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Hey everyone. My name is Caleb, and I am a 16 year old male. I really enjoy helping others with problems they may be having. If you have a question about anything at all, just ask, and I'll give you the best advice I can. Thanks.

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I was really living the life! Queen of the whole 1st year high schoolers was never hard to get used to. I was the most popularest girl in the whole grade, but only because I was head cheerleader, and ofcourse like every fairytale I had the star player on the football team, the most popularest, cutest guy in the whole grade, as MY boyfriend! Life could not get better! My dad had a great job so I was what you would call "Filthy Rich", and lived in a huge house!
Then one day my very rich dad lost his very "rich paying" job. We moved into a room in an apartment room, and I had to quit the cheer squad because we could not even pay the $80 fee. Then after that the roomer got around that I was now poor, and my boyfriend dumped me, which meant my popularity went buh-bye! Soon after that, my daddy got a call from his job asking for him back, so we got our house back and I re-joined the cheer swuad and the roomer went around and my ex-boyfriend asked me out. I said to him we can try. So I am going out with him on the Tuesday after X-mas, and I'm going to see if he really likes me or my popularity! But this guy is SOOOO cute, popular, and romantic! Should I dump him or take back my role, i mean after all, he is the MAJOR CRUSH of the whole grade and he likes ME out of 56 other girls! What should I do?

Dude! What are you thinking? He'll only stick with you if you have money and a gynormous house? Give it up. You'd probably be that much more popular if the HOTTEST guy in the grade wasn't good enough to get you back, so in the interest of you and your popularity, hell to the naw.

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I am 28/f. The situation is complicated. He has had a female best friend for a while now. I have always felt a little jealous, like he was spending more time with her than with me. I know her and her boyfriend, and thus am 100% sure he is not cheating with her, but I am still jealous. About two months ago, we started marriage therapy. When he told me he wanted to to that, he said he felt like he should move out for a while and had arranged to stay with this woman temporarily. Now I am insanely jealous of her. He knows this. So does she. They are starting an internet business together, and as work at the same place, and spend a lot of time together as a result. We have been doing well in therapy. He understands my jealousy and has been spending less time with her over the past couple months, but now they are starting to spend more time together again. In fact, he is at her place now working on their internet project. Her bf is there too, but it is still hard for me. I don't know if I will ever stop being jealous of her. Honestly, I would feel better if he never saw her again. But I know that they are just friends, and I would feel terrible asking him to not see his best friend again.
Oh, about 5 years ago, I had a male best friend. My marriage was on the rocks then too as I was in the midst of terrible depression (for which I take antidepressants still). My husband let me go out with my friend all the time, so now I feel like a hypocrite not wanting him to spend time with her. But I never made arrangements to live with my friend.
Other than this issue, we have really worked out pretty much everything in therapy and are doing so well. I am very much in love with him again, and he loves me and makes it very clear. That only makes me feel worse about this jealousy I feel. Then I get stressed. It is a downward spiral from there.
I guess my questions are: Should I be so jealous? What can I do to make it less of a problem? Will I get over it? Should I ask him to not see her, or is that just a bit harsh?

Well, I understand why you would be jealous. No offense to you, but I would never let my wife go out somewhere with another guy, but on the other hand, I also wouldn't go out with another woman, and definitely not live with her. I mean what kind of crap is that. He chose to be with her over you. That's ridiculous. If you're married, you're married. That's it. You don't just say oh well, we're fighting I'll go stay with this other woman, even if she is his best friend, until we can live together again. What kind of crap is that. The truth is you shouldn't take this much crap off of him. I mean I wouldn't say he couldn't be around her, but working together should be enough. After a reasonable time of working together, he should come home and be a husband. Husband first, best friend second. You have to come first, no matter what. I hope you work it all out; I'm sure you will. Good luck.

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Its natural to want to clean yourself, ect. But its also natural to be in love. Or even to crave sex. How can anyone help it if they like men, not women, or vice versa?

your feelings as a member of a particular religious community notwithstanding,you have a responsibility as a citizen to support the extension of the same civil rights you yourself enjoy to everyone equally. Race, sex, religion, and sexual orientation must not affect the even application of civil rights.
Homosexuality is not morally wrong, but even if you believe it is, you must not oppose the right of any person to claim equal privileges under the law.
the bible is not literally written. God says 'adam and eve' because that is the NORM. Most people aren't gay. But that doesn't make it wrong, just not what eveyone does. If your argument is that gay couples can't get married because they don't produce children, then you have to say that old, or infertile couples shouldn't get married as well, because your using a whole different argument to validate your point of view.
Its been great.

