was the best thing i ever did. we have proof that they do work. The first time, we didnt know each other well enough and i thought he was too serious. we then stayed really good friends then got to know each other and then really connected.

We then tried again and everything changed, we are now inseperable and has been 5 months and ive never been so happy.

we went out again about a year after we broke up initally, so thats proof that it can work but it can take time.

so all n all, yeh they can work, because i am living proof. :)

Hope this helps :)
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It seems almost like my relationship with my boyfriend is all centered around lust at this point. We are very drawn to each other physically and although we do connect emotionally, I feel like we need to connect more emotionally. How do I make sure our one month relationship doesn't turn into something sexually based?

A good way to tackle this would be to make the guy wait before you get intimate for a bit.

Not forever dont worry!!

Its just to show how he copes.

If he really cares about you it shouldnt be a problem.

In the meantime, try to spend more time together doing fun things, things you's havent experienced before.

Maybe something as simple as going to the beach and taking a stroll so you's can really connect, or go for a meal and really talk to your boy and try and really get to know him.

Hope this helps :)
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recently ive been gettin pretty involved with this boy i like no only physically but also emotionally we have been a thing for a couple months now but he hasnt made it official he talks to and seems to flirt with alot of girls which worries me that im being played i talked to him about it but he said im the only one he likes and he wants to be with me but i still dont understand and im really worried im going to end up in heartache becuase we havent really made any progress please help me out what should i do? do you think im being played?

Everyone is different. Your boy may be genuine in the fact that he likes you, even if he does flirt with others. Some people flirt naturally and it may mean no harm.

There always is on the other hand.

You should talk to him and tell him whats on your mind without accusing him.

Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we're making slow progress because we don't want to rush things and regret it.

You should try to focus on enjoying his company more than anything.

When you do finally try and have a chat, you need to focus on his answers and his body language. If he dismisses the topic, he isnt worth your time.

And about trhe progress, he may be really shy but you also need to have a nice chat about that. you could maybe ask him what his relationship technique is, like does he like to take things slow? if he does, thats okay, you's both just need to be comfortable and respect each others wishes.

Good luck :)

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