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I'm crying right now because I'm not sure if my boyfriend is using me. Today, some girl I go to school with (who used to go out with my boyfriend) sent me a myspace comment that said "Your boyfriend said he thinks I'm beautiful and he wants to go back out with me and make out with me again. He's only going out with you to get hand jobs and blow jobs." I asked my boyfriend if it was true and he said no she's lying because shes just jealous. I don't really want to believe that girl because she's not really my friend and she's really sluttish she's done alot with guys and I know she still likes my boyfriend and wants to break us up, but maybe shes telling the truth and thats what scares me the most. I sent a comment to my boyfriend that said, "I heard you're using me for sex and I told you I wasn't ready yet so you can dump me right now or keep going out with me, but either way you're not getting ANYTHING past making out so don't even go there." I said that when I was really sad/pissed off so I kind of let out my anger. Who do I believe? How do I find out who really is telling the truth? I don't want to get myself hurt in the future.

It sounds like shes trying to spoil & ruin things for you, sometimes seeing people happy hurts them as they lack happiness! I wouldnt take her word for it until you hear your boyfriends side of it. It could be her seeking attention & trying to wreck something that could be special!

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i'm 17, and i like this guy who is 27. usually i like guys who are within my age range.. but i suppose you can't help who you fall for. he's very quiet and seems very lonely.. hes doing law so he spends a lot of time studying and doesn't go out too much. he always jumps at the opportunity to speak to me when we see each other. well, i'm not sure what to do about this. 17 is legal for consent and all where i live (so its not a legality thing) but i guess it does sound kinda bad that hes 10 years older than me. i'm wondering whether i should just try and forget about him or whether i should try for this. i don't really care about age, but he might feel differently, and society always views these kind of things as unacceptable. so just curious what everyone thinks of the age gap, and whether it's worth pursuing or not.....?

thanks.

Hi,

Theres nothing stopping you from trying, it could be that you dont get along very well after a while, take it easy & im sure your instinct will tell you xo

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Here goes:
I'm 17 now but when I was in the 8th Grade (last year of Junior High) I was considered a "geek". I was bookworm. Overweight and quiet. There was this pretty popular boy in my class who used to make fun of me all the time. He really made my life hell. After about two months, he started acting different around me. Sometimes he'd be really mean and then sometimes he'd be super nice (like random acts of kindness) and the one day after school, him and his female friend were talking in an almost empty classroom while I was trying to finish up some math. She asked him a question with my name in it and my ears perked up and then she called me and she said "--- likes you" and I made a face at him because I thought he was an ass at the time. Anyway, I think I hurt him a bit. He told me he hated me a few weeks after that incident.
A few months passed and we entered high school and I started liking him (he was still pretty popular but I was still a geek) but I figured I only liked him because he used to like me and I thought I'd get over it.
That year he told my friend that I was a geek.
During high school I’ve grown to love him more. I'm not a geek and I've lost a lot of weight (although I'm still a few pounds up). People who used to know me consider me considerably ‘cooler’. I'm sort of what you would call semi-popular but I'm not sure if I still measure up.
I don't know if he likes me too. My friends aren’t sure either. They say that over the span of the past three years, he stares at me sometimes when I'm not looking and –I- catch him looking too (except I'm not sure if he was looking first or just kept looking at me because –I- look at him). He does stuff sometimes like get really fidgety if he's walking in front of me or put the volume up in his car if he's near me. Just basic stuff.
I'm wondering is there an indication that he likes me at all and this could work or is he still mad at me and just looks because he's trying to prove something to himself and/or me?

Hey,

Things like this are so confusing for everyone, and if you catch him looking again just ask him whats the problem. I think you should just get on with things until he makes it clear he likes you, else its going to continue with mind games!

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f/19
My bf and I have been dating for about a month now and he recently told me that he thinks hes in love with me. I'm kind of turned off by that because its so soon. He keeps asking me how I feel and I told him I'm not sure, I'm not in love with him, what should I do.

Tell him you dont love him! Honesty is the best policy..

