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Q: sooo i was datin this guy for a year , we broke up , now im heart broken and dont know how to move on ! i feel like guys dont want to talk to me because i was with this guy for a long time, i would shut down anyone who would try talk to me . and now idont know how to get back in the gaaame! what should i do ?

DO STUFF FOR YOU. dye your hair, change your look, change your room around, go out with friends, exercise. keep yourself busy. if you focus on meeting another guy it just wont happen. then when your least expecting it it will come out of nowhere. Dont sit around eating icecream- dress to impress cause you never know who your going to meet when you go out :)

Dont stress its not the end of the world!

Q: I don't want stuff really sexual and private but I want suggestions tht r flirty ( I really like this guy )

my and my boyfriend play this game all the time .. some i have used in the past were
- ever dreamed about me, if so what?
- my best feature?
- your best feature?
- if you could have your dream date where would it be and with who?
-what turns you on in a girl?
- first impression of me?
- biggest fear?
- are you a mummas boy :P?
- most embarrassing moment?
- when was your first kiss?
- biggest regret?
-something about you i dont already know?

start simple then start asking some cheeky questions and he will pick it up...

Q: Hi its me,the 14 year old boy which you answered my question.i was just wondering if 4 inch erect is even too small for a handjob.will she laugh?my birthday is coming up and she says she wants to treat me for my birthday(blowjob).i really want to but is a 4" penis even too small for a handjob and is it really necessary to see a doctor about my tight foreskin...i can face telling my parents thanks;)

ok girls can do a blowjob on a guy any size so don't worry about that... my advice is if she goes down to give you a blowy and start using her hands and it hurts... just tell her to only use her mouth.. that way it shouldnt hurt.
if you are concerned alot about your foreskin i do advise to see a doctor.. or tell a parent.. or even just a older guy you trust.

just be careful, girls talk..

hope that helps

Q: I really have this crush on a guy can anyone tell me how to know if he love me too

the way he looks at you, what he says and how he says it? main thing is he will tell you when he is ready to, there is no need to rush into anything. the best things in life take time.

Q: Is it right to love your cousin??

in a family sense yes. other than that i would say no. just think what would happen if it ended badly?

it is okay to have feelings there but keep them the same as a brother/ sister or an older role model. or just give it time for the feelings to fade.

Q: So I've been friendly and talking to this girl.ita been about 2weeks since we been talking and she has the same class as me and she sat by me this week And like she's really nice and I feel like I want to work my way up to dating her .because im being friendly to her i dont want her telling me she only wants to be friends but.. idk how i should build my way up to be able to date her .. And how could i tell she feels the same Im 17 shes 16

okay the last thing you want to do is be friend zoned! be flirty, be a gentleman and make her laugh. give her a hug in the morning or at the end of school, pass notes in class ( as dorky as it sounds girls want that stuff) im not telling you to right poetry or anything unless you want to freak her out haha. start simple with norts and crosses, then if you win write a message like "hahah gotcha" ect which then leads into a conversation. plus the bonus to this is that no one can hear the conversation and its sure to put a smile on her face. don't be over the top, when you pass her at school just smile and keep walking, sometimes its good to let the girl approach you it shows shes interested too.
hope that helps. goodluck

Q: Ok so I am 14/f and Ive recently started liking this guy named Sam. He is a year younger than me (13). I talked to him on facebook throughout the summer and Ive come to really like him and I'd call him my friend. He acts different with me, a good different. He is really weird at school but he is super cute and nice and funny. We kinda flirted throughout the summer and I found out a few weeks ago that my best friend lives next to him! I told him a liked him the last week of august before I went to my cottage for a week. He told me he liked me too and I was happy. I came back from my cottage a week later and tried to message him on facebook or text him but he next replied. School came along and he still wouldnt talk to me. I asked my friend a favor to ask him because sometimes they do walk home from school together because they dont live far from school. She said that practically he is ignoring me because he thinks Im annoying or whatever and he doesnt like me anymore. I am kinda mad because I dont think I was annoying at all and I kinda wanna start fresh with him and pretend nothing in the summer ever happened. I know its stupid, but I like him ALOT! The first thing I think of when I wake up is him and I dream about him 24/7. Kinda creepy but I cant seem to get him off my mind for even a split second! It kinda hurts to be ignored and he wouldnt even look at me at school. Apparently people kept telling me that he thought I am hot. I want him to talk to me like he did in the summer but he continues to ignore me. Until, today. My bus is the late bus at our school so we have to wait outside for an extra 10 minutes while everyone leaves. No one is usually there by the time we board the bus. We waited for the bus and watched it roll up to the curb then I looked over and spotted Sam, he had stayed after school with 2 of his friends and waited for his best friend (Trevor) from the catholic school to get off our bus so they could go to Sam's house. I said "hi" to him for the first time in like forever and he said "hey" back and then I said, "picking up Trevor?" and he said "yes". That was the first time he had ever said a thing to me since august 19th.

