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lol. lets see. im 13. almost 14. i love to dance!!!!! im adorable, loveable, a SWEETHeART, a CUTIE-PIE.
ive had boyfriends, fights, anorexic friends, suicidal friends, annoying brothers, messed up computers, failed school, and handled it all HORIABLY!!!
but ive learned from my mistakes.
and now i can advise you NOT to mess up the same way that I DID!! lol
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So me and my boyfriend have been together for a while. I have been miserable for over a month now. I cut myself once to see how it would feel even though i was and still am absoulutly against it. I have no idea how my boyfriend found out but that is not important. So two days later he goes to the doctors to make sure his mono is gone. then the doctor told him he was suffering from depression again. we both know it was mostly my fault. and i can never forgive myself. my misery is getting worse. and im not sure what i should do. at random times my boyfried will just stop acting happy and frown and have an attitude and be annoyed by anyone around him. do you have any ideas on how i can make things right?
i can not talk to him about anything things are stressed out as they are. do you think its normal for my misery to be getting worse? has this ever happened to anyone before?
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its not your fault that hes depressed, and it is so un-fair of him to blame it on you. you did not make him depressed, you had reasons to cut yourself, and if he found out, so what? you cant blame yourself! thats not fair! he is depressed, and you are blaming yourself but its not your fault!!! hes depressed because of himself, and not because of you. you need to come to a realization that he has brought this on himself, and there is nothing that you couldve done to prevent it. if it wasnt cutting yourself, he wouldve been depressed over somthing else that you did. please, do not worry about it having any partial blame on you!
you can, however, try to help him to get over his depression. most suicidal people suffer from depression. you dont want your boyfriend to be one of them. tell him that your sorry that hes going through this, and that you are there for him. its good that hes seeing doctors, and so they will probably give him medication or somthing to recover from it. it probably wont be so long until he has revcovered, and then you can talk about what hapened, how both of you felt about it, hoos fault it was, etc. your 100% right in saying if you talk to him now it probably wont work out to well. just try to show support. Depression sort of locks everybody out of who ever has it, and so he may not want to talk to you for a while, but dont take offense because its not your fauly. Depression can last a long time, and will definately put a strain on your relationship. you may not want to deal with it. Remeber, you can breka up with him if youd like. give it some time and then decide, because you dont need to put yourself through that. if he is depressed he may take it out on you. you should talk to sombody, maybe a counslor or somthing. being eith sombody who is depressed can be difficult. i wish you the best of luck!
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so basically one of my friends told me that this guy named joey liked me, he is extremeley smart, good looking and a year older than me (im 16) and my friend told me that he wants to ask me out for two reasons 1. he kinda likes me 2. there is this girl named bridget same age as he who also likes him and wants joey to ask her out but joey does not want to go out with her and so he wants to ask me out so maybe bridget would back off. I like joey but i also like this guy 18 m phil. He is incredibly good looking and he is a girl magnet, i thought he liked me because he kept on flirting with me last year and this year but my sister told me he does that to all girls and he also smokes a lot (for me thats a turnoff). I want to go out with joey but i don't want to get in a fight with bridget about it because my friend told me that he wants me to go with the plan that if joey asks me out i would say yes, but i actually do like him but i just dont want bridget to get mad at me, i don't want to talk to bridget because im not that close with her shes just in a couple of my classes, but i dont want to say no to the offer either and then theres phil... what should i do? (link)
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from what i get phil is fine because he has no complications. the 18 year old, he sounds like a player i wouldent go for him. the one that bridget likes, i dont think theres a problem if you realy like him, you can deal with bridget, you arent close friends anyways. but it does bother me that this boy is only asking you out to get rid of bridget....sounds a bit like hes using you..i dont like that. Phil sounds like the best choice, but follow your heart!