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ok, so i broke up with my boyfriend last year, but i think i still like him. the only thing is he likes my best friend, should i get him back, and how, or let go? my best friend doesn't like him.

Im afraid you should let him go, because he doesnt like you. But remember One guys loss is another guys gain :)

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Again this boy Roshon has been bothering me. With all the touching me and walking me to class things. I mean he is cool and everything but in the hall I see him doing it to other girls to just not as much as he does it to me. And he still talks about me. This morning when he tried to walk me to class. The only way he will get his hand off me if I pull away and say I will talk to you later. And the bad thing is he is only. I don't know how to say it but he goes up to my chest. What I mean by that his height. Do you know how weird that looks? Anyway help please!

I think you need to tell this guy to stop right now. Say it like you mean it else he will carry on. Tell him 'you may be able to touch other girls like that but i dont allow it.. either stop it or i'll have you done' :o)

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What is the #1 thing a man can do to make himself more attractive?

What is generally the least attractive thing about a man?

Confidence is attractive! Also when he takes care of his hair :)

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Months ago I meet this guy,fell in love,he was the 1 who said he loved me 1st!! Then we broke-up,but we'd still tell each other we loved each other. Every time we were together something would happen ether we'd kiss or have sex!! (this is after months of being apart) But I'v told him am not a sex toy. & Resently I told him I still love him, he said that he does love me but he doesn't know how strongly, in what way or if he loves me like I love him any more!! I asked him what he wanted to happen between us but he said "I don't know just now" Am so confused & I know no1 else can tell me how he fells but can some1 at less give me some advise on what to do??

Well its only him that can tell you how he feels! Ask him again, and explain that you are getting confused with it all. If he cant answer you then maybe you should consider why your in the situation with him.. gd luck x

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ok i think im in love with my ex boyfriend. and i just cant stop thinking about him and i really really miss him. even though im going out with one of his best friends, i just like him, hes ok. but anywayz, i went out with him for 6 months and we got a long great, but then when he broke up with me, i thought i was gonna like die because he broke up with me for this other girl, and now hes going out with her again, and im really upset. when i was talking to him mom, she told me that he still kinda has feelings for me. but i wasnt sure. but now i really want to tell him, but i think hes gonna like not talk to me ne more because hes like one of my good friends and we talk alot.. so what should i do?

I think you should move on and look for someone else. Its a straight up answer but thats what i think is the best option for you. Your bound to get upset because of this, let your the girl have a chance with him, and you look for someone who your better off with anyway.

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this question might gross.. but how do you give a hand job? or jerk off. which ever you put it. Its really gross.. but someone wants me to do it and im not sure how. please help me

lol ok well i dont want to go right into it and confuse ya so heres a site that might explain it in a better way than i probably would .. http://teenadvice.about.com/od/masturbatio1/ its got basically everything you need to know! :o) if ya need nemore help or nefin just email me at IxMzFaBuLuSxI@aol.com

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okay my boyfriend told me this shocking news a few days ago that he stills loves me but he is in love with his elementery school crush. I usually give advice but this time i don't know what to do. he asked me if we could have a break from each other and i said okay. we talk every single day and he says he loves me still but the only reason he let me go for now was because "his past was hurting his future" which means his crush was hurting our realationship. he wanted to know if i would take him back and i am still thinking about it what should i do...?

So basically he wants you to wait around until he gets over his crush? What if this crush is still around in a year? how long are you prepared to wait? You probably know the answer, but dont want to admit it! If he's genuily interested, he'd carry on going out with you now. Ask him what he exactly wants to do and if he doesnt give you a real answer then go find someone who'll make you his number one. Its what you deserve!

