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hey..i see that you give really good advice and i was wondering if you could help me out. I have been talking to this one guy for awhile now and we seem to really like eachother and i think im starting to fall for him. I dont really know what to do about the situation and i would really like us to be bf and gf. What should i do?

Thanks!

Oh thanx for the compliment I haven't been on here in awhile though. Um lets see if i can help. If your starting to fall for someone then let yourself. Especially if the other person is going to catch you. I have realized that when i find someone i can relate with and when i am attracted to them on a personal, physical and intellectual level i can't help but think about them. It's weird ill be doing something and then that one girl's face will pop into my head along with memories of us. Im in kinda of the same situation as you right now...and im struggling with it as well. Although the girl I have fallen for i think is going to let me drop. Im not positive ...but i have seen signs. Make sure that you tell the person how you feel...never miss the oppurtunity because if the guy is like me he will think your not into him and will move on with a broken heart. So try not to hurt him or yourself, make it easy and tell him that the two of you need to talk about a possible future together. Then you should open up and tell him he makes you smile...or you think about him...or whatever he has done to change your life even if in the most tiny insignificant way. He will feel loved and will charish you forever I am sure. I'm just going on what would be one of the best feelings in the world for me..to hear a girl i care for open her heart to me. Unfourtanately most of the girls i start to care for string me along usually to see if i will eventually say "i like you..." or 'you have turned my world upside down" It's my weakness i get the feeling they are into me...and we talk on a personal level and i then i can't stop thinking about how amazing things could be. That's when things burn. Idk why im rambling on about myself srry here is your answer. lol Please tell him how you feel and if there is a weird situation you are in right now that makes you second guess whether you should have a relationship he would be happy to push through the bad along side of you. It is usually easier to let someone who cares about you into your life. Because they care they are willing to carry your burden and protect you from harm, whether emotional or phsyical. So let him into your world...just make sure he is osmeone who won't steal it and run. Some guys do that...usually if he has alot of gfs or something it might be a sign. Just make sure everything feels right...and when you are ready open your lips and let him hear what im sure he has been waiting for...words of feeling. Hope that helps you. Get it gurl.

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well you see.
i met a guy named Chris over summer.
and he changed my life.
honestly.

i cant go one day without thinking about him

but the whole point is.
he doesnt like me or love me like I love him!!!

i love him with every beat of my heart, and he barely even wants to talk to me.

its been 10 months and i still havent been able to get over him!

its crazy
just when i think i found someone better than him, i change my mind and its driving me insane.

i want him sooo bad.
i NEED him in my life...

what do i do??

Alright im gonna try and help you out on this one. I have been in this situation before. Usually if you like someone this much and can't get them out of your head your showing your affection to them and they are turned off by your fascination with them. I know it's a bit peculiar...but that's just how most people are. If you think about it you might have been like that to someone as well. The only way i can think that you can get his attention or affection is by turning your self away from his presence. He is exhausted from you and your seeking him out or talking to him. It is a sure sign that you are fond of him. Which means you are no different from alot of girls maybe. So just distance yourself (not saying stop thinking about him, if you can stop thats awesome). When he sees the way you act he will be interested and wonder y you aren't the same. He will question himself and most likely come to you because it boosted his self esteem and he wants that back. That's just the way most guys are... So don't show any flirtation signs...just be friendly when he comes to you. That should work. I'm not saying he will fall in love with you...but you will get him to seek you out im sure. Don't try to hard...Fate has an awesome way of deciding things...you just need to do more productive things to keep you busy and take your mind off of this crush. Alrighty i know it's tough...but if you succeed then great reward will present itself to you. GOOD LUCK! Have any other questions just ask me. I have myspace also www.myspace.com/truedreams.

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okay so this guy and i have been hanging out a lot. he tells me he likes me, and says he wants to ask me out, but he still hasnt, he told me he was waiting for he right time...well i think he likes his ex gf, bc i was lookin at his phone and he had text messages for her...adn he said she just got a bf, and even tho he doesnt have feelings for her, its ripping him apart. ive already done a lot with him, which is pretty unusual for me, bc i have such a hard time trustung guys...yesterday he expected me to do tuff with him, and when i told him i didnt want to he figured something was wrong...i really like him... more then anyother guy ive ever liked... but i have no idea what to do about him... any ideas?? please help!!

