Hey there I' Nicole Lynn Pietruszewski!!! I'm in 8th grade and go to Oltman Jr. High!! I play softball for Cottage Grove, Minnesota, and I'm having a blast just living my life one day at a time!! I hope you are too!! Well if you must know more about me, e-mail me or IM me!! Hope you have a great day!!! And I want you to know that i love yo help people out, I tend to know what people are going through, especaily girls, and I liek knwoing I amde someoens else's day...So ask away..ask anything..go ahead!! Here To Help...Nicole!
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**Just want to thank everyone who responds to this. I know it's a long post and if you give me great advice, i WILL rate you HIGH**
There's this boy that I've known about 3 years. We used to not get along AT ALL but when I started taking the bus again, he started talking to me more and more and now whenever my friend gets off, he comes and sits across from me and talks to me. He also suggested we see a movie together but I don't know if he means JUST AS FRiENDS. People say he likes me but I'm not sure. I know I like him because my heart is always racing when I think of him and I dream about him and I know I have a crush but I'm unsure about the signals he's saying. Does the movies ALWAYS signal a date? Also, I can never really talk to him about "us" because there are all these other kids listening. =(
-Crushin' (link)
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Well frist of all..going to a movie doesnt alwyas singal a date..so you guys could either jsut you two go, or go with some friends...and if you guys go, just think of it as a friends night out...and some tiem to get to know each other, and catch up and sutff..plus you dont need to rush into thinking about there being an "us" with you guys..play it by ear..i mean you can think about and everything, but maybe if he brings it up first then it would make it less stressful...i guess my advice is to just take the time to get to know each other more, and ahng out, and maybe call eahc other, so you cna tlak without other people ehairng...just play along with everyhtint as it happens...Good Luck...And Have fun...Let me know how thigns work out...
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for about four months now. We are both 15. I like him a lot and I thought he liked me too. For the first 2 months we were really close and we talked all the time... but now he hardly ever talks to me and when he does he doesn't ever seem like hes interested in what I have to say. I don't feel that we are that close anymore, and I don't know if I should dump him... (link)
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Well you dont have to dump him to fix this, maybe you shold jsut tlak to him about it, askki him whats going on, but go into the conversation with an open mind...let him know that all you want is for him to be happy, ask him whats wrogn, and if tehres anything you can do that will help him out, for all you know it coudl be anything that coudl be bugginh him, and it jsut could be effecting your relationship...anyways ask him what it is he wants out of you guys, i think maybe this will help, ive been in the situation before, but you are the one whoo chooses the ending, you have to approach everything the right way-->If its meant to me, it will happen
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ok well im 13/m and i have feelings for my friend. The problem is that she has been going out with her boyfriend for a long time (year and like a month) andso i've been trying to be there for her and be her friend but now her and her bf are going through some rough times and she doesn't think he likes her anymore. I want to make a move but think that might be taking advantage of her and her situation. Should i go for it? Is it taking advantage of her current situatuion? (link)
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Umm well yes in a way, but instead of making a move, jsut let her know that you are there for her, and that you care about ehr feelings, and that you deserve the best, and sometieims jsut hearing those thigns will get her to start thining of other possibilites, and let her come to you, cause she wont be happy if you screw thigns up for her and her boyfriend, if they happen to work there thigns out, just let her know that your there and comfort her, and if she doesnt come to you then jsut give it time, you cant rush things, and sometiems thats a good thing, the wait could always make it better in the end, i really hope everything works out for you and her and the whole situation, jsut give it time, and paitnece, and try to handle thigns thinking about whats best for her, and not yourself, love is never selfish. Good Luck, and let me know how thigns turn out!
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ok, theres this guy I LOVE. And, it doesn't seem like he likes me at alll...... So I'm VERY VERY VERY mad/sad. (We're not goin out though.) When I talk to him online he says "hey, brb". That's why I think he doesn't like me at all :/ Please, help me because it feels like my hearts being torn apart and stomped on. It's the worst feeling I've ever had and I want it to get better.....Thank you EVER so much for all of your help........ (link)
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I've had many of these feelings before, and yes it is the worste, but in a way you got it a lot better them I or some other had it, think of it this way, you love him, bbut he may not love you, you dont lose anything, but me and other have been in the situatuion were i love him and he loves me back, then all of a sudden one day he doesnt love me anymore, not only did i lose my first love but also my pride and strenght, and diginity, at least you still have all of that, and if it just doesnt work for you to then i guess it just isnt meant to be, you never know there might be someone out there thats in love with you, but you dont know it!! Give eveyone a chance! Hope I helped!!!
