Hey im a pretty nice person who needs alot of help im a little messy with my life so it could be polished a bit but i love to help people and im pretty good with advice so im told so yea..
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Age: 15
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14/female
i like one of my guy best friends. were kind of fake flirting all the time (like you know just kidding around) and our friends are always teasing us, saying were going out, we like each other, etc.
Today my friend got pissed at me, and told him I really liked him (I know trust me she is so dead). Once he mentioned this to me, I desperetly tried to cover. Saying this is what they always do and stuff. Im not sure how sucessful this was, since it was only like an hour or so ago, but he was kind of acting weird to me on the computer. Before I found out about this, we were discussing who he likes. He said no one and he swore on one of my friend's lives. Because of this, Im pretty sure he doesnt like me. I want to know whether it is worth telling him how I feel, even if it means I might lose him, one of my best friends, in the process. Any advice on what to do would help. I give a lot of fives! (link)
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It really does depend..is it killing you inside to let him no? i no thats how i feel but i think he does no so yea...if it is i think you should risk it if not? think about it a little more
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17/f... When I was 14 I dated a guy Branden for 2 years (until I was 16/ he was 17) and when we broke up it ended REALLY BADLY! (other than that the only relationships I have had have lasted for like maybe 2 weeks...)And that relationship pretty much scared me (he was my FIRST EVERYTHING!) and now I am afraid of getting hurt, by anyone. I have a boyfriend now that I have been with for almost a month and he tells me that he loves me and I have really really strong feelings for him but i dont know why but I just cant bring myself to tell him how I really feel because I'm so afraid of getting hurt. How can I just let loose and tell him how I fell? B/C I'm also afraid that if I dont tell him I will loose him for not telling him...
Sorry It's so long... I WILL rate high for reasonable answers... Thanks... (link)
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Well you have to take risks to learn and sometimes you fall hard but you just have to pick yourself up again yea the bruises will hurt and eventually go away but the cuts take a while you have to give it some time...
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Heyy! :]
well i sorta have a problem..and i feel super bad about it..
well you see my cousin hangs out with some pretty cute people..and there is this kid named ben..well she is like he is the hottest kid on this planet! and i was like nahhh you always say that about people! but then i saw him one time with her and i was like holy shit lol he is pretty hott! and well we saw him a couple more times after that but this weekend me my cousin my cousins other friend and this ben kid and his girlfriend :[ and this other kid named nick hungout! well i think im starting to like ben..or i dont know if its just that im really attracted to him! i feel super bad i dont know why..i dont know what to do because he has a girlfriend and she is sooo nice! i just met her this weekend and now everytime me my cousin and ben hangout his girlfriend katie is most likely gonna be there. i know im not gonna try to break them up--they have been goin out for like 5 months now i guess! i just dont know what to do..i cant make these feelings go away but i dont want to stop hanging out with him you know? its just i find it weird..i hardly ever have feelings for someone and now i doo..and he has a girlfriend. i DOUBT like that they will ever break up. i just dont know what to do i have badluck with guys..and my cousins friend was flirtin with him when we were all hangin out and his girlfriend was gettin mad (obviously) haha but yeahh! soo i have such an urge to try and get his attention but i know that wont ever happen because he has a girlfriend! i just dont know anymore..! and when i saw them kissin and like huggin i was like goddddd lol this sucks! what do you think i should do? i cant tell him or his girlfriend or my cousin--she will tell. and its kinda weird since i just met him!!
well i'll rate 5 if anyone can help me with this!
thank you soo much
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I also agree make really good friends with him try to look around for other people too..you never no right? just hang out with them and try not to think about it ask your cousin if she nows anyone else whos hot and sweet! lol
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Alright so hate to bug you guys with this problem because im sure you see it alot but i help people with theres so now its my turn to get some help.
there was one guy brad who i made out with while this other guy nate was in florida. nate and i tell each other we love each other but we were nothing offical when i made out with brad. ok. so me and nate are kinda crazy bout each other. and i havent spoken to brad after i made out with him. he just never called me.
