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Ok, my best friend is a guy. I heard from my friend that he has a girlfriend, but he told me he doesn't. I don't know who to believe, and I really wanna believe the guy because I really like him. Let's call him...*Jake* and let's call the girl...*Mary*. So Mary, Jake, and I are all best friends. Mary has been lying to me a lot lately. She's also been trying to steal my guys. Jake and I hang out all the time, and he and I always tell each other "I love you Jake!" and "I love you...*Anne*!" but we both know we're joking. And we're like "wow, you're so hot tonight" and all these random things as if we were going out, but we're not. He and I constantly flirt. When my friends ask him why they won't ask me out (i don't ask them to do this!!) he says he and I are just like the bestbestbestbestbestbest friends in the universe. I know that's true, (the best... friends part) but I don't know how to get it out of him whether he really does like me or not. What should I do? We have all these inside jokes about "loving each other" and "last night was great" (like i said...inside joke...i've never done it or anything) and all these other things. We always give each other hugs and sit on each others laps and I really want to be an item. We will go to the same school next year, but we don't now. WHAT SHOULD I DO????? Please help I rate! And sorry about the length.
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confused best friend!! (link)
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Here's what I think is happening based on what you said. *Mary* is telling you *Jake* has a girlfriend that way you do not go after him. Once *Mary* realizes you have no interest in him anymore, *Mary* will go after *Jake*, and maybe she'll even pull an excuse like "Oh, he and his girlfriend broke up". Don't let *Mary* get in the way of the guy you like, it's obvious with what you said that she's jealous and wants him too! So go for him! Hope this helped :)
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this guy and i are in all of the same classes and everyone says that we flirt and that we need to go out! lately he has always been hanging around me a lot! like there was a chair near some girl but i was sitting somewhere else so he was lying down on the table that was next to me! what should i do? and i was wondering how can i get him to give me a hug? (link)
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Haha! I had the same exact issue! Here's what I do to get random hugs, just say something like, "what's your favorite color?", and he'll say something like "blue", then respond with a "omg you're awesome! you deserve a hug!"! Or maybe stick with a different question, but you get the idea :) Then after that, randomly give him hugs every time you see him!
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Im a 15 male.. and im gothic, is it wierd that i wear black nailpolish? give me some details and convince me if it is.. (link)
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It's your decision to wear it or not. So no it's not weird, its your way of expression yourself.
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I have liked this guy for a LONG time now but not too much has happened between us. I want to be with him romantically and we've fooled around a few times but we act like it never happened the next time we're together. He does things that make me believe he likes me back but I can never be sure. What should I do? I really want to be with him.
16 years old
Female
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What I suggest is simply talking to him. Call him, or have him meet you somewhere. Then sit down and ask him to tell you the honest truth, whether he likes you or not. It's the only way to ever be certain on his emotions! Good luck!
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I met this guy last summer at a resort, and I fell in love with him! Both of us had fun all week. We had a bond fire played basketball and alot more.At the end of the week we both had to go home, ( and he lives in a different state)so I figured I would see him again next year. I've talked to him all year on the internet and the phone and ect. When ever I talk to him it always sounds like he likes me and when we say good bye on the internet he types " Bye bye kiss kiss" Now I have had my friends ask him if he likes me and he wont answer them. I even asked him if he liked me. He did not answer me back. What does it meen when he didnt answer me back? Should I talk to him about it and tell him how I feel? and Do you think that he likes me?
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Well if he doesn't answer to the question, then most likely he does like you. If you feel the same way towards him, then maybe he'd feel more comfortable if you expressed your feelings for him first. So give it a shot!
