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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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Hey,
Your boyfriend is going through a grieving process. Mentally he thinks he is fine but emotionally your boyfriend is still grieving. As a person who loves him I think its' great that your supporting him but I think you have to prepare yourself to give him space. You guys can take a break until he is emotionally ready to be a relationship with you. The decision is all yours but its really hard to be in love triangle when one person is dead. Your bf must have loved his past gf a great deal and might have gotten into a new relationship too quick. It's not that your not great because you are. Ultimately, this what your bf needs to deal with and you be there for him but don't forget about yourself!
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About a year ago, a guy and myself (a girl) were partners in a class for an entire year and we got along really well. He is a really good friend of one of my best friends and is genuinely a nice sweet guy. He is or was dating a girl who absolutely hates me. This hatred started last year and still lasts now. We are still partners in the same class and today when I walked over to the computer to help him, he blushed and was more awkward then usual and his friends started messing with him. I also make sure he does good in the class because I understand it well. In addition to this, two of my friends and one of his friends think that I like him and he feels the same. Today, he said that he does not have a girl friend and today the girl was really upset. Also, one of our mutual friends said that he liked me last year and I said that he didn't and she insisted he did, but then she started changing the subject. Any opinions on what I should do next? Does he like me or am I just overthinking? (link)
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First, do you have any feelings for him? This can go either way. As a girl myself, I get the "over thinking syndrome". The best way to find out if he likes you, is to just ask him. I know terrifying! But you have to ask yourself are willing to find out? Because once you ask him, things will change. He could say yes which puts you on the spot and than you have to give him an answer. Or he can say no, and then there's an awkward moment. So, I think you should figure out how you feel about him. If you want to know just for the sake of knowing, I think you should leave it in the dark, until he says something. But, if you want to know because you like him, than ask him. If you don't have guts for that, go to one of his close friends that you know and ask for some investigation. In the end, guys are pretty simple, if he likes or not, he will let you know clearly.
Good luck!
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I truly loved a girl name preethi she lives in Coimbatore im Arun maheedhar in same area because of her situation and completion of her parents she left me we both doin masters in Coimbatore the day of her proposal is Nov 8 th around 7.30 in the evening then our life was awesome for few days like upto Dec 30 th the same year 2013 I was last seen her at Dec 30 th 2013 evening I dropped her in a market place and I left with tears and my tears still not stopped today april 6th 1.14 am I was feeling very sad abt the memories I tried to erase her memories but I can't I tried many things but only fail remains in love in carrer in life only her memories left with me now I want to die with that same memory but I don't want any resurrection after this life it's enough I'm now not fit for my life. Her birthday is April 9th so on that day I pray for her life for last time and I want to die with those memories please tell a way for a quick painless death (link)
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NO! You should NOT resort to killing yourself! I refuse to give you advice on painless death. Losing someone you love is hard and I have no idea what your going through. But you have to think about what this would do to the people you leave behind!! Imagine what she would think. She would never forgive yourself! Use the memories of her to keeping on living. You never know you might be reunited again! If you truly love her like you say you would NEVER think about doing this, this is not a last act of love, your being selfish and taking the easy way out. She would want to you live your life. Death IS NOT A SOLUTION!
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So my bf & I met when we were both 18 & got together a couple months later. I had cheated on my previous bf with him, but I felt so bad about that I told the very next day (we just kissed,& it turns out to be my current bf's first kiss), & when I told him he asked why. After my first boyfriend & I broke up after 3 months on & off. Less than a month after we'd been broken up, I started dating the guy I cheated with-who turns out to be my steady bf since late 2010. I took his virginity in January 2011, & all was well for a while. Then he started lying over stupid things (where he was, that he had to go home, who he was with-said he was with his friend Kyle, but he was with a girl he "used" to like,& talk shit on me)..or "forgetting" to tell me things, & making the same promises over and over. It doesn't help that he never seems sincere & using uses a sarcastic or mocking tone, & usually extremely critical of me. I do love him so much,& he's my first,& we have had a lot of good times, but I don't know what to do anymore. Help please?? (link)
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So kudos on coming clean to boyfriend. It seems that ever subce you guys have reach that high level intimacy that he feels that he doesn't need to try. You guys have been together a long time and it seems that since he knows you well enough that he is acting the way he is because he knows your not going to do something. Your relationship has already dramatically changed. Him being critical, mocking and being overly sarcastic is proof of that. I understand he's your first and you love him, but you have to ask yourself are you really okay being with someone treating you the way he is? Honestly answer, and if its no I think its time to move on. You owe it to yourself to find your perfect match. But if you think its a rough patch your going through, openinly communicate and tell him what your thinking and where your coming from. Communication is always the best in relationship. Whatever you decide just to do what's best for you and sometimes that means letting go of people you love. I hope this helps and good luck!
