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I need idea's on what i should get my boyfriend for valentines day we've been together for 3 months he's 15 and lebanese christian and i'm not sure what he's into i know but it's kinda hard to say :S sorry lol any ideas ?

Well how bout something simple like a picture frame with a picture of you two. It's nothing real big and it doesn't say "ohh we should get married" but it does say "i love you." Something simple but from the heart, I'm sure would be great:]

i changed schools in the middle of this yr and its a super small school. i really like my friends but they are very judgemental and all have money. i have no problems with them and like them a lot but my bf is not that attractive generally and doesnt have much monay at all. i want to bring him to the dance in a month or so but im afraid my friends will judge him. im seriously not trying to be stuck up or anything but i dont want them saying something mean...i hope you understand and please im def. bringing him to Prom and this is only Sadie's but its the only other dance and i want him to so...idk thanx so much! :]

Well, hun, if you are worried that your friends are going to stick up their noses, they aren't friends. I understand you may get a few chuckles but if they are your true friends, they'll have your back no matter what and accept your boyfriend for the real person he is.
If your friends say something mean, just let it go and have a good time at the dance. Don't let it get to you. They aren't worth your breath, tears, sorrow, or even companionship.

i know this is kind of stupid. but if a guy asks you to have coffee with him would it be called a date? i've only been friends with him for less than a week, he's a nice guy but he doesn't make me laugh and he's not my type. should i say yes to someone like that?

Well, I would confirm it with this guy. Since he just met you, maybe he's just trying to get to know you. I would recommend to say yes and who knows? You just might have fun.

i was talking to this guy that i have never seen him or heard him before. (his mom set us up) and i called him one night and four guys was talking to me like i was a peice of trash actually. They was asking me a whole bunch of questions, like what i was wearing and if i would have sex with them (except in a more pig-like manner.) And dont get me wrong i am not making an effort any more with him. But if he does call, which he probably wont, what should i say. I mean if talks like that with his friends, then he could talk like that all the time. And if i see him then what do i do? do i go off? cause i was really really mad. like i was crying because i was afraid of who or what i might hurt. i was shaking. and i just dont know why boys act like that and why they would want to talk like that to a girl. but what would i do in those scenarios? and would one consider the talk sexual harrasment? thanks

Hun, you really need to tell your mom what happened. That violates you in so many ways. It is verbal sexual harrasment. If that's the way this guy acts around his friends, he doesn't deserve you. If he calls, change your number or hang up. If you see him, walk away. Ignore him to the best of your abilities. You do not need a guy like that. He does not deserve your tears or anger. Let it go. Better yet, let him go.

im 14/f and my boyfriend is 13/f

do you think that if your really truly sure your in love, like you've had it proven to you,no doubt in your mind and he feels the same,
do you think that we can last throughout highschool?

we've had our problems, what true couple doesnt, but i dont want to lose him again :[ i want this to last forever, as crazy as that sounds.

do you think it can last?

There is no certain answer for you're questsion. The point of love is to give somebody your heart and have faith they won't break it -source is unknown.

I have a crush on a boy that live in my nieghtbor hood his 12 and I'm 13 help

There is nothing wrong with that. See the thing is most girls feel the need that guys must be older but it doesn't need to be that way. Go for it:]

Lately my gf has been telling me about these dreams she has about other guys forcing her to hook up with them and she told me that "you shouldn't struggle, you should just go along with it". She also sort of admitted that this is a fantasy of hers. What I'm wondering is, if someone started kissing her and she kissed him back, wouldn't that be cheating regardless of how the kissing started? Couldn't she just use being forced as an excuse, especially if its a fantasy of hers? In my opinion, if someone holds her and starts kissing her, she should push him away rather than kiss him back. We are in a committed relationship by the way.

Well sometimes you don't have control over your dreams but I think your girlfriend is giving you a hint hint wink wink that you should fulfill her fantasies.

well my ex and i are talking again somewhat but he goes back out with one of hus exs and my kind of friends. So we were talking about how we used to go out and stuff and i liek him still what should i do?.. Tell him i like him and that i wish we could go out. Or just keep it quiet?. or give little hints?. i really dont know.!>. please be specific

I think that any sort of relationship is based on honesty so I think you should tell your ex how you feel.
Good Luck.

... How d you get a guy to wanna kiis you??????????????????????????

You can't hun. Love is something one cannot force. The same as a kiss.

i just have a general question,
if you like someone, and they acted out of their character or hurt you in some verbal way-(nothing harsh/racially offensive), would you stop liking them or would your feelings persist?
this is stupid question but it's just i've noticed how some let go very easily once they are slightly doubtful and others strongly believe in forgiving, what's the norm?

I guess it depends on what was going on, why we were arguing and who it is. Mostly I am a push over and I forgive easily but thats just because of my religion.

theres this guy i talk to and he always calls me "boo" but i cant thing of anything flirty to call him..any suggestions?

anything you want. babes. teddie beahrr. cookie monster. ect.

ok well i have braces and i havnt kissed a guy yet but i really want to im just scared to because of the braces and its going to be different or those stupid stories about them...is there really any difference???

