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i don't know what to do anymore...
14/female
i have asked plenty of guys out in the past, but they all turned me down. i'm surely not ugly. i'm skinny (average skinny) and i look pretty anyway without make-up. and i have really pretty hair too. and i have a lot of friends and a lot of people have told me i have a great personality.
the thing is, i'm tired of being turned down. i want a guy (that i like) ask me out. and i'm actually not very picky about the guys i like. don't get me wrong, guys notice me when i pass them, i just don't know why they're so afaid to ask me out.
what do you think i'm doing wrong? and/or should i just be patient a little bit longer?
and what are some tips i might need to get a guy?
i'm tired of walking through the halls at school and watching people be happy and hugging and making-out. i feel like an outsider looking in. i want to part of the happiness.
thanks. :]
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most boys have low self esteem and are intimaded easily. theyre probably a little scared to ask you out if your really pretty and are always wit your friends. asking a lot of people out would make you look desperate, so i think you should stop that. boys like confidant girls. if you have so many friends, concentrate on that! you dont need a guy, that take up most of your time and they brake your heart. if you hang in there a little longer, not seeming intrested in anyone (stopping flirting and asking them out) then im sure the right guy will notice you and ask you out after hes sure your not desperate. not being picky is okay, but it means your settling for less. if you like all these guys the same, then after you brake up with one of them youll go out with another one and youll seem like a slut. so wait for the one who you like more then all the other guys, and then flirt with him but make sure its after a while so that he dosent think hes just another boy your after. sorry for being so harsh good luck!
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i don't think you're doing anything wrong at all. it's the guys, they're always weird like that. usually guys are the ones who make the moves, ask the girls out and whatnot, so whenever you go up to them and ask them out ; that may freak them out that you have confidence. also, the guys might be intimidated by you. if you have pretty hair and a pretty face and are skinny, maybe the guys just don't feel like they measure up to you, or maybe they're afraid you'll turn THEM down.
and to those guys who turned you down ; it's going to happen. sometimes personalities just don't match, and even though you're pretty and have pretty hair, there just might have not been a connection. i mean i don't think I'M that bad looking either, but i can't seem to snag a guy that has the same interests as me, or we just didn't mesh well together.
i know you want to be liek one of those people, believe me, all girls do, but you're only 14. you have all the time in the world. just don't make it your top priority, you know? hang out with your friends, flirt with guys, have fun, live life, just be a teenager. and who knows? if you keep meeting guys and flirt with them and show interest, one of them might ask you out sometime. :]
some tips? just be yourself, i know that sounds corny, but it's true. just show them the real you, crack jokes, flirt a little more and more everytime you see them, and make alot of direct eye-contact and smile. and get to know them better ; people like talking about themselves, so ask him questions about himself, and listen. :]
don't worry, a guy'll come along.
i hope i helped!
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well, there is the possibility that you're jumping into a committment too quickly. guys are idiots. they're afraid of that.
maybe just work on becoming friends with them first, then slowly get them to like you.
you say you catch their attention when you walk by. well the thing is, here's some advice you'll use for the rest of your life: if a guy wants to get with you, that doesn't mean he likes you.
remember, slowly build up to a relationship. start as friends!!
hope i helped =)
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