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O.k. There is this girl,and there is me. We both like the same guy. Im going out with the guy, but, sometimes its like he likes her more. She always flirts with him, and when me and this girl talk its like i want to strangle her sometimes.

I would think that if you told the guy it bothered you, and he really cared about you, then he would stop. You should just ask him if he likes her at all. Maybe there just good friends and he doesn't relize what he's doing to you because that could be the case. Or maybe shes just a flirt. The main thing i would do would be to ask him about it. Hope this helped ♥
jedikt ♥

SO..
im 15/f

me and my cousin always hang out together! she's awesome lOl. but anyways she used to like this one guy and i thought he was cute. well she didnt exactly like him anymore she moved on..but she still thought the kid was hott! and my littler cousin (her brother) is like 13? and he talks to this kid. the kid is in 9th grade and my cuzin is also but im in 10th grade. well i was like OH MY GOSH that kid is really hott! i said that to my cousins. and then my 13 yr old cousin was talking to him on the computer and was like yeah my cousin likes you. and i was like NOO how can i like him? i dont even know him! and then he is like just kidding she just thinks your hott. and he is like who is she? and my cousin told him..but of course he doesnt know me since we go to different schools.. and the kid is like dont know her..never seen her..never heard of her. well this made me feel GREAT. even tho i knew he didnt know who i was. but then anyways this kid is like well next time that she sees me tell her to come up to me and tell her who she is. SO next time i see him what am i suppose to say? hi im the girl that thinks your hott. it will be soo embarassing! and im pretty shy.so that doesnt help. and then later that night my 13 year old cousin was still talking to him and was like yeah my sister (his sister my cousin)thinks your really hott and he is like man whats up with your family..first your cousin and now your sister? whats next your grandpa??! so then i felT SOOOO unblievebly stupid!! now i for sure dont wanna go up to him next time i see him..i will feel so stupid! but then again maybe he will think im cute or something? I DONT KNOW!! i mean i wanna hang out with him or something..or at least try and talk to him..let him know i exist!! but then i only see him at their schools hockey games..and there isnt any going on over break! and my cousin that goes to school with him is really shy too and wont ask to hang out with him..because she doesnt really talk to him either..and i dont wanna talk to him on AIM because im not good with talking on the computer..so please dont suggest that..but yeah so i cant throw a party or anything! ugh this is soo horrible and confusing :( you dont even know..this kid is the funniest..the cutest! and he doesnt even know i exist..all the girls are over him and i guess he is goin to this party that a girl is throwin from his schoool. what do you think i should do!?

SORRY SO LONG!! i really am!
but thanks for answering sweetie
i really appreciate it!

Wowy. Its okay if its long... i got all excited like woahh yess a long one, how fun =)! Well, if your nervous to meet him then maybe go with a best friend, your cousin, etc. Because if im alone with a guy(depending on who) I get really like shy and nontalkative, but when im with a good friend im all normal because I can talk to her too and don't have to be all akward around the guy and be like... sooo(if you know what I mean). When you meet him you dont have to say "I'm the girl you thinks your hott". Just say.."I'm so and so's(your cousins name) cousin/friend". I guess I understand how you feel... I get really nervous if I talk to people online that i've never meet in person before, and then I'm suppost to meet them. And even though you said you didn't want me to tell you to talk to him online... AIM really helps. Its always like 1379 times easier talk to them, tell them something, or say something to someone online rather in person. So you should give it a try because you could probably talk to him eaiser and get to know him better so when you meet in person again or for the 1st time things aren't so werid. I'm sorry if my advice wasn't the answer you were looking for, i tried to understand your question as easy as possible. If you need something more spasific then just ask =). Hope this helps and good luck &hearts.
Kathleen ♥ (jedikt)

hi, im 15 years old and im female. I went out with this guy for over 3 months and then he broke up with me because we didnt hang out "enough". i was devastated. like a couple months past and we went out again, but for like 4 days then he broke up with me again(personal reasons).. its been over like 6 months now and i still cant get over him. i was in love with him, he was definalty my first love. and he has another girlfriend now and he seys hes in love with her, but he sed he still loves me and always will. He's lied to me many of times and hes kind of a jerk, but theres just something holding me back from moving on. I don't know if i should move on or wait for himm??, even if it doesn't work out. I would do anything to get him back.

If you think he's worth waiting on then wait. He might be that kid of guy you'll always be inlove with.. no matter who you're with you always want him, cause I know myself and other people I know have a boy like that. It sounds to me like this guy means a whole lot to you, and your having trouble getting over him. It might not be the best thing, but if I was in this situation I think i would let myself try to love someone new, and just see how it works, but always keep this guy inmind incase he wants you back. Sorry, if that doesn't help or anything. But just try to do what you think is best. Hope this helps and good luck.
♥ Kathleen(jedi)

Hi im Julie. I am 15, and my boyfriend is 18 hee got me pregnent and now im going to have twins , what should I do?