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:(hello again everyone
i have another question
at school in my class, we play truth or dare when the teacher doesnt look. when we play we play it pretty bad, we say stuff like "i dare you to touch Jakes balls" or soome thing like that, it is really embarassing and stupid, but we have fun still. when it gets around to me having a turn and i have to kiss some one they always say stuff like "why does she have to kiss ME?" and stuff like that. But if another girl had to do it, for example : talisha, natasha or Stacey. the boys would probably turn their heads so they girls kiss their lips. and i think i know why. i think it is because i am not really that pretty and i have NO boobs, every girl in my class has boobs, except for me. and i hate it sooooo bad. i wanna scream out loud and tell the boys to get over the fact that i was dared to kiss or touch them.
what should i do? and should i worry about it sooo much?:( SORRY FOR THIS BEING SOO LONG lol... (link)
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uch sweetheart, boys suck. theyre jerks somtimes. girls do the same thing. you could maybe ask not to play if it emberasses you, or when they dare you to kiss sombody be like "ick! do i have to? hes sooo gross!" and just play with it, act like it dosent affect you and that your just as grossed out to kiss them.
&lotsa luv!
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okay so i hang out with a lot of guys. but i cant really help it. i just get along better with guys. girls start too much drama and i hate drama. so some girls at my school think im a whore and are startin rumors that im doin stuff with all the guys i hang out with and that im cheatin on my boyfriend. but thats so not true. these guys are like my brothers. i wouldn't do anything with them. and i would never cheat on my boyfriend! he means the world to me. and he understands that i have a lot of guy friends and he's okay with it. he knows i wouldn't do anything with any of them. but i dont want that kind of rumor about me to spread. i mean. everyone at school knows im not like that. and my boyfriend and all my friends were like dont worry about it, they are just jealous that all the guys talk to you and not them. but idk. what do you think? (link)
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these girls are probabl jelous that you can have normal relationships with boys, or they arent used to girls being just friends with boys. im so sorry about all these rumours, that really really suxx!!! tell the girls that are starting these rumours that you wouldent do that, and what have you done to make the think that you would? If they laugh, or are all abnoxious about it, i think that you need to ignore them,, and forget about it. you cant control it. things like this suck, but theres not much that you can do about it. girls are going to be annoying and start rumors, and its horianble.
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hey
look i know you all are like, "omg. not another love life question." but i'd reaaally appreciate it if you all could answer my questionn :]
i think this guy likes me. but he's popular. he smiles and stares at me a lot... well at lunch, i was talking with a couple girls and i said this one guy was hot (but i dont like him.) lets call him guy one. well my guyfriend, guyfriend one, pretended that he was gonna tell guy one. well he didnt.
so, at dismissal, my crush was walking behind me and well i think he kinda likes me. so guyfriend one goes, "ohhh i'm gonna tell guy one you like him!" and he SAID guy one's name! and my crush like i felt hooooorrrible cause i mean what if he likes me, you know? and he started walking in front of me and i think he's really sad. but i was like, "omg i dont like (guy one's name here)"
well. joy for me, it's spring break now. and i wont see him until monday april 9! (todays march 30).
on that monday, should i just smile at him and like not ignore him? what if he doesnt even like me and i'm totally in over my head?
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dont worry. just, next time your around your crush, tell your guy friend, "remeber? i dont like HotGuy #1". then, your crush will know that you dont like another boy. Then, you can smile and flirt with your crush.
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OK... so I liked this guy(Tim) for about two months. Then I finally fessed up to him and he said that he felt the same way. He asked me to be his gf about two days later. But no one was happy for me! My friends said that he wasn't worthy of me and that he wasn't nearly good enough. But I really really liked him so I still went out with him. But now, he's just like scared of me! He won't talk to me except for on email, he will barely even look at me. (Not that I've noticed. A few of my friends have caught him staring at me.) I really really like Tim but I want him to be a little closer to me and stop acting like I'm something to be scared of. =( (link)
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your friends just love you to death. they probably dont think that this boy is good enough for you, but thats okay. if you like him, i dont see a problem. the thing is, he probably isnt talking to you so much because he likes you too much! hes probably shy from you. your going to need to make the first move and go talk to HIM first. xoox
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Do fat people get boyfriends//girlfriends?
Cause the basic trend is dieting your butt off and you rarely see 'fatties' getting bf//gfs.
I'm pretty fat will i get a bf? I mean I hve faith I'll get married and stuff but will i get a bf who will appreciate me? (link)
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you will get boyfriends, definately! and more importantly, you will get all of the nice guys, because the skinny girls only get boys who like them because they are skinny, and not for who they are. you will get all of the nice boys who will treat you right, and all of the skinny girls will be jelous.
