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14/female

i have asked plenty of guys out in the past, but they all turned me down. i'm surely not ugly. i'm skinny (average skinny) and i look pretty anyway without make-up. and i have really pretty hair too. and i have a lot of friends and a lot of people have told me i have a great personality.

the thing is, i'm tired of being turned down. i want a guy (that i like) ask me out. and i'm actually not very picky about the guys i like. don't get me wrong, guys notice me when i pass them, i just don't know why they're so afaid to ask me out.

what do you think i'm doing wrong? and/or should i just be patient a little bit longer?
and what are some tips i might need to get a guy?

i'm tired of walking through the halls at school and watching people be happy and hugging and making-out. i feel like an outsider looking in. i want to part of the happiness.

thanks. :]

well, there is the possibility that you're jumping into a committment too quickly. guys are idiots. they're afraid of that.

maybe just work on becoming friends with them first, then slowly get them to like you.

you say you catch their attention when you walk by. well the thing is, here's some advice you'll use for the rest of your life: if a guy wants to get with you, that doesn't mean he likes you.

remember, slowly build up to a relationship. start as friends!!

hope i helped =)

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Whenever I like a guy, I feel nervous around him and feel it hard to talk calmly with him. In our computers class, i sit next to this reallynice guy, but I'm afraid to just talk to him. I don't want to be rejected or seem desperate. In fact, i don't even want him to know that i'm interested, because then i'm afraid that he'll be weirded out.

sweetie, you're not gonna get anywhere if you don't let him know you're interested! maybe break the ice? ask him for help with something, or ask if you can borrow his pencil. i mean, you don't have to just come out and say, "you're a babe. i love you."

small talk always works.

hope i helped =)

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okay so i am 5 ft 2 in and i am skinny with shoulder length blonde hair and im popular but i have only been asked out by 1 guy, last year. i dont know if guys dont like me or what but i am getting angry! i have a good personality and tons of friends and i am friends with lots of guys but none of them apparently like me more then a friend. how do i get guys to like me?!

a lot of girls have this problem, don't worry.
maybe you're just giving off more friendly vibes rather than romantic vibes? try and flirt a little more, it'll help.

also, if you're popular, then there is the possibility that the guys are scared of rejection. i mean, popularity can be intimidating.

flirt flirt flirt!!

i hope i helped =)

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i made out with my boyfriend last weekend for the first time and then i heard this girl using the term "french kissing"...is there any difference?

thanks in advance =]

french kissing is when you use your tongue.

hope i helped =)

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Hey i like this guy and i think he likes me too how do tell him i like if im nervous about him not liking me back?

well, you'll never know how he feels unless you open up first [because guys are idiots. they never make a good first move]. don't be nervous! if he doesn't like you that much, remember: friends are forever, boys are whatever. you've still got your buds.

hope i helped :]

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hey i talk to this guy everyday for like 2 hours and were only best friends and im not sure if i should ask him to homecoming or not?

go for it unless... [a] he has a girlfriend, [b] you know he doesn't like you or [c] you already have a boyfriend.

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hey i like this boy that i really shouldnt because like most of my friends hate him,what do i do

well if you really like him, then i guess it doesn't matter what your friends think. but if you care more about your friends, i think you should talk to them about it and tell them how you feel. if they still give you a hard time, then just do everything behind their backs, if you want to avoid drama.

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Well here's the deal. I'm going out with a guy that I don't really want to be going out with. I only said yes because I know he really likes me but I just don't like him. I like his best friend. But his best friend has a girlfriend...but he likes me back. So I really don't know what to do. I don't know how to dump him but still be friends? Please someone...HELP.

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Wow. That could totally be a plot fo a Gossip Girl book [just kidding]. Well here's what you should do: You need to break up with your boyfriend, because it's really unfair to lead him on. Then you should talk to his friend and ask him if he likes you or his girlfriend better. If he picks you, then tell him you're willing to go out with him ONLY if he breaks up with his girl. If he picks her, just say, "That's fine with me," and look for someone new. Who knows, maybe you'll finally fall for the guy you're with right now. But if you and your bf just don't have The Spark, then tell him you really want to be friends with him and you hope all of this didn't get in the way of your potential friendship.

Hope that helped!

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Okay. Well I have alot of guys that like me. I like a few of them, some more then others. This has always happened to me. Always. Guys like me, I like them, nothing happens. As soon as i find out that a guy likes me, I become distant. I dont want to be hurt again. I dont. I want a boyfriend, but I just cant seem to get one. I am afraid. How do I keep myself from distanting myself and keep the guys interested because they seem to think that I am not when I am. So how do I get the guys to know that I like them, without telling them, and how do I keep myself from becoming distant? Anything would help. Thanks.

honey, you're not gonna get anywhere if you keep distancing yourself. nobody wants to get hurt because of a guy, but you have to take chances. if you find someone who you really like, make it clear to them that you like them! you should flirt with them, and make plans with them a lot, until they get the picture. and hopefully, if they're smart enough, they'll ask you out.

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okay so theres this boy and i REALLY LOVE him..im only 13 and people tell me i dont really know what love is but like love isnt a maybe thing right..? yeah.. you know if you love someone and i do love him but he used to act like he liked me but now he doesnt anymore it it makes me really sad..i feel like im not good enough but all my friends tell me im to good for him..( but hey their suppose to right? ) i think another part is hes 2 grades ahead of me..but he also is my neighbor and were kinda friends i guess but i want to tell him hwo i feel but i dont know if he will feel the same and it would make things akward..so what should i do? please help

Okay, so I know exactly how it feels when people tell you that you're "too young to be in love". It can get pretty frustrating. But remember: never, EVER think that you aren't good enough for him, because it can really bring down your self esteem. Plus, it's not even true. Your friends are right! When a boy I was in love with started giving me the cold shoulder, I used to sit in my room for hours at a time and just cry. I don't want that to happen to you. Don't be upset about it, just try to shake it off by smiling about it. It can be hard, but you should try it. And if you really want to be with him, try to flirt with him a little. Touch his arm when you talk to him, look at him meaningfully when he says something to you, stuff like that... but if he rejects you, it will definately become awkward. But don't let that stop you if it's the only thing you're worried about. If he says he doesn't like you, wait a week or two before getting too close to him again. And if he says he likes you, congrats! But, I have just one more warning for you: Dating a guy two grades ahead of you can give you a lot of pressure, and remember not to do anything you're not ready for.

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