Ok, the Bible also says that a man shall not lay in bed with another man and vice versa. I mean that's not a verbatim quote, but it says that. I didn't say it's because they can't produce children, it's that even if both are fertile neither can. Old or infertile couples, if they were fertile, could reproduce. Homosexual marriages can not produce children. This nation was founded on Christian beliefs and laws. Yes, everyone is equal, but homosexual marriages should not be allowed. It's as unnatural as a man and a dog getting married.

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Well my gf broke up with me then the next day made out with her ex. then me and her loved eachother again and we kissed and stuff and had a good time. then she told me she doesnt want love or a serious relationship but the next day has a bf that she had just told me the week before how she hated him so much. so i guess the question is really just what should i do next try to persue her or forget about her cuz ive tried that and its workin i guess but i still cant just forget her shes saved me from too much and has been there when i needed her but now we seem detached but i still luv her so idk just want some opinions please.

Ok, well about when she said she hates that guy, a lot of times when a girl says that or gets mad when she's talkin about a guy like that, it means she still has feelings for him, otherwise she wouldn't be so upset. Second, I wouldn't waste on more second of my time on her. You already took her back once after she dumper and made out with another guy and then gets a boyfriend after kissing you again. No way should you put up with that. I'd just ignore and act like you're not bothered at all. She may come back to you, but if I was you, I wouldn't take her back. Well, I helped. Friendly advice from Burnie Mac.

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Thanks for al the advice. Yeah it's weird a girl i just want to be friend with comes to our house while were gone and leaves me cupcakes on the kitchen counter. She trespassed. Don't you think this is crazy? What should i do about this?
But i also I used your advice and when we were leaving class I fianlly talked to her. I asked her where she'd been at. She had been sick a couple of days. She was smilling but looked up rarely and talking sweet but looked like she was in a hurry. What does this mean? What do you think i should say to her next? How can I tell if she likes me or not?

Thanks

Dude, the girl gave you cupcakes, she acts shy around you, plus, she gave you CUPCAKES. Yes! She likes you. Marry this woman. CUPCAKES!

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um i know this is kind of a weird question but how do u kiss/makeout? like what are some "techniques?" and what exactly is making out, it it basically french kissing? thanks, i rate

Haha, you just do it; no big deal. Just go with the flow. After a few times, it gets easier. Good luck. Friendly advice from Caleb. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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17/f
I don't know what to get my boyfriend of 4 months for valentines day. I cant get him a shirt because I already got him that for his birthday. I was thinking chocolates.. but is that enough? If that's not enough.. should I make him dinner? Should it be all fancy with candles and everything? Or should it just be like eating dinner in front of the TV? Any other ideas for what I should get him? Thanks

Well, since I happen to be a dude, I'll tell you what I would like; maybe it will help you some. I'd really like for my girlfriend to make me dinner and invite me over to eat with her and watch a movie or something. If you did that and gave him something, like chocolate or whatever, he should be plenty impressed; at least I would be. Well, I hope I helped you. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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im going to use an example from my sisters history to explain this. I ask her out using your approach. She says yes. We date for a little while and then break up. Will that kill the relationship we already have. This has happened to my sister 3 times. thts why i said the first sentence. Thnk you so much aagain.

P.S. you can probably tell im not very good at this dating stuff. And if you ever get any more dating tips,could you please email them to me at magicman0922@aol.com? i would really appreciate it. Thanks again

I'll send you some tips dude. Just ask me anything you want to, and I'll help you out the best I can. I've been through some pretty weird stuff with girls, so I know some things, but there's always more to learn.

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sorry to bother you again. Just wondering, this girl is my best friend which is kind of weird because that usually does not happen to me with the girls being the best friend. I mean she is in 5/6 classes and she already tells me most of her secrets. I know i like being around her and i know she likes being around me. I just dont know if she likes me like i like her. And i f i do ask her out, and she says no, will that ruin the relationship that we already have?

