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There's a lady I love, and I've know her for more than a year. Recently she broke up with her boyfriend who not one person liked, but she told nobody but me. Since then she spent a lot of time with me. A ridiculous amount of time, and we've gotten together now, but we decided that it be best that nobody knows, because of the atmosphere of people where we work is pretty horrible.

Now somewhere in between spending time together one day she decided to tell my best friend that she broke up with her boyfriend. Now he knows that she's single, but not that I'm her boyfriend. This is where the problem is the greatest: he wants to have a relationship with her now. He told her this, and even though it's was made clear to him that she doesn't want to he thinks that she just hasn't got over the loss of her boyfriend mean while the truth be that she don't like him for he puts on acts, and I'm her boyfriend.

So far our secret is still kept safe, but other people are seeming to get suspectful: the people who see us together.

Well I'd just like some people's opinions about this situation in general: does it sound OK? Also I'd like to hear some advice about how to handle the problem with my best friend who is trying to flirt with her all the time, because he thinks that she's single: she I just not tell him or tell him in a proper manner. Thank U

I don't understand why you're hiind a relationship with a person that you love. Love is a wonderful thing and it should never be hidden! Just tell you friend nicely that you two have been together kind of secretly and ask him to tone it down. He will probably be more embarassed than mad, but if you two are good friends it should all work out fine.
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There is this guy I've been crushing on for about a year. We are friends, but everytime we are like, "Let's hang out." it kind of just never happens, because there is nothing to do around here. Well, people have been telling me to just tell him I like him, but I'm scared. So for Christmas, I was thinking of doing something like getting him a hersey kiss and putting it on a piece of paper saying, "I don't have the guts to give you a real one, so I guess this chocolate kiss will have to do. Merry Christmas." Is that too cheesy? What other things can I do that will make him smile?

I don't think that is cheesey at all! I think it is a really cute idea. Definitely go for it. I think it's all you need to make him smile.
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My best friend of 5 years is Tom. Tom has always been there for me, and he's a really great guy. I (being a girl) have developed some feelings for him. Tom liked me a year ago, but I sort of just ignored that; we were still close friends. This year things are different, and I feel like I want to be with him.

He likes this girl Amber who he met a couple months ago, but we are still close friends. I'm jealous,quite frankly. Tom asked Amber on a few dates, but she turned him down. They hooked up (just kissing) and presumabely she likes him? Yet they are not going out.

I want to tell Tom that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to tread on anyone's feet. Amber is not the nicest of girls, but either way, I'm not sure if it's the best idea to suddenly drop a bomb like that on him.

I almost feel like he's just with Amber because it's just someone to like, you know? Maybe if I told him how I feel, he'll realize he likes me too...

I have no clue what to do. :/


16/f

You should tell him how you feel. The worst thing is to keep your emotions inside. Just bring it up and let what happens, happen. Let him know how you feel and ask him what his opinions are on a relationship between the two of you. If he doesn't think it's a good idea or if he isn't sure, don't rush him. You two are good friends, so everything should work out.
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Today I started talking to my ex, and everything seemed perfect again. He asked me to go out with him and I said yes. Now I'm doubting my decision. He lives out of state, and I don't know if the whole long-distance relationship could work. I don't know if he's whats right for me right now...I'm not sure what I should do. Help!

I say you give it a shot. You probably feel like everything it perfect again because you were reminded of good times you had before you guys broke up. I think you should just see what happens, and make sure you guys communicate a lot. My friend recently moved to Georgia and her boyfriend lives here in Texas. I must say that their relationship is even better than some of the people I see together everyday.
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okay so i really need help.