Now for the story of Trevor. We've only been in school for 2 weeks now and Trevor is on my late bus from the catholic school. He is a cute kid but I dont think I would ever date him. A few of my friends on the bus were telling me to be creepy towards him as a joke because apparently Trevor likes me... So I sat with him on the bus and was creepy as they said and moved so I was shoulder to shoulder with him and watched his face so red and he was smiling and looking down. It was pretty obvious and hilarious. It was all a joke though and I didnt think I like him but now I think I might.... :/ He is Sam's best friend and I like both? What a mess I am. But when he got off the bus to walk with Sam at my school, he left his jacket on the bus and I didnt notice until a guy names Mark (also on my bus) pointed it out and started laughing histarically. He gave it to me and told me to put it on and I did and sarcastically sighed and smiled and laughed. Then I asked if he would take it to him and he said he had no clue where he lived. Neither did anyone on my bus. My bus driver is really creepy and I dont trust him with Trevors jacket and soon I was the last person on the bus with our 45 minute ride and I started freaking out and not knowing what to do. At my stop, I quickly shoved the jacket into my bag and left the bus. I dont know what to do with his jacket and I will give it to him on Monday but I dont want Trevor to freak at me for having it.

What should I do about all this? Opinions on everything? What about Sam? How do I get him to talk to me? How do I show Trevor I like him without being obvious or creepy? Advice please?

okay lets start with sam. best way to get someones attention is to be happy, have fun and act like everything is normal. sounds weird right? try it trust me. just talk to friends when he is around, laugh and be normal... don't over do it or you will just look weird :P. start simple just start saying hi as you pass or a small wave, or just smile. time will pass and he will get over it and feel silly for ignoring you.

trevor sounds like a good kid, and as for the jacket thing he is more likely to be happy you have it and not some random, plus if he likes you it gives him an excuse to talk to you and vise versa. Just get to know him more, become friends. chances are he will start talking to sam about how nice you are and sam will re think ignoring you.

to show trevor you like him just flirt. be goofy make lame jokes and just be you. dont go out of your way to impress someone it normally turns guys off. just hug him hello or goodbye, laugh at his horrible jokes,look at his eyes , make jokes with him ect. its not to hard

goodluck, i hope that helped

Q: What are some cut and flirty text messages i can send to my boyfriend to make him blush or feel good? Nothing too cheesey tho.

send him a cute good morning message, or one during the day saying your thinking about him. it sounds cheesy but guys like to feel wanted to, not everything is about the physical stuff

Q: so i posted a question here before about whether or not this guy likes me. he works at UPS and was in my geography class. well anyways he wanted me to come see him on the days that he working because i needed to send out my brother's birthday present. Well i went in and he wasn't there. I found out he hadn't come in yet, because i had casually asked. And then another employee was like yeah he'll be here in an hr, and the guy that was helping me started laughing, and I was like uh okay? and the guy that said that was like well he helped you last time you were here. and i was like oh im not going to wait on him that would be weird, since I had already been taken care of. I felt weird and i said oh i m just here to deliver my package. and the guy helping me was like i believe you. So I didn't get to see him and now he probably knows. So what should I do? I m just thinking about never showing up there again. Should I just do that?

