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My name is Cordelia Moore, and I'm a twenty-one year old Air Force wife living in England. I pride myself on intellect and am interested in many subjects, including Theology, Mythology, Psychology, Philosophy, History, Geology, Culture, Geography, and Literature. I am employed with the base Arts and Crafts center, and love to express myself artisticly. Some of my favorite aesthetic mediums are photography, scrapbooking, painting, drawing, mould pouring, stain glass windows, writing, and web design. I am a cat person by nature, and have two little felines name Sage and Eris. I enjoy helping others, ask a question get a sincere answer.


Why did I choose the username Nyx? Nyx is the ancient goddess of Night in Greek mythology, daughter of Chaos. She is a primal ancestress, and mother of many deities by Her brother Erebus (Darkness). Her children are for the most part dark sorts and include the Moerae (the three Fates), Nemesis (justice and divine retribution), winged Hypnos (Sleep) and His brother Thanatos (Death), Moros (Doom), the Keres, goddesses of violent death, Oizys (Misery), the Hesperides who guarded the golden apples, Deceit, Friendship, Old Age and Eris(Discord).


She was depicted as riding in a chariot, trailing stars and bringing the night, and accompaied by Her sons Hypnos and Thanatos. She could be helpful or harmful to mankind, bringing either sleep or death. Nyx had prophetic powers, and gave them to oracles from a cave. She was older and more powerful than Zeus, who deferred to Her wishes.


advice

How many of you think you should believe something a drunk person says about how they feel about you?

My friend once said, "Alcohol is the truth serum".

Your opinions, please.

This can be true, and also fake at the same time. Basically, if you're wanting to know if a guy says,"I love you." when he's drunk, if it's the truth. It's really hard to say. A lot of men will say that just to get a woman into bed. When drunk, if a man is telling you,"You're so beautiful, I love you, I want to be with you forever, yadah yadah yadah." And then you sleep with them... chances are he'll ditch you the next day. He got what he wanted.

Also, some people, when drunk, will make up elaborite lies about who they are, their past, etc. So, no... drinking is not going to get you the truth. Not all the time, not most of the time. If you want the truth from someone, ask them straight up, face to face, in a sober mind. And then you will get a true answer without any outside influences(such as alcohol).

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I'm a girl. There's this boy, we hang out. He likes me, I'm 98% sure. He was hurt during and after his last relationship for a really long time. While we hang out and cuddle and just be together we talk and he told me that he see's a future with me and it scares him. I didn't necessarily take this as a bad thing. However, the more I think about it, the more I wonder. What are all of your opinions on this?

Second part.
Also, he doesn't seem too ready to date any time soon. Then there's this guy, who I really really used to dig when I was like 15. I'm 18, now. We're friends, but I think he wants to try something more. I like this other guy, in the above paragraph, however, I don't know if I should wait for him, or see if I like this friend of mine. My gut feelings are telling me that I'm young, and should play out both fields. What are your opinions?

K Thanks.

You are young, and you shouldn't have to wait around for said guy #1 to make up his mind wether he's ready to date or not. If he wants to date you, then he wants to. If he's not ready, then he's not ready, and that shouldn't stop you from dating anyone else in the mean time. Simply give him his chance to date you. If he says that he's not ready, go for guy #2.

This way, if guy #1 gets upset, it's not your fault. You gave him the chance, he didn't take it. Of course, if you used to dig guy #2 when you were 15, but you don't know if you like him like that or not anymore, don't rush things too fast with him. Just play everything slowly, and by your heart, and nothing should go wrong.

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So I’m engaged to be married in one year. I was raised Christian and although I don’t go to church or anything any more my I do still believe. My fiancé is an atheist. It’s really important to me (and to my family) to get married in the church but he says that would be ‘compromising his beliefs’ and doesn’t want to. I don’t care if we never step foot in a church again but my uncle is a priest and I can’t tell him that he can’t preside over my wedding! I’ve always known and respected that we don’t feel the same way about religion but I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy but I don’t know what to do about the wedding. Any advice?

If he was atheist he would have no beliefs, and so getting married in a church for the one he loves really shouldn't be that big of a deal. Atheists believe in nothing. No God or Goddess, no heavan, no hell, no life after death. They don't go to church, they don't pray... they simply have no beliefs. So getting married in a church can't 'compromise his beliefs' since technically he doesn't have any.

However, simply sit him down and explain to him that this is important to you. Tell him that you don't need to get married in a chuch(compromise with him on that), but that you would like your Uncle to marry you. If he truely loved you, he would realize just how important this is to you, and allow it. That's what real love is. If one person doesn't really care about something a whole lot, and another person really does care about it, the person who doesn't care should let the person who does care about it have their way.

I mean, think about it... if the positions were reversed, and you believed in nothing, and he was christian wanting to get married in a church or by a priest, and it really ment a lot to him, you would allow it, right? Besiedes, the wedding is supposed to be the woman's 'day'. And if your family is paying for the majority of the wedding, then you should get to choose where and who marries you.