Well...that's weird you are doing stuff with a guy you aren't in a relationship with...but if it makes you happy. Anyways um...ya that's a toughy. Idk because if this guy still "loves" his gf (which he does if he is still thinking about her and caring for her) then he is just using you in a sense to get his sexual ambitions and desires out since they can't be with her. So...you can think of yourself as his tool. I think you should really consider a guy loving you and being in a relationship b4 you end up getting yourself hurt. It happens all the time. If you want more info on help, IM me on aim. garrettg2006
Hope i helped. buh bye

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hey well im still in love with my ex boyfriend who i dated about a year ago, and my friends tell me he still likes me but im not sure. Is there any way or anything i can do to find out if he feels the same?? Thanks for the help!!!

Well...this isn't that tough. One way you can find out is look for signs...like glances or stares that he gives you. Maybe you can learn from a source ...like a friend of his. Sometimes...friends will just go on what they think. Maybe they are just guessing and he really isnt interested...idk. But just look closely if you want him and try and talk to him. Because you might be able to find out just by how he pays attention to you over everyone else. OR how he answers you and gravitates to you. If the reason it didnt work out was not that bad. LIke just a lil thing then there might be something there. IF there was a huge problem like with your personality or something...idk he might feel the same. That's all i have now. My sn is garrettg2006 if you want more.

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I'm thinking about making a cd with all the songs that make me think of the guy I like (much too weak a word, believe me) and then giving it too him, but I'm not sure what message that would send. We've been best friends for about five years, and while i'm willing to risk a great friendship for what i feel would be a better relationship, I don't want him to think i have a secret shrine to him in my closet (i don't, btw). any advice on how this might make him feel or the possible consequences to my following up on it?

15/f

Ya know...i think thats the nicest and sweetest thing. I almost did that with a girl i liked. I say go for it. If he is the right guy then he will get the message you are sending. And sometimes you have to risk a friendship for a relationship if its what really would make you happy. Follow your heart...it will take great expectations and drive them to great results. Keep in touch on how it works. Thanx.
here is my link: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Ghelp
my sn on aim is: garrettg2006

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How do you know if a guy likes you?

Also, what are some cute/ flirty ways to ask a guy out?

help! thanks! i will rate high!

Alright you should know if a guy likes you if he seems to be paying attention to you. Usually we like to look...but sometimes we get caught...and sometimes we like to get caught. So if you notice this...or have heard from any sources that he is interested that would be good. I hope that he doesn't know the "hard to get" game...cause then that means he likes you...but doesnt want to show it because he feels it will help him achieve getting you...i dont think thats it right now though. I think that you should try being this guys friend...and getting to know him and hanging out...that way when you do or if you do ask him out that he won't feel its weird. Then after you guys are friends im sure he will be the one who shares his feelings...if not you go right on ahead and pursue it. Don't just jump into a thing with a guy for a relationship. ALright i hope that helps ...anything else my sn on AIM is garrettg2006...and this is my column: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Ghelp

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i was dating this guy named andrew for about 1 1/2 months. well i got grounded half way through the relationship and couldnt see him even though i was used to seein him EVERY day in school and stuff. well when i got grounded he would hang out with his friends and sometimes they were girls so wed fight ALOT even though he never did ne thing. i became a huge bitch and bitched at him for anything and it made me feel sooooo bad. then he broke up with me over spring break for a gurl. we just started talkin again though. i dont call him or any thing.. we just hang with alot of the same people and when we see eachother we talk. well he broke up with me because i was a bitch and i never did ne thing but make out. i wanted to do more but it was always wrong place or wrong time. i hated it. i think i still like him though and i really want him back. aq gurl thats almost like a sister to him told me he'd come back cause hes just a clingy type of person. i want him to come back NOW though. i dont know how to tell him that i want him back or how to get him back... should i just wait for him or say sumthin? and if that then what do i say? i know if i want him back then i cant be a big bitch and i have to move faster which im willing to do cause i really liked him alot and maybe these feelings will move to loving him. please help me ASAP. thanxs

