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i dated this guy last year and i didnt realize how much i cared about him untill we broke up...he cheated on me tho but i still love him and care about him a year later..and we talk but its like once a month because he has a girlfriend now and i dont know if i should try to move on even tho i dont want to or if i should try talking to him about it which ive been trying to do but he wont do anything behind his gfs back or even see any girl with out her being there...idk what to do i still care bout him so much and i want to tell him in person but i cant get him to meet me for like 20 min with out his girl friend there
I think its about time you should move on. Its been a whole year, he has a girlfriend and he cheated on you. How can you love someone who cheated on you? I honestly cant understand that...
If you truly cant move on, then my advice to you is to call him or tell him on AIM, the phone is so much better because nothing can be copied and pasted for others to read. Tell him how you feel and you would live to give him another chance and ask when him and his girlfriend break up, if yall can get together. Good luck girly!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
Kevin1986 here. Everybody please stop asking I like this guy,does he like me? I have no clue. I'd need to know the situation a lot better and I really don't know. Of course,the best thing to do is go up and talk to the guy,instead of asking me,who knows nothing more about the situation than you like him. Also,ladies your cherries can pop through just about any strenous activity. Stop asking me about that. And finally,stop with the What turns guys on. Anything,just show up ok?
AMEN!!! Thank you for setting everyone freaking straight...
how can u tell if ur a good kisser or do sumin bout it if u r kuz i dont want my bf sayin stuff now or after we brake^((i kno this sounds really gay but...))
If you want to know if you are a good kisser, then ask the guy you're kissing!! Boys always ask us how they do, so why cant we? Usually people dont find out if you are good or bad unless you are terrible. *gIgGlEs* Never kiss and tell, so youre boyfriend probably wont be saying anything.
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
i need help...fast!my ex bf is coming to my soccer tournament on sunday.i still really like him. i wanna tell him but i dont know how. i wanna ask if he wants to give us another chance. but i dont know how. please help me. i need to tell him and i reaaaaly wanna get back w/ him.
***I RATE***
First off, I'm not sure how involved with the site you are but everyone is really getting sick of people saying "I RATE" so before someone yells at you incredibly rudly, I wouldnt say that. I'm giving you the heads up and not being mean at all.
Okay, so now about your ex-boyfriend... You still really like him and want to get back together, but he doesnt know this?
My advice to you is to pull him aside before or after the game, I suggest before so he doesnt leave before you see him, and you be straight forward. Trust me, I know its super hard to tell someone you like them still and want to get back together, but you HAVE to do it!! Tell him that you really like him and regret ever breaking up and if he wants to give you another chance. Tell him to call you Sunday night so you can talk. If he turns you down, dont be upset. Obviously, he isnt the guy youre supposed to be with and if he does, CONGRATS! Be confident and strong and dont let him break your heart. I know you can do it, Good luck girly!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
iight i was suppose to go back out w/ this guy and me and him where on the phone from 11:30 till 1:35...well...when i got off the phone w/ him i was on the phone w/ this other guy...and he as telling me how ppl came up to him at skool and told him that he had a hott girlfiend(they where talking bout me) and he told them that i wasn't his girlfriend...well i was like *Sam ill be ur girlfriend and then out of no where we jst started going out...well i haven't talked to *Doug since then...and then today my friend was like o yeah me and *Doug are going out and i was like since when and she was like since 11:30 last nite! i know i shouldn't be mad but idk wat to do?