i really like this guy.
weve been friends since the beginning of Freshmen year.
but over the past couple of months ive started to see him as more than a friend. well i talked to a couple of my close friends about what to do. They told me to tell him, all he could do was say no. that he didnt see me as nothing but a friend. sooo i told him this past friday night. i typed 4 paragraphs about how great he was, how he deserved better than someone he was talking to that screwed him over, big time, and telling him that i really liked him. well all i got in return was "your so fn sweet and cool" then today when i walk into 5th he grabs me and gives me this huge hug, then i go sit down to do my bell ringer and he comes by me and starts hitting a bunch of keys. (He sits infront of me, in keyboarding) after that he messes my hair up. then he leaves to go donate blood 15 mins after 5th started and he stairs at me the whole time hes walking to the door/out it.

soo yeahh does this mean he likes me as more than a friend??...wouldnt he have told me??....am i not good enough for him???...why hasnt he told me anything, whyd he leave me hangin and then today do all that?...should i ask him if he likes me as more than a friend?? or just wait and see??

My advice to you is not to rush it. Maybe this is his way of letting you know he likes you, by flirting. Wait a little while and see what happens. If you are still impatient, then ask him a little later if he wants to try a more-than-friends relationship. Beware, though, that if you guys try it and it doesn't work out, your friendship may not be the same.
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Well there is this guy I like. He has a g/f. He knows I like em' so he said he likes me a lil. So today I gave him a note saying that i like him but i don't want to get into trouble, and that I don't know what to do. I told him I had a note for him, & then he asked me if I talked to his girlfriend about it..? and I was like no,. Him: cuz someone said that they were in class and they got someone watching me. Me: WTF?. I didn't talk to her or anything. Bell rings, I see him reading the note and I walk off fast. Am I gonna get my ass kicked? I don't know what to do!. Ahhh.

Well, I would advise you not to mess with this guy... If he has a girlfriend and says he likes you, how would you feel if you were the other girl? If he is talking to other girls behind her back, don't you think that could happen if you two started dating? Don't worry about the girl situation; most girls are all talk.
-16/f

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14/f -- i'm not prude, but i don't hook up with people alot. the last time i did was in october, and before that in may. i don't know if i'm a bad kisser, but one of the guys i hooked up w. told his friends i was but he changed the story. so i don't know -- but getting to the point, is there anything i can do with my tongue that people generally like to improve my kissing? or my hands, or basically anything that will make the experience for more pleasureable for both of us. i know that everyone likes different things, but just from your experiences or what you've heard, i guess.

Be sure to relax and don't be nervous. Basically go with the flow! I tend to place my hands on the back of their head. Although I have never tried, I have heard that writing the alphabet with your tongue is a good way to kiss. But don't concentrate too much on your letters or you'll be stiff. If you let him kind of lead, it may be a little easier.
-16/f

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Hi,I'm 15, male and very shy. I like this girl in my class and I think she likes me back because i caught her staring at me serveral times and i some time stare back at her but I'm still not convinced that she likes me to ask her. what should I do?

Just strike up a casual conversation with her at lunch or outside of school. Don't be in a rush to know if she likes you... Give some time to get to know eachother a little better. Once you have talked some more, it'll be easier to talk about a relationship.
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My best friend went out with this boy (ryan) for about 7 months and she broke up with him because they kept having arguements. She's been out with two guys since. And she is still going out with one of them. Who she claims she's in love with. Two weeks ago ryan and i started talking, just talking nothing special, then we talked more and we were getting to know eachother better. We met up and i decided i really like him...but then the other day my friend turned round to me and said she still liked him and was jealous...but she has this other boy...i don't want to go out with him because it would be mean...but at the same time i really do!!
advice anyone?

Your friend (no offense) sounds kind of selfish. She should learn the old saying "You can't have your cake and eat it too." I know you want to spare your friends feelings, but you are both young and should be trying new things. I am sure if she is a good friend she will understand, especially since she has this new boyfriend.
-16/f

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wat cani do to make our relationship have the love in it again i am 20 a female and have one 6 month old child.

