Heh first of all, stop being so hard on yourself! :) Don't worry so much about what others think about you, and don't excuse yourself for expressing your true feelings! Though since this is easier said than done, and believe me I know, I'll jump to the next part.

Although I'm sure you're a very attractive girl, it is normal to feel like others don't see you that way, especially if you feel like you're ready to have a boyfriend but are left feeling unwanted.

Put yourself out there! Realise your worth and get on the market. Try to be more sociable at school. Are there any boys you like or are interested in? Even if it's only as friends at first, get to know them!

It's great that you have good friends. Talk to them and let them know how you feel. You need to communicate with the people around you, especially those you can trust. Having people to trust is already a huge blessing, so embrace it and let out your true feelings. The only thing people on advicenators can offer is indeed advice, not a solution. YOU are the only one with power to change your attitude, self, or lifestyle, and if you really want a change, then get cracking!

Maybe you want to make a gameplan, maybe you're still too shy to jump into action and want to start out slow. Either way, the only way to get forward is to start moving.

Try to think and focus on any specific time of day you feel alone. Are there any patterns or is it a constant state of being? Be as honest with yourself as possible. Some self analysis here could probably go a long way. Are you feeling alone during, before or after a particular event? Do you feel most alone when you're at home, at school, where?

Finally, everybody's different and everyone has different needs when it comes to being happy. Each person has to work and take an active approach towards satisfying their own. Get active, make what YOU want, HAPPEN.

Are you envious of others around you who maybe have boyfriends? Of course there is nothing wrong with being single, at all, but if you seek that special bond with someone then look for it. Don't be afraid of boys rejecting you.

Not feeling alone can also come from many sources in your life. Try to keep your mind open and try new things, maybe get involved in new activities or take up a new hobby. Keeping active around other people is sure to take away some of the blues. I feel alone when I'm away from my comfort zones, and my main comfort zone is my boyfriend, who's also my best friend. Lately however, we haven't been able to see each other that often and seeing my friends and watching an uplifting movie really cheers me up.

Feeling alone isn't a constant state which you're going to have to live with. Keep that in mind, and find out what you want and love. You need to have someone you can trust and lean on, and speak to when things get rough. Wanting that isn't unusual, it's human.

P.S. Sorry for being so scattered. Hope to have helped a tad :) You seem like a great girl

Talk to him!!! Again! Communication is almost always the answer.

And if verbal communication doesn't work out for you, try enticing him when things get naughty, tease him, ask him for more.

If you let yourself be comfortable he'll be able to understand your needs more and realise that he doesn't necessarily need to treat you like a hamster.

If you care so much about this guy... why are you letting him go so easily? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying try to keep him with you... but why do you have to break up? You can keep in touch and I think if he really means that much to you and you have faith in the two of you, then you can go with him as soon as feasible. If you believe this guy is the real deal, don't just say goodbye if you can avoid it.

As for the tattoo, only you can decide where you'd feel the most comfortable, tattoos can be a very intimate thing and seeing as an outsider can't know him or you as well as you do, I can't be sure about the quote either.

According to how you want the relationship to go, you can choose anything from "Love means never having to say goodbye" or "To meet again", or something a lot more personal depending on what YOU want to say about him, or what he says about you. I'd probably get it on my hip bone or one side of the pelvis. It's totally your call. You can get help or ideas by googling whatever search term you want to find, http://www.tattoojohnny.com/ sites like this may help :) x

I think I understand how you feel, although I can't be sure. I was in a very similar situation for a while though it may not have been exactly the same.

As for the first part of your question, I've been there. You might have trouble deciding what to do or the next best course of action because of conflicting feelings and not wanting to hurt certain people and of course yourself in the process. It makes perfect sense that you and your new boyfriend haven't been together that long, since you will find that these problems dissolve as time goes by and things fall into place, though there are a few key points you can try working on if you want either relationship to flourish.

Now I'm supposing you would really like to be with your current boyfriend because he's so good and the 'obvious' choice though lingering feelings may conflict.

