Hey!! My name is Brandy and i am 17 years old and a junior in high school! I thought that something like this would be a swell way to spend my time lol and since i have so much drama going on in my life .. why not help everyone else out with theirs? :)
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When ever i go over to my bf house we always do stuff, so the last time i went i over there i didn't really want to do anything, so when we wen't on his bed i put my head on his chest. This worked for like 10 min then he got ontop of me, when he started touching me i said no, but he's like are you sure and blah so he would wait and then do it again, he just kept going and going. Anyways i know i should talk to him about it but i don't want to hurt his feelings or anything, i don't think he actually relized what he did. I know he doesn't want to force me to do anything but he is, how should i tell him without actually hurting his feelings or making him feel bad? (link)
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Well .. it all depends on how far you two have gone. I think really you need to tell him exactly how you feel and let him know that sometimes you're just not in the mood. lol i know it sounds kind of dumb but if he likes you he will understand and i dont think it will hurt his feelings. All girls just wana be held sometimes you know.. But then you cant expect him to want to do stuff with you when he is not in the mood (Just in case he is ever "not in the mood" even though guys always are) if you cant do it to his face try writing him a letter... You can always get things out better when you write them down! Let me know how everything goes and if you need anymore advice feel free to ask!
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Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend, I was only dating him for like a month and a weekish. & He kept saying Fuck this, I'm sick of you & hung up. He does it occasionally. So, I told him it was over. He was really upset and started crying. I'm so sick of him doing it, and I've told him. We've got into SO many fights lately, and I dont know why. I told him tonight when we talk I'll tell him if I wanna continue the relationship or just break it off. Also, he said if we break up he won't talk to me ever again, because he doesn't want to keep liking me, if we break up. What should I do?
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Do what makes you happy. Dont get back with this guy if he is going to just keep treating you the way he is. If you want to get with him you need to talk to him and let him know its gonna be and how you expect to be treated. Its not that much to ask to be treated good. If he likes you that much he will understand. Good Luck!
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There's this boy that I've liked for over a year now. We stopped talking around May `04 because I lied to him. It was a long distance relationship btw. I lied to him about everything, besides my name age n stuff! I really loved him allot. He stopped talking to me, and hasn't been online which means he got his s/n changed. I have his cell number but it's always off, and I have his house number, I want to call him.. But I'm afraid I have no idea what to say, Cuz we haven't talked for a real long time cuz of what I did. What should I do? (link)
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Call him and tell him your sorry and be honest with him about everything. In time he will forgive you. You just might have to wait for a little.
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i have a bf and icant tell him why i love him i mean its heard because i dont know what to say i mean i love him i sware i havent ever had this of a stong feelings for a guy as i do for him what should I do PLEASE HELP ME!!!! (link)
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Tell him how you feel let him know whats going on. Tell him you love him cause he makes you happy and treats you right. You usually dont know why you love someone.. you just do :) Hope I helped!
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i was going out with this guy for like a month and a half, one day he breaks up with me before school starts. second block my best freind/his best freind tells me she likes him and ask me if it would be ok if they went out. i sad yes and she said she wouldn't ask him out, an hour later i find out they are going out. I'm trying to be friends with them but it's difficult because he like wont really talk to me unless i talk to him (he is really outgoing and it's not like him) and now megan is getting mad at me cause people are aparently being mean to her. i sad i was sorry for that to both of them but neither of them are really talk to me anymore, i just don't know how to handle cause i havn't been handling it very well. (link)
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What i would do is just try to talk to the both of them and tell that that its hard to deal with it because its just wierd for you. But also let them know that you do not want to lose either one of them as a friend. But you have to relize that its prolly akward for him also so that is why he is prolly being so shy. He may not know what to say. DOnt worry things will get better and you will all become comphy again it just takes some time. Hope I helped!