Thats up to you. If you want to have the kids then have them, if not, maybe give them up for apodtion, or get an abortion? I really can't do anything because this is your choice.

I get the whole move your tougue spell your name part. But, how do I start it?

Hmmm... well you have to go in for it I guess? Like a normal kiss at 1st then start to do the whole open mouth thing (you don't "have" to spell your name, just move your tounge around). Or you can just start with open mouthes. Sorry, making out is kind of hard to explain. After you do it more you'll get the hang of it. Hope this helpsss ♥

my boyfriend came over tonight.
my boyfriend is coming tomarow at 7.
he said were going to make out
but hes my first boyfriend
so i ask you what do i do?
i really want to make out with him

that was my question.. but. now i ask . what do i do to make out. where should i put my hands and like i just dont get what to do

For making out... if your standing up, usually you would put your arms over his shoulds & his hands on your waist. Kind of like slow-dancing but you don't have to do it like that. I think if you make out its easier to stand up then be siting down & have to turn your body & neck ... you get the picture. And when you make out you just move your tounge around haha ;` try spelling your name =). I don't blame you for being nervous or worried because theres a 1st for everything. If you do it once its a lot easier the next times because you'll become experianced & get used to it. Good Luck & hope this helped ♥ ♥

my boyfriend came over tonight.
my boyfriend is coming tomarow at 7.
he said were going to make out
but hes my first boyfriend
so i ask you what do i do?
i really want to make out with him

If you like him then go for it. I see how you can be nervous and stuff. If you don't want to makeout then tell him... he should understand. But don't worry- if its your 1st time than you probably should be nervous. Good Luck ♥ ♥ ♥

Theres this boy.. I really like him. Like a lot. He always tells me he likes me, which makes me feel better, but then hes like but i rly rly like her.. meaning another girl :( what could i do to get him to like me more ?

Talk to him a lot & try to hang out. Get to know him better even if you know him already well. Let him see how effing great you can be =). You cant force love but you can become really good friends & hopefully he'll start to like you more than the other girl. The thing i would suggest the most is just be yourself around him ♥ Hope this helps ;` ♥

im 14 years old and there are like no guys that like me i try everything and my friends think i am pretty but gus think im ungly my fireinds are the only one who are nice to me, and there has always been like this tiny tiny spot for one of them in my heart. do u think i should go lesbian? plz give me some help

Wow. Well are your friends lesbians? Because if you start liking girls & you like one of your friends & they're straight they might get creeped out, because I know i would. I don't think i would give up. You don't have to be loved to be straight. It ones more up to you. If it were me then I wouldn't go gay because I just wouldnt & im intrested in men =). So I can just tell you to that you'll really have to think this one over youself. Hope this helps you
Jedi Kt ♥ ♥

Lets see...i really like this guy..and i think he likes me.. hes having this party friday night (tomaorw) and he like wants to make out with me there but like i dont know how and im scared if i dont he'll brake upp with me..hes telling all of his friends too soo. if i dont il be embarressed to be by his friends too.. what do i do ?

Well you probably feel preasured to makeout right? It doesn't matter what other people think- if he cared about you then it wouldn't matter. But if you do want to really makeout & just are scared- then its up to you. Theres a first for everything. Maybe tell him that you've never done it before. But don't do it if you don't want to. Hope this helps ♥ ♥

ok so i think i am getting kinda fat. and my heart is really telling me to be beliemic or anixic. like should i go get help or something? at lunch sometimes i dont bring a lunch, and my friends are like your anixic eat eat, and i cant do it. i weight like 120 something, and i hate it. i mean im 13 years old, and im not pretty, no guys like me.. and it sucks. help me out.

I'm pretty sure thats not fat. Don't be come anorexic or belemic- if you want to loose weight then try eating healthy! Go here if you want :`

http://www.am-i-fat.com/
http://www.diet-i.com/
http://www.nutritionsupport.com.au/

Theres some. You can always google sites too. But its not healthy to become anorexic or belemic. Besides being belemic seems nasty. And i'm sure your being modest... your probably pretty =). Don't worry about guys, there stupid. Well hope this helps ♥

no guys will go out with me because they think im prude, and they all say im pretty, and another reason they wont go out with me is because there always like shes flat! who would go out with her..
can you help with this at all ?