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So, i decided to ask my boyfriend of 5 months if he likes any one else. Well, at first he kinda wasnt answering me straight and then he went to get a drink at the water fountation and then hes like not really i was like its a yes or no question and he got another drink and i was like hello! answer me hes like i told you yes. When he kept saying not really. and so he told me and stuff. And i said something like why dont you go out with her then and hes like well because shes dating somebody and i was like what?? thats your only reason?? and hes like no and because shes half black and stuff but you would think he'd be like well no because i love you and stuff butt NO.
ugh.
what should i do?
Thanks (link)
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sweetheart, you need to break up with him!! if you have been dating for FIVE MONTHS, and he treats you like this, you can NOY tollerate it! you deserve so much better!!! he is such a jerk. break up with him now, and find sombodu so much better!!!
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There was this guy we were going out four years ago and I broke it off. I had not seen him since four years ago, then I decided to call him because I felt guilty for the break-up. I mean I am more mature now. We started hanging out again and he has been flirting a lot, I thought he like me, so I started having feelings for him..I told him how I felt last night and he totally rejected me. I wonder why? I thought that being together, I mean after not seeing each other after a long time, was meant to be? I am so confused? what happend? (link)
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he probably likes you, but he was hurt when you broke it off, and so he wanted to pay you back for it. so that you would hurt just like he did. now, give it maybe a week, and then go back. tell him that you were hurting. then, hell have all of his hurt out, and will be more accepting of the relationship. good luck!!
xxox
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There is this guy, he's older than me by maybe 10 years or more, And I really like him. We get along great and he's kind of flirty with me... Sometimes I catch him looking at me and when I look at him he smiles at me and then winks, When he talks to me he always puts his arm around me.. Or when i'm alone, he comes to me and starts up conversations. When he wants me to do something simple, he grabs my hands and talks smoothly.. I really have fallen for him and with him acting this way, I've gotten comfortable enough to act the same way around him and it's great... He's great... But the other day I overheard a conversation he was having with someone and found out that he's married... SO why is he treating me like this?? Does he like me? Or is it all in my head? I've talked to him a lot and i've gotten to know him a lot and he's never mentioned that he was married....
Oh and i'm 19, he's about 29 or 30... I've always gotten along with older people better... so it's nothing sick or weird! Don't judge me! haha jk (link)
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a lot of people are married and have affiars, its not completely out of the ordinary but i dont think thats the case. i think that he sees you as a younger sister or cousin, and he was being affectionate, but not flirtatious propously. i think that he loves to have you around, but just as a friend or a little sister. i dont think that he sees you in a romantic way.
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15/f ok so i have been dating this one guy on and off for about a yr and a half...none of our relationships ever last long like i think a month and a half was the longest and thats now and he has kissed other girls and made out with them but he has never kissed me. im not one to make the first move usually ever i just get to shy. alot of ppl think im prude but its not that i wouldnt want to makeout w a guy or whatever i really do!! but i just dont want to make a move. this guy i dont think i might be wrong has never made a first move...im pretty sure hes made a move but never the first one... some of his other girlfriends were pretty much sluts so yea. any suggestions? ik he isnt like scared to makeout with some1 cause he has alot of times so its not like he doesnt want to or isnt ready but idk what it is with him like should i just work stop being so shy and just do it? but im always scared that something terrible i like him alot more then ive ever liked any1 and i dont want to mess things up... im just scared that he will break up w me if i dont and i have madeout w other guys before so that isnt the issue im not really this nervous when making out w some1 i dont like this much sorry if this question is really confusing but please help! the more advice the better! (link)
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no stress. i know, its nerve-racking. you could tell a friend that if he made a move, you would kiss him back. and then it will get around to him. And then, he will know to make the move. Or, hint it out to him. you could say, everybody has been telling me what a good kisser you are, but i havent gotten a chnace to find out for myself yet. or, you could sort of half make the move, and let him finish it. like get half way to kissing him and then he will know he has to kiss you.