Well, being attracted to a girl physically and all that stuff fades after a while. Friendship is what holds a relationship together. I mean I can't lie to you, if you do go out and yall break up, it will be a little awkward, but you can still be friends. I really think that if you like her this way, that you should try it. Just take the approach I told you and see how it goes. If she says that she doesn't like you that way, then just say, "Well, that's okay. It's no big deal. If you don't want to do this, then we don't have to; we can just be friends." It won't be all that awkward. I hope I helped. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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Ok well theres this guy i work with and hes younger then me but really cute, and i kinda like him. Anyway he talks to me a lot but i find he talks to the other girls as well. I know its weird but i am the jealous type and i was wondering how i would determine if he likes me more then the other girls he talks to. So here are some things i can tell:

We've worked the same hours toghther almost for a week and everyday he finds some way to talk to me, either its to ask me something or joke around me, and every night before he leaves he tells me good night.

-He kinda makes fun of me jokingly about how i should bag faster and that he must faster then i am.

-He was collecting shopping carts all alone one night and he asked me to come and help him (just the 2 of us) i dunno if he meant it romantically though or if he just wanted help, lol

-i have caught him checking me out but how do i know he just isn't a "guy" and that he does this to everyone?

I guess i am unsure of his signals due to the fact thats he younger and i don't know how to determine his signs. So any help on this topic will be helpful. Thanks in advance. P.S I rate all 5's

Ok, I'm a 16 year old guy, and I'm dating a girl who's about to turn 18. So, I know how the younger guy older girl thing is. This guy sounds like he likes you. I mean if I like a girl then yeah, I'm nice to her, but I joke around with her too. It's just part of it. Being able to laugh about each other's qualities takes pressure off of the tension between you two. I think you should ask him what he's doing this weekend and see if he wants to do something with you. He's probable a little weary of the fact that your older and that you may not like a younger guy. You asking him out wouldn't be a bad thing if he says yes, which if he acts like you say he does, then he'll probable say yes. I think you should go for it. Well, I hope I helped. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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im 16 year old gurl and i think i might be bi-sexual because i went to this party last weekend and i made out with a gurl and she told that she likes me and now i kinda like her back too
but i still like guys of course.

Aight, well, I mean, I'm straight, so I don't really know about any bisexual feelings. I mean that just depends on what you feel I suppose; if you like her like that then do whatever blows your skirt up, whatever floats your boat, whatever blows your hair back, whatever toots your flute, well, you get the point. I say do what you feel like is the best, and only you can know that. I hope I helped you out at least a little. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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13/F
My friends and I call making out hooking up. Well anyways, I've never done it. I wanted to know how to do it? I've been close to doing it but never done it. If I had braces and the other person had braces would we get stuck together? Tell me how to make out with a person...

It's not as hard as you think; after you do it once, it will come a lot easier; trust me. Really and truly you just go with the flow. Not a whole lot of skill involved, but don't think about it too much, because then you may put too much pressure on yourself and make the experience not be as fun as it should be. Well, I hope I helped you out. Peace out.

Burnie Mac

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I was just talking to my boyfriend about how he makes me feel; wonderful, amazing, incredible, and how I wanted to make him feel that way too. Well, I got something I totally didn't expect. He told me sometimes I make him feel unwanted. I never knew this. My heart is in my stomach. I'm getting chills every other second. What do I do? How can I make him feel more wanted?

I'm a dude, and I just want to say that the answers so far have been perfect. There is no way to show that you care about him other than what these people have said. I just thought I'd let you know that as a guy, I completely agree with what these girls had to say. Peace out.
Caleb

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ok i had this boyfriend for 6 months and i thought everything was going good. But after we did some stuff and my mom found out about it he broke up with me cuz he was scared. but he was my first love and i had never felt this way about a guy before. But now i think he likes another girl and i still love him. he told me we would probley go out agian but i am scared that he will hert me agian. what should i do with all of these emotions. everyone tells me i am to good for him but i always want him back. I really love him and hope he likes me agian. but what should i do???

please help! thnks

Honestly, if he's not giving you the time of day anymore, then I think that you should do your best to move on. Get out there and talk to other guys and take your mind off of him. Eventually you'll get over him, or he may get jealous and want you back, but if he did come back to you, I don't think you should take him back so easily. I mean apparently, and I don't want to be so blunt, he doesn't see you like you see him. Love doesn't work if it's only coming from one person; you need someone to love you back. I hope that I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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Last year i went out with a girl that i loved so much and she broke up with me for another kid. Lately i find myself liking people but then not liking them when they like me back. i feel permanantly scarred from this girl who did this to me but i dont know how to get myself back on my feet. Any of you have some advice for me?

