Hey everyone! The names Melissa and I'm just dying to help everyone out.
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Gender: Female
Location: Pennsylvania
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Age: 21
MSN: missy_meliss@live.com
Member Since: February 18, 2010
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I am about to go into high school and for the past few years, I have almost always liked a guy. I have had a couple boyfriends, but I ended up breaking up with them (most of the time because I thought I liked someone else). I am always scared to tell my friends when I like a new guy because I'm afraid that i'll seem slutty (they don't usually have many crushes). I don't dress slutty or anything, but would other people think of me as a slut because they always hear about who I like (my friends have really big mouths)? I can't help liking them, and most of the time, I think it was just minor lust, nothing big. If i do seem slutty, what should I do??? (link)
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Liking somebody doesn't make you a slut in anyway.
A slut is someone who is very promiscuous. Someone that doesn't care how people view them and is more than willing to be intimate with people.
My advice...find some friends who can keep your secrets, or don't tell them anything at all.
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How many regret breaking up with there first love?
we break up with our first loves (didnt fall out of love) because we want to go out and have fun and party with their friends and think maybe after a few years they will just find another person. How many people end up doing this and regret loosing their first love? Just out of curiosity, and how long did it ever take you to realize it was a mistake? tell me your stories, i really would like to hear them if you dont mind :) (link)
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I dated my first boyfriend for 3 years. From the age of 14-17. I really did think he and I were going to last forever. I had liked him since I was 8 years old and he was the same. Unfortunately I had to break up with him after he spent 2 of those 3 years in a rehab halfway across the country and I only got to see him on holidays. It was emotionally draining for me to be so in love and so worried about someone who wouldn't put the effort in to helping themselves. And I'm not talking about a weed addiction. I mean heroin and coke and whatever else he could get his hands on. He was a wonderful person and truly cared about me, but I felt like it was killing me to be with him. After I broke it off he approached me 2 years later telling me he wanted to try to be with me again. I was stupid and we ended up making out that night. Turns out he still had a girlfriend and wanted an excuse to break up with her. Definitely crushed me. After that I met my current boyfriend. I am now 21 and in love with the man I have been with for 2 years. I'm so glad that Mikey and I never got back together because it would have been horrible to go through dating someone who isn't around (he got sent to jail).
Ill always have a place in my heart for him.l, but its not love and it never could be love again.
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Hi I'm a 19 year old Indian boy, I'm in search of true love, Please let me know if there is any White girls interested in having a relationship with an Indian. (link)
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This is not a dating service. Do not use it as one.
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one of my good friends told me he likes me. he's liked me before and I used to like him, he knew that. but then he thought I liked someone else cause I did but I don't anymore I like the boy that likes me and I just wanna talk to him and be with him but he doesn't know I like him. should I tell him?
I'm a 13 yearold girl and he's 12 maybe but we are in the same grade. so there isn't an age difference. I wanna tell him but I'm not sure if i should or not. (link)
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He likes you, you like him...i fail to see the problem! Just tell him! Whether its in person, over facebook, or through a text!
Your young! Live every moment like its your last, and never be afraid to do something you want to do!
If you like him just tell him, you'll feel better after you do!
And if he doesn't feel the same way after its all said and done, then at least you know and your not just left wondering if he likes you or not!
Good luck!
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ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half. were both 17 we go to the same schoool. He just recently started working alot and i dont get to talk to him and i find my self cryinggg because i hate change and im used to talking to him 24/7 and i dont want to be clingy and i keep crying cuz i feel like he doesnt care and idk what to do anymore. i feel really depressed. please help me. (link)
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Its actually a really good thing your boyfriend got a job. It shows hes responsible and prepared to be a hard worker.
It also means the time you get to spend with him now is more precious then the time you got to spend with him previously.
I wouldn't be upset with him having a job, it really is an important step in everyone's life. Your going to have to get a job eventually as well. You cant go your whole life spending every minute with the person your with, constantly talking to them on the phone or texting or in person. One day when your married your both going to have responsibilities and your not going to be around each other all the time. Might as well get used to it now.
Just a heads up, don't ask him to quit his job for you. That'd just be eff'd up.
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What does it mean when a guy doesn't call you after you give him your number? (link)
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He's not interested.
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My girlfriend is obbsessed with these actors that she really loves. I don't know who they are but she cries when she watches them on tv. Is it normal that she's obsessed with them ? (link)
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Um, no...not really. I've heard of fans crying when they meet theyre favorite celebrity in PERSON but not when they are watching them on TV. Sounds to me like your girlfriend has a bit of an unhealthy obsession. I would just ignore it and leave it alone unless it directly affects your relationship with her.