thursday night nate calls me and we talk for about 3 hours. he asks me out. i say yes. we were suppossed to hang friday and he said hed call me round 8. he never called. i call his house round 11 his mom says hes sleeping and that shed tell him i called. i never get a call back. i call his house round 2 30 and his dad says he went out. since then, ive been doing everythign in my power to get in touch with him. he blocked me online for some reason and when i finally got in touch with him im like are you mad at me? and hes like no its nothing personal ill call you later though im at the mall. yeah um so how is this not personal?
question- why would he be doing this? how do i talk to him if im being avioded? should i end it or see if he can change it around? should i ignore back? HELP!!! (link)
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WEll confront him about it and say hey why are you avioding me do you like me or not? i dont see how we can have a relationship if your gonna be like this..then if all goes wrong get with nate....btw is wrong to cheat...i have done it before i swear it just about killed me inside i felt so bad and i told my boyfriend fortunatly he really liked me...anyways if all goes well then i guess tell nate that since he's in florida we should have a little break at least for a while so we can see people around us
but yea sounds like this nate guy is using you
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I've know this kid Nick sinse elementary school and we ended up liking eachother and going out in 6th grade (which was last year)then we broke up. Now I'm in 7th and we kinda drifted away but I saw him at a party the other night and now I really like him all over again. I told him that and he likes me too! But he thinks I'll end up breaking up with him again, so I wanna prove to him that I really do like him. Any tips for school tomorrow?? (link)
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OMG no!!! dont have sex with him...JEEZUS your only in 7th grade..that is so wrong please do not do that he will think your a slut!...ohkay act like yourself around him and give him alot of attention and flirt with him you actually try tellling him that it will be different maybe hell give you another chance...and be a flirty
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Okay so me and this guy just started going out and I was wondering guys what your girlfriends do that make you want them. Like I want him to want me. Like things that will drive him crazy.. I hope that makes sense. Lol. Thanks thho for any ideas. Girls if you know what im talking about what do you do to get your boyfriends all excited and crazy over you? Thanks. (link)
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hmm idk things that might drive him crazy...lol give a little well...dont be a slut or anything or a complete retarded desperate girl...but maybe show some flirtatious ness...like idk be playful guys like that....lol but only most guys it depends what type of guy you have? but like the other girl said e yourself hell love you for that...thats the number one thing that drives him crazy
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Hi! im a girl and i'm 17 ..well my sitiation its that my bf and i had a big fight and we broke up.. I LOVE HIM ..but he seems he he doesnt care.. y talked to him and he said we are just friends.. sohuld I quit talking to Him?..and i also dont want go out becauase im sad..i quit eating asnd all that stuff... what can i doo!? (link)
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Im sure you guys will figure out the problem..dont stop talking to him all hope of getting together again will be lost and you always be broken..dont let him close the door on you..at least not this way at least work things out, im sure if you give it a little time and maybe tell him your feelings everything ill be fine
Tawny
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My friend is in the middle of situation between 3 girls he likes. All 3 of the girls like him too. I tried helping him last night and had nothing to tell him because i don't know what to do. One is his ex-girlfriend, and they broke up because she had to go out of state for college, and the other 2, i'm not too sure how he met them. But maybe one of you can help me help him. He's confused and i want to help him out.
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I think he should stay with his ex as long as shes done with colledge and ready to commit with him it seemed like they broke up for a reason that wasnt bad so yea tell him to go fro whatever one he thinks is right..considering personality ...
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Hello people!
Here it is, I like this guy named Max. He seems to like me too, he went to see my play, he went to school for me and we went to play pool. Sounds like your typical puppylove right? Wrong! Now he is neglecting me. He dissed me last monday to meet "his friend". Yeah I don't believe him...And now from being really sweet to like not talking to me anymore...
I haven't done anything to make him loose intrest..has he lost all fellings, is there no hope left? Help!