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there this boy in my school who i have the biggest crush. Sometimes i think he likes me too but i can never truly tell. I want to ask him out but i am sooo scared of being rejected! but i mean i will never know unless i ask...right!! give me advice!! please help! (link)
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Yes!! You are right, and if the answer is no then (like i have said to someone else before) kick him in the balls and pray to God you dont trip while running away!! Good Luck!!!!
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(m/14)Ok, I'm going out with this girl, we've been going out for a little over a month now.. shes awesome, I like her a lot.. but unfortunately my parents don't. They really don't want me to have a girlfriend at all, especailly one like her they say. I mean she is a little wild sometimes, but I like that about her, but my parents don't. They want me to break up with her soon, and they're pressuring me to do it everyday. I want more of a long relationship with the girl.. but I don't want love. In my opinion, nothing good can come from love at this time in life. So do I stand up to my parents and tell them I won't break up with her?.. or take their advice and break up with her before this relationship turns into love? thanks (link)
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Your right, sometimes theres more hurt then good, when it comes to love, but if you love them its worth the pain......With that said, i would tell your paretns that they dont have to trust or like her, they have to trust you, and tell them you know your limits and wrong from right, and just let them know you got thigs under control, and make a point that you care about her, maybe not love her, but care about her, and if it does end turing into love, you wont regret it! Hope I helped!! And dont break her heart!! Tell me how thigns go!!!
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ok well I just found out that I was pregnant yesterday. I told my bf and all and he was really really really upset and he kept telling me that he wasnt ready for a baby right now. I am 15 and he is 16 and neither one of us are ready. He told me that his dad would make him drop out of school and get a full time job and all and i dont want that to happen. He was already in trouble with his parents because of his grades and all and went to see him yesterday but we just met in town when he got off of work and he wasnt suppose to. I wouldnt let him leave and when i finally did he was in a hurry and he it his cousins car cause she parked right behind him and didnt know she was there. now his dad took his truck from him and he is in trouble and he has to pay for her car by himself. I dont know what is goin to happen. I dont know what i should do. Should I break up with him so he wont have so much to worry about or what???? Someone plz help (link)
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Looks like you guys need to sit down and have a loooong talk not only with each other but also with his or your paretns, you need all the support you can get right now, this will be a very emotional next nine months, and if him and you both feel its right that break up for his benifit then do so, honestly do you feel like yiour guy's relationship will lead into the furture? Cause if you do, the do your best to work thigns out, but if you have the support from friends and family, and you feel emotionally strong enough to handle this without him then maybe it si time to let him go, and it doesnt mean he wont be there for you, and it doesnt mean he wont help you out {cause im assuming he has to do something} it just means he doesnt have to worry about even more things, it sounds like he is stressed as it isd, but really you guys need to talk befreo making any rational desicions, maybe he will want to help you, casue it is half his fault, and i dont know you guys or not, but he may love you, ya never know! I really hope I helped and good luck and God Bless you!
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well i had my friend talk to him about me and he asked the guy who he like and he said he didnt really like anyone adn the guy goes what about kayla shes cool as shit and he was like no i think of her more as a friend ... but i dont see him a lot like i dont usually ever hang out with just him and me so i think ill try it and see how it goes. i really do like him a lot he just needs to realize it lol. adn that whole kiss idea i was thinking about it already so thats just like a yeah go for it lol but thanks a whole bunch! (link)
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Your sooo welcome I really hope thigns work out because it sounds like a potentional relationship, me and my best freind tried going out once, it was great...i'll stop there though....Good Luck!
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will you marry me Nicole Lynn Pietruszewski
love,
the mystery (link)
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SHUT UP SHANE!!!!
