I'm not very into making an elaborate profile. So that's why my profiles nothing :)
Well my names Matt, im 15 live in US. (My now ex) girlfriend always talked about going on advicenators and i thought id check it out and from my feed back i seem good at it =)
So just drop me a question whenever you want I'll answer it to the best of my ability.
I specialize in relationship problems, weather it's your bf/gf, best friend, argue with parents ect..
I'm also pretty knowledgeable about girl issues (ex gf lol) so I can answer those too.
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ok this is wierd but i have been with my bf for 4 years. i love him but i am starting to think our relationship is not as strong as it used to be. now we met online in a group for wrestling fans. well in the past year i have been chattin with this one guy and we exchanged phone numbers nd we chat alot and we call each other and swap pix often ... i am starting to feel the same way i did before i moved in with my current bf. like, he anawesome guy and i think i may be falling for him ... but i still love my current bf. whatni wong with me? some one just tell me im insane. what am i feeling and why? (link)
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you are not crazy so do not worry.
When you first get into a relationship it is fun and exciting to be with someone new. As time gets on it grows and grows, but it does get to a point where you become very comfortable with the person you are with. When that happens it's not the same feeling you had when you first went out. You feel safe, and secure with the person. and the times that you have been through build up your relationship together making you closer.
You might not feel the exact same for your current bf as you once did, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. If you feel that you have fallen out of love with him than of course you should break up with him and try to find someone new.
But if you think that you still love him, but you want that same feeling you had years ago try to do some new things together instead of the normal things you would do together.
Ultimately if you still think you like him then talk to him and tell him how you feel, communication is key.
About guy # 2 if you love your current bf like you say i do then i would distance your self from guy # 2 a little bit, because when you get too close to someone of the opposite sex (especially) one you might like it a lot easier for mistakes to happen. IF you don't want to fall for him then just distance yourself a little, not completely.
Hope it helped
16/m
~InsaneChildz~
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my boyfriend and i's one year annivarsary is ina week and im not sure what to get him. i have $70 left to spend. i was thinking about getting him a guitar but i cant find a cheap yet good one. shud i get him that or somethin else? he does concerts and is amazing at many different instruments so i dont wana get him a beginners one. i also wanted to customize it, like write on it or draw since he loves my art but what shud i write? we really love eachother and he goes threw soo much for me just an example, i have had cancer and ben hospitalized so many times for bein psycho and it hurts him so bad as hes ben with me threw it all.. we're both 15 nearly 16 (link)
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Well a guitar is most likely out of the question.
Guitars are hundreds of dollars or more. Also if hes an amazing musician he would have a fairly decent guitar to begin with You don't have to get him something huge, or even anything that costs money. With 1 year anniversary's it is more about the time you have spent together and the sentimental value of what you give him more than the value.
.Maybe get him an accessory like maybe a guitar pick that would remind him of you when he used it.
Or
Maybe burn him cd's of some of his favorite music, or songs that remind him of you, and you could color or decorate the front of the cd to personalize it.
Or
Write him a letter explaining to him how strongly you feel toward him and how much it means to you that hes been there for you through thick and thin and how much you appreciate it.
Those are just some ideas, you could use any combination of them or none.
I hope I helped
16/m
~InsaneChildz~
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i'm having boyfriend troubles. my boyfriend is someone very very very famous, & i miss him because he is always so busy!!!!!!!!!!!! should i break up with him? (link)
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Christopher Drew Is not famous. You should get over him.
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im 16/f
and hes 18/m
ill try to make this as short as possible.
we've been dating for a little over a month.we kinda rushed as you would say, we've been through the sex and i love you stage. and im geting kinda lost. hes on probation, and he has a bad rep of being a man whore sort of. well he gave me his password to change his about me, because i wanted to write it, so i was looking and i found sent messages that he sent girls on those truthboxes, saying, well nasty things, just weeks before we dated, and he was telling girls i love you and all this other things. we've already been through the "your not cheating on me are you" and then people all say hes not good news and i get frustrated and tell him what people are saying. i dont want him to think that i dont trust him, which i actully dont really completely or that i was snooping, which i was. i know i should talk to him but i really care about him, even if we did rush into things. any advice?
thank you sooo much. (link)
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Well this is a very tricky situation because your in a rushed relationship where you have already given yourself to someone and then find out that hes saying things like that to girls days before you go out, but what makes it worse is that he didn't tell you, you found out by snooping and if hes this bad boy you say he is then then he won't be too happy to find out you snooped and found something like that out.