If you actually liked Doug* then why did you EVER think about going out with Sam*?? That sounds a little ridiculous. I think you have the right to be somewhat mad especially at your friend for going out with your ex-boyfriend but you cant be mad at Doug*, only yourself. I think you should stay with this Sam* kid unless you really dont like him. The best thing I can think of is to be good friends with Doug*, maybe then he'll want to get back together in the future. Good luck sweetheart!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
ok i really need help my bf dumped me cuz i talk 2 my guy friends and now he wants me back and bad i dont know wut 2 do my friends and fam hate him and he's not the best bf dut i still miss him wut do i do.... help me
My advice to you is to move on from him. My family and friends really hated my boyfriend too because he didnt treat me right. We broke up for a week and I ended up taking him back, part of me regrets it because hes not the best bf in the world. He's trying but it doesnt seem like hes trying hard enough to be good to me. I do everything for him and really get nothing in return. Trust me, you should get out of it now while you have a chance. Find someone better, someone who treats you like a princess and with the respect you need. If in a few weeks you feel like you really love this guy and no matter what people say you want to be w/ him, then get back together. No one is stopping you... Good luck and think about what youre going to do.
LoVe,
HeAtHeR
ok im 13/f..i have a boyfriend that wants to do "stuff" like..he wants a h/j and stuff but im not really ready..hes expecting it though like tomorrow or something. PLEASE help :'(..idk what to do..
Thats the hardest part of a relationship, if yall date for quite some time, they expect to get some "stuff" in return. Dont force yourself to be ready and to grow up by tomorrow, nothing is worse than a boyfriend who pressures you or makes you feel quilty for not doing it. Honestly, you are very young. I didnt even kiss yet then, but the generations are growing up so quickly :-/
Anyways, please dont let him pressure you into anything you dont want to do. Stand your ground, be proud of yourself when you dont do it, and let him no straight up you arent going to give him a hand job or anything else. Be strong and confident!! Good luck sweetheart!! Tell me how it goes!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
are those like lacy stringy thong underwear any comfy?
Yeahh I think so, they dont bother me at all. I feel sexier in them even tho me and my bf are the only ones to ever see them... it make take a few days to get used to them, but yeah they're comfortable!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
so it actually happened lol he felt under my undies tonight!
we went to like a 5 oclock movie so no one was really in there and sat in the far back... i wore the soffee shorts just like you said and within 15 mins of the movie, his hand was under them.. lol.. i told him all smooth to go under my thong already and he did lol
it was quite an experience and a night lol thnx soo much for all your help!
YaY!! Thats so exciting! Thanks for telling me, wow I feel like I accomplished alot =) hAhA!
CoNgRaTs & Good luck with your boy!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
If YoU rAtE Me, CaN yOu LeAvE yOuR aDvICeNaToRs UsErNaMe?? PlEaSe!
^15, female^
iight...i was w/ my firend and we were hanging out w/ some dudes all weekend...i knew one of them for a while and i had jst met this other 2 dudes and i only knew this one guy *Sam* for bout 2days and i lost *it* to him...i mean there where no feelings no nothing...i mean i don't even care that he hasn't called me or anything...but i feel like it's wrong..and that it makes me look like a whore cuz i did that...but i mean when ppl ask me i'm like yeah i knew him for 2 yrs(but i really only knew him for 2days)...cuz i don't want anyone to think bad of me!...but i did tell myself that i'm not going to have sex till my next boyfriend that i'm serious bout...so does it make me seem like a whore that i lost it to some guy i hardly knew?..and is it tru that you can go to hell for have sex w/ someone you don't love?
I'm sorry you gave something as precious as your virginity to someone you didnt know... accidents and mistakes happen but dont dwell on it. Put it in the past and dont tell people about it. The only reason you go to Hell is if you dont ask Jesus to come into your heart, you should had tried to wait til a serious relationship or even marriage but just pray for forgiveness.
If someone asks you if youre a virgin, dont say yes or no. Just say what would you like to know? Just blow off the question unless they are a good friend. I wouldnt consider you a whore unless youve been sleeping around... Good luck!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR! *Rate me please!*
awhile ago me and my now exboyfriend got in a really big fight. ends up that, that night he took my "best friend" to a hotel with 3 other guys and just her. they ended up having sex. both of them deny it whenever i ask, but i know for a fact it happened. its been over and done with but i still have so much hate for my friend, and for the guy too. i dont know what to do.. or who i should be more mad at. i know i should let it go bc it happened a while ago.. but i cant help thinking about how much they both screwed me over.