the best thing you can do is just laugh it off.. just make a joke of it. next time you see this guy be like " i went into (name of store) the other day, i had to get my brother a card .. i was gonna come and say hi but you werent there.." then he will talk and so on... and then akwardness over and you go back to normal

Q: me and my bf of a year and a half broke up. i know it was the right decision because were at two very different places in our lives, but its still hard for me. hes in college having all the fun in the world, and it seems hes having too much fun to even care that were over, whereas im home thinking about it. even when i go out im thinking about it and it bothers me. I dont have any really close friends so im not looking to be told to "spend time with my friends". what else can i do to get over him? what can i tell myself? how can i occupy myself? its just so annoying thinking about it all the time. im in high school. need some empowerment here.. thx

there is no right answer as there is no quick fix. BUT try focusing on YOU. Go for runs, play a sport. Dress up, put on really nice clothing just for you, do your hair and makeup the lot. You dont have to hang with your friends to get over someone, but sometimes they do help.

personally, a similar situation happened to me, and i went on a adventure around town, made new friends, and enjoyed life. I was having such a good time, befor i knew it my current bf had asked me out. He saw me being me, and saw how i was enjoying life, not worrying. so bascially, go out be yourself, no one is demanding you forget or leave the feeling you have for your ex, and enjoy life, spoil yourself , and have some ice cream :)

Q: how to turn on a girl

depends how turned on your talking about, eating certain shaped fruits, dressing up, simple kisses on the neck. Basically tempting him, without giving anything, dragging it out aslong as possible. Also cutting him off short and making him wait, works everytime.

Q: Who do you think I should pick???? I am stuck and I think I have fallen for three guys. I need help on whom to chose. I have chemistry with em all and we get along well.

Guy 1- He is drop dead gorgeous, he can sing, write poetry, hes athletic, and hes a christian

Guy 2- Hes cute, funny, sensitive, loving, and smart

Guy 3- Hes intelligent, not so good looking, sweet, caring, funny, and can play instruments.

they all sound great, but no one can answer that question. we dont know them or you.
here are some questions for YOU:
- which one are you most comfortable around?
-who do you have the most in common with?
- who gets on with your friends better?
- who do you see yourself in a long relationship with?
-who do you think at night before you fall asleep?
if you can answer these questions, then there is your guy.

Q: ok well you guy are gonna think im like the craziiest person in the world :s but i NEED advce kaay well about a year ago my friend introduced me to justin bieber (not in person like she showed me his songs) and i really liked his music but lately ive been obssesing over his songs i listen to him ALL day and ALL night im always daydreaming of how it would be if i were to ever meet him and if he liked me and we started going out ive never really liked a famouse person this much and its kinda silly cause its gotten to the point were after my day dreams i start cring cause i know that ill NEVER be able to get even close to him or meet him in person and even if i did have my dream of comeing face to face with him and telling him how i feel i know that im just waaaaaaay to ugly for him to even be the least bit intrested :(( ( heres a pic of me -----> http://i784.photobucket.com/albums/yy121/EmilyAn007/188705_108547272561521_100002187478226_80259_1924690_n.jpg)

soo plzzz just give me any coment of what i should do to just get it over wiith!

firstly you a far from ugly! so get that out of your head NOW!
and dont worry your not alone, so many girls are drooling over that little guy.
this will be hard for you but take down those posters you have around your room, erase the songs of your ipod, besides your favorite three (im feeling generous :P) remove any sticker or anything else that has his name or something on it and put it in a box. try a week without these things! just a week.
Go outside kick a ball, listen to idk trey songz or what ever else your into, even the radio! look up another celeb hottie... ryan sheckler is of limits by the way :P Jokes

its ok to like the guys music but being obsessed is another issue. try without those items and if its to much just remove one item per day.

hope this helps
-gabiiex

Q: HEy ok so my boyfriend and i broke up like 2 months ago now in school we sit RIGHT next to eachother and like he will always turn and look at me and i will say what and he will smile and look away what is he trying to say?!?! oh and then other times hes all flirty with other girls:( haha ok plzz help!