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ok..i'm 15..im seeing this guy who's 16..and i really like, ok well love him and everything's so perfect right now..BUT i've never made out with any1..i've been the type of girl always into sports, school..not really had time for boyfriends or serious relationships..BUT he thinks i have "french-kissed" some1 and i feel dumb telling him

Seriously there is no way he could know whether you have french kissed someone before! and i kno it sounds really really weird and everyone says it but it does come naturally! everyone says it bcoz its tru! dont worry about it.. the more you worry you'll get more nervous!! You'll b fine! :o)

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Hi im 14 and a girl i really like this guy and i think he likes me he's always complementing me wen i dye or change my hair and he's sed 2 my boy m8 that he thought i was the hottest girl in our group of friends, but he's 2 years ahead of me in skool and i think he's worried about the age gap, my best m8 is goin out with his best m8 and ther 2 yrs apart so i dont no y he's worried! i think he might think im worried about it how can i show him im not?
(lol i didnt mean this 2 turn into a whiny teenage luv letter but im sorry 2 see it has!!!)
luv rohan XxX

awww sweet! lol it isnt a whiny luv letter! lol well you obviously know he likes ya! you should really say to him that what you friend and her bf have got is so nice and that the age difference doesnt really make that much of a difference and that you'd like that with him! always give off positive comments about the age gap and point out that your fine with it all if he is! good luck! if you need anymore advice and id like to know how you got on!! email me at IxMzFaBuLuSxI@aol.com and i'll add you to ma buddylist! :o)

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Me and my gf broke up and like a week after we broke up she wrote this really sweet note in her journal to my future gf telling them basicly that they should never let me go and that i was this really sweet and awsome guy. was it wrong for me to break up wit her sometimes i get confused.

awww she sounds like she really likes ya!! you must of finished her for a reason.. think back to when you was together.. and if you then realise it was a mistake.. tell her!

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umm i was the one who had the crush on sum1 n didnt wanna talk....ik we should chill but id want him to think im clinggy asking to chill with him too much...helpppppp

that isnt being clinggy! just say do you ever wanna go out like to the movies or something

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just broke up with my boyfriend
any advice on how to help me get over this? im still atached to him. :(

signed,
sweetheart00

Get hold of the song.. Destiny's child - independant women ... yeah i know it sounds weird but it might make you feel better! also take the time to chill with your friends make arrangements to go to loads of places and have sleepovers.. you'll be over him before you know it!

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hey everyone...ive never had a guy treat me right...they all use me for sex, my body or watever and i dont do nething wit them tho...im pretty every 1 says and alot of guys like me but they r all the same...they ALL even tell me "when u gonna let me hit that" im like never and theyll ask me out n juss wanna fuck...so i kinda juss stopped well im startin h.s this yr and im hoping to meet a guy ther...who will love me for me....the thing is...im going camping on tuesday..i think its a gr8 chance to meet guyz...i juss dont kno wat to say to them if i see a hott one....wat shuld i do? do i wait for one to come to me? do i go up to a guy if i think ill like him? help...i want a bf s0o bad...

Yeah course just talk to them how you normally would! But if they hint or whatever.. forget them and look around again! hehe

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ok so ive liked this kid for a really long time he liked me too but he didnt want to go out. then one day he invited to his house to hang out and "do stuff" and i couldnt go that day so i went 2 days later. we did and i had fun things were going good then the other night i was talking to him and he told me that he had a gf the day we met. he said he didnt when he first invited me...but got one in the 2 days i didnt c him. it really hurt and i dont kno what to do..i like him alot but i hate him at the same time. please help me. he said he was going to change before but he never did and i jus need advice..

Seriously.. i dont think you need this guy! Its upsetting you and come on no1 wants a guy who upsets them! dont waste your energy! Im sure you can do alot better! Stay confident and im sure the right guy will come along soon! And when he does you'll appreciate it a whole lot more!

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i want to tell my ex-boyfriend that i still have feelings for him even thought i know nothing will happen cuz he has a gf that i'm sure he loves but how do i say it??!!

tell him exactly how you feel and reassure him you arent saying it to split him and his gf up!

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hey

i am 15 f and i really like this guy 15 m and he like me back we just dont ever talk about it and i think we will end up goin out i just dont know if i should tell him that i have never even kissed someone and i know he had done stuff with girls so should i just go with it and not tell him or do u think he can tell?

Nah! He wouldnt know if you didnt tell him! it all comes naturally, yeah i know everyone says that.. but its true! lol good luck xx

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