It takes a longg time to forgive someone when they completely screw you over but you should try to forgive them. Tell your ex-boyfriend and friend that you forgive them for what they did, but you dont want to be friends with them anymore. My ex-best friend was always touching my boyfriend and she invited him places without me, I was so mad and we stopped being friends. A few weeks ago, I told her that I forgave her for what she did and how she screwed me into the ground, but we arent friends. We talk every now and then but sometimes I get these rushes of anger where I hate her for what she did to me. It's completly natural to be mad and not let it go, its a really big deal, but God wants us to forgive others no matter what they did and try to move on... Good luck hun!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
very good ideas!! ur the bestest lol
ill def do the sofee shorts idea.. he likes when i wear em cuz i usually wear a thong with them... so i can definitely get him going with that.. lol ;)
will it hurt to be fingered?? or does it just feel like pressure down there? lol i read in a magazine that there are spots down there that feel really good... is that true? if he finds a good spot, should i tell him???
The first time I was fingered it was like exactly what you said, pressure. But sometimes it burns and I have no idea why and if it hurts at all, you have to tell him! I think just start with 1 finger for now then you can work to 2 fingers. Before he fingers you, if he just rubs around then he'll find some spots that feel pretty damn good! *giggles!* Just experiment and have him rub around to find those hot spots! Good luck!!
LoVe,
HeaThEr!!
I'm really glad I can help you, I feel like finally my sexual activities are worth something more than pleasure hahaha!!! =)
hAvE fUnNn!!
me and this dude has been going on and off for about two years and i love him too death he's my everything. But theres a problem he does stuff that i really dont like, hes not cheating or w/e hes just doing something i think he shouldnt be doing, he says he loves me but right now he has to do what he has to do, since hes been doing that i really dont get to see him as often as i used to, so i feel really bad about this but i cheated on him and i have NEVER done that and i am afraid hes going to find out and then the two years of emotions will be gone, this dude is everything to me and he is the only one that has that special place in my heart and always be the one for me but what if he finds out? :'(
I'm sorry you cheated on him but why would you do that if this guy is your everything and you love him so much? That doesnt make very much sense... I honestly think if you tell your boyfriend, he'll want to end the relationship but if you feel like you should, then be completely honest with him! Tell him everything and why you did it.. hopefully you were drunk! Good luck with your boyfriend!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
thnx for replying! its nice being able to talk to sumone about this stuff... my friends are always so uptight about these things!
our only like alone time is at the movies.. besides that, we're like in public at the mall or hanging out with friends.. our parents are both weird with having us together in our bedrooms so we just always go to the movies..
i do want him to feel me there, u know? lol should i wear a skirt so its easier? i thought about mayeb going to see a movie that has been out for awhile so that the place is empty... what do u think?
thnx~~! ~jackie
I think going to an empty movie theater is a great idea! When me and my boyfriend know we arent going to watch the movie, we chose the old ones that we have already seen! We always go to the top, dark corners too for even more privacy!
Now, what shall you wear? Skirts and shorts are the easiest and Sofee soft shorts are in fact the easiest! Dont wear jeans, they are too hard to move around in.
If you arent exactly sure how to start or be positioned, you have come to the right person! Ususally, I like when my bf sits normally and I put my back to his legs and lay out. He just sticks his hand in the top of my pants (usually unbuttoned) and we go from there. Just find a position you like that works for you.
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
hii, thanx for the reply!
how can i like ask him or hint to him that i want him to do more than just keep his hand there during the movie or wherever? i'm comfortable with doing whatever but im just nervous, u know
thnx! ~jackie
Oh man the first time I got fingered I was veryyy nervous and its completely natural, especially if its your first time. If you really want him to do it, then put his hand in your pants but if you arent sure if he wants to or knows how, then talk to him about it. Be like "hey, if you wanna finger me or put your hand in my pants, you can." Be calm and dont seem nervous when you tell him cause then you'll seem like a pro ;) *Giggles*
Good luck sweets! Tell me how it goes! I really wanna know!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!!