If you didn't wait sufficient time between boyfriends then it explains the situation further. You clearly still find your ex appealing, although he obviously can't be the 'right' choice, right? Your ex is still appealing to you because you still seek him in certain ways. Maybe now that he's less available to you?

As girls, we're always initially more attracted to the guys which allure us the most rather than those who treat us the best.

You have choices here that only you can make. Do you want to really try to make this new relationship work, or are your loyalties, heart and true desire locked on the other guy? If you haven't got closure yet, this might be the case. I got closure from my ex by doing certain things I now regret. Time has passed and I want to be with my boyfriend more than anything in the world, and I can't believe I got trapped in the cycle of chasing such a violent, rage-prone, selfish person. Though when there are strong feelings involved, everything changes.

Remember time is healing. As time passes, certain things I can't mention here will become clear to you, and certain feelings will resolve. The thing I can definitely advocate is gradual distancing from your ex. I was under the illusion of remaining best friends with my ex and I couldn't see my life without him, and things just broke apart. The reality is, if you make the choice of being with the new guy, you have to go the whole way to get over your ex. It will take time but is worth it. Keep in mind your CURRENT boyfriend is your boyfriend, and will fill in the space your ex had in your life. Dedicate more time to your new boyfriend, though make sure you encourage his freedom. This will both make you seek him more and ensure you don't just jump into anything too fast. Be COMPLETELY open with each other. Tell him your conflicting feelings and how you feel. If his feelings get ahead of him and he starts telling you how much he loves you etc, if he hasn't already, don't panic. Give your feelings time to settle down. You are at a stage in between feelings, and things will get better. The third or fourth week after I split up with my ex was the toughest, and came with the most stupid mistakes.

I know telling yourself your ex can be such a jerk can't change your feelings from him. You need to move on, but can't do it too fast. Your current boyfriend needs to have a lot of patience at this time, make sure he knows this, but consider his situation too. Try to be as selfless as possible, though for now the unusual circumstances call for extra understanding on his behalf.

The solution will be achieved when you 'like' your current boyfriend more than your ex. That isn't yet the case. Don't make your ex inaccessible all of a sudden, though. This might make you long for him as if he were a treat just a tad out of reach.

Take it slow, but get things moving. You can't just rise to the challenge here, you have to rise above it if you want to get over your ex. Be strong. Don't submit to temptations, and fight through wayward thoughts. You can't keep your ex in your life like this until your feelings go away. They will if you help them to. Try to limit direct communication with your ex. Don't try to please him anymore. Don't say things just to please him, and don't do things to please him. You are above him and the fact that he bugs you for attention can be a sign of him knowing that. He wants you because now you're out of his reach, don't give in to him. You are better than this, you just need to realise it yourself and believe it.

If you feel like you need a dose of your ex once in a while, as is common for now, you can exchange a word, or meet up with him and friends, though never alone. Don't put yourself in that situation, no matter how much you may want it for now.

Keep your distance from your ex, and you will notice as days and weeks pass you seek him less and less. Your feelings for your current boyfriend will grow and you will start seeking as you once did your ex. Don't worry though, things will work out.

If it so happens that things with your new boyfriend don't work out, then at least you will have acquired a clear head and can work out the next best course of action without conflicting feelings and worrisome thoughts.

And don't worry about keeping your new boyfriend pleased. Don't mistreat him and consider his feelings at all times, but don't worry about keeping him interested. If he's a keeper, he'll stick around.