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Heyy...Okay I don't know what to say to this boy, let's call him Cody. Well I thought I really liked Cody and he asked me out so I said yes, because of course I thought I really liked him and it would work. Well for the first few days it was cool and then we went shopping and he bought me something really expensive for Christmas but I didn't know what it was. After a while in school he seemed to be very clingy, obsessive and over protective of me. Also, people in school told me he pressured his girlfriends into a lot of stuff when they weren't ready! I got kind of scared because I didn't know what I was ready to do with him. Well for Christmas I opened his gift and he got me a diamond ring OMG! I flipped out...I mean yeah it was gorgeous and he spent $170 on it but seriously we were going out for a week or not even that and it was too much. It started to scare me a tinsy bit. I was thinking about dumping him, I mean I liked him but just not enough to be able to accept the ring without feeling strange. I was going to do it the day after Christmas. Well on Christmas he called me and was drunk and I just got really mad. Me and my friend planned something out so that it wouldn't be mean when I dumped him. I told him I got grounded because of my grades and also my grandmother died and I said it wasn't the best time to have a bf. Well I did that on Christmas and I feel really.... bad! I don't know what to do I think I hurt him...it's just I don't want to date him anymore....Anyone know how to deal with this? (link)
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Dont worry about hurting him i mean sure youre gonna feel bad but he obviously wanted more in a relationship then you wanted to give him. He sounded like he would get annoying anways by how possive he was and belive me it dont get better. So you did the right thing.
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Im still hooked up on my ex, and he has a new gf. I just found out that his new gf doesnt really like him. He asked me if i was mad that he had a new gf but im not. Im just mad that she doesont like him and he likes her. I just dont want him to get hurt. Should i tell him that she doesnt like him or just stay out of it? I think i should stay out of it, but i really dont want him to get hurt. as much as i love him, i couldnt bear to see him so hurt if they broke up. i think it would be good though since she doesnt like him. any advice? (link)
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Just stay out of it.. he will eventually find out.. he needs to be hurt a few times in his life.. everyone does and hey maybe by them breaking up he will relize he still has feelings for you. Basically just ignore that he has a new g/f right now and try to have fun.. if it was meant to be it will happen. :)
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My ex recently came back into my life and I admit that I do have strong feelings for him. He also said that he wants to be in a long-term relationship with me. He said that I was on his mind alot and thats why he felt he had to find me. Things keep happening like fate wants us to be. If I do decide to talk to him again, it will be a risk because he do have a past behind him because he's a bad boy. I still want to be with him in a way. We both said we will take it slow to see what will happend. So do you think that I should give it a try because I think fate is bringing us together for a reason, I just need to hear it from someone else. (link)
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Well it seems like you both want to be with each other and you obviously like one another so i think that you should still see him. you no what they say if you love someone let them go and if they come back it was meant to be.. You are doing the right thing by taking it slow because you need to build up a strong relationship and trust before you can get serious again. Hope i helped and good luck!
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how do you know if your guy wants to just kiss, or if he wants to makeout? obviously if he gives you tongue, but how can you tell ahead f time? (link)
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You cant really tell.. just go with the flow and follow his lead.. or if you want you can lead lol :)
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i like my bf so much im 14 nd we've done everything except sex and anal i love him so much but lately i havent been hanging out with my friends as much and he gets mad wen i do i noe he dont trust me but idc but i wanna hang out with friends!! i miss them and like wen i do he gets mad and we hardly talk and my dad sed if i dnt start hanging out with my friends then hes guna end me nd my bf nd like i told my bf that nd we started crying nd stuff nd he sed he didnt wanna loose me but he cant get over the fact that were guna have to break up if i dont start hanging out with my friends ...either way he gets mad at me ..what should i do
x3 confused (link)
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Dear Confused... I think that you need to spend time with your friends. I mean friends are always there and there is always a chance that a boyfriend will not. If not you can do something with your friends and him and try to make everyone happy. If you spend all of your time with your boyfriend you will get tired of him. Just tell him that he does not have a reason to not trust you and you just want to spend some time with your friends. He shouldnt get mad unless you do soemthing wrong. I hope I helped a little, and good luck with everything. :)
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Ok lets see this is a question i need alot of help on....There is this girl i have been trying to get with for alittle while now and we got really close and now i find out her parents won't let us date....We still are really close and i don't know wut to do becuz i fell in love with her she means alot to me but if they aren't going to give in then i dunno...so if you can help me in anyway please do i'll check back soon!!!!! (link)
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Well lets see, they must have a reason that they do not like you so i would some how prove to them that you are a good person if indeed you are lol. I mean i know you really like her and all but maybe you guys just need to talk for a while until her parents learn to accept you. cause i no she isnt gona lie to them about it and if they do not like you it is just goin to make you guys have problems. know what i mean? Just keep talkin to her and see where things go from there.. they will learn to like you one day lol SUCK UP!