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Ive been with the same guy for what soon will be 5 years, and i love him with all my heart, he is my first love and i think im his first love too, ive given my all to him, but sometimes i feel he takes me for granted..theirs points were i cant stop crying, cuz its so hard, but truly hes the only one i have, im so in love and so scared to let go yet being with him is driving me crazy and i just dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!! i feel stuck because im so scared of being without him yet it hurts at the same time being with someone who wont commit with me and who will ignore me at times...AHHHH (im 22)

Aw, Sweetie. I've been in the same boat as you... I was with a guy for 3 years, and I thought I really did love him. During those three years he was harming me in ways I didn't even know... controlling and possessive. During the last few months between the two of us, he was choosing his druggie friends over me(though I don't think he was using drugs). He was not at all concerned about my depression and suicide attempt but more worried about his sexual needs.

I cried and cried... and then it was my last straw. I told him he needed to choose between me or his friends. He chose his friends over me. I wont tell you it didn't hurt. I wont tell you that I didn't want him back. But I will tell you it was the best thing I ever did.

By the sounds of it, your boyfriend is not for you. You're crying all the time, he's taking you for granted. If he truely loves you, and you truely love him, I suggest talking about the problems you are having. Try working through them. If he's not interested, or if he doesnt' try, then it seriously would be best for you to leave him. It's difficult to leave someone you've been with for so long. You're used to it, it's the norm now... you wouldn't really know how to get back into the dating scene, or how to be single again. There is so many things that could easily scare someone into staying with someone who's not good for them.

But you just have to grit your teeth and do it. After I broke up with my ex, I was a little distraught for perhaps a month. I slowly got over him, started to take better care of myself. And then 6 months later I met another guy, who is now my husband. Please remember that you need to do what you need to do to take care of YOU. Everything happens for a reason, you might not see the reasons, but one day you'll look back and be thankful you made the choice you did.

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the guy i like on myspace posted this :

If you're a girl, title this "boyfriend application" and if you're a guy title it "girlfriend application". Repost this and see who's eligibe to be your special someone. Have fun!
Send it back if you think you could get the job... :)

BASICS:
Name:
Age:
Location:
Height:
Hair (color):
Eyes:
Piercings/tattoos:

OTHER:
1. Where would we go on dates?
2. Who are three (or more) of your favorite bands/artists?
3. Do you drink/smoke??
4. Do you like the rain?
5. If so...would you play in it with me?
6. Do you like movies?
7. If so would you stay up and watch them with me all night?
8. Could we cuddle and just fall asleep together?
9. Would you kiss my forhead
10. Do you play an instrument?
11. If so...what?
12. Would you call me right after we saw eachother to make sure i made it home alright?
13. How would you rate your hugs from 1-10?
14. Favorite body part on a girl?
15. What would you say is the best thing about yourself?
16. Do you have any reps (ie: heartbreaker, slut)?
17. Would you give me kisses just because?


What Would You do if...
I cried:
I said I liked you:
I kissed you:
I was hospitalized:
I ran away from home:
We got in a fight:
I got dumped:
I pissed you off:

What Do You Think Of My...
Personality:
Eyes:
Face:
Hair:
Clothes:
Voice:
Humor:
Choice of music:
Manners:
Friends:
Decisions:



Would You...
Be my friend:
Tell me the truth no matter what:
Buy me a birthday gift:
Lie to make me feel better:
Spread rumors about me:
Go out at 4am to get me chocolate:
Keep a secret if I told you one:
Loan me some cash:
Hold my hand:
Keep in touch:
Make me a snack:
Try and solve my problems:
Love me:
Makeout with me:
Hold me in times of need:
Ditch me:
Use me:
ask me out:
Date me:
kiss with me whenever you had the chance:
Hold me and make my problems go away:

im not sure if i should answer it or not.. he just got out of a relationship and i dont kno if i should answer it or see if he answers mine. if it helps im 14/F

Do you know this boy in person? If not, then I wouldn't even bother filling it out, because relationships online(especially for teens) seldom work out. If you do know him in person, then I would say give it a shot... I mean, what is there to loose?
[EDIT] There should be no ackward vibe between you two... especially if he's putting that 'application form' on his xanga. And clearly he is ready for another relationship if he's posting this as well.

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Hey! I need some help! My boyfriend can express his feelings to me, no matter what. But, when I really want to tell him how much I love him etc. I tell him in a letter or an email. I just can never seem to get it out. Any suggestions. I NEED HELP! RATE HIGH

You know, I am the same way... only with emotions of depression, anger, or saddness. For some people it's just hard to express emotions verbally... we feel safer when we write it and they read it elsewhere. Let it start getting to the point that you write you love him, and have him read it in front of you. Once you get used to that, then perhaps trying to say I love you over the phone. And once you're used to that(knowing you wont get hurt by verbally expressing it to him while not in person), then give it a try in person. But don't just jump in head first... you'll feel like your choking. Always wade into the water slowly when you're nervous.

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