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So my bf & I met when we were both 18 & got together a couple months later. I had cheated on my previous bf with him, but I felt so bad about that I told the very next day (we just kissed,& it turns out to be my current bf's first kiss), & when I told him he asked why. After my first boyfriend & I broke up after 3 months on & off. Less than a month after we'd been broken up, I started dating the guy I cheated with-who turns out to be my steady bf since late 2010. I took his virginity in January 2011, & all was well for a while. Then he started lying over stupid things (where he was, that he had to go home, who he was with-said he was with his friend Kyle, but he was with a girl he "used" to like,& talk shit on me)..or "forgetting" to tell me things, & making the same promises over and over. It doesn't help that he never seems sincere & using uses a sarcastic or mocking tone, & usually extremely critical of me. I do love him so much,& he's my first,& we have had a lot of good times, but I don't know what to do anymore. Help please?? (link)
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So kudos on coming clean to boyfriend. It seems that ever subce you guys have reach that high level intimacy that he feels that he doesn't need to try. You guys have been together a long time and it seems that since he knows you well enough that he is acting the way he is because he knows your not going to do something. Your relationship has already dramatically changed. Him being critical, mocking and being overly sarcastic is proof of that. I understand he's your first and you love him, but you have to ask yourself are you really okay being with someone treating you the way he is? Honestly answer, and if its no I think its time to move on. You owe it to yourself to find your perfect match. But if you think its a rough patch your going through, openinly communicate and tell him what your thinking and where your coming from. Communication is always the best in relationship. Whatever you decide just to do what's best for you and sometimes that means letting go of people you love. I hope this helps and good luck!
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My boyfriend hangs out with his friends everyday and he doesn't care if his friends go on his phone.. Well his friends always text me and it's annoying. I don't even know if I'm texting him most of the time. Should I talk to him about it? (link)
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Hey there,
Yes, please talk to him about this. If you don't know if your texting your bf, this is a problem. What if you think its him and its not him, and your sharing something personal. For your privacy, and your relationship, its an issue that needs to be discussed. Just bring it up to him casually, and explain to him where you coming from and how your feeling. Does bf know his friends are texting you? You should ask him. Communication is the key here. The sooner the better, you'll already annoyed. You shouldn't let this go on any further. Good luck!
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So a bunch of the guys in my middle school (we're all in 8th grade) keep calliing me a slut for the clothes I wear. I've only even gone out with a guy in 6th grade, and I've never even held hands with any boy! But when I call them out on it and tell them to stop, they say I'm always acting b-tchy like this and I don't know how to handle a joke, and that O'm too ugly to be a whore anyway, or 'Thats why you don't have a boyfriend'. It just really pisses me off. additional info- 13, female: I have depression, and my three best friends are all in relationships (two are guys, they both call me a slut, too). and we went out one weekend all as friends (no boyfriends or girlfriends) and the other day I said, 'we should all do that again sometime!' And they laughed at me and said, 'yeah right! we don't want to hang out with you! we're replacing you with -one of the guy's girlfriends'. It just makes me very sad, and I want to kill myself a lot because of this. :( how do I tell them to stop? (link)
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Hey there!
First, please i beg you don't hurt yourself over this. I'm way out of the middle school, but let me tell you 8th grades guys are bunch immature idiots. I know its hard at your age, but don't listen to them. Do you believe your slut? Obviously you don't. THAT'S the truth, and when they say stuff like that roll your eyes and walk away. They want you to confront them, but if you walk away they don't have any power, now do they? Also, I advise you talk to your school counselor on your depression, or some authoritative figure about this. For your best friends, maybe consider hanging out with different people for awhile, and maybe focus on yourself a little bit. Real friends shouldn't put you down like that. This won't necessarily stop them, but it can maybe help you deal with this situation. I know it sucks, but you can get through this, I know you can. I hope this help. If you need any more advice, please don't be afraid to ask and if these things keep going on, please let someone know! Good luck, i'm rotting for you.!