First of all i HOPE that you have changed from how you were when you were with him. Guys can't stand B**ches. And if you want to get back with him than i think that you should wait and see what he is thinking or how he is acting. Don't go after him. Because i dated a girl that was like you described and told her i didn't like that and we were opposites...she sends messages all the time saying we should hang out and that she loves me and im the best guy. So what im trying to say is if you start doing that to him...he will get turned off. Show him that you care...but don't be blatant...and don't try to push it in his face. Make sure he seems to go along with it. Another thing is be a "best friend" to him. Relationships are great when they start with friendship and also you will be more comfortable with him. Let him know you have changed and try to talk to him about anything and comfort him. Be supportive and just be there for him whenever and where ever. That should do it because his level of respect for you will sky rocket. This is how i feel towards the situation and how i would be intrigued by you if we had this history. I think that will work for you. My sn on aim is garrettg2006 if you need more info or just want to talk about it or whatever you want to talk about. Im glad i could help...if i did at all lol. Here is my link: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Ghelp

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I really like this guy. I've never had a serious crush on anyone, but with this guy I do. We talk and flirt sometimes, but I think my friend is trying to hook up with him. She even knows I like him. I want to flirt with him on instant messenger, because we barely talk so there is awkward silences. I also want to flirt with him more in person. I don't know who he likes, but I really don't want him to like my friend. What should I do?

If you have aim give me your sn. Mine is garrettg2006 on aim. I could give you better advice on there. In my opinion if you like this guy...and you feel there may be a connection..GO FOR IT! From personal experience, i can tell you that you don't want to pass something like that up. Don't ruin a friendship however. But hey if he really likes you then he will pick you over her anyways. just make sure if you like to talk to him that you don't bother him too much...i dont know him but if you act like your obsessed with a guy it usually turns us off. Alright ill give you more and better advice when i get the details on aim. Im glad to help. My advice column is : http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Ghelp

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ok so here is my problenm i have great friends the most amazing boyfriend and if you look at my advice coloum i dont think my looks are to shabby but i hate my life everything about it i feel like i have noone to talk to like i am playing a person who isn't really me when i am surrounded by people i feel so alone and i dont know what to day some days i just come home and cry for no reason i am so unhappy and hate my life i dont know what to do please help...
Reality.

Hey...i don't know you...and to answer this question correctly to help you id probably have to. I would say that maybe you have some feelings or things bottled up inside...things that you don't want anyone else to know. That or either maybe you don't have anyone to express yourself to...tell your problems to ... You just need to make sure you don't have time to be depressed. Keep yourself busy. Do something...a hobby maybe...get out of the house and just drive and listen to music in the car if it gets too bad. But if you need someone to talk to and go to with problems...then feel free to talk to me. My sn is garrettg2006 on aim. It would be my pleasure to be able to help you in your time of need. THere is one thing you must do though...you need to turn the knob...so that i may open the door and try and find the problem. Hope i can help you.

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I am a 13/f and never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

Ok. You definitely have a guy falling for you there. I'm sure that he is attracted to you and that is why he stares. Why don't you try and be good friends with him. Then you can start to hang out and see if it leads to something great. From what i have read...it seems that you definitely may get this guy if you play it right. Here are a few things that might help (me being a guy and all). Just start talking to him...try not to be nervous..but really nice and interesting...guys love girls that can keep a conversation going with them. All you have to do is find a common ground. Don't bother him though. Play hard to get (all girls are good at that one). If he doesn't yet know of that game...he won't play it and you will have him. Give him time and he should pursue you and start thinking about you more and more. You will captivate him if you are: Nice, Attractive, Funny, Not girly girly (guys dont like that), and if he is able to hang out with you as a friend as well. Like i always say, "the best relationships start off as friendships and take a natural course into a relationship". Try it out and keep me updated.

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how do u know if ur in love? is there a differece between being in love and loving someone? i need to know b/c i think that i love this one guy but im not so sure anymore... could anyone give me some advice on love and dating? thanx... ill rate high!!!!

You know if your in love...if you feel a total connection with the person you are involved with, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Don
't go on the thought of a relationship or sexual involvement just because of the fact of physicalities. If you both are really good friends then and you cannot stop thinking about this person...if during the day you think of them and during the night you dream of them then you are in love. Just remember one thing if you are seriously thinking about getting involved...friendship is the basis for all the the best relationships.

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