So theres a few ways you can go about this.
Option 1 is not do anything and try to forget what you saw and go back to as if you never saw a thing.
Option 2 is talk to him about what you found. Be truthful! Tell him as you were changing the myspace the you saw some comments that worried you. Assure him that you trust hes not cheating, but you want to know how he feels about you, and other girls. Ask him if he feels rushed into the relationship.
Maybe he has feelings for other girls? Maybe hes a player?
You know him better then i do so you could either ask him about those or find out or trust him.
I know you have feelings for him when it's been such a short time and this is going to be difficult.
If you choose to talk to him you run the risk of him getting angry at you for snooping, and not trusting him. OR You will both talk it out and both get your feelings out there and figure out whats what and get your answer
If you choose to not talk to him then you'll be in a constant state of distrust and your relationship will most likely suffer.
So thats the advice i have, and outcomes i see.
I say talk to him and use option 2 as a guide.
I hope it helps and hope it goes well.
Tell me how it goes.
16/m
~InsaneChildz~
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15/f
So I know no one would remember but I posted a few questions up here a few months ago about this senior in my school who would always look at me but nothing ever happened..BUT we're hanging out this weekend :] and im excited but EXTREMELY nervous. we're both shy people and we have never ever talked in person before or at all for that matter so i'm thinking its going to be very awkward. my friend, who is friends with one of his friends, set us up. we're hanging out at one of his friends house whom i've never talked to (more awkwardness). I just really dont want to screw this up because i dont think i like him since i dont know him but i really want something to happen out of it. anything i could say, do, anything at all to make it fun and not awkward would be a big help! also we'll be drinking but when i drink i tend to get a tad bit slutty and i dont want to give him the wrong idea. i mean i dont mind kissing him although it will be our first time even talking but idk we'll see how it goes. What do I even talk to him about?! I literally know nothing about him. I need major help or else im going to have a panic attack! haha but anything will really help me out. thanks a lot (link)
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Just be yourself and don't do anything you normally wouldn't just to impress him. If you want something to happen that's going to make you happy then you must be yourself.
Second I would suggest you don't drink when you hang out with him for many reasons.
1.Underage.
2.You get slutty and i doubt a senior will stop at just kissing if your intoxicated.
3.He could take advantage of you and you don't even know him, so he could be a rapist for all you know (exaggeration)
You can always hang out with him and have fun while sober, and if he only wants to hang out with you drunk then you know hes only after your body.
So just try to relax, don't get too excited or crazy because your seeing him, and be yourself.
Hope it Helped
16/m
~InsaneChildz~
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14/f.
SORRY FOR THE LONGNESS . BUT PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE .
Okaay . SO this guy named Chris and I have dated twice . I broke up with him first , in grade six , because i wasn't ready for a boyfriend . Then in grade seven , I actually started having feelings for him , and I admitted it to him. He told me the same and we started going out again . I really like(d) him and he was the only boy I'd ever felt that way for . We were in two different classes and on two different lunches too. It was hard to get together because we were both so busy. I was there for him through everything then. I cared about him alot . When he got a suspension because of some lie a girl told , i missed my bus comforting him . I also got presured A LOT that year to break up wtih him becasue he was SUPPOSEDLY flirting with other girls . I really liked him.
But later that year , he broke up with me . It was because we never saw each other anymore. Even though i didn't show it , I was terribly sad and still really liked him A LOT .
Not even my best friends knew I still liked him until grade eight (WHICH IS NOW).
We are now on the same lunches and his class is across from mine. When he broke up with me , he never said he didn't like me . But i never know , he could've moved on . But he's the onlyy boy i've EVER liked and i just can't think of anything else when he's there . He flirts with me , and says I remind him of his girlfriend , and he asked me if i was still going out with my boyfriend (last time i had one , summer 08). He says he misses talking with me and stuff like that ... do you think he still likes me ?
thank youu !
-maycee (link)
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Well since he has a gf your chances are smaller.
Your going to have to find out how much he actually likes his gf, and if he likes you enough to leave her for you.
You say you really like him, and he left you because you never hung out well fix that.
Even if it's as friends and he doesn't know you like him, hang out with him as much as you can, talk to him as much as you can and get closer to him. If he has any feelings left they will start to come out the more you two hang out(either in a group or alone). Once you have proven you can be there for him express you feelings for him and hopefully fate will take it from there.
