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i am 13 and my boyfriend is 19. he wants to have sex with me ? what should i do ? (link)
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\"DO\" NOT.
He doesn\'t love you yet.
He\'s \"preying\" on you.
I\'m not sure where you\'re located and WHAT the \"style\" of thinking in your area \"IS\",
BUT
NO,
You haven\'t even mentioned if YOU want to have sex.
And I\'m under the impression that if you did, you would had done it already.
I suggest that either you \"REVEAL\" to him that you\'re not ready\"...
NOT in a private location, and
NOT at night, and
NOT where you can easily leave, (quickly and safely)....
He may just be a young dick in an old man\'s game...
That\'s a SIX year difference AND you\'re 13!!!!
I vote NO!
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Hey, I'll get right into it. I met this girl called Kelsey about year ago in my science class and some people joked about being married and i never thought much of it but over the last few months we've been talking more and more and the marriage joke had gone really far. Anyway we talk about everything, including our love lives. We talk most nights now and i really don't know if i've found a good friend or something more.
And if i do a crush on her what do i do about it(i know she still has feelings for an old boyfriend)
Thanks for reading! (link)
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LOLs... I didn't "want" it but... it does give your scenario perspective..
Wow and you're on your way to graduation too!!
It's such a terrible time to find someone before h.s. ends...
If ya'll are going away to college, let alone separate colleges, it's even worst.
If yall live in the same town, then there may be something to have for at least the next 5-6 months.
You did mention that yall talk nights... that's a very good indicator.
She likes you... but how to determine if your her "Edward" or her "Jacob", without all the drama and intensity???
Hmmm...
The story sounds more like a "Jacob" (Twilight) scenario, with bits of Edward, with the night thing....
Are you a "highlight(cool/popular)" guy at your school, because if so, then yeah she's probably into you, in that... "She wishes to be more than your friend"... however if you're not, you might be her "comfort buddy"...
It's sticky if you're NOT a jerk and want to get with her..
Sooner or later.. you just may have to ask...
*shrugs* GL
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so many people has told me i love you and i want to be with you forever your the one my only one well 5 guys already said that to me a promised and i got hurt everytime and today my boyfriend has told me that im his true love he never felt this way before about anybody else and he said true love never dies and he wrote me a poem how he feels about me and he said he wants to be with me forever and he promised and he said he never breaks promises and he wrote me letters like 10 of them i kept them and he asked me to marry him and i said yes and i just dont want to get hurt again im sooo scared and do you think we will be together forever because he said that and he knows it and his feelings will never change but i know that we wont there is like a 1 percent chance because not everybody stays together forever (link)
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It doesn't mean anything if someone tells you if they're in love with you... It only means something if you tell them if you're in love with them... "To love" is to genuinely care for you but to be "in love" with someone is to offer alot more. It can be possible to scare someone off or keep them at a distance from you because of these differences though. You said 5 guys have told you the same thing? Did they knowingly let you down? Did you hold them to higher expectations that was within their reach "yet" exceeded their grasp without your true consistant support? Did you continuously expect them to give you more with less? If that is the case, maybe it could be that you never really wanna settle down or that you realy are chasing "perfection". We know there is no such thing as perfect but you can attempt to create it. Just know you can be unfair to your mate. Or it may be that your incapable of changing your ways for another so that other mates must conform to you. In a relationship, there is compromise. If your unwilling to commit on some "reasonable" standard..... which there are different packages... ALL "should" of be equal give and take situations.... for example.. real love, friendship, compatibility, true companionship, money, beauty, happiness, comfort, relaxation, freedom, respect, loyalty, endurance, passion, balance, etc.. I'm presuming you ended all your past relationships.... ultimately. The best can only happen if you stop trying to control it. They say it better to have love and and lost than to not have loved at all because then you without losing it you would have never known love.. (unless you kept it..) In addition... if you don't let things takes the course it gonna take.. how will you ever know where it gonna go? I say be smart and cautious cuz it is your heart but at the same time... make sure your getting what you've invested or your current situation "may" just be an illusion "just like your previous relationships". Hope this helps a lil.
P.S. True Love doesn't die... If you let it... it gets buried. And there is no real percentages with relationships... it depends on if there's one person working on it alone or two people working on it together...
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I would like to plan a romantic get-a-way for my boyfriend and I, could you guys please enhance me with some nice ideas. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Well... for starters.. do ask yourself if ya'll would enjoy a colder or warmer climate setting. If its colder yall cud snuggle more, if its hot, yall need the AC... now decide if you wanna drive or fly and then if you wanna explore your scenery together or be alone together. Hope my suggestions helps and Best Wishes.