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my bf just told me he was a pothead...and hes been doing it for almost a year. and we've been going out for more than a year, i dont know what to do. hes lied to me for so long. i told him if he did it i'd dump him but he did it anyway. i only said that so maybe he wouldnt do that but it didnt work. idk what to do. im so confused and idk. please help. and dont tell me to dump him because i cant. i love him too much to do that. no matter what he does. (link)
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Tell him how you feel, Just be like "Im not your mother and im not going to tell you what to do but i really think you should at least try to quit because I really like you and dont want you to ruin your life" It will make him think about what he is doing and that he is probably hurting you by doing it. Tell him how upset you are that he lied.. basically just tell him how you feel about the whole thing im sure that if you guys have been goin out this long he will understand.. Hope I helped!
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ok, so i have a ton of guy friends, and i never have any trouble talking to them or anything. but theres this one guy that i have a crush on, and i cant look at him when i talk to him! i dont know why, i can talk to him fine, but i avoid looking at him, which makes me look stupid! what can i do to make myself look at him? i can talk just fine, but the looking is the problem... thanks!! (link)
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O my hunnie dont you worry this is perfectly normal.. i have this issue too i can not look a guy in the eye for more then 10 seconds before I look away, not even my boyfriend. It doesnt make you look stupid your probably just scared that if you look in his eyes you will like him to much or something or youll be scared to know what he is thinking about. Dont worry about it its fine and im sure he wont mind. LOL let me know how it goes..!
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Ok there's thie guy i like in school. But the problem is... i'm homeschooled and now i don't see him as often. Also, when there's a guy i like i get all shy and well... i start to ignore them becuase i get embaressed.
If i see him how could i talk to him without ignoring him and getting shy? Plz help! i could use it...
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Get his number and work up the guts to call him lol Find out what he is interested in first so you have some things to talk to him about when you call, dont just sit there and listen to each other breath. Ask your friends that maybe go to school with him to invite him to the movies or something for a group date that you will be at. I think that you are just nervous to talk to him because you are afraid that he will not like you but hey what can you lose? If he doesnt like you then it is his loss. And hey if you go to a movie you can always call him the next day and be like "How did you like the movie?"
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Okay well i was dating this one guy Rick he was really nice and kinda cute and we talked like all the time on the internet and at school but whenever we started going out at school he didn't talk to me and it looked as if we didn't even know each other but whenever i talked to him on the internet he was sooo nice and it seemed as if i was falling in love with him... well since he never talked to me i broke up with him (all my friends told me to also)... well one day at
school i decided i was gonna have my friend Mary do it for me after school... well whenever i was in 7th period i decided i didn't want to... i told Ashley that but she didn't listen all she said is "if your gonna do it... its now or never" so she went and did it with a whole bunch of friends of hers (which i told her not to tell anyone but she did anyways) and then i was really sad and kinda mad about it b/c i didn't wanna do it... well i regret it A LOT! and now well there are a few other guys that like me and that have been asking me out but i don't know if i'm ready to go out with anybody.. i heard that rick still likes me but i don't know if i should go back out with him or someone else.. like my friends made fun of me for going out with him in the first place b/c he isn't the cutest guy in the world and they would really make fun of me if i went back out with him... and plus one of my friends like him but i know she wouldn't care if i went out with him ( i don't think she would) but i don't know if i should let him know how i feel or just keep it in and see if i eventually get over him! please help me! (link)
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Who cares what your friends think of the guy that you are going out with the only person that you need to please is yourself and as long as you are happy that is all that matters right? :) And if your friend did that after you told her not too sh eis not a very good friend. If you still like Rick then i think you guys should start talking again and maybe go back out but tell him that you want to be able to talk to him in school and not just on the internet and friend and explain that that is why you broke up with him the first time and you dont want that to happen this time. Ims ure your friend that likes him will understand because you were going out with him first and you never stopped caring about him. It seems like you really like him so i think that you guys should hook up and you should forget about these other guys that like you lol. Hope i helped..!
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ok well i'm 15/f/ i'm dating this guy named Jesse and yesturday we were hanging out together and some chick named Stephanie text him saying I LOve you 2! and well i read it and i asked him what was that all about he tells me that this girl has a crush on him and thinks that he will go out wiht me and with her at the same time and well he told her that he would never cheeat on his girlfriend......what you all think? PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE I"M CONFUSED (link)
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Dont be confused BREAK UP WITH HIM!