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i no this may sound dorky but i have no clue how to make out with a guy. Do guys really like guys that have their tongues pierced? Because i do. And i was wondering... How old do u have to be b4 you know how to make out. Can you be any age to do that?
Like im a 15 year old male and my boyfriend doesnt like me for some odd reason!! I thought everything was ok. but i guess not. How can i make thing work between us again? I mean my boyfriend has his dick periced and i already suck it while i have my tongue pierced. He said it felt wonderful. And to me it did. THen he sucked mine. Then fingered me in the ass. But now he won't talk to me! Whats going on?
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Well, umm I've never had to deal with a problem such as this, but you let me get this straight, you have never made out with your boyfreind, but yet you have given him a blow job? And to anwer your question about how to make out and stuff, well you dont really have ot be any age at all, i mean its suppose to just come naturally, theres not much one person can tell you about how to do it, and really anything anyone tells you, you wont be thinking about when you do it cause nothing really runs through your mind, soo when it comes to techneique its all about thigns jsut happening! I really hope I helped and good luck!
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well ok i just broke up with my boyfriend after a month an i know thats not that long but like i think i made the BIGGEST mistake of my life!!! he tells me he still has feelings for me but i dont know if he really wants to be hurt again!! how should i tell him i wanna be with him still and tell him my feelings because he is so perfect in my eyes!!! how can i make this relationship keep going? Please HELP ME
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OK this one is easy, call him up or write him a note, and if he loves/likes you he will undersand....what you have to tell him is that you know you made a mistake but by doing that you have learned from it, realizing just how much you really need him, and how much he means to you, and how you know its the biggest mistake you could ever make, and that your sorry, and all you want is to be back in his arms, somehting along the lines of letting him know you care about him still, and saying you will do your best as to not be so silly the next time, adn you really want thigsn to work, and that if you guys give it another try then it could possibly make your relationship stronger!!! Hope you know what your doing now, and i know what your feeling, ive been through it millions of times before! sadly enough!! well lots of luck!!
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ok this one is for teh guys! =D alright well me and my boyfriend never made out and everyone is saying that I should make the first move..ok but like if you were my boyfriend how would you want me to do it? lol I never made the first move before and like I dunno how it would be like for a guy if the girl made the first move? any suggestions?! pleaseeeee help! (link)
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OK this is the kind of thing that just comes naturally, and i know it seems like teh scarriest things in thw workd, but belive me thers lsot scarriere thigns outt there, adn even for me, a girl who is always making teh first move, which i love cuz its puts you in control, was scared for teh the first tiime i made out with someone, OMG it was horrifyingh...b4 it happend..but after time and stuf it will be alot better, becuz ti takes like once oe twice doing it, and all i can say is that it come naturally, tehres not much someone can do to teach you, but about when you should make the first move, just kind hint at it, then when you guys kiss, make him know you arent leaving until it happens, lol just kinda kiss him, then look him in the eye, and for your benifit, let it just be you two around when you do it, because you dont want the pressure of all of your friends and all of his freinds there to make you more nervous! Hopefully i helped!!!
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I watch alot of movies..well..alot of love movies. The movies where ppl fall in love. And the more i watch those movies the more i want that in reality. I want to be in love..does neone else feel that way?
Or am i just stupid for even thinking that :/
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YOU ARE NOT STUPID! The summer going into seventh grade for me was the year i said i wanted to fall in love, and i had no clue waht that meant but form watching movies and reading stories, i wanted tot feel what al those ppl felt, at first i thought it wasnt going to happen and that i was prolly too young to fall in love, but boy was i WRONG. i ended up falling ahrd and fast for this guy i had known for a couple of years now, and we were both in love with each other and its the greatest feeling in the world, he was the first person i ever loved in my whole life, and i loved him soo much, and he loved me back, i had never felt so happy and i never trult thoutght that i would actualy fall in love that year but i did, and for you to think that is not stupid, its normal, and who knows you might ending up gettting your wish sooner then you expected it, but just to let you know, along with your first real love, comes your first real heartbreak...sooner or alter!! but i hope i helped you!! let me know how things worked out!
