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so theres this guy i really like and i think he likes me back but im just waay to shy to talk to him. like when i see him in the hallway he smiles and i say hi, but thats it. to be honest i dont like his friends and they dont like me because they know i dont like them haha. sometimes hes alone at the busstation though until his friends come but he's always quite early. should i talk to him then? and i always have issues with smiling. like everytime i see him i freeze up and cant smile. once he's passed me, i cant stop. it really stinks cause i wanna smile at HIM not at the ground :/
help?

I know it can be intimidating to talk to someone you like, but it feels so much better when you finally talk to them. You have a perfect opportunity to talk to him when he's alone at the bus station. Just be like "hey, what's up?" or talk about the bus schedule haha. He sounds like he would wanna talk to you because he smiles and says hi to you. But if he doesn't respond the way you want him to, don't worry about it. The most important thing is that you tried. It's better than not talking to him and wondering what could of happened. Who knows? Maybe he likes you the same way you like him. It's worth a shot. Good luck!

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So my boyfriend and I like to hang out at school in the morning during the zero hour. And seriously, we just talk. Occasionally I'll hug him, but there's honestly minimal kissing. It's just kinda how it is.

Anyway, most of the time around friends we just hug each other, and before class it's like, 'goodbye, *kiss*' and then we're done. It's not like it's anything all that bad that you don't see around schools anyway.

So the issue is, one of my friend's been giving me a hard time about it. Like, this girl was talking about how she hates when couples get all into it in public, and my friend was all, 'kinda like you guys!' And I told her that it wasn't how it is, and she said 'oh please, you guys are always all over each other.'

We're really not. Honestly, I'm not into the whole PDA thing, hugs are mostly all I'm comfortable with at school.

So...how can I talk to my friend about this? Obviously she thinks it's something bad, because she told me, 'people always say, oh, I saw her with her boyfriend'. Well, yeah, we talk. That's mostly it.

And should I talk to him too? Maybe say something about nothing other than hugging at school?
I dunno, this is bothering me. I always said I'd never get into the whole PDA thing and it looks like I have, even though I'm serious, it's not as bad as she makes it sound.

Help?

I think you're fine. I'm sure there are plenty of other kids at your school that show more public displays of affection. There are kids at my school that make out with each other like everyday in between classes and no one really sees an issue in people hugging lol. I honestly don't think hugging is a huge deal, and I'm not sure why your friends see it as one. I mean, sure, I could see if you and your boyfriend were literally all over each other in their presence, but it sounds like you're not. So even though they're your friends and of course their opinion matters, I wouldn't stop hugging/kissing your boyfriend just because people say that; it doesn't seem like the PDA is too over-the-top. Next time they say that, just be like "Hah sure whatever," and if she keeps insisting that you're doing that, just talk to her about it. Hope I helped! =)

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15/f
I'm an emotional wreck. And it's almost hard to believe that this has been caused by one guy. I used to be in love with him. He told me he didn't like me in that way (I suppose because he's older). Okay. I accepted the fact that he doesn't like me. But I still am always thinking about him! Always! Always waiting for hours on MSN, while we were in school, anywhere. I'm constantly thinking about him. I can never stop. He's just always on my mind. I don't know what to do. I can't concentrate on anything anymore. It's like, my whole life revolves around one guy. I know he will never like me and that nothing will ever happen, but I'm just so emotionally attached to him. I don't know how to overcome this and stop it. I've tried getting my mind off him; impossible. And jealousy...is a feeling that never goes away as well. *sigh* What can I do to keep him off my mind?

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I know this feeling. I bet you'll look back years from now and wonder why you were so obsessed with one guy... I know I have before lol. But don't worry about it, there are plently of other people out there to hang around with and have fun with other than this other guy. You sound like a mature person; just wait until after high school, there will be many more mature guys to choose from, and age won't be so much of an issue when dating. For now, just concentrate on school, activities, and most importantly, your friends. Besides, when you look back at high school when you're older, you'll really appreciate the good friends that you had, not guys that you liked or had short relationships with. In the end, remember that there are so many more important things than having guys liking you; in time, you'll find someone special. =)

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This is going to sound stupid,
but I'm 16/f I've never had a boyfriend yet,
never been kissed.

Its pathetic right?

I'm one of those people who crave a relationship, to be loved and to love.

All the guys I meet seem to just be 'good friends' and a lot of them actually, have feelings for my best girl friends.

I usually can solve or potentionally solve all my problems with answers from myself or others.