Hope it Helped
16/m
~InsaneChildz~
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There this boy that i like and ive been liking him for awhile now. He knwos how much i like him and stuff. You see i have this class with him and he would talk to me and be messing around and stuff. And sometimes even flirt, but there this gurl that also likes him and he talks to her. And like at first i thought maybe he might have at least a lil feelings for me since he always flirting with me but then again i dont know. Because he talking to this other gurl and i dont kno if he likes me or if he just doing what he is doing just to play with my emotions im so confuse. (link)
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It sounds that hes flirting with bot of you. I suggest that you talk to him about it. Say your feelings for him, and ask if he might have any for you. If he says that he has feelings for then you have a relationship and all is good.
If he says he does, but he also has feelings for this other girl then you can either give up on him, or win him over and show that your the better girl for him.
Lastly if he says he only sees you as a friend then you can try to change his mind over time flirting more, but if it doesn't work then your probably stuck being friends.
Hope it helped
16/m
~InsaneChildz~
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14/f
So there is this guy I just started noticing. Not actually liking him yet, like I don't get butterflies or anything. We talk sometimes but I want to be his friend. Its just little things about him teasing me or something along those lines. How do I become his friend? Because for one thing I only have a couple of classes with him but I'm usually with my friends, I have to get up and walk past him for him to say something to me. He is on my bus but I'm with my friend and he doesn't talk to me then. I should get the courage to talk to him but if I did I wouldn't be able to have some conversation since its on the bus and I sit with my friend and he sits with his. He has introduced me to one of his friends before. I never talked to them though. The only time he ever does talk to me on the bus is when my friend isn't there that day. What should I do? I can't really talk to him during class either. I'm kinda shy so it will be hard for me to even start a conversation if I even had the chance. Thanks so much! (link)
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Well it seems that your both kinda shy and it seems he might be interested in being friends too, but he wants to talk to you alone not when your with your friends or hes with his. So my suggestion is that during school as you pass him just say a quick hi, or hey and on the bus try to be alone more often then always with your friends. Try to sit a little closer too so when his friends get off you two could talk. You might not like it, but you might need to start the conversation, I know it can be hard but if you want to become friends you need to take the initiative .
Hope it helped
16/m
~InsaneChildz~
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16/f.
ok i kiinda like this kid, and like he always stares at me and like when i get off the bus he will turn around and look at me. its weird. do you think he likes me? by the way.. their isnt anything on my face or anything..haha. i talk to him on the bus sometimes and i dont know how to explain it. do you think he likes me at all? and how do i pursue it? i dont want to ask him to hang out.. because i hardly know him.. but like what do i say, that i wont sound weird? (link)
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It seems he has a crush on you and same goes for you. But your both probably nervous to talk to eachother to hang out outside the bud =.
Next time you go on the bus sit next to or close to him. Just start up a convo on your likes, dislikes ect...
And on the next Thursday or Friday ask him if hes excited for the weekend and if he has no plans ask him if he'd like to hang out at the mall, park, your house ect.
Lastly if you go to his house make sure your safe, and just be your self!
Hope it helped
15/m
~InsaneChildz~
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hi i'm 16 and a girl, and you seem like you give some good advice.. so here it goessss...
i wanted to have sex with my boyfriend really bad, but he didn't really want to. well, we were at this party [and i'm not the type to get drunk or anything like that, i just don't do that.. i'm not a whore either..] anyway, i go to parties that have drinking, i just don't drink, and some one 'fixed' my drink, and i got really really drunk. i ended up having sex with 4 different guys. and now my boyfriend wont talk to me, and its not my fault. what should i do?? (link)
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Well i can see why he would be mad.
Some reasons he might be mad are
:He could be mad at you because he wanted to be your first (if your a virgin)
Or
:He might not know that it was an accident and that he could think you did it purposefully.
Or
:he could be mad at the fact that you put yourself in that position
Or
:He could be mad bescause just the fact that it was 4 guys. (that's fucking a lot)
Or
:He could be really hurt that you did that, despite the fact the your drink was "fixed"
Idk if hes mad because any of these reasons or all of them, but hes definitely mad.
I suggest that you try to talk to him. If he keeps ignoring you just keep being persistent until you talk to him and explain everything.
And if he refuses to forgive you then i suggest you move on to someone else.