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i give advice to ppl too i just dont know what to do about this one. ok well ive known this guy since i was 3 and ive liked him since i can remember. well now im a sophmore in high school and i still like him. he goes to my school and now a lot of girls like him bc they think hes so hot and every time i see he him gives me a hug. and we talk about stuff and most of his friends are my friends and vice versa. well in 7th grade i told him i liked him and well he didnt like me back but then last yr my friend asked him if hed ever date me and he said im not sure shes kind of like my sister. well ive always been really scared to actually tell him how i feel bc hes like the perfect guy adn the perfect bf. hes hot and sweet and has never cheated on anyone and hes sooo easy to talk to. so please help me and tell me what i should do! it kills me when those other girls get to have him and i dont! thanks and sorry this is so long! (link)
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OK first of all KAAAYUUTE!! lol the fact the you guys have been such good friends since forever, and that eh called you his siste,r and thats a great staty, lots of people out there are to afraid to have a relationshiop with there BEST FREIEND (me bing one of them) but sometimes thats just a risk you have to take, but to start things off easily, maybe instead of telling him you cudl show him, like find the perfect moment kiss him, and he is that clueless the let him know why you didm it, adn sometimes youy might even realize that eh sint right for you by just s simple kiss, and sometimes thats how he figures it ou, cause if he really wants to be with you then he will feel it in a kiss!! So b4 talking try that, i know it soudns scary but if it doesnt work out, jsut say you dont know what got over you, lol, and laugh!! He'll understand if he knows you as well as you make it seem!! But anyways hope i helped, adn hope things wokr out, and have fun, adn pleeease let me know how things worked out!!!
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I saw this guy that I dated 4 years ago when I was in 8th grade, now I'm a senior in highschol.....we've been talking since and after all that time we saw each other again the other day, he didn't want 2 start the relationship again because of the distance between us....when I saw him yesterday we hung out than kissed but he pulled back and said it would be 2hard 2 handle a long distance relationship....well about 15 min before I went upstairs 2 my apartment he grabbed me and we kissed on and off a lot....and he said he'd promise 2 see me again very soon....I'm so confused and I just wish I knew what he wanted......What do I do?? (link)
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Well it soudns liek your both confussed, im sure he's righht long disntace can be ahrd, especailly after so many years of not seeing eachother, but if you really think you could ahndle it and you both think you can put work into it GO FOR IT! But first b4 any of that talkt o him, like on teh fone, so theres no physicla attraction talking, ask him what he is feeling and tell him to be totally honest, then figure it out from there! Hope i helped! Let me know how thigns are working!!
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hey guys im ryah
well ok there is this boy Jake that i have dated before but I like him again, only because he calls me every day and is so sweet but it was so randomly that he started calling me, i mean we have been seeing eachother outside of school because we have the same friends and all but like we weren't really close since we broke up, we still kept in touch and talked online and all.i mean i have never really STOPPED liking him but i kinda moved on for a while but the feelings were still there. well anyways when we do see eachother OUT OF SCHOOL (keyword lol b/c we just act like friends in school which is odd) we are all over eachother and makeout and stuff, thats the farthest its gone since but he has mentioned to do other things. well anyways us doing all this stuff makes me attracted to him even more. i just don't know where to go from there like i would want to date him again officially you know, but i just don't know what exactly to say to him about i can't straight out say 'i like you, so let's go out' but i don't know what to say!!
Sorry it was long :(
Thanks if you help me :) I need it lol (link)
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well sounds liek youir feelings for jake are still strong, but b4 you get yourself hurt, find out what his feelsings are for you, if he just likes to fool around with you, and you dont think you can handle that considering teh fatc that you still like him then dont get into it to muc, but if you think you cna ahndle it HAVE FUN!! but if he does still like you then give it another chancem who knows it may work the second time around!! just kinda strike it up in a conversaton on the fone or soemthing!! I relaly hope i hoped!! Let me know how thigns turned out!
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Well this is a record 2 problems from me in one night...
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 11 months. I'm 16, he's 18. We are having sex. Mom knows, but hates the fact and thinks he wouldn't stay with me if I told him I didn't want to have sex anymore, and I'm DYING to prove her wrong.