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I'm kind of confused... I was at an all night fundraiser for my Band and Color guard. Since I was in both i did 2 1/2 hours with band and the rest of the time with guard (It was from 6 to Midnight)Color guard performed for the band our winter guard show and then we were aloud to stay up ALL NIGHT. So (I'm 13 and a girl, i was an 8th grade when this all happened) and one of the Sophomores (he's now a Junior) asked me if i was going to stay up. I said "Heck yeah!" and he looked at me and said "The 8th grader is going to stay up?" He asked, I told him I would show him and i walked away.(He's cute and I'm not using names so I'll going to use all of the people's first initial) So i was kind of hanging around jumping from group to group of students. When i saw this group of group of guys on the floor playing cards. I kind of knew them so i decided to go over there. I sat sown and I realized 'Z' (The guy i mention above)was watching. So a short amount of time later he decided to actually play. He gave us all some M&M's and I found out one of the guys 'J' liked Egyptology like I do. So we started talking about it and I got up to show him something on the computer right next to our group and for some reason 'Z' followed us. He did this again when i got up to show 'J' something again. So then our Band director turned off the light because some students were already sleeping and the rest where watching a movie, so we took the cards and a blanket out into the hall and sat down. We sat in a cube formation (I sat with my back against the wall, J sat next to me, another guy sat making the other side. My friend C sat next to him, the Z sat opposite to me and then E sat across from the other guy) The guys were trying to explain a game to me but i couldn't grasp it, and playfully 'Z' said "Wow S you're really slow!" and immediately 'Z' said "Yeah! Well she is way more mature than you are!" and C said something about it right after that and 'Z' defended me again just like he did before!(I had told him earlier that night that i was really mature for my age)and we started plying a game. 'E' was lying on his stomach and explaining the games while shuffling the cards (Keep in mind I am the only girl with 5 guys)and I looked up and 'Z' started mimicking 'E' with his hand and mouth and kept eye contact with me.I started laughing and he did,keeping eye contact. After a while I went back into the Band room and 'Z' and 'J' followed me. The next morning It was cold and i couldn't find my jacket (I was in a tank top)to go get breakfast and 'E' gave me his. I came back inside after doing so and 'Z' looked at me weird and confused. I felt like i had to explain why i had 'E's jacket. Now this happened a few weeks ago. We where having our pop's concert and I was walking around (I didn't want to get in my dress yet) and 'Z' randomly goes "Shouldn't you go get in your costume?" I forgot what we said after that though. At a Pre-Festival concert i went to for band I was kind of upset with 'Z'(he called me something mean, but not that bad.I think he was teasing.We were on a bus) and i sunk down into my seat, on my phone and i randomly hear "S, S!" I sat up and saw him and he asked "Are you dead?" I said yes and turned around. On a us to Competition i had fallen asleep and when i woke up on the way back when we got back to the school 'Z' said to me in a baby voice "Wakey Wakey!" because since i was 1 of the 8th graders i was like a baby. I have NO idea if he likes me or not and I don't know if I like him or not. I might. I need help! He's about 2-3 years older than me so please don't say He's to old or I'm to young. I just need help. I'd also like advice on how to get closer to him when I'm kind of shy. Please help! (link)
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Wow this is a lot :) Okay, from the situations you've describe its pretty obvious he is interested. He's going out of his way to mess with you and hang out, so you have his attention. For the age difference, I can't really decide that for you, because it depends on whether you like him or not. You said yourself you don't know. So answer these questions: does he make you nervous? do you get anxious or excited when you go near or talk to him? do you find yourself laughing and smiling a lot when your around him? if the answer is yes to all of those questions than you like him. I think you owe to yourself to find out where this can go, and try focus and making a connection with him and forget about the age differences for now. I know you said your shy around him. Well if you have the same mutual friends, go out in a group and make it super casual that way your relax and so is he. During your hang out, make sure you talk to him one on one so he knows your interested, again make it casual. For his number, after the
group hang, just say "hey i had really great time tonight/day, we should hangout again. Do you have my number?" Again super casual, this way there's no pressure on you to get his number. Also, totally not weird. Don't let your nerves get the best of you, take a deep breath and just do it. Good luck! ^^
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i decided to try to let go to say to my self i need better i will get better but for some reason i feel like i still need him to say he picks her i need to hear it i feel like if i dont i wont be able to move on iv been avoiding him and its been working he did talk to me yesterday a bit well he tried to i dont know if i should go up to him and ask i dont want to do that but if i have to i will i just want things to go away he acts like it never happened i want to do that but i cant truthfully i dont know he can my friend said i should just wait and if it happens again tell him right there and then that i cant do that with him anymore i dont know what to do i dont want to go up to him i just want to wait to see if it happens again but i feel like if it happens again i wont be able to say no ill tell him and hes just going to say he needs time and were going to end up kissing again =-( i just have no idea what to do (link)