Plan a night out for just the two of you. Dinner and a quiet night at home by yourselves. Do this as a surprise. Find a babysitter (such as gramma or anyone close that you trust with your child) and plan everything ahead of time.
-16/f

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i've been dating this guy for a year. one thing that always gets to me is the way he eats, and i don't mean noisy chewing.
often he'll do things like skipping dinner only to snack on chips and stuff late at night, barely eat any fruits & veggies, buy a hamburger and fries at the school cafeteria whenever he eats there, etc. the other night, for example, he skipped dinner, then made chicken wings and leftover pork at 10:30.
i guess a lot of this stuff is normal teenage habits. i myself don't always eat well, and i know it's tempting to eat junk when you have access to it. but watching him upsets me because he'll get stomach pains and things like that, but won't change his ways. then i'll be like 'you know you shouldn't do that' or 'try bringing a sandwich instead of buying a hotdog', but i feel like i'm nagging, and i know it can make him feel like i'm putting him down.
what's a good way to deal with this? i know it's his issue and he has to be the one to motivate himself to stop bingeing on chocolate milk or whatever, but i'm someone who says what they think and doesn't like to stand by and watch people eat their body weight in doritos.

I have really good eating habits, but my boyfriend always nags at me because he says I don't get enough exercise. I am pregnant, and I don't think he understands that exercising is not as easy when you're carrying a baby. Anyway, I walk the track and occasionally run to make him happy. It does sometimes hurt my feelings, though, so try to be as nice about telling him as you can. Make sure he understands that you're ultimately worried about his health, because he may take it to offense that you don't like the way he looks.
-16/f

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Okay, so I'm 15/f
I have a feeling that this guy I like is going to ask me out, mainly because everyone's been saying he likes me and he keeps on asking to be alone with him for a few minutes sometime this upcoming week. I know, I shouldn't get my hopes up because I can get disappointed majorly. But to be prepared:

What are some good ways to say "yes" to him if he asks me out nonchalantly. Not excited/naive sounding but at the same time not "I'm not interested but I'll go out with you out of pity" sounding. Help!

Give him a hug! You don't want to just stand there and be like "Yes," because that will create an awkward feeling afterwards. If you hug him and say yes, it will ease the mood. This is ultimately what you want to do, becuase he will probably be nervous.
-16/f

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Hi :]

my boyfriends birthday is coming up on the 16th and i wanted to do something really special. this year we had a really bad homecoming, i was in a really bad mood etc, at one point i told him his tie was really ugly ( a lie) but he got upset bc he really liked it and he ended up returning it well the whole night sucked. so for his birthday i went out and bought the tie and im going to give it to him with a note saying meet me here at this time like a restaurant and have him dress up and wear the tie and ill get all dressed up and go out to eat. then i want to drive him somewhere and pull over but i dunno where to go. and have a playlist set up and roll all the windows down on my truck and have our own little homecoming. but i dunno where to go and some basics to make it cute not cheesey please help :]Thanks.
ps i live in houston,tx

I think the person below me had a fantastic idea with getting his friends involved. Your plan is pretty much perfect, and I think it is really sweet. I don't live near Houston so I don't know what to tell you about where to go, but if there is a lake anywhere near, that would be an ice spot.
-16/f

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i have always been questioning whether the guy i like likes me back... but now i might think he actually likes me. for example, the other day another guy made me cry, so i just casually told the guy i like about the situation when he asked me how my day was going, well he ended up getting really mad and he went up to the guy and told him off... and he kept telling me he was sorry that the guy said those things to me and that if he ever said anything mean to me again to tell him... and he has randomely been texting me late at night asking me what's up, just out of the blue? lol. he also told me about his "girl problems" and he was tellng me about this one girl he liked, but he wouldn't tell me who, which is weird because he tells me everything else... and i said that she was stupid for not liking him and when i said that he hurry and said "yeah but i'm done with her now!" and i think it's also hard for me to see if he likes me because i am not showing him that i like him very well, even though i think i am. anyways, i guess my question is do you think he likes me?/ how can i show that i like him/ and what can i do to get things moving faster, or do you think if he likes me enough i should wait for him to come to me?
thank you! :)

From the things you've said, I think he is interested. Just talk to him and don't beat around the bush. Let him know you may have feelings for him. He'd probably appreciate your honesty... Especially if he likes you too. After that, things will steadily move at their own pace. I wouldn't suggest rushing things too much.
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Me and my boyfriend have a good past together.


well, he moved and now he said it feels like we're not together.
it doesn't feel the same like it use to, since he's so busy now.


how do i make this work?
i can't lose him, i can't.


i love this guy so much..and it hurts to hear that, and i just hafe to try to fix this.
help me please..