First
"oh and then other times hes all flirty with other girls:("
looking at the ":(" on the end , you still have feelings for this guy. if you to broke up, he does have the right to flirt, even though it may hurt you.

him smiling at you is a sign that he's happy to be friends or maybe he still has feelings for you. Instead of saying "what?" have a conversation with him, just cause your not together doesn't mean you can't be friends! and in most cases this will make you to a lot closer.

-Gabiie

Q:

Question Posted Sunday April 3 2011, 8:37 pm

Ok.13/f
I have a bf and i loved him so much.I still love him but i dont know if he still likes me.
I get signs sometimes that he doesnt like me.

Most Times:
He always hold my hand.
Want to go out with me.
Wants to kiss mi.
Wants to share food with me.
Invites mi to come by his house with him and his parents.
Always watching me(Sometimes i might be on my black berry and he just stares at me and when I look up he looks away).

Sometimes:
He teases me (Like if i wear something he doesnt like ,Its ugly)
Talks about hot girls around me,BUT Only when his friends are there(i talk about hot guys BUT not like he does) i say a simple(I saw this cute guy today,BAM i done)

you have NOTHING to worry about, sound to me he is just a typical guy, and very lucky to have you :)
if something he does really bothers you, simply confront him about it. otherwise he doesn't know what he is doing wrong..
-gabiie

Q: Okay , so i told you about kyle twice in asking you a couple of questions . So i've come to realize its never going to work , EVER ! im giving up on love , i feel like ' Fuck Love , Im Done Trying ' i don't know what i else i could do to get his attention anymore at all or just with any boy i don't know . . . its like if im not ugly than why won't anything good happen for me my personality is great so why !! i just quit on life i've been feeling that way for a while . . . and you guys are probably judging me not that i care with you perfect little lives . i Give UPP . please don't say talk go talk to a friend no will understand .

im not sure what the question is but i think your right!
at the moment it seems that theres no point in trying because it's never going to work right?
and thats probably true!

but thats not the case with every guy out there.
so your heart is broken, and yeah its going to take time to even consider the thought of letting another guy into your life. But you can't let that little fact control you! Go for a run or try boxing, get rid of your anger. go out have fun with your friends.. yes this may be hard at first because its the last thing you want to do.. but what is sitting around and mopping going to do?

Don't focus on guy, be happy with who YOU are and the right guy WILL come..

This is one guy! your feelings may be strong for him, but how long do you think they will last? Be open to the idea of moving on, have fun and show him that its his lost, and that you are beautiful & strong.

-Gabiie

Q: So me and this guy went to a school dance together last Saturday (April 2). (we’ve both been really flirty and talking a lot the past couple weeks and I’m pretty sure he likes me too) Anyway, we both had an amazing time. We went out to dinner before and had a lot of fun, then we went to the dance and danced the entire time, he kissed me a couple times, and it was just awesome. The only problem is, we never see each other at school. We see each other sometimes, but it’s mainly just texting. I’d like to hang out with him more, since we had such a great time together at the dance. Should I suggest hanging out, or wait for him? I don’t want to lose another guy just because I was too shy/insecure to ask him if he wants to hang out. (I always wait for him to text me first, I don’t know why, I just never want to bug him..) Anyway, I just don’t know where I stand. I remember a couple weeks ago (before the dance) he had said “I could really see us being together sometime soon.” And I’d still like to believe that, but I’m nervous. I over-analyze everything, so that’s probably my problem, haha. But I don’t know, does anyone have any advice about this? Thanks!
If you want anymore details or have questions, just let me know and I’ll try to explain better.

Oh, and we've talked about hanging out a lot before and stuff, just not since the dance (even though it was only a few days ago haha), so I'd assume he still wants to, but idk.

hes totally interested!
dont hold back, whats there to lose. Ask if he wants to hangout sometime, if he says yes let him be the one to organise it, that way you dont sound desperate or clingy..
if he said that only a few days ago i doubt his mind has changed! be confident, be you and have fun.