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Maybe he is one of those guys who listen to there friends..gosh i hate that.. do you no any of his friends that you havent had a good backround with? maybe he's heard something..but im sure it will go away in time. And also just becasue he didnt want to hang out with you once doesnt mean he is neglecting you maybe he really did have to meet his friend.. maybe he is embarrased of who he is friends with and soent want you to think hes weird, maybe you need to start talking to him, start conversations with him..he could be testing you to see if you like him too...maybe you werent meant to be..the possailities are endless just keep trying a little longer and if you feel then later if you feel that way maybe its time to move on
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Hey, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months and we just recently have becoming open with each other and talking about our past relationships and what we have done with people, and i'll admit i hav hookedup wit a decent amount of people..and whenever i mention a guys name he asked me if i have hookedup wit them..and i keep telling him what happened and i think he gets uncomfortable..so when he asks if ive' hooked up wit a guy next time i mention a guys name, shud i just say no or tell him truth, i do think honesty is the best policy but it seems to be making him more upset..so what shud i do? (link)
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Hey i would keep telling him i mean he nows hes not the first one. if he cant handle the truth then thats his problem but make sure you reassure him that he's your boyfriend now and your not gonna cheat on him or do anything that he doesnt want you to..like make him feel comfortable with you
hope you feel better
-tawny
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ok there is a guy i like a whole lot who i flirt with but i dont know if he really likes me back or is just havin fun i want to tell him i like him and find out how he feels but i dont want us to have to act totally different just because i told him i like him.i always end up falling for guys to hard and to fast and i always get hurt when i fall for friends and everything always changes but i dont want to happen this time. im really worried if i say the wrong thing everything will change but if he feels the same i want him to know how i feel?!?! im so confused right now!! someone please help!! i rate well! (link)
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I think you should confront him and tell him how you feel im sure everything willbe fine, although about the falling to hard and fast thing try not to get your hopes up to high set low standards ang gradually work up that ways you wont be to hurt next time also guys usually like to be confronted and told so i would definatly tell him but even if he doesntlike you then just tell him that you still want to be friends but dont want that awkwardness and ask him if he could just froget the whole thing if not then i also agree with the person above it just simply wasnt mean to be
hope i helped
-Tawny
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20/F.
So.
I have kind of a unique situation on my hands.
I’ve always thought that people who looked to the internet to find love were pathetic. However, I think it may be happening to me.
I’m not really sure how this happened but two years ago I started talking to this guy on the internet. I didn't think much of it at first as we would only have short, uninteresting conversations and he lives 30 hours away from me.
However, for the past seven months, we’ve been talking at least once a day. We’ve never met, but we can talk for hours about nothing. We have a really great connection and he is probably one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever talked to.
He sent me flowers on valentines day and if I’m not online when he’s about to go to bed, he’ll call me just to say goodnight. For the past month or so he’s even been saying “I love you”, and recently I’ve found myself saying it back.
I know this may seem weird to some of you, but I really like this guy. A lot. We’ve seen each other on web cam many times, so I know he’s actually who he says he is.
Sometime this summer, I’m going to visit my cousin and he happens to live within two hours from her house. We plan on meeting then to see where we stand after we can physically see each other. We’ve talked about this a lot and we both would like to further our ‘relationship’.
My only problem with this entire situation is that I’m slightly hesitant to meet him. Not because I’m worried about the risks that come with meeting people from the internet, but because I find that our ‘relationship’ is moving too fast. He has the next year planned out for us, as far as visits and whatnot, and we haven’t even met yet! Every time I try to tell him that we should maybe meet first before we start planning when we can see each other again, he gets defensive and accuses me of not believing that we’ll like each other. He makes me feel guilty about it because even though I see myself as realistic, he sees me as doubtful.
Oh, and . . .
Please don’t preach to me about being wary of meeting people from the internet. I’m old enough to make my own decisions, don’t bother trying to change my mind. I know there are risks, but I trust him completely. However, just to be safe, we both plan on having someone else there with us when we meet for the first time. (link)
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As long as you no for sure its safe go for it but ONLY if you no its safe which im sure you do, uhmm he seems like a prefect match although you should confront him on his defensive ness just so you guys have a completely awesome start when you meet..but make sure that this is really what you want to do.