As much as it hurts to hear, I would never try a long distance relationship. On the other hand, a good friend of mine recently moved to Georgia and her boyfriend is here in Texas. They still have a wonderful relationship, so yes there is hope. All you can really do is talk to him and let him know how you feel. See what he wants to do and ask him to try and stick it out. Good luck.
-16/f

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ive been reall really serious with my b/f for over a year now. but i dont know what to get him for christmas.

ive gotten him:specially made chocolates,cards, favorite deserts,dinner and a movie,a watch, money,pj pants,made dinner.
i dont know what to get him for christmas.

i want to get him something hell use and like.
i want it to be something hell remember me by.
maybe like a piece of guy jewelery,but no rings! i need something like a dog tag or something.any ideas??(doesnt have to be jewelery.)

i want to do something special like after we give gifts,like have sexy lingerie on under some really cute clothes,and like give him a strip tease. any ideas and tips on how to do that?or what to wear? (like what kind of clothes are good to hide lingerie under?)

Thanks in advance.

You could get him a coupon book to go with his gift. They sell these at local gag-gift type stores. In my town, the store is called Spencer's. They have coupons in them for things like strip teases, trying a new sex position and things like that.
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ok well this christmas ive been putting alot of thought in to what i should get my boyfriend of 4 going on 5 monthes.
ive came up with a gift basket type thing
with candies, 2-3shirts, and a cute little teddy bear.
do you think that sounds good
and what else could i add?

I think this is a great idea!! This is the kind of stuff I do for gifts; I just think it is much cuter and means more. Put a nice big bow on the basket and a card with a little note inside. As a cute, silly gift for the inside, make him a coupon book. The coupons can say things like "One free kiss" or "One movie of your choice". I think all together your present will be adorable and he will really appreciate it!
-16/f

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ok so i have this friend and he is really nice like you have no idea how sweet he is but anyways,
i think i love him and he knows i know like him but he doesnt want a girlfriend and i know he doesnt bc his best friend told me that he wouldnt go out with anybody unless he really liked the person but the thing is he wants to go to the movies w/ me and make out and finger me, i want to too but idk wat to think about how he feels about me
wat do you think?
wat should i do?
do you think it is stupid of me to go to the movies w/ him?

I know that since you like him, all of this must sound pretty great to you. But if he did stuff with you and then decided he still didn't want to be your boyfriend, it would be very sad for you. I think you can go to the movies with him and spend some other time with him also. Just get to know him a little better before you go very far. If he likes you, you two could start dating and then you can go further with him if you are comfortable.
-16/f

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hey. Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 5 months and i have NO idea what to get him. i love him and want to get him something special.

Any ideas possible would be great thanks :]

and he's not into cars and stuff hehe.

Thanks :]
x x x

You can get a really big stocking, and put his name on it. Then, fill it with a lot of little things that you know he will like. This is a sweet way of putting something together yourself instead of buying one thing from the store. -16/f

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i just started dating this guy about a week and a half ago. he has been one of my best friends for about 4 years now. we're really crazy about each other and i'ts great because we've been so close for so long. now comes the hard part...
he asked me out right before Christmas.
does anybody have any good ideas for what i can get him? we live in kentucky, he's 15, almost 16, a football player, a huge university of kentucky football fan, he's into acting, and he's really involved in our huge youth group at church. we spend a lot of time together doing things with our youth group.
any advice for presents would be helpful! thank you so so much!

You can get a really big stocking, and put his name on it. Then, fill it with a lot of little things that you know he will like. This is a sweet way of putting something together yourself instead of buying one thing from the store.
-16/f

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