I met this boy at the beginning of the summer, but we liked eachother the first time we talked. After hanging out a couple times, we started going out. He isn't a virgin + supposedly got a girl pregnant awhile ago. He never pressures me or anything. I know I won't do unless I'm totally ready + totally in love. I'm starting to actually love this boy! I'm just scared I won't measure up to some of his old gfs + that I want to take things slow. He says he really loves me + that I'm different from all his old gfs and he likes + respects that. Should I stay with him?
Awww! YeAh! You should definitly stay with him especially if he is very respectful and he loves you!! You dont need to worry about measuring up to his past girlfriends because obviously he thinks your different and wont pressure you into sex like the other girls. But once he starts asking for sex and you arent ready, thats when you should have second thoughts on this guy. No girl should be pressured by their boyfriends or someone who loves them, its just not right! Good luck with your boy!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
whenever me and my bf are at the movies, he always puts his hand on my thigh. By the middle of the movie, he has it like practically between my legs lol
ive never been felt there & all he does is like keep his hand there.. no rubbing or anything like that..
it really drives me crazy in like a good way but i dont know what to do about it cuz like we're in the movies and stuff... what do u think?
jackie, 14
Hey Jackie! Well, the movies are dark and pretty much no one can see. You should let him just keep his hand there but if it makes you uncomfortable at all then move his hand and if it makes you want more, than maybe ask him to finger you? I'm not sure what exactly you and your boyfriend do but thats the next step if you havent yet...
Having his hand on your legs or between them isnt that big of a deal but remember dont let him do it if it makes your uncomfortable... Good luck sweetie!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
Alright, I've been inlove once before. I try my hardest to move on. I know that I'm not still "inlove", but those feelings will always remain. Every time I like someone, when they offically ask me out, I start to run and stop liking them? When I actually have hard feelings for someone and I could see myself not wanting to break up with them, things always go wrong. Once I even told someone not to ask me out I didn't like him anymore and I LOVED EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM!!!! Now I watch one of my bestfriends have him, and him and I could have been dating for over a year by now. What do I do? Why do I run or things get destroyed?
Your first loves are never forgotten, no matter how hard you try, you cant ever stop loving him. Its hard having other boyfriends when you know you could have been with your first love and its definitly hard watching him care about someone else. Eventually, you will meet someone new and start loving him but before that comes, I think you will always have feelings for that guy. Maybe right now you arent ready for a serious relationship, just have fun and flirt with other guys and go out! Good luck sweetie!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
Should i let my friend come up my shirt..? hes always like bringing my boobs up.. were not goin out but we flirt a rly lot.. Hes always hinting.. He really wants to.. Shuld i let him!? plz help i have no idea wut to do
(( im 13 ))
Dont do anything you dont to or feel uncomfortable with! Dont let him pressure you either, if he really wants to and you dont, then dont! They are YOUR boobs and its your decesion.. Good luck!!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!
before my ex-bf asked me out my class was on a felid trip. we went ot a resturant and my n' my ex-bf sat next to each other. by the end of our lunch we were holdin hands n' sittin really close. but that was even before he asked me out. then after he dumped me it was like none of that ever happened and he never liked me. it makes me sad bcuz now that we are broken up we dont talk at all...we talked so much before...so what do i do?
This guy you dated sounds like a complete jerk! You need to move on and meet new guys! Meet guys that are actually worth your time! Dont cry because it's over, smile because it happened. *Thats a quote my friend told me when my bf and me broke up for a little while*
He sounds even more lame because he pretends he never liked you, I bet someone told him that he was too cool for you and he wanted to try and be the "cool guy" Ya know how guys can get! Good luck moving on!
LoVe,
HeAtHeR!! *Rate me please!!*