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is there a place in the world where everybody wants to have sex and is willing to do it anytime? and btw, this is a serious question. I live here in Ottawa, Canada, and the girls are somewhat interested in sex on a normal manner, but is there a country where sex is really important and where people are down all the time to do it? (link)
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Its in my pants.
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I like this boy at my school and we hang out every weekend pretty much and he always flirts with me constantly. I finally got around to telling him that I like him but he said that he just doesn't want a relationship right now. His actions are speaking much louder than those words though. I'm pretty sure that he likes me and I feel like we connect! How can I get him to ask me out already?! By the way I'm 14 going on 15 and a girl:) (link)
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He was honest with you and told you hes not interested. Just back off. Why waste your time on someone who doesnt want a relationship?
Find someone else to spend your time on.
Maybe this guy you like will realize what he lost.
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who is my love life?
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How should we know?
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I used to have good luck with the ladies and now I don't since I gained about 45 lbs. I think I have gotten funnier since then though but it doesnt seem to make a difference. I am a 22yr old male 6'1 225 lbs and heavily tattooed. Am I too fat or is it in my head? (link)
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Lose the weight and see what happens. Honestly I'm attracted too tattoos but not guys that are heavy. It might be in your head and it might not. Only way you'll find out is lose the weight or turn it into muscle
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Theres this one spoiled biznatch in my class who text all the time, and she looks lilke miss queen B when she is texting, and it bothers me.
What do i do (link)
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Ignore it? Its not any of your buisness anyways. You obviously are an immature child if your so concerned about what somebody else is doing.
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so my boyfriend of over seven months just broke up with me. He's 15 and im 16/f (almost 17 in a couple days.. thats right. he broke up with me a week before my birthday). MANY times before i wanted to break up with him. i distinctly remember 4 times and he was so scared and begged me not to, so i stayed with him and tried to work it out. He ended up treating me like a princess last week and i was happy and fine, everything was good,and then he dumps me. He said he was just tired of fighting (because we fought alot that week.) i asked him to give me a week,and if he still felt the same way by then, i would do what he wanted. well he gave it over night and then broke up with me through a text message in my firt period class. he said he just wanted to be with his friends and be single...i guess so he could flirt with other girls and keep his options open(he wasnt the type to cheat and leave me for someone.) he was like "maybe we should break up and get back together later" he just put me on the shelf so he can come back to me later. well i dont want him back. its been hard on me. i just want to know he cares, but i havent contacted him or talked to him at all since, which its only been like 4 days but still.. anyways, what i want is for him to come back and miss me like crazy that way i can say 'im sorry, you're the one that broke up with me. i dont think that i can go out with you again.' he gave up the only girl that would go out with his sorry butt for that long, because honestly he was an ass. so on facebook, i deleted everything.. all the pictures and stuff. now idk what to put as my status. im not going to put something sad because im NOT going to let him know that i miss him. i want him to wonder what im doing. so please help me think of some stuff to put as my status thatll make him wonder what im up to. ANYTHING will be helpful. i know it seems like a stupid and insignificant thing that ask, but Im in desperate need of this lol. Will Rate. (link)
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Don't mention a HIM.
Just put "cant wait for tonight!!!"
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"Omg today was awesome!"
Make it vague and nothing specific about a dude at all cause then u'll look like a slor!
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So I almost feel guilty that I don't feel guilty about cheating... i've been in a relationship with a guy for like 8 months and i've had sex with two other guys. Why don't I feel guilty about this, and how can I make myself feel guilty about it. I really like the guy i've been seeing and he's a great guy but the sex is not as great. I'm not looking for your judgement, so if you're gonna post that I'm a heartless slut or something you can just save it. I know what I'm doing is wrong I just don't know how to be better. 19/f (link)
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You wouldnt be thinking about it so much if you didnt really feel guilty. You know that what your doing is wrong. Break up with him.
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Hi! A follow up question to my previous queries (under the same subject title). The guy didn't call (after my "umbrella msg"). I sent a text asking him to go to a movie since I had to be in his town for another reason and indicated if he were most comfortable making it a platonic outing, I would be ok with that as well. He never responded in any way and I have not heard from him in the ensuing question. Although a lack of response seems a bit rude, I still have positive interest in this guy. I am hearing loud and clear he's not that into me. Would it be ok to check in with him in a 2 or 3
of months and either 1) explore what went wrong or 2) ask him out again.