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okay so im a male and im 14 and i asked this girl out and she said yes but then shes like gotten all mad and i dont know if shes mad at me she wont talk to me when i try to talk to her. so i guess its my fault. any advice on how to fix this problem. (link)
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wtf??? That has nothing to do with you... and if it does then tell her "you're not a mind reader either!". Don't stress her at all, and dont press to find out what's wrong, if she really wants you to know then she tell you but other than that gives her space to sort out whatever she's going through. Hope this helps
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okay. i'll make this as short as i can. 16/f. i want to break up with my boyfriend of 3 months. he has no respect for me, he cheated on me and all he ever wants to do is makeout. he's also really pushy on sex. the only inhibition that is keeping me away from breaking up with him..is the fact that i'll feel really crappy after i do so. i've broken up with him before and i've taken him back. i can't take the crappy feeling of jealousy and heartache after breaking up with him..i don't think i can. what can i do? he's my agee (link)
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Well, with the way that you started off... If your objective is to "really" breakup with him anyways... Personally, I dont think you "want" to breakup with your b/f at all, but it rather seems like you "know" that you "need" to. Its not a thing of you "can't" its more of a feeling that you "won't". You are prolonging the compromise of yourself by the inactivity of not making a definite decision. You are holding on to him internally for some reason. Sometimes people hold on to really crappy relationships to fill a void somewhere. Only you would know what void he's currently filling for you..... Once you realize exactly "why" you're holding on, maybe it be a lil easier to let him go. Like you said... "he has no respect for you, he cheated (cheats), wants to consistantly makeout and have sex" with you when there are bigger problems at hand. All of which makes you feel crappy, jealous, and heartbroken. Being human and all... you may not "feel" like you can breakup with him, but please don't tell yourself that you don't "think" you can either. You'll realize that your relinquishing your personal power and self esteem for something that's not beneficial to you at all. Hope this helps.
P.S. Age has nothing to do with bitchassness and assholes. Its just a terrible epidemic of the mind. lol
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I met this guy 4 years ago. I am in my late 20's and he is in his early 30's. We hit it off. He was everything I was looking for; attractive, charming, sweet, succesful, and loving. 3 months into it he changes into a cocky, disrespectful person. Apparently he had another girlfriend. I suffered as the other woman for almost 3 years. I knew what I needed was to leave, but I didn't. Actually throughout those 3 years, we were on and off. It is now into the 4th year and he has made some changes. I think and feel like he is only seeing me. When we're together, we are deeply in love. We laugh, we enjoy each others company, We are so happy together. And I mean literally "together". He is a very busy guy, so when we're apart...we do not get along. Because I already have trust issues considering he disrespected and cheated in the part, I would think that he would try his hardest to communicate. Of course, he doesnt. Some nights he simply doesnt return my calls. His excuse the next morning is he had a long day and he was tired. I really think that he is not cheating, but I feel like I deserve to be communicated with. Would counseling be worth our time? Is our relationship savageable? I am deeply in love with him. Please help. (link)
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smh, lmao, rofl, I'm sorry... believe me but please understand Im not laughing at you.. I'm actually laughing with you... I'm gonna presume the following are true...You are not a priority on his list. He probably does loves you or loves the time you spend together. He's not only seeing you. His outward disrespect came after he had his fill of you in the bedroom. When you're are together, of course you're gonna have a good time, cuz you not gonna see him until he wants to see you and because you're more emotionally invested into yall "friendship" than he is. You say he's a busy guy? No, he just doesn't wanna or need to see you, his priorities takes precedent and he figures... you gonna always be there for him.. as more than a casual friend
I would continue on.. but I'm not because theres are so many alternative responses that you have here.. and besides to be attracted and to deal with an ' attractive, charming, sweet, succesful and loving" guy, I natuarally assume you possess those qualities within yourself. So more likely than not.. you already thought about theseresponses to yourself, it just so happen to be the other side of the love coin that no one really wants to see, hear, address or deal with in your case. But in regards to your questions at hand... "Would conseling be worth our time? Is our relationship savageable?"... C'mon now be serious. If he can't even return your calls or see you on a regular basis... what makes you think he has "time" to
go to counseling with you? As for it being salvageable.. its possible but unlikely without you expressing how you feel about the situation and him telling you where he stands with you. I believe you are deeply in love with him because only love can make you think twice or hard about accepting a no good asshole. Don't contact him at all and if he doesnt contact you neither then you know how much he loves or "cares" for you afterall...... It will hurt and it'll be hard, but you'll grow to be smarter and make wiser decisions when it comes to "future men" in your life. It also prepare you to accept nothing equally bad or less and began nuilding your resistance to the soft spot that you have for him. Besides, if its all about sex for him, then offer him what he's offering you without the emotions. You'll eventually grow apart gradually and it may not be no where close to what you want... but it can be what you need if he's not willing to be there for you when you want ~OR~ need him. Sometimes, it will be better to follow your thoughts over your heart. Hope this helps.