if your going to make the move, dont think about it. just do it on an impulse. if you think it through, you might chicken out. just do it, get it over with. ittle be fine, dont worrry. if he will break up with you if you dont kiss him, he dosent seem like a very good boyfriend. but if you want to, just take a deep breath and do it. You might want to look aat these websites, about making the first move, but you know abut kissing because youve done it. but yeah, its how to make the first move. Sources:
http://www.ruthinking.co.uk/about_you/growing_up/pucker_move.aspx
http://en.allexperts.com/q/Right-Move-852/First-Kiss.htm
http://en.allexperts.com/q/Right-Move-852/FIRST-KISS-PLEASE-HELP.htm
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Someone-Kiss-You-First---for-Girls
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okay so ive had a boyfriend for 7 months now..and lately every little thing he did was starting to annoy me, so i knew it was time for a break...he still really loves and cares about me though. He's 15 and i just turned 17 and he won't be 16 till April...so that kinda turned me off a bit too. the thing is is that i really like 2 other guys.. both of them used to like me...but once i started going out with my now ex, one of them, "bob" started going out with another girl. and the other one, "Blake" has a kid and lives two hours away...
okay Blake....
the night before i broke up with my bf Blake came to see me... he told me that his girlfriend broke up with him 2 days ago... and he kept making suddle moves on me the whole night, but i didn't lean in for a kiss because i STILL had a bf... it's been a week since he came to see me and he hasn't called or texted.. but i really like him..... some of my friends think he used me just for a rebound, some of my other friends think that it was just a coinsedence and that hes just really busy. I personally don't understand why he would drive 2 hours just to rebound, when he couldve found another girl closer...
now Bob...
bob used to like me...but he didn't tell me until i asked him if he did... and i had just started going out with another guy. I liked bob too....now bob's being a jerk and we're both REALLY mean to eachother... but you can tell that we hate being mean eachother if that makes any sense at all....
i like them both... but i dont know what to do...
i guess:
1) do you think its okay to text a guy if he doesn't text you back or would you sound to desperate and should u just wait for him to text you?
2) how do you ask a guy if he likes you without asking that direct question?
3) what are some things i could say to bob that hint around at me liking him but don't sound slutty cuz he does have a gf?
4) Was Blake just using me for a rebound?
thanks.
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1) do you think its okay to text a guy if he doesn't text you back or would you sound to desperate and should u just wait for him to text you?
NO, ITS NOT DESPERATE. MAYBE THEYRE NOT BY THEIR PHONE OR SOMTHING. THEYL BE FLATTERED, IT DOSENT SOUND OBSESSIVE OR DESPERATE, YOU CAN TEXT HIM FIRST.
2) how do you ask a guy if he likes you without asking that direct question?
ASK HIM, DO YOU LIKE ANYBODY? OR LIKE, ASK HIM IF HE WANTS TO PLAY WHO DO YOU RATHER WHERE YOU NAME PEOPLE AND HE SAYS WHO HE WOULD RATHER DATE, KISS, ETC. OR, ASK HIM WHAT HIS TOP FIVE IS. TOP FIVE IS THE 5 PEOPLE HE LIKES THE MOST.
4) Was Blake just using me for a rebound?
NO! BLAKE WOULD NOT DRIVE 2 HOURS JUST FOR AREBOUND. HES PROBABLY LOST HIS PHONE, OR, HES HAD A LOT OF HOMEWORK OR A BASKETBALL TOURNAMENT ORSOMTHING. DONT STRESS ABOUT IT. YOUR NOT HIS REBOUND. HE PROBABLY REALLY LIKES YOU. JUST INVITE HIM OVER AGAIN AND LET HIM MAKE HIS MOVE.
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is it wrong? i don't know, i cant tell family, they wont understand. and friends know. I'm just afraid, and I'm confused
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i know its a bit after you asked this question, and i hope that your not still confused. but, i am guesing that i can still answer, because im guessing that your still bi.
you dont need to tell your parents if you dont want to. you are your own person! you might want to tell them once you are more secure about it though.
you might want to check this out...
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070320111628AAPEIY0
its about telling your parents if you havent done so already.
but please dont stress. you are 100% completel normal.
xoxoxo!!!
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Should I kiss on the first date? (link)
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i think if you know the person from before, and youve been friends or you have liked them for a long time. if you just met them like a week ago or somthing, id give a kiss on the cheek or somthing.
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