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I really really like someone but i dont think that they would go out with me so .. what am i supposed to do ? i really wanna tell him but he likes other people..? (link)
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There's nothing much you can do if he doesn't like you back. But on the other hand, you just THINK he doesn't like you. Who knows, maybe he does! So I suggest you should go make your move on him, before he makes his move on someone else. Here's a quote i go by:
"You may regret what you do, but you'll regret what you DON'T do so much more"
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Hi, I've had this crush on this guy for almost 3/4's of this school year now. It started out in the beginning of the year that he hated me, but now it seems as if he might like me. Sometimes he sends me signals, while sometimes he still acts like he hates me. I am very confused, and not ready to make the jump of asking him cause if I am mistaken, It would ruin any friendship existence and just cause utter chaos *not worth it*. So PLEASE help *begs* (link)
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Half the time a person acts is due to them supressing contradicting emotions. For example, a girl might treat a boy horribly because she doesn't want to admit she likes him, same with the other way. He might actually like you, but is covering it up with hatred. My advice would be to try and go for it. Here's a quote that I love..
"You'll regret what you may do now, but you'll regret what you don't do so much more"
If you don't feel comfortable asking him yourself, why not try having one of your friends, or one of his friends ask him for you? It'll save you from being embarrased if that's what you're worried about. There's nothing to be ashamed of though, it's all part of the risk of love.
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See, I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me . I don't want to ask him because, he's really proud and he can sometimes be a jerk . He's never been a jerk to me though, but one of my friends asked him if he liked me , and he supposedly called me ugly which lead to no . I have tried to get over him and at times I think I'm over him . So when I pay him no attention it's like he's paying me attention, and I totally get pulled back into liking maybe loving him because this has been going on for a year . Do you think maybe I have a chance with this guy . Do you think that I or maybe he is playing a game ? What should I do? PLEASE HELP ME BECAUSE IF I THINK ABOUT THIS ANY LONGER , I AM GOING TO DO SOMETHING REALLY, REALLY STUPID . (link)
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If he is a jerk then do you really think he's worth it? If he called you ugly then do you think he's good at heart? If you answered yes to both of these questions then go for it. But if I were you then I'd definitely not take that risk of getting hurt.
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Ok, so I am a girl, and I used to hang out with this guy I know. He was really nice, and we are interested in exactly the same things- computers and fantasy. He's a lot older than I am, and not many people his age like those things- they're mostly into makeup, boys, etc. Since he's so much older than I am, it never occured to me that we could be an item- but then one day, he made the love sign to me behind his back! I tried to ask him about it, but it was a total disaster and I probably embarassed him a lot. He denied it, but I think he does like me. What should I do? (link)
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If you're sure he likes you, and if you like him back, then give him a talk. Tell him that you like him a lot, and you know he likes you back. He's probably embarrased because he thinks you don't like him back. If you do like him then maybe it would make him a little more comfortablet open up if you make the first move in telling him you like him.
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This boy at school likes me and I know that soon he will tell me his emotions. But like.. I really (will kinda secretly) hate him and am like ewww at him... what do I do?
confused in love (link)
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Well, once he tells you he likes you, just tell him that you're not interested in him. It's better to end this before it even starts.
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i like this boy in my class and thar is this outhe girl that likes hem to but i like hem more he sead that he did not like her but she still wont leave hem a lone he sead he wood reather go out with me then her but not this year what dew i dew when i now he likes me but he wont tack to me i haft to tack to hem and we have a lot in komen but he still wont lisean even thoe he likes me what do i do.
Sinded love is heard (link)
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Is this typed in like some foreign language or something?..
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Well, the category isn't actually right. He was more than just my boyfriend, he was a really good friend. And today, he moved and transferred schools. He said he still wanted to go out with me, but it will just be so hard. I may get to see him on the weekends and stuff like that, and we'll e-mail eachother, of course. But it will be hard not being able to see him everyday as usual. So, do you think we should break up? Because I know for a fact that other guys like me and want to go out with me...What do I do? (link)
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If you love him, then you can wait 5 days for 2 days of time with him. My friend sees her boyfriend only once a week yet they're completely in love. So just because you can't see him everyday shouldn't affect the relationship *TOO* much.