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Wow, its gets more complicated. You need to do what's best for you. If you you need to hear that confirmation then you should, but at some point you're gonna have to cut yourself off. Its hard I know but all of this back and forth and thinking of what if, and maybes isn't helping you. Its keeping you in the same place. You wanna get out, it'll be good for you. So the ball's in your court and the truth is you can keep going on with this and finally learn to let it go. Good luck and tell me and how it all works out!! Oh, you have my support:D
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I fell for my best friend which is not good how do I get over him? I know they say there is no way but there has to be he was my best friend we talked about everything and nothing we were so close yes I kind always had a thing for him but I could deal with it before he even went out with my friend me and her don't talk any more but it don't matter I'm not all that I don't think i'm cute but I don't think i'm ugly I say I'm okay even if I never had a boyfriend I'm big not. Huge but still big well I like him I thought he liked me cause he kissed me even though he has a girlfriend and well after that day he stopped talking to. Me after days passed it happened again this time I went for the kiss he pulled away he left I cried and then I left we were all drinking we were drinking the first time he kissed me both times we were drinking so I left he followed he said sorry and I told him to stay away he said he wasn't going to leave when I went back in I went to the room laid down with my friend and told her what happened I started to cry again he came in asked to talk to me in the bathroom we went in he told me to take care of my friend and myself I asked him why did he do that to me does he think i'm ugly he said he was sorry and that I was preety. I started to cry and asked why not me does he even love his girlfreind he said he doesn't even know then he started kissing me I kissed back he even got hard while we were kissing I saw his dick which was weird we did nothing but kissed nothing more he wanted to but I won't do that yet I told him he had to pick me or her he said he couldn't not yet he needed a week turns out he also kissed my friend just thought I should put that in it wAs before we did anything anyway the next day it was like it
never happened we were at his familys birthday party he took. His girlfriend he looked at me a bit but then they all left I was okay with it well I thought I was I sAw him a bit he just stared that's all I hAven't seen him or talked to him seen the funny part is that he lives upstairs from me you see I live in building and I can't live like this it kills me how do I get over him I have to get over him so please help me ???????? (link)
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Falling for your guy best friend it happens all the time. I see that he's going to stay with his girlfiend and keeping coming to you because he knows how you feel. You need to be the one to end it. Let me tell you right now, it is going to hurt you so much, because you'll tell yourself that he can change. But he won't, guys are greedy and want two girls fighting for their attention. MAKE IT VERY CLEAR that you won't be the other girl. Start focusing on other things, hanging with new ppl anything to distract yourself. Keeping telling yourself your better off without him and it will actually start happening. I know he's your best friend but you deserve so much better.Hang in there girl,time heals all broken hearts. Good luck :D
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thing is that i like this guy who recently told me he still has feelings for his ex. yet he always seems to act like he likes me? i mean he told me that yesterday he looked for me during the whole break (which is 30 minutes long), he always aks me where i am and talks to me whenever he sees me. he often asks me where i am in the break and looks for me. and when we walk together he always touches my arm etc. and when he sits next to me he always sits as close to me as he can. i mean i was convinced that he likes me until he told me he likes is ex. i dont want to be his second choice but i reeaally like him sooo much (link)
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I bet he is as confused as you are. I have a feeling he likes you too. I'm guess his afraid of these strong feelings for you. He still get over a relationship, so you need to give him time. However, continue with your flirting and make him comfortable around. Your not his second choice, he's just stuck and does not know what to do. I'm guessing he just not ready to jump into another relationship. DON'T GIVE UP!! He's not shutting you out or messing around. He doesn't understand
it enough to let you in yet. Hang tough and trying asking him again straight out. Try saying: I like you and you act like you have feelings for me. So tell me the truth because I'm not going to be your second choice. Or something like that. Just be confident and stay positive.
Good Luck :D
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16/f/UK.
So I started college a couple weeks ago, & there's a guy I really like there. Basically I want to get his attention but I'm not sure how to do it.
The first day I met him I sat down opposite him in a class & as we didn't know anyone around us, we worked together. He was really friendly & smiled at me a lot, & I noticed him looking over at me a lot.