P.S. I would highly suggest taking a pregnancy test, and also go to a free clinic and get tested for any STD's
Hope it helped
15/m
~InsaneChildz~
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Me and My girlfriend were like absolutly inlove. And we went out for 5 months. I cannot get her out of my head or get over her. I never thought I could be so inlove and Im the one that gave up. I need her back and she told me shed be waiting if I ever changed my mind. And I did. And shes not there. I dont want her back I NEEEEEED her back. I know that sounds pathetic but I find myself depressed everyday. There was something holding us back, But Id rather have to deal with that then not have her in my life forever. I always thought shed be the depressed one but shes doing just fine. I really messed up I need her, I told her that and she just laughs it off as a joke. What could I do I messed up really bad. Thanks. (link)
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hey sorry i can't really understand what your trying to say here. What i think your saying is that
you told your girlfriend this "I need her back and she told me shed be waiting if I ever changed my mind. And I did. And shes not there. I dont want her back I NEEEEEED her back. I know that sounds pathetic but I find myself depressed everyday. There was something holding us back, But Id rather have to deal with that then not have her in my life forever. I always thought shed be the depressed one but shes doing just fine. I really messed up I need her," and she laughed at it off as if it were stupid or meaningless. Please message me back if i am right or wrong and i will answer accordingly.
Sorry =/
~IsaneChildz
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So i havent talked to u in a while. I guess my girlfriend decided to get an abortion. It was really hard on me to watch her, Be in that much pain. I feel so bad. And wouldnt suggest abortions to anyone lol. thanks man for your help along the way. (link)
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Im the kid whose girlfriend got an abortion. :/ I was wondering is it okay if we had sex again. Or is it not like okay for her "down there"? (link)
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Well Physically you should wait 2-4 weeks or untill she feels fully recovered ,but i don't know if she would be ready for it again after what happened. She might still be torn up about it emotionally so talk to her about it and this time if you decide to have sex make sure you got protection
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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sorry if this ends up being long..
a couple months ago, i met this guy at my friend's party. we talked a lot while we were there, and texted and talked on the phone and over myspace a lot. then we started hanging out. we'd kiss and make out and whatever, but i didn't want to go farther, because i've only known him for like a month and a half, and we weren't together. then we were hung out on the fourth of july and kissed, and were just cute together. then the next day i looked at his myspace, and he was with someone. i was so hurt, because by the things he said to me, i really thought we would go somewhere. now, he kind of did have a reputation as a "player" but it really didn't seem like he was. now he's still with this girl, but he texts me all the time, and tells me he loves me, and gets mad when i don't say it back. we're hanging out tomorrow, and i don't want to do anything with him, but i still have really strong feelings. my question is, is he just using me as an in between girl, of do you think he has real feelings for me?
any advice on what to do in this situation would really help,
thanks.
i'm 15/female. (link)
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First off make sure he actually is dating someone. Myspace isn't the most reliable source of info. Ask him straight up.
If he is don't do anything with him
*you can hang out just not kissing and stuff*
Try to hang out and get to know him better, and if he tries to make a move tell him you don't want to be his in between girl.
If hes single, pounce on that =].
Hope it helped
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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me and my boyfriend are gonna go on a picnic together this weekend we are both 19 and i was wondering wat kind of things would be good to bring to eat? (link)
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Pack your favorite sandwiches (one of you favorite one of his)
Lemonade,or another drink you both enjoy.
Maybe some of your favorite fruits n veggies.
And you favorite desserts.
Pretty much whatever you guys both really enjoy.
I hope you guys have a great romantic weekend
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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okay so recently me and my friend started dicking around and we pranked called this one Guy. And told him my name was Taylor. And then we started texting, and as pathetic as this seems, we became really good friends. Like i can tell him anyyything.And i really like him. He just thinks Im some girl name Taylor. Wev been talking for over three months. Should i tell him the truth? COuld i go to jail. (I live in Colorado if that helps) I just cant imagine loosing him. I need him in my life. But Iv been feeling too guilty lately. Do you think theres a small chance he would forgive me and love me back. (Were just friends, but I kinda wanna be more) How bad do you think it will be if I do tell him. Thanks in advanced. (link)
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Well i think you should tell him before you get deeper into it. It'd be better if he heres it from you and not some other way.
He will be upset (or at least i would(espically if he likes you))
But if you just be completely honest with him it'd be the best because your guilt will go away and you might actually be able to start something with him.
And no you cant go jail. Maybe get a warning for prank calling but that was 3 months ago so don't worry.