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I'm in high school. Guy #1, "DJ", is a real sweetheart. He asked me to a dance. He can make me laugh and he's not hard to talk to. Guy #2, "TJ", shares many of the same interests that I have. He and I can talk for hours without ever really getting anything accomplished. We spend most of our time laughing. I like both DJ and TJ, but I am not an assertive person. I am very afraid of rejection, and also that if I "made a move" that either of theim wouldn't be my friend anymore.
What is your advice for this situation? (link)
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Seems like you have a better connection with TJ. So just see how TJ feels about you, ask him how he feels. Then try to make a move on him, maybe something like going to the movies. Something little and see how he reacts to those little moments of solitude with you. If it doesn't work out then do the same with DJ.
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I have been friends with this guy for 6 years ever since i was 9 as we got older things started to change i started to like him for more than a friend. he is the guy that when i see him i always feel better i haved some major medical problems and afterwards he always cheers me up but latly he hasen't been comming to his moms house that much so i don't get to see him but once a month i don't know what to do? (link)
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There's nothing you can do if he doesn't come to his mom's house much. Maybe you can talk on the phone (if you have his number) or online (if you have his screen name/email address) and just keep in contact.
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I told my friends and family that I was thinking of becoming a lesbian and they just laughed. What do i do to make them believe me? (link)
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You're thinking of *becoming* lesbian? You can't just *become* homosexual/heterosexual at will. Maybe thats why they're not believing you.
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I know this guy lets call him CTW and i told me friend to call him she did and she told him i liked him... i do. and i don't know him that well but i'm in 7th grade and he rode my bus in 5th grade he's been at a couple partys and i think he's really nice. There is only one thing, i think he has some brain problems cause my friend said he is dangerous and he spazes out and hurts people while he spazes like on purpose but uncontolably he is going to sit at our lunch table when he is unsuspended for punching this kid but He would never purposly hurt someone. I know he will go out with me i just am not sure. can someone help me? (link)
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Unless you really like him A LOT, you shouldn't put yourself in potential danger. If he might hurt you, then I don't think it would be a good idea to go out with him, because think about what might happen if you two break up and he spazzes out about it?
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I have a friend that is a boy. His name is Marco and he is really nice. We e-mail each other, and I sit in back of him in language arts and social studies. I really would like to hang out with him, but I don't want to tell him that. WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
desprate 4 help (link)
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Why are you holding back on telling him you want to hang out? What's the worst that could happen? Just talk to him in class, and try to develop a strong friendship. That'll lead you two to start 'hanging out'.
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okay, this guy likes me (im pretty sure) and i want him to ask me out, but hes too shy, obviously, so how do i get him to ask me out soon? (link)
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You can't get HIM to ask you out without verbally telling him. Maybe.. you should ask HIM out instead.
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Ok. So, I'm sort of interested in an ex of mine. It's been a long time since we dated, and he has a girlfriend now. But, we're starting to talk again. I mean, I don't plan on trying to break him and his girlfriend up or anything. But, I find myself liking him again. And, I want to keep talking to him, and become good friends. And maybe something more will come out of it. Is this a bad idea? Thanks. (link)
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It's not a bad idea at all. A lot of people fall for their ex again. Just stay close to him, as a friend. Then if he and his girlfriend break up then try again.
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WOW... I am only 16 and my ex (for now) saying we are getting bak together very soon.. back to point today we had unprotected sex and like he went all the way what the possibilties of me getting pregnant? hes 19 and hes says hes in love with me and he will never leave me (like a permant basis) and like there is this girl thathe asked out and like she sed no but hes saying hell never ask her out again.. what should i do (link)
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First of all.. unprotected sex = a nono. Unless you plan on having children. As for the girl, you should take his word on it, if he does love you then he won't cheat on you. But then again.. isn't he your ex? That gets a bit confusing there..
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