Ok so since I'm grateful for all your inputs ... I'll give you my list, and I apologise if it comes off sounding overly superficial or idealised.. but, that's the question really haha

And..I also want to apologise for sounding overly cliche and immature but im sure you all know what I mean :)

Hmmm (in no order of preference):

1.a good listener
2.is 100% honest
3.puts you as a priority over everything
4.can be clingy, but is not obsessive
5.has charm, is collected
6.has a great fashion sense and can look good in anything he wears, but is not mainstream or emo or...well, anything like that
7. has great hair, short but not too short... and doesnt use gel, for doesnt need it
8. is also very hippie and nonchalant and laid back with an air of... supreme cool? (i cant believe i just wrote that)
9.doesnt ever check out any other girl, and doesn't flirt with girls or give them any different treatment to guys
10.is a romantic at heart and loves doing little meaningful gestures, surprises, small and big alike, especially small
11.is a simple, down to earth but also idealistic person
12.is movie-dreamy and sometimes acts like that guy we all wanted as kids
13.can make me laugh
14.has a great sense of humour
15.truly loves me
16.is caring
17.considerate
18.kind
19.patient
20.6"4
21.doesnt matter what I wear or how i look
22.tells me im the most beautiful girl and means it
23.green/brown eyes
24.has the same tastes and very similar character to me
25.treats me well
26.is chivalrous and acts like a gentleman
27.can also be my best girl and guy friend
28.encourages me to spend time with my friends, but secretly wishes i was with him all the time
29.doesnt mind talking about the future and telling me how he envisions it
30.loves adventure and doing daring things
31.loves nature and exploring
32.does not watch porn
33.loves books
34.loves music and has great musical taste
35.loves kids
36.respects me
37.is a good person
38.loves animals
39.is insanely intelligent
40.is slim, but not overbuilt
41.is dark-haired
42.is middle european with either irish or english roots
43.is very artistic and loves writing
44.has a very deep character and emotional range
45.treats you not only as an equal to his guy friends, but above and beyond
46.has an awesome name
47.makes time and goes the extra mile for me
48.doesnt think money is important and doesnt obsess over spending it
49.loves getting little gifts to show he cares
50.has high career ambitions, preferably a doctor or something of the like
51.has charisma and many friends
52.loves his mother and sister and shows it
53.is very intuitive and thoughtful
54.takes care of me
55.loves little tiny things which most guys would find insignificant or wouldnt care for
56.has the same religious beliefs, or lack thereof
57.thinks women are awesome as people
58.has non perverted friends who like me
59.has a darker, dirtier but insanely attractive side
60.is selfless and loves pleasuring me in bed over himself
61.truly prefers when im completely natural and free, rather than primped with heels and layers of make up
62.loves my body exactly the way it is, strongly discourages any alteration to it
63.has a strong opinion but respects my beliefs
64.is very open minded
65. allows me to be 100% comfortable around him even with personal or girly issues
66. plays an instrument, preferably guitar
67.always there when you need him
68. is athletic and practices a sport i also love
69. is willing to swallow his pride for me
70. loves sweeping me off my feet

I can't think of anything else right now, mainly because I don't think anyone can find a guy who fits even half of these... and yeah... I basically went to superman levels on that hahaha

Feel free to answer again or add additional comments for my insanely long criteria:)

Firstly it seems like you've got to find out how you feel about David. Do you want to continue your relationship or not? Or does it depend? And on what? Only you can answer these..

Most likely once you figure these out you'll need to talk to David. And not just another talk that's brushed under the rug or avoided by him, you need to make him realise it is serious. You didn't mention how long you were together with your boyfriend.. that could affect things.
There's no one who could know what's best for you and your boyfriend because no one else is in your relationship or recognises the dynamics of it.

Talk to David, tell him exactly how you feel without sparing the details, notice his reaction, and make a decision. I know it may sound harsh but it's the only way for you to realise what you want =/.

I don't know whether the fact that you mentioned Joey points towards you being torn between the two of them, if you feel like this then you urgently should talk to David so you can start figuring the answers out yourself.

Get back to me if you need more help =]

He may not have credit... =/
Or he might have thought nothing of it..

When you see him next, make eye contact and assess how things are. If he's a good guy friend, what about talking about the situation? It might help if you know exactly what was sent so you wouldn't remain feeling clueless and helpless. :]

Well... it depends on the distance between the family members...
And whether we're talking about romantic love or pure lust.

If it is done consensually by both parties I don't see why two people should have a problem with it. But you can't expect the other members of the family to be ok if they knew...

Basically if you don't have moral issues stopping you then I say go ahead =] we only live once.. and there are far worse sins than extra forms of love.