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so ive been with my bf for about two months now.. and its gotten to a point where like i say love you and he says luv ya and he never calls or anything and idk.. i do really like him though and i want to make it work. i pretty much know what i want to say.. but i dont know how to start it..should i jump in for it or what? please and thank you!! (link)
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First off.. you been with him for 2 months... before its gets you into trouble, become a bad habit and until you understand its true meaning.. Stop saying it! You say its gotten to a point where yall say it.. understand saying I love you is not like saying hello... if you say it like that believe me.. when it really counts.. it gonna seem like it doesnt. Moreso especially, when the affections you expect and should be returned aren't being returned to you. There are couple of questions I want you to ask yourself though... A) Were you the one to say I love you first and if yes.. was the situation you said it under really necessary for those words? More than likely probably not and he's knows that already and may be the reason he's not recipricating what your looking for outta him. B) How can you make something that that takes an equal amount of energy from you and your b/f, i.e. your "relationship" and make it work by "yourself"? You can "wanna" make anything work, but everything doesn't always pull together as you would like it to. You need to say whats on your mind and find out where he stands with you before you get more emotionally attached and start to want more than your reality is offering. I hope this helps.
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My girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. Our conversations are largely internet messaging and phone convos. However she seems to be very closed off. It's almost difficult for me to get a word about herself out and she hates answering questions. I try to strike up conversation, but she seems to shy away from anything related to her life. It takes a lot of manipulation just to learn her favorite food/color/tv show/etc.
I'm not sure what to do. I really love her, but it's like she's barely there. Any ideas guys? (breaking up is not an option I want to consider, thanks) (link)
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I am so glad to hear this from a guy because I'm in a similar situation in the least.... but advice wise... she may have trust issues because she's been hurt in the past. It wouldn't matter if it was previous relationship or my someone close. To close yourself off, is just a way she decides to protect or prevent herself from more emotional and psychological pain and suffering that's all. I commend you for not giving up on her and wanting to help her, and not leaving her alone when technically she probably needs you around her the more than ever since you sincerly love her. She just needs to feel secure with you, if you've done something in the past that created great pain within yall relationship, I will say its gonna take a lil more effort on your part to recover lost ground with her. But if you are a real man who can stand next to your woman on her darkest dreary days and is there for her best intentions without expecting something in return other than her opening up to you... she"ll trust you and start opening up. Its just human nature to react at distance with the people you really care about when they let you fall and is not there to offer a hand to pick you up or tend to your wounds...especially when you're in a relationship. Flaky people tends to mess it up for the good guys like yourself. Commit to seeing a bright day "WITH HER".... whole heartedly, and you'll both get what you want and need... together... I hope this helps.
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So, I like this guy who we will call...Bob. And Bob just got out of a relationship about 2 weeks ago, but he seems to like me and alot of my friends say that when he's around me it seems like he does too.
How do I show that I'm interested without actually going out and saying that I like him? (link)
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Well I say use what you got. Your friends already know the deal. Send him the regular I like you signals like the flirty looks, hair flips, batting lashes, and stare-smile then look-away and things along those lines. Make sure you in the center of your friends and they have your back. After a while (within your own timeframe) when your comfortable enough, casually stroll away from your friends to see if he indulges you and follow. Maybe he will maybe he won't.. it depends on how much you've used your feminine wilds on him and his actual attraction to you. If he doens't comply, then the next day, casually stroll up to him and ask him to walk you to the store or something. If he accepts, talk about casual things. I feel thats the perfect opportunity to tell him your feeling him but thats on you and (if you do) don't say it expecting to let him respond. Change your mind about the walk and tell him to just think about it. Say thanks and walk back to your girls.. You'll be feeling yourself whether he willing to get with u or not. Good luck.
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ok so i had sex for the first time and bled i no thats normal now how long before it stops hurting ? like will it hurt if i have sex a second time?
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Well I'd like to say "Congratulations" first off. You sound a lil skeptical about the situation altogether. But that's rather normal. Secondly, there is no definite timeframe for the pain. It actually depends on the type of sex you've indulged in and whether the penis was much bigger (length and width) than your vagina. As for will it hurt the second time you have sex? Probably yes, but it should be a comfort you by knowing, that it should less the more you do it. However, don't rush into anything either. Your vagina will only relax as much as you are. You'll learn "pain can be pleasure" on some days soon enough though lol. But you have to enjoy the act first rather than constantly thinking about it. You'll learn and it'll be great. Move at your OWN pace and Best Wishes.
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