We had a few classes together, & I'd catch him looking at me a lot. I'd notice him staring at me whenever I walked into a room. Later, we had a class together, & he came & sat near me, even though he already had a really good seat in another room & we were talking and I'd often make him laugh, & when we weren't talking, we'd sometimes make eye contact and smile. He always uses my name & he asked what my last name was & kept checking that he knew how to spell it (I thought this was maybe so he could add me on facebook, but he hasn't). We don't really speak much, but sometimes he does things like poke me on the shoulder, and we smile like we have this understanding.
However, there's this other girl that obviously likes him (I'm pretty sure she said she has a boyfriend but he doesn't go to our college) and she's SO flirty with him, she always sits next to him & whenever something funny happens in class they look over at each other & smile. And now they hang out a lot.
So, what should I do to catch his attention? I'm really shy so find it hard to do the upfront stuff this other girl does. I was wondering if maybe I should do the more mysterious thing so maybe he'd start to notice me instead? But that might not work, so what do you think I should do?
Thanks, x (link)
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#1) don't give up on him. You two obviously have a good connection. I know for sure he's interested in you. He is probabaly trying to figure you out too. This other girl doesn't matter. Focus on how you two react and ask yourself if he is really worth. 2) You have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone. I get it, i'm a litte shy too with boys. But guys like confident but be mysterious too. They love the chase. However, too play too much because they will lose interest. 3) To catch his attention, one day go up and start a conversation. Don't be afraid to make the first move. Maybe when your comofortable ask him for his number or add him on facebook. Just tried to out there and available. Last thing, be yourself. Through the whole process stay true to yourself. You want him liking you for yourself not someoe else. Stay postive and stay in the game.
Good luck :D
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Okay so i can't get this kid out of my head, we had a thing about three months ago. But now its just compleatly over,we're just friends now. But LATELY..out of randomness, those feelings are coming back really strongly for him! The thing is, i usually can TELL when guys like me, i mean i feel like i have a sixth sence with this, i'm really good at judging it XD. So i keep getting vibes he likes me again and is thinking about me too-thats why I'M thinking about HIM. Because all in all he's not really that great now that i think about it, but for some reason he wont stop getting into my head? I keep having thoughts that he HAS to tell me something- but is to scared too. So i'm wondering have you ever felt this way? And if someones thinking about you- do you think about them as well? If you have these kind of feelings- do you think they're right?Can people have this kind of telepathic thought thing with one another or am i just being weird and taking it too far?
PS: This might not count as anything..but whenever i'm on aim i feel like he wants to talk to me and checks my aways and all that. JUST WEIRD FEELINGS! IDK WHY! Oh yeah and one time i fake signed off (went invisible) and right after i did that he signed off...HMM?! HMM!?
Okay thanks :D!
16/f,he's 15/m btw (link)
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You are not weird trust me. I'm have been going through the same thing. I guess have your thing ended their are still some let over feelings that you need to sort out. So i advise you to go for and explore these random feelings. They can could lead to something much better than you had. What's the harm of taking the risk? There is a reason he's always on your mind. You owe to yourself and him to find out. You never know this might be a start of a wonderful new relationship!
Good luck :D
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I'm 15 female, Softmor in high school.
He'll be 18 in a few days, Senior in high school.
I've knowen him for a few years, he's my best friend. Greatest friendship I'd ever had, there's just one small problem I've got a MAJOR crush on him! I'm afraid if I tell him I like him, he'll reject me. I've had ALOT of heart breaks all the same way... I'll tell the guy I like them, He'll say "I'm sorry I don't like you that way. I just wanna be friends." and he'll repeat it every other conversation, and in the end were not friends! I've never had someone crush on me, makes me wonder if it's cause I'm different. At my school, EVERYONE says I'm crazy(some mean good others mean bad), that and I'm the ONLY one even slightly over weight... I wanna tell him Wensday(we'll see each other all day). But should I accutally tell him? Lily (his little sister, i know pretty well) said (& i heard) when she ask'd Seth (aka my crush/best friend) if he likes me, and he said "That's no of your buissness" and looked away with a half-smile... Does that mean he would like me back, he sends mixed signals... Help please?
-Gabriella (link)
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I say go for it. If you don't believe me your gonna to regret. You have every right to tell him your feelings. I'm guessing he likes you too but is sacared to make the first move. SO you are going to have to be brave one and tell him. Even if things don't work out the way you plan. You are going to be proud of yourself. Besides its he's lost and you will find someone better. But i positive that he likes you.Sometimes people play hard to get to make sure that person's feelings are real. So deep breath and take the plunge. Good luck :D
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