But I dont know why I cant find a boyfriend,
I have a lot of guy friends, but none seem to be interested in that way.

I dont even know how to attract them anymore,
I'm just so confused. And I'm lonely.
I know I'm young, but can any of you relate, and if so, what happened so far?

I just feel like something is wrong with me.

Wow, the same thing is happening to me, lol. I'm also 16 and I wonder all the time why I don't have a boyfriend while it seems like everyone else does, especially my friends. But I realize that not everyone that is in a relationship is happy. The majority of my friends have boyfriends, and I've noticed that they all gradually start to spend less time with their friends, worry constantly about troubles with their relationships, and are distracted by their relationships most of the time. You never know, one of your guy friends might think of you as more of a friend and you just may not know it. I know that sounds cliche, but it can be true, who knows? You're only 16; when you get out of high school, more guys will be more mature; you'll probably have a lot of guys interested in you... as for now, you don't need some guy to make you feel loved. Just concentrate on school, friends, and other stuff, maybe even join a club or work somewhere where you can get to know guys better. High school relationships only last for a little while, anyway; I bet when you're older you'll look back on highschool and be okay about not wasting any time on short relationships that didn't really amount to anything. Believe me, there are a lot of people out there who are in the same situation as you, including me. Just don't worry and you'll find what you're looking for. =)

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Ok well I'm going out on a date tonight. Its my first "real" date and we're going out to dinner. I know this kid fairly well and were pretty comfortable with each other, but we talk so much we kind of ran out of things to talk about. I really don't want this to be akward without anything to talk about, so any ideas?

Also, I know this is weird, but I HATE eating in front of people, especially someone I like. I don't know why, but I'm nervous about it. Again, I know this is strange, but I can't help it.

Well, you could talk to him about politics, what's going on in the world, and where you stand on certain issues. It's a good converstation starter; it's a good way to learn more about each other and show him that you know things, lol. But don't start arguing and getting angry with each other if you have political differences, though, haha.
Ask him what his favorite bands are, what his favorite song is, what he wants to do once he gets to college, etc.
If you really have nothing to talk about, just say something funny and random. Like, "did you know that Denzel Washington has a perfectly symmetrical face?" Yeah, weird, I know, but I say it alot when there are awkward silences and it actually brings up some interesting conversation, haha.
Since you're friends with this kid, you'll probably have more to talk about than you thought you would. Good luck. =)

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i really like this guy and he doesn't even kno im breathing!. i rele want to talk to him but im too shy. please help me!!

Aw, don't doubt yourself. You never know; he might notice you way more than you think he does and feel the same way about you; it happens alot, trust me lol. But the thing is, you'll never know if he feels the same way if you don't talk to him. If he's in one of your classes, just talk to him and try to be friends with him. Smile and be confident. If you're shy, it will be a whole lot harder to talk to him, but if you just try to start a conversation with him and not worry, you'll be fine. If he's mean or something, he doesn't deserve you anyway. So just talk to him, be friendly, and become friends with him first. Maybe get his screename or something. And remeber, it's better to take a chance and talk to him than not taking a chance and wondering what could have been. Good luck. =)

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I like this guy. He is super sweet and everything! He treats me like a princess and says i look good and beautiful. But all my friends think he is ugly. He seems like he could protect me if for something would happen. Its only the second day of school but i really like him. but i also dont know if he likes me back. if soo how should i ask him out? please help. i love you.

secret person.

Well, if this guy says you are beautiful and such, he probably likes you. And don't worry about what your friends think; he sounds like a nice guy and if you really like him, go for it! It's your decision, not theirs. Next time you talk to this guy, casually ask him who he likes. If he asks you who you like, tell him you like him. So yeah, if you know he likes you and therefore, you wanna ask him out, ask him when you two are alone. Say something like "I really like you alot. Will you go out with me?" Don't ask him when your or his friends are around, either. If he says no, don't worry about it. There are plenty of other guys out there. You could also just become better friends with him and get to know him more and he might just change his mind, but don't be too pushy, though. Good luck!

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do guys only find skinny girls with absolutely no fat on them attractive? is just a little bit of fat okay do you think? what else do they find attractive personality and looks?