First of all... an answer on advicenators won't resolve something like this unless you believe in yourself and trust yourself and take action.

I've been almost 6 months with my boyfriend and ditto on the perfect front. I couldn't change him for the better if I tried.

If you really do love him more than you ever have loved anyone, you really shouldn't worry so much. You sound like you know what you're doing and you realise how wrong cheating is. I used to worry about the what if's constantly and my boyfriend told me there are no what if's. We live in this moment here and now, and whatever our world seems like today could change tomorrow. But love doesn't come and go with the wind.. it sticks around. Nothing's just going to happen by itself, it's up to you two to keep up the contact and I know how hard it can be. My boyfriend and I have been through so much to the point of my parents now forbidding us seeing each other.

Obstacles can be overcome. But what's most important is to keep the contact and communication open. Make sure you are on mutual grounds about where you stand in the relationship and see if you can trust each other to not lose touch when away. I've had the same doubts as you but at the end of the day it comes down to believing your love and understanding what he means to you.

Don't worry about the future, it'll be fine if you trust and stick by your love and each other =]

He most probably does want to kiss you if he was giving you those signals..guys are often terrified of girls at the beginning of any potential relationship :]

Ok well not so much terrified as extremely nervous
He's probably scared about what you may think because you two have been best friends.. he doesn't want to ruin the relationship but is more scared of what you'd think.

I'd say talk to him and see if he keeps hinting towards being more than friends. If he does then make sure you show interest and don't be afraid to bite the bullet and tell him how you feel.. guys are often clueless so don't worry about showing signs which most girls would consider obvious signs of affection or attraction.

Bottom line, go for it! It sounds like you have an exciting journey ahead, but remember to keep communication open at all times and everything will be fine :) Talk to him, spend time with him, see how things go and good luck!

AND SMIIILE! =]

Hope to have helped..

Try to figure out who you love more and are ultimately better off with. If that doesn't work, I suggest coin toss. Its a really freaky way of finding out the truth about your feelings. If you like the result or are okay with it, then thats your answer. If you kind of wish you were doing a game of best out of three with the coin, then the other one is your answer.
Hope to have been of help! (=

Hey =)
I suggest trying something new with this guy. Dont give up, if theres something there it wont take long before something happens. You can try something together you havent done yet, go to the movies, take a walk in the park and talk. Make sure he knows how you feel about him.. so make plenty of eye contact and talk a lot. Do little gestures like holding his hand and cuddling up.. that way you'll make sure he feels the same way. DONT BE SHY!

=]]]

Erm, yes, I think so. Why dont you just tell him 'sorry, ive been staring at you lately because you remind me of someone i used to know.' then see how things go from there =)

What a coincidence I was looking at these yesterday and this morning. I went through LOADS of sites but this is the best I found.

Be a Great Kisser! =]
Really good to read!

Enjoy and Good Luck!

Well first of all... try not to worry so much (hard, i know). I guess I would talk to a private doctor, where your information is completely confidential... and take a pregnancy test as soon as you can.

Hope to have helped =/

I'm in my second year of junior college, I'm taking English, pure maths, philosophy A, sociology, french and biology intermediate. There's not much about me I can write here, but I'll probably still end up writing things anyway..basically i just really like nice, non-judgmental people who have a sense of humour.

Im really optimistic, inspired, ambitious, dreamy, crazy, and unpredictable. I try to be non-judgmental, Im v.v open minded, sometimes can be a bit stubborn though. I love being passionate about things and certain people, having really close loving relationships.. living life to the full. I despise authority, believe in nature, adore music, love animals, nonconformist in every sense, unorganised, love adventure. Having fun with friends, playing games like we used to, having long meaningful conversations, building relationships, being able to feel free, being myself... Listening to music when I travel, enjoying nature.. hope to do something I love in the future.. mainly study psychology, maybe journalism, I would really love to do voluntary work in different countries. I really love travelling and..well, I write... Dont know what else to say (=.. ermm hope you're doing swell

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