Q: How do you makeout with a boy? Im 13 and i want to make out with this boy but I just dont know how! Any advice?

it will happen naturally. dont over think what your doing, i did that and its just ruins it!
close your eyes and just go with it ;)

some pointers:
- dont wear lipstick or lip gloss!
- brush your teeth and stay away from garlic, onion or just general smelly food.
-lick the top of your lips b4 the kiss (not to much), to help movement
-remember to breath, the last thing you want to do is pass out :P
- and tilt your head so you dont clash noses!!!
pretend you know what your doing, be confident!

have fun :)

Q: Recently my girlfriend of 2 years told me that she wanted to take a break. We are in a long distance relationship and I live in Japan and she lives in America. I always thought we were a solid couple and I still love her a lot. I talked to her on the phone today and told her all of my feelings. She said that the reason she wants to take a break is because she only has 1 month left of college studying abroad in America before she comes back to Japan to study, and wants to spend time with friends there before she has to return to school in Japan. I'm really confused because she said she loves me and stuff but that she just feels conflicted because she wants to spend time talking to me and also doing things with her friends and that she doesn't have time for both. On the phone she was crying so much and when I asked her if she wanted to break up with me she said no a few times. Even during that phone call I was really confident and was joking around with her and stuff. She knows that Im serious about the relationship because I moved her and found a job so I could be with her. She has been serious with me too and said that she cant wait to see me in a month and stay at my place. That was one week before she broke up with me. I have told her we could talk maybe only once a week to give her space but we did that for a couple weeks and now she says that since we never talk she feels like she doesn't know me anymore!

I'm working in Japan so I figured I will see her in a month, which makes me so surprised that she would break up with me a month before we will see each other again. Maybe it is true that she just wants to have more time with friends and stuff but I get the feeling she likes another guy. Why else would she just change so suddenly towards me? One week before she broke up with me she sent me messages about how she was so in love with me and that she could never have a better boyfriend. I was always appreciative and let her know how much I loved her and very open to her going out with friends.

I just feel so heart broken. We are both in our early 20's and this is my first big break up. On top of that I am in Japan, starting a new job and dont know anyone. I dont have anyone to talk to here and Im having second thoughts about why the hell Im here lol
I'm still very much in love with her and I have told her all this but I don't think she feels the same anymore. I wanna know if anyone has advice on how or what to do to get her back? Should I give her lots of space for a couple weeks or so? Should I still send her messages occasionally or is it better if I just stop talking to her?

I havent talked to her for one week and it is so excruciatingly painful because I think about her 24/7. I want to appear confident though and not clingy and give her space. She always talked about a future together so I never expected this. She has to come back here in 1 month to start school so i feel like even if she got with someone else in America she is gonna have to do a long distance thing with them for at least a year when she comes back here so it confuses me cause Im here now and can be with her for a year at least when she comes back.

I wanna know how can I get her back? My plan now is to call her cell phone in a few days so that will be one week after we broke up and just to be friendly to her and not talk about our relationship. Im conflicted because I dont want to push her away at all but I feel like talking to her really helps and the longer I wait the harder it might be for her to do so.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Long distance relationships are hard.

if what she is saying is true give her space and maybe leave the occasional message like " good morning, just want you to know im thinking of you have a good day :)" dont over do it.

give her time, she may come around. You say your seeing her in a month? why not when your with her, ask her out to lunch or dinner as friends..

But in the mean time, focus on yourself. Go out, meet knew people, make new friend. Go to a movie and spoil yourself a bit. have fun. everything happens for a reason. just remember to smile.

hope that helps

Q: im 15yr old girl and the guy is 19

we started going out and everything went well but when we were dating for 3 months my parents made us brake up...(legal stuff) so we broke up but we still have feelings for eachother and we still talk the way we used to except we dont say we are a couplee so what does that make us? He is not my boyfriend and i am not his girlfriend but we still talk like we are. We dont have sex or anything like that but when we get to see eacohter we cuddle and stuff sometimes do stuff but nothing more to it. When a new guy asks me if im single i dont know what to say because i AM single but in a way im taken and same goes to the guy i like. We are not confused of what we feel but we are comfused of the title we have. What kind of relationship is it that we keep?

my sister had the same problem.
your seeing each other, nothing official, but you would feel guilty if u kissed someone else yes?
if someone asks you if ur single simply say :"yes, but im seeing someone and its not quite official yet .."
or something along those lines..
hope that helps