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Ok,
I like this guy and he knows I like him. We have never talked before, it's just kind of a crush. Since he knows I like him, its really weird because I always see him looking at me. I thought it was in my imagination so I asked my friends to check if he was indeed looking at me. They said he was and it wasn't my imagination. Sometimes he walks by me for no reason, and my friends and I have even caught him checking me out a few times. Why won't he come up to me and talk to me? Is he afraid? I'm not scary, lol. And I thought about it and...why would he stare at me, check me out, and walk by me for no reason if he DIDN'T like me? He has to like me just a little....or maybe he thinks I'm a freak. :-( ....I sure hope not. HELP! What should I do? I really want him to talk to me, and I don't have the guts to do it myself!
Chloe* (link)
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Chloe.. there is a very simple answer to this lol, he is shy so go talk to him! Thats all you gota do, if he is in ur class talk to him about something you talk about that day and what not. Good Luck!
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me and my boyfriend have been together for quite some time ((3 months)) he is 18 now & im 15... my parents think he is 16 and i hate lying to them but i love him and i want to be with him... how bad does this make me??
my b-day is on may 5th
and his on the 13 (link)
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I would just tell your parents the truth because they are bound to find out sooner or later and that will just make them not trust you more, if you and this guy are serious about keeping your relationship then let him meet your parents and what not if he hasnt already and they are bound to like him if he is a good guy. Im sure your parents will understand, just tell them you cant stand how immature guys your own age are.. Hope I helped! :)
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OK here's the deal. Me and this kid have liked each other for a few weeks now and he finally asked me out. We've only been going out for 2 days now but its feels like longer. I really do love him, and he loves me. There's just one problem. He's kind of "advanced". I'm only in 8th grade and i've never really been into doing things with guys. For example, I wouldn't give a guy head or handjob anytime soon. He jokes around a lot about this and really wants me to do it but he isn't pressuring me. The problem is, he always wants me to go to his house after school, and for some reason i don't like to go without a friend. I don't know why, but I just can't bring myself to go alone. I love him a lot, but I feel better knowing that someone else is there with me in case something goes wrong. Even if it's one of his friends that's there too, i'm ok, but other than that, i just get a little uneasy. It's just something weird I guess that's going on with me that's making me not want to be alone with him. The other problem is that I still don't know how to kiss and now that I have a boyfriend, I think that maybe that's the reason im scared to be alone with him because i'm afraid of his making a move on me. I don't suppose I would mind too much if we kissed but I still don't "know how to". He sounds mad whenever I don't go to his house. He always wants me to, and he always wants me to go to the movies. That's where my problme of being alone with him comes out. I don't want to go to the movies with him if it's just me and him so I usually suggest a double date but the thing is, my friend would be making out with her friend during the whole movie and it might make me and my boyfriend feel weird so I never want to go. I feel bad saying no to him, but I don't know what to do to not be scared about it. Can someone please help me and tell me what I should do? I would appreciate it so much and i will rate you 5 even if you don't give good advice. Thanks (link)
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Well if this guy really loves you like he says he does then he will understand that you do not want to do some of these things with him. But also if you guys "love" each other you should also not feel so wierd around, and trust him. The whole kissing thing isnt hard dont get so stressed out about it, just tell him its ur first time or whatever and when he kisses you go with the flow kissing is one of those things that just come naturally and if you follow his lead there is really not that much that can go wrong. Maybe you should talk to him about everything, or if you dont want to talk to him write him a note, things are always easier to say in a letter. Hope I helped!
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I am in love with this girl that i have liked for awhile now and when i was first with her i did some stupid shit like cheat on her and she forgave me for that and now we seem closer then the first time....I really like this girl and it seems like when i'm not with her i am lost and all i can do is think about her....What can i do to keep my self from missing her every minute i am not with her?
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Well my dear good friend Lee, i obviously know who this is about and i feel like you both have a crush on each other and you also need to take it one step at a time maybe you need to start hanging out more and all that good stuff... your always gona have to think about her every minute of the day because.. well jus look who she is shes gorgeous (she learns from the best) lol But if you dont want to try to do other stuff to get her off your mind like hanging out with friends and what note.. hope i helped again!! always here to listen lol
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