Some guys will only date girls because of their looks and not their personality, but those guys are definetly not worth your time. Most guys don't care how much a girl weighs and think that personaltiy is more important. It seems like guys tend to like girls that are confident, nice, have an interesting personality and have a sense of humor. They also like girls that aren't afraid to talk to people and aren't afraid to be themselves. So, yeah, the guys who only date skinny girls aren't worth it. It doesn't matter how much someone weighs, because it's better to wait for someone who cares about imporant things, like personality, than unimportant things. Hope I helped. =)

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I know the subject makes it sound like I don't know if he like me or not... BUT THAT ISN'T THE QUESTION. This guy started liking me so I liked him eventually. Then he asked me on a date or something and I said yes. He asked me on the date over AIM and he made it sound like we were going out.. which I was fine with. Now some people say 'your going out with brittany' and he says 'no, we are just gunna hang out'. So.. I guess my question is, how can I get him to like me again. We are still going on a double-date tomorow to go to the mall and see a movie. I am 14/f and he is 14/m. I know some people may say 'play hard to get', but if you say that, please include ways I can do that. Please no critisizing about my situation because I left out some less important parts so it wouldn't be super long.. as in you don't really know the whole story. I RATE!!

Well, he does like you because he asked you on a date-type thing. Maybe he said you guys weren't going out because he wanted to get to know you better. So, when you go to the mall/movies, talk to him alot, smile, and just be yourself. Don't change anything about yourself to get him to like you, beause he already does seem to like you. I wouldn't say "play hard to get" because that could backfire and he might think you're not interested in him. So just try to get to know him better and be yourself. I'm sure he'll like you. Have fun. =)

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I have this friend shes a rly good friend to me. She HAD a boyfrined for a year and then she broke up with him. Well i was frineds with him and we still are and we talk on line and stuff. But i feel like im startin to develop a crush on him. i dont kno why he was supposed to stop by my house today to jus chill, and i have no idea what im supposed to do. I like him but icant do tht to my close friend. I need help. what do ido.

Well, your friend broke up with him, so she was the one who wanted to break it off. I don't think your friend would mind because she didn't want to go out with him anymore, but I would talk to her about it if you ever wanted to ask him out, or if he asked you out. Maybe she does still like him, so talk to her, just in case, because your friends will always be there for you, but a guy might not. Good luck. =)

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14/f
Well, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and 2 months last night around 11:50. I dont even know what I was thinking! I was confused and I kept thinking about what would happen if he broke up with me. then I guess I started conviceing myself that he WAS cheating on me and I broke up with him. He didnt seem too upset. After I got off the phone with him I balled my head off for hours. I even started gasping for air and then started choking. I dont know what that was all about but thats how much I was crying. anyways then I talked to my friend Zach till i dont know what time but we talked for at least 3 hours. He cheered me up some but I still cant help but think about him. I love him more than life itself! I miss him so much and I dont think he misses me. I want to call him and say sorry and everything but Im afraid he wont care! I miss him so much you have no idea! Please help! should I call him?!?!? Should I just move on??! please Ill rate 5's i swear!

Aw, I'm sorry about your breakup. =( It sounds like you still care about him alot. I think you should take a chance and call him. You never know, he could really miss you and want you back, but he might have not wanted to make it any worse, in case you didn't like him anymore. So yeah, call him and tell him how much you care about him. And if he doesn't want to get back together, at least you know you tried, and you won't be wondering "what if?" And then you could move on. Good luck ! =)

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My best friend is really pretty and always gets guys. Yesterday me & here were hanging out with 3 guys and one of them liked her and had his arm around her and the other one was pretty much all over her and sent her a message on myspace that night that said, "Youre really pretty. We should hang out soon - you me and dave." And he totally didnt include me. I asked her if I seemed weird/annoying because I usually act ditzy around guys and she said that I did great and that I was not ditzy at ALL. If I was so good, why arent these guys giving me the time of day?? I know Im a really jealous person and Ive already talked to my mom and best friend about how I feel about the situation. What do I do :( Ive never had a boyfriend and its starting to bother me because every guy likes my best friend..

I know how you feel about this. Sometimes guys are all over my best friend when I'm there and I feel kinda left out. But, the most important thing to remember is don't doubt yourself. Don't let yourself feel bad about this. If these guys aren't paying attention to you or inviting you, then they're totally not worth it! They don't deserve your time of day if they're acting like that. I know it's hard if your jealous of your friend, try not to let this get to you. Just keep being yourself, be confident, and smile, because guys will be less likely to pay attention to you if you are doubting yourself and think your friend is better. You're just as good as your friend. Just keep talking to guys yourself and don't rely on her to talk to them for you. Just keep being optimistic because one day you'll have a boyfriend; just be patient. Good luck. =)

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