But the thing is, I don't really want to stop the sex because quite honestly, I like it. lol. Obviously he does, too, but I know he'd stay with me even if I did say I wanted to stop. Our relationship is based on pure love, not lust. (not to mention the fact that we're engaged. Mom doesn't know that, though. She won't know for about 3 or 4 years.) Mom doesn't believe he'd stay with me. I'm dying to prove her wrong, but that involves sacrifice on my part.
If I actually wanted to test him, I'd have to lie to him, and I don't want to lie to him...
What should I do? Should I test him and prove mom wrong, or just leave it alone? (link)
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Well i read between the lines and found an easier way to fix this then not actually having to stop having sex...completley, first of all exactly how often do you have sex? Well anyways keep that answer in yuor head, and moving on.......Talk to your boyfreind and let him know about what your mother thinks, obvsouly he does love you, if you are enngaged, so he will understand what this is all about, anyways tell him that you want to try to go (how ever oftne you do it) without having sex, and if he agrees then GOODIE!! then you cna prove to mom your rigt and shes wrong (sucha great feeling) and anyways, if for some reaosn you slip in this little break from fun period, thats not your fault, at least you knwo he tried and you just coudltn help yourself, so i guess waht im trying to say is to just talkt o him adn figure out a plan!!! Hope i helped, let me know what happens!!
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my boyfriend and i have been going out almost a year. we lived in the same state then within the 7th month of us going out he moves then a few months i moved but we still live in different states. we are still going out but now he works and there are girls that like him there. i know i am supose to trust him but it is really hard he tells me he doesnt look at other girls but then he tells me (we are honest with eachother) that he has watched bad stuff on tv i hate to think that he checks out other girls but thats what i think. i am a very negative person. should i just blow off what i think and just trust him or just think that if he finds someone else thats fine i can find someone else too... (link)
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Well this seem more along the lines of a trussting-you-heart-issue...because if you feel to the point where its killing you that you dont knonw wahts going on with him then maybe breaking up is the ebst, but if you dont think you'll be able to move in without him and you really really think that you can learn to truyst him then work on that, Trust is one of the most popular things learned in relationships, and by shwoing him that you can trust him, it will make him feel better about himself and you guys being together, and then he will trust you, cause you ever stopped to think he may feel the same, casue chances are he has, but he is a guy so he most liekly wont say much about it, but just let him know that he can trust you, if you both love each other, then i am sure this will all work out, I really hope i helped!!! let me know if you need anything else!
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when me and my bf both lived in tx we would go to eachothers houses well his parents were really protective of him like we couldnt be under the covers even if we were just hanging out with friends or just out talking to his parents and when he would come to my house my parents could really care less we could be laying on the couch with the covers over us that just didnt care but now that we have both moved when i go visit him his parents and they dont care what we do but my parents are always coming in and telling us to leave the door open so they can walk by and check up on us what the deal? should i tell my parents to back off or just listen to them and do as they say. (link)
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Well first of all, thats weird, like the way all their minds changed, but take this to its advatage, at your house when you see each other do other fun things, like ahng out outside go on walks go to a movie or something, and if you absolutely need privacy, then go for a wlak to somewhere private, and when your at his house then you can do whatever it that yoo please (but be smart) but just make sure his parents dont change there mind about you and stuff, cause then you woudl have tow sets of parents that wont let you do anything, so make sure you dont take that part to its advantage, but when it comes your parents, dont get mad at them,. abd by doing what they say, there trust in you will build up, and eventually then they will trust that they can let you do that, and if they let you, then you have two houses that you can cuddle or whatever you do, at!! So make sure you wokr around all this carefully, cuz if you go spazing at your mom your not going to get your way!! Hope I helped!!!!! Let me know if i did, or if you need aymore help!!
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okay so there is this guy that i like and i don't know himt hat well yet but i would like to get to know him how should i approach him or introduce myself to him? without feeling stupid? (link)
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Well hunnay lets see...first of all are you and this guy at least friends, like does he know who you are? If so then just write down your number and say 'you should call me sometime'....or you could always write him a note too, and ask hnim some questions, ya know, like about whatever it is that your little heart desires, but try not to get to personal, but build a trust, once a trust and bodn is built between you to, then maybe you can move on from there, you gotta take it one step at a time, and if you need any more help, let me know!!! Hope i helped!!
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