Nope. I had an ex who had braces and we would make out and nothing happened. One time I did accidentally scraped my tounge on his braces. It hurt but nothing serious. Just be careful. You don't want a scrapped tounge. hehe.

im 15 and this is embarrassing well ive got a really small penis im really worried what can i do whats normal size for my age?

Hey. Don't worry. Boys start puberty at different ages. Therefore, the size is always different. The average size is not average for 90% of people. You are probobly part of that 90%. Size shouldn't be a problem with your partner.

Hey im a 14/f
i have a boyfriend his name is Xavier and we just got together. and he said when we got together that if anyone asked i asked him out, even though he asked me out. and i said okay why? he said becuase he doesn't wanna lose his friends to a whore like me what do i do + me and my ex wanna get back together but i dont know how to brake up with xavier please help thanks in advance.

He called you a WHORE! He is such a jerk. Sorry but he needs to go. Simply tell him you are not a whore and you can do SOOO much better. I'm sorry hun but no girl should be deserved to be called that in any circumstance.

does anyone know any beautiful love poems with modern english, something teen couples today can understand, relate to and enjoy?

Here is a poem that I truly adore.

As Long As You're Near

The first time we met, I could see,
That you and I, were meant to be.
Your eyes were so gentle, your smile so true,
When you first held my hand, I just knew.

Now the time has gone by, through laughter and tears,
These days I shall cherish, for years upon years.
Those memories we have, shall never fade,
For those are the steps, that we have made.

That was the past, the future is near,
I anxiously wait, for what will appear.
New homes, more laughter, and children so dear,
Everything will be wonderful, as long as you're near.

- Cristy Smith -

For more poems like this, visit
http://www.lovepoemsandquotes.com/LovePoems.html

Hi I am stuck between two guys.Jake and Wesley they both are cute,funny,and smart. I have more in common with Jake but Wesley loves sports and sports are more than half of my life.I am dating Jake but Wes is my best guy friend. Jake doesn't act like my boyfriend but Wesley would if we went out. But I talk to Jake like I've never talked to a boy before on the phone. WEsley has football,baseball,and basketball. Both theyre moms love me.So plz I beg you tell me who to choose Wes or Jake I am stuck between them.Also I talk to Wesley in school a lot and Jake never talks to me he always talks to Trevor his friend.WEsley shares test scores with me he helps me with my homework and he even explains part of football to me.

Wow. It seems you have quite a tough decision. Wesley seems more intimate but Jake seems nice, too. To tell you the truth, I can't answer your question. This is something that you have to chose. It's one of these questions where you get the "just follow your heart" answer. I know, totally Disney. If I were you, I would list pros and cons about every guy. I know that I might not be helping but I can say that this is the best advice I can give to you. Feel free to inbox me again.
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i was just wondering where i could find some cute quotes or lyrics from songs about stuff like .. being so much better off .. you werent worth it.. ya know stuff like that after a breakup or if you guys no any thatd be great ! thankss!

Oh, well where I go for quotes is xanga.com. Here's a link:
http://search.xanga.com/searchgroups.aspx?q=Quotes
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Ok me and this girl that i have hung out with 3-4 times fell in love then i had to move away now im moving back and we want to spend every waking moment with each other but im afraid things might get okaward how can i prevent this? and if it has already started how do i stop it, im 14 male by the way and she is, 15 female

Heh. This brings back memories. One time, this boy I really liked liked me. So we would take walks with each other and we would talk but once in a while, there would be this huge silence. I was waiting for him to break it, but of course, I ended up doing it. If things get awkward just ask her how she's been and how everything is [trust me, most girls LOVE to talk, I'm one of those girls] or just tell a funny joke. Another thing you can do is compliment her. If your as random as me, you'll find something to say at the spir of the moment :D
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This guy and I have been talking on aim for forever. We were really tight, and he liked me... i also liked him. I know him because of my friend Jen. Well, Friday, I was with Ron and he didnt hold my hand or anything. When he left, I was telling Jen how it went. She kept asking me questions witch was making it seem that I he didnt like me, and it made it seem that i was obsessed with him. So i said he didnt have a 6 pack at all. Jen told him I said that... and he is really pissed off. I can't stop crying. Jen is TRULY sorry, I belive her. I want things to be the same between Ron and I. He liked me all until this happened. What should I do?

Hmm...if I were you, I would explain to Ron everything. After all, relationships are built on honesty :D
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THe guys in my grade either dont no me or think im annoying. I think i just talk alot but wutever. Can someone please give me tips to look sexy and stop being annoying! or any confidence boosting tips.thanks=D

Well, I personitally think you should never change for someone, for they should like you for who you are but I will answer your question with the best of my abilites. :D

*Wear maturer clothes that make you look older. Keep in mind that you don't want to look like your playing dress up so don't go over the top with the pearls and everything. Don't try to copy them models but go about your own style. I think you should mix and match with the clothes you have. For instance, if you have a white tank top, wear it with a cute blazer or a hoody [zipper up looks best] like from HCO or Abercrombie or Aeropostale, ect.

*Try not to talk about yourself that much. I know for a fact that some boys like to have their share in talking. Try to be funny and sweet yet sincere. If there is such thing. :D I always like to joke around with boys because I like to make them laugh.

If you need more tips, please do not hesitate to message me. I love mail :D ♥

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