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theres this boy and i like him and i want to talk to him but dont know what to talk about what should i talk about to him???? I rate 5's (link)
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Idk if i may be much of a help but i totally have the same problem..and it sucks becasue we have dead silences..but i found out one thing that wokrs it to find something bot of you have in common..hmm does he like to 2-wheel? every guy does.. hmm snowboarding ..try sports skaeboarding guitar? hobbies maybe if he doe splay guitar just to spend time with him you could ask if he could teach you? and if he's shy also just keep bringing up things and ask him how his lifes going if he says nothing joke about it and tell him "Oh come on you have nothing going on in your life?" something like that or if you guys get an awkward silence..dont be nervous and say it out loud like a joke be like" wow this is awkward" and then you guys will end up laughing so yea just be yourself and try not to be nervous
hope i helped
-Tawny
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my boyfriend proposed to me last week... and i want to say yes ... but something doesnt seem right...
Like there are times when if we dissagree on a subject he will yell and scream ... even if he's completley wrong ...
Hes alaways accusing me of being unfaithful... and I never would do anything like that ...
if i don't want to have sex somehow he always guilts me into it ...
and he's even hit me a few times ...
I just want to know how i can bring these up to him without making him angry ... because i do love him ... im just sligltly bothered by these things ...
Katie (link)
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You are 17!! dont throw your life away you have colledge to go to! i would certainly say No..i no this sounds crazy to you but he doesnt treat you right at all he pressures you into sex he hits you thats abuse and later in life you will have huge problems with this guy, he is making you feel bad about yourself so you can do whatever he wants like your his slave and i no you love him and it hurts but i would seriously find another guy..who nows im not saying this will happen but if you were to get pregnant and married and you decide you dont like him becasue he hits you then its gonna hard to divorce with all the money problems you will have plus you really should go to school..im sure your a beautiful, smart, sweet, caring girl who definalty doesnt deserve this. you are only 17 dont follow what he wants for you because you think you love him and you may..but do what you want. acheive your life dreams and goals its all right in front of you all you have to do is walk away from the one whos making it all worse..i no that this is difficult but i strongly reccomend that!!
please listen to this advice for you!
love Tawny
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well im having boy trouble... and the thing is its the third year i had a crush on him and never done anything about it we flirted ALOT like he use to hit me n i use to hit him (yea kindergarden stuff)and then wen we seen each other in the hallway we use to look into each others eyes and just stare till one of us bumpz into sumthin or something/someone interrupts.... but then this year its changed my best friend got his number "4 me" but it was really 4 her b/c she used it all the time.... but then she started likeing him and it hurted me cuz basicaly everyday she use to talk about him 2 me and it really hurted me and him use to talk just a little bit and then it all changed we stoped talking wen i see him i still look @ him n its like he looks right past me and this year i found out he use to like me and theres a chance that he still prob does because today i was walking to class n i see him and he said hold up hold up hold up and he walks torwadz me n says hey wats up i dont answer him because kno he wants to talk to me after i been invisible to him and he touches me and i get butterflyz n i look in his eyez and then i walk away....kno i find out that my bestfriends because is talking to him and i dont like it because i think i really like him... and not to sound mean or nothing but her because isnt all that pretty but maybe im just jelous basicaly im asking what should i do should i leave him alone, try and talk to him like he tryed today or what?
thank you 4reading this i kno its long srry.... (link)
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Hmm well maybe you waited a little too long and now someone else has moved in by now..but you can still get him..so when he talks to you id say go fro it ya no start talking to him usually girls have to do everything, you should start up the whole flirting ordeal if you can. I no ive been repetative but you really need to talk to him because hes gonna slip right past you and it may be too late but do something about it now while you can..its ohkay everyone gets a little jelous actually alot of jelous especially me sometimes..
hope i helped a little -Tawny
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I know everyone gets sick of these guy questions, but I'm in desperate need of help here.
Anyway, I like this guy. He's wonderful. We're becoming kinda-sorta friends. I've got a few dilemmas here, though.