I seem to have that problem too. I mean it's like when I like a girl and I see that she's interested in me maybe, I seem to lose interest in her. It's weird. I really don't know what you can do to help this out; sorry I don't have an answer; I just wanted to let you know that I too have that same problem. Well, if you find out something, let me know.

Caleb
(Burnie Mac)

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I love this guys and he loves me too. Hes so incredibly perfect for me and i want to be with him so bad. The only problem is he lives 2000 miles away! I dont really want to go out with anyone at home but i also dont want to be single for the rest of highschool..i dont think hed every get into a relationship with me because of the distance either. i dunno what i should do..and if i decide to have a bf how do i tell him?

Well, first of all, remember, you're in high school. You don't need to be so tied down to someone, especially someone 2,000 miles away. You should probably just date people that are closer to where you are, it's much more fun I'm sure. If you do decide to do that, then just tell him. Don't beat around the bush; tell him that you're gonna date other people that are closer to you. He'll understand I'm sure. He'd probably agree with you too. Anyways, it's up to you; I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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I'm a hugeeeeeee tomboy. I always wear t-shirts and long shorts, my hair is always pulled back, and i dont wear makeup. I mean, im not fat, just bulky and muscular. I dont wanna change any of this. But i've never had a boyfriend, and maybe its cus i act too much like a guy. I really want a boyfriend, but i dont wanna change. What type of guy would i go good with? WHAT SHOOD I DO!!!

Well, I guess most guys are just a little apprehensive about going out with a girl who is a tomboy, but there is always someone who would love to. I mean if you don't want to change yourself, which you shouldn't, then don't. Just let what happens happen. That way when you do get a guy, he'll want you for you, and not someone that you're not. Be yourself and good things will happen. I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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well theres this guy & he tells me he loves me & flirts all tha time but i think he's caught up on my friend & my friends say he likes me but is scared 2 "settle" with me should i wait on him or just forget about it? plz help if u can.

Ok, if it's true this dude is scared to "settle" with you, then forget him. Do you want someone to be with and think of it as settling. I'm pretty sure when you say settle that you mean he's saying that you're not his top choice. If this is true, then you don't need to waste your time with someone who sees being with you as settling for second best. I hope that I understood your mentioning of the word "settle". I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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hey me and my boyfriend have only seen eachother once. We talk a lot but we never see eachother that much, and i really like him. All my friends say to break up with him but i really like him, i dont know what to do? I always ask him when can you hangout he says i dont know. But when my friend asks him he gives a day. We were supposed to hangout this weekend but he never called me back. He always says he loves me one day we stayed on the phone till one in the morning! Hes so sweet but i never see him. I dont know what to do anymore.
Julia xox

HMMMMM......That's a little strange. I think you need to confront him and ask him why you two never get to see each other. I mean I know relationships shouldn't be completely physical, but I mean you at least need to see the dude once in a while. Don't be afraid to ask him. Let him know that you want to see him, and put some pressure on him to spend some time with you in person. Who knows, maybe he's just shy, but you still need to see him ya know? Well, I hope I helped you. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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ok my bf (lets call him ed) was talking about running away. then i was talking about running away. we both have some family problems that we want to get away from. and his friend(lets call him bob)is just a huge risk taker. and one night i was talking to ed and he said that me and him should run away together:-\ and then he said bob would go with us. well, its been about a month now and we sarted talking about how ed didnt want to do it anymore because he is even more sad. and now i dont know if were going or not. i dont know what he means by he is too sad...do you think that means he wants to kill himself or something?
please help me

OK, so you both are having some family problems and want to run away. That's understandable, but I think that it would be a very bad thing to do. Families go through things that are tough sometimes, but you have to stick together to make it work. Now, I'm not saying that I know what you or your boyfriend is going through, but trust me, if you run away, and then you're out there on your own without mom and dad, things will only be worse. Not to mention all the bad things that could happen. Please don't do that. As for your boyfriend, by him having family problems and saying that he's sad, I hate to say this, but maybe he is thinking about doing the worst(suicide). You need to have a good talk with him. Don't ask him if that's what he's thinking, just encourage him to look on the brighter side of life, like all the good things that could be coming your way. All in all, this is something that a lot of people go through, and you just have to work through it. I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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