I'm not sure if I can, but thats so shallow. Not going out with someone because they think your prude & flat. Guys are retards... it will never change. Just think- boobs are overrated =). Try letting them know that your not prude, & being flat is okay. Only stupid guys care about it. Sorry this happens to you. Hope this helps
♥ Jedi Kt

I am 12yrs old and my boyfreind broke up with me because he said i was getting dirty as in burping and all that stuff and like 2 weeks a go i let one slip and he broke up with me do you think it was because of his freinds or that because i think it was stupid how about you

Well it depends on what his friends say. He could of been imbarrassed but I think if he liked/loved you then a burped then it wouldn't matter. But I guess guys think thats a turn-off. I do think its stupid though, because like I said, if he really liked you then it wouldn't matter. But it could be what his friends think, too. A lot of guys go on what there friends say. Hope this helps
Jedi [ ♥ ] Katie

Okay...well i was going out with this guy for a LOONNNGGG time...rly long like 2 yrs and then he broke up with me bc of his STUPID macho frends...and i just cant seem to get over it...i rly liked him. any adivce?

Thats a pretty stupid reason for a guy to break up with someone. You said you really liked him- so I don't know if you still like him. If you do, then maybe try talking to him to see if he still likes you, because you said that he broke up with you because his friends. So I'm guessing he didnt break up with you because he doesn't like you... so just try talking to him & maybe geting close to him friendship wise. Hope this helps ♥

Hey! i heard your advice was good & i need help!! 0kay... i really like or maybe even love this boy. i am 12. i dunno if i love him though. He is just so adorable, & sweet and hes just perfect, but my friend is going out with him =( i really want him and i need him! i went out with him before but i broke up with him. i dont know why. it was stupid of me and now i am regretting it. so now he is going out with my friend and they love each other. i dont think they will ever break up, but i need him. anways, if they do brake up i would feel bad to go out with him because it would just be weird because he dumped my friend. i really need help. what should i do! i am scared to tell him that i like him. i think he likes me. i can kinda like tell sometimes. but i dont kno. okay please help me!!

This is hard. You might want to tell him you like him know if you thinks you like him, because if he stops liking you then you could possibly not be with him in a long time. And if he did break up with who he was going out with now(your friend) for you... then you might not be able to do that to your friend. So your in a pickle =) . So just tell him how feel & hope he feels the same. If you need anymore help you can ask more or i.m me at Tainted X0 Lovee. Hope this Helps x3
Jedi [ ♥ ] Katie

Okay, there is this guy. Like in every life..lol well ne way he likes this girl that i have just started becoming friends with. If he ever does ask her out i dont know what will happen..or if she will say yes. what should i do?

First of all, you should ask her if she likes him... or if she would ever go out with him. If your friends with her, & shes friends with you- then she would probably ask you if its okay if she could go out with him (thats what most of my close friends would do). But you can't stop people from going out with each other. Hope this helps

There is a girl I really like, but she likes my friend. And the girl's friend likes me so she won't do anything because she would feel bad. What should I do?

Well you can't blame her for not doing anything because it's like a rule of feminism =), a lot of girls just can't do that to their friends. But I'm sorry to say that you'll either pursuade her into doing stuff & just not leting anyone else know(thats less likey to happen) or just wait for her friend to stop liking you, but that might take awhile. The girl you like might just not like you back & doesn't want to do anything... but maybe she does. Hope this helps
Jedi [ ♥ ] Katie

How do you ..
Kiss
Make out

and anything else guys want

i know this sounds stupid.. but will you help please and thanks

Hmmm ♥
Kissing: Do what you see in movies & shows... pucker your lips & um its kinda self-explanitory. You can always watch in movies/shows/etc. do it ;; cause its kind of hard to explan, just do what you think you should.
Making out: You just like open-mouth kiss with your tounge. Again this one is hard to explain...but try spelling out your name with your tounge =). But after you've done it more than like 2 times you get the hang of it & become more experianced ;).
Some guys (depends on who) like cuddling. When you cuddle you just have to felt something special & just be close. Most guys like flirting so when you flirt you just have to look cute & yeah haha. Hope this helps
♥

There is this guy at my school and i really like him but i found out that he likes another girl. I've known him for a while..but cant get the guts to ask him out. Do you have any advice to help me?

Okay - well are you friends with him? Try being more comfortable around him. Hang out & talk to him online & crap so you can be yourself when your with him. If your not really friends then just talk to him online/phone to try & get to know him more. Be friendly =). Good luck ♥ & hope this helps
Jedi x3

well im in 8th grade and like i went 2 a party and i drank a tad bit but not alot and i told my friends and they wont talk 2 me now wut should i do?¿?

Well- I think thats a tad stupid of your friends but there probably just disapointed & worried that you might do it again. Tell them your sorry & won't do it again (if you won't though). Hope this helps ♥
Jedi

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