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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ok lets call him jake & letd call her ella
ok i liked jake ever since i met him but i would never admit it but than he changed schools and 2 years after i found his ms & than he finally liked me & we went out but than i broke up with him cuz i liek this other boy lest call him andrew and he said i had a chance to go tou with him than he found otu abotu jake and got pissed and was liek you told me you liek me but than he has other moree moree girls that like him i know becuase all hsi commetns are form girls nad they all say i lvoe you so much ..but he got pissed at me and i ahven talked to andrew fro 2 months than i stareted talked ot eachother again..it wasnt what i expected cuase we got itn a fight and i ahvent talked to him ever since i broke up with him so it was 4 months and than after liek a month after he strted calling my stupid and making fun of me...& now he likes my friend and i told him i like him and he told me who he likes
ok i will comment the rest bc ther is more (link)
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well when you post it ill try and awnser what your question is.
My only request is that you fix up your English a tad. Instead of leik hsi tuo moree ahvnt lvoe ect..
So it's easier like his to more havnt love ect..
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14/m
i have a big problem here. im going into highschool this year and i havent had a girlfriend in such a long time. the last time i had a girlfriend was back in december and it was a girl in a lower grade then me. and i have lots of friends and everything and i guess im popular. ive mad friends with pretty much all the attractive girls. and if i would ask any of them out they all say "were too good of friends" and dont even give me a chance. it makes me so frustrated. i think they are lying to me and just saying that as an excuse. ive tried changing myself so they will like me but it doesnt work. i think its because im fat. i think im fat. i just want to know why none of my friends will date me?? it makes me so sad and it makes me want to give up (link)
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I know what your going through except that i didn't really have ANY friends that were girls/ not popular.
It doesn't matter weather you have a girlfriend or not. You don't need one.
Your honestly better off being friends with your friends because your going to have friends forever but a girlfriend will last a few months, maybe years if your lucky. Don't try to change yourself to get someone to like you. A real relationship that you want is one where you can be yourself and the person likes you for yourself.
Trust me you will be so much happier when you know the person likes you for you, and not just what your showing them.
About being fat, well thats up for you to judge.
If you think you are do something about it, cut back on sweets, do some exercise, eat some fruits n veggies.
Some friends could not like you like that and are just being nice, or some just do feel that way. (because many times when good friends go out they end up disliking each other after break up)
Don't give up you will eventually find someone but your only 14, you got a long road ahead to find a girlfriend/wife.
Hope it helped
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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I’m a senior in aerospace engineering and my boyfriend just graduated then started his masters degree work in ocean engineering. We’ve been dating for almost a year now and I love him... but he’s boring as hell. We spend time together, but we do almost nothing during that time (well, except at night...). It’s hard to get him to participate in intellectual conversation; I much prefer bouncing ideas off of other friends, or even people at Mensa gatherings whom I’ve never before met. It’s nearly impossible to get him to do anything active; I live to swim at the beach, ride my bike, rock climb, etc., but it seems that the most active thing he does is walk to and from campus. When we’re together, we mostly just play cards or watch bad movies.
Also, I’ve been away for most of the summer. I was in China on an engineering tour for a month, then I spent a week at home, and I’ve spent the past couple months in Chicago. The distance has made me more frustrated with him, partially since I can have much better long-distance conversations with other male friends than with him. Also, my time at the Chicago Pride Parade and the Dyke March tested my faithfulness to him (I stayed faithful, but, in the presence of so many beautiful women, I really didn’t want to).
So, in short, he’s boring. I don’t know if I want to stay with the man I love, start looking for a man or woman who can make my life more interesting, or just be single. This might be an age thing (I’m eighteen and he’s twenty-two), so it is possible that I won’t be bored as easily in a few years.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
-L (18, female) (link)
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I think that your personalities are just too different. Your adventurous, fun, exciting, willing to try new things, out going.
He seems to be just boring, dull and not very exciting.
I think you should move on because in the long run you want someone who can participate in the things you enjoy. (or at least some of them)
It is good for both people to have things they do on there own away from their significant other so you don't feel smothered.
But when it's all on your own it's like your not even in a relationship.
I think you need to find somebody up to your speed. and him someone his speed.
Your going 80 mph and he is going 20mph it just won't work.
Hope it helped.
~InsaneChildz~
15/m
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I've known this guy for 2 years now. He just graduated and is leaving at the end of this summer for school. When I first met him I was crazy for him but he never made a move on me until last summer, when I was dating someone else. Well now I'm single, and I don't know if we still have anything. He saw me from a distance the other night and came running over to me and gave me a big hug because we hadn't seen each other since school got out. I still like him, but I don't know if I should bother. I mean, he's gonna be gone soon anyways. (link)
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I don't think you should do it. If you get attached and then he goes and leaves you then you'll just have your heart broken.
BUT
If hes going to a college near you (In state college) then i say give it a shot.
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