Number one? He's shy and quiet by nature. I never know if he wants to talk to me, but is too shy... or if he doesn't want to talk to me at all. We don't get many chances to talk to begin with as he is in none of my classes. I've hung out with him before, so we do know each other. I get to talk to him online, usually (on AIM or Myspace). And he won't start conversations with me then! I'm on his top 8 (he has a few hundred friends), and I know it sounds dorky, but I thought I'd throw it in.
My other problem? I'm jealous of a friend of ours (who's a girl) because I think he might like her. She has the advantage, as she is actually in classes with him and has been friends with him longer. She would never go out with him, because she has a bf and she wouldn't ever do that to me (and she doesn't like him that way).
I was thinking about telling him, but I don't know... any advice? Also, what should I do about my jealousy? Thanks!
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Wow this has definatly me tied into it all over i feel the exact same way, uhmm i really dont no what to tell you because i have pretty much the same problem..but maybe it would comfort you becasue i no how you feel, heres maybe a hint of advice...just keepy talking to him because maybe he is shy but in case hes not and this happens what could be the worst that happens? maybe he wont like you but at least you'll be able to find out and get over him..but hey not saying that will happen this can totally go the other way and from the way things look im sure they will so just keep talking!!
hope i helped a little..maybe you even helped me! haha
Tawny
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So, of course, I like this boy. Let's call him..Jack. Okay so I like Jack. And well we're friends and all. I think my friend might be asking him if he likes me or soemthing, but normally when friends ask the buy always you know, they're too embarassed and such, and normally won't answer. I was just wondering if it'd be better for me and him if I asked. If so, what should I say? (link)
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WEll if you think that would be alot better fro you guys..then go for it! ask him tell him your feelings just get it out there and try not to be nervous if it goes as planned you'll wind up one happy camper! haha hopefully, if not theres plenty of other guys out there im sure one will come your way soon..but if ya dont get it out now its gonna kill ya to no.. hope i helped!
Tawny
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My ex called today to say “happy easter”. We dated for 4 months, he dumped me, and it’s been 3 months since the breakup. We go to school together, have lockers next to each other, and have the same friends, but somehow we’ve managed to ignore each other. We were at the same small party last night, and he smiled at me a few times across the room, but I thought it was just coincidence. Why did he call? He has a new gf, but I think they might have broken up. Any insights into what he might be thinking or trying to do would be much appreciated. (link)
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I think he may just want to befriends i think you should watch out for any more hints that he likes you if you really want to no after you think he might if this happens, It depends on how he made you feel when you broke up did he break your heart? or was it like okay i guess thats how its gonna be like you didnt really care? if its number 1 then id say dont go back out for a dickwad like that who dumped you fro another girl, if its number two maybe the relationship wasnt very alive so he thought he'd try another girl who obviously didnt make him happy so he realized he had it good to begin with..then yea i guess id go back fro him...but its all up to you dont let him mistreat you
-Tawny
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I'm 14/f and latly I've been wanting a boyfrined soooooo freaking much, I just want someone to make me laugh, hold me, like me for me, protect me, just a guy to be there for me. It's not like my whole school has a boyfriend or girlfriend there only like err...4 mabye 6 couples that have been dating for a while. Also I'll be attracted to this guy and I can't stop thinking about them then like one day I'm like ew wtf was i thinking liking him. I just don't get why I like a guy one momment and then the next not so much and I want a boyfriend soo bad and it seems like my friends are quite as obsesed as I am with guys and wanting a boyfriend so is this normal? Is there any way I can um.. like try to not have my emotions so strong, not wanting a guy soooo much??
WILL RATE (link)
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Haha Okay well i went through the same thing i actually was pressured into a relationship from my friends becasue i wanted a bf so bad, but let me tell you that its the wrong way to go. i kept telling myself i like this guy because i wanted a bf so bad so i think you should think about this guy before you actually no if you like him or not, uhm id say that its easy to get out these emotions by flirting alot then you may decide its funner to hang witha variety of guys then just one!
-Tawny
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