Perhaps I should mention that I had gained ALOT of weight between our initial aquaintenceship and the "reunion" meeting and I wonder if that is part of what went wrong ( I have been losing weight over past 8 weeks and expect to continue losing 10-13 lbs per month. Also I am considering contacting him again in the future because I am interested/attracted to him in a way that is quite uncommon for me. It's happened 2 times in past 11 years. (link)
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I think you should let it go. Hes obviously not interested in any way
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I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Here recently, a couple days before our 4 year which was like a week ago I went on to my boyfriends Facebook, just to randomly check up on him. I go through his messages and come across a conversation that my boyfriend started up. It goes along the lines of " Hey so I just wanted to let you know I had the biggest crush on you back in BCIS class and I thought you were cute" she said aww why didnt you tell me? i feel the same kind of thing. and he mentioned he STILL thinks shes cute and that the vodka helps. Gave his number to her and the next morning puts "even sober I meant all that" After that, I was BEYOND pissed and confronted him about it. He claimed he got drunk with a couple friends and left his Facebook up and his friend talked to a couple people. Obviously I don't believe him and his friend called me up and wanted to make sure he told me he's the one who talked to her and sorry for getting him in trouble and that he thought it was funny at the time. Also, I went ahead and messaged that girl, and of course she didn't respond like I thought. Which makes it seem more supicious. With all that said, I am not sure how to approach this issue. I often bring up I am still upset with him and he continues to deny it all. I feel as though it is never-ending. I don't know if I should either brush it off or end it between us because I don't think I could trust him after seeing that.
Any ideas? (link)
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And this is why I hate Facebook. What gives you the right to dog around on his messages? That's just like if he takes your phone and reads your texts. How pissed would you be if someone did that to you? I mean really.
Let it go. Especially if it's a one time thing. He didn't cheat on you. And honestly, no matter who your involved with they are always going to at least find other people attractive.
Moral of the story: no he shouldn't have messaged her. Yes he's probably lying, but is a Facebook message really worth losing your relationship over?
Also I hope you learned your lesson about snooping, it leads to nothing but trouble.
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My boyfriend chats with this other girl while we are talking and I'm not stupid I can see they are talking but he doesn't tell me. It feels like a knife in my stomach and I start shaking so I end up telling him good night and going to bed where I lay awake for hours crying. Now I know that is probably pathetic crying over a guy and all. But this is stupid. Why can't he just be honest with me and TELL me that he is talking to this girl or something. I hate her already. I've already talked to him about it last time when he said I was over reacting and I asked him to PLEASE tell me if he talking to her instead of letting me FIGURE IT OUT. Idk what to say to him today, I'm .... in a very bad mood.... should I avoid him or not... this is so messed up. He loves to say that "well I can be friends with whomever I want" I KNOW THAT OKAY GOD I KNOW!!!! But what if that girl is KILLING ME ON THE INSIDE... geez
ADVICE PEOPLE PLEASE!!!! (link)
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Your boyfriend can be friends with whoever he wants. Lets be honest, its not killing you, your just jealous.
Yes its wrong that he's lying to you or not telling you but from what I can tell your talking to him over a computer. I know that when I'm on my computer I multitask like a mad person. Some people just enjoy holding conversations with multiple people at once. You can't hold it against them, andif it honestly bothers you that much you need to re-evaluate how you look at relationships. Its not healthyto expect your significant other to stop talking to people simply because you don't like them.
I guess what I'm saying is you need to grow up. Or wait to start dating until your more mature.
Or you can always let it go and stop crying about it. Crying doesn't get you anywhere in life.
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what are sexy nicknames for a boyfriend who is really hot (link)
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How about his name
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Okay , so i told you about kyle twice in asking you a couple of questions . So i've come to realize its never going to work , EVER ! im giving up on love , i feel like ' Fuck Love , Im Done Trying ' i don't know what i else i could do to get his attention anymore at all or just with any boy i don't know . . . its like if im not ugly than why won't anything good happen for me my personality is great so why !! i just quit on life i've been feeling that way for a while . . . and you guys are probably judging me not that i care with you perfect little lives . i Give UPP . please don't say talk go talk to a friend no will understand . (link)
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First off, nobody has a perfect life. Its rude of you to say that to people who have done nothing but try to give you advice.
Maybe the guys your going after just don't like you?
Stop looking for a relationship. Nobody's going to date you if your coming on all strong. Just relax. Enjoy your young life.
And fyi, if none of your friends will understand than you should look into getting some new friends.
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Okay so I have a bf, and we have been going out for 2 months. And I have a guy friend that asked me to give him a picture of me in my bra, should I? (link)
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Err, no? Why would you even contemplate this.
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