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guy problems. 4 questions. (guys preferably, but girls too)
okay so ive had a boyfriend for 7 months now..and lately every little thing he did was starting to annoy me, so i knew it was time for a break...he still really loves and cares about me though. He's 15 and i just turned 17 and he won't be 16 till April...so that kinda turned me off a bit too. the thing is is that i really like 2 other guys.. both of them used to like me...but once i started going out with my now ex, one of them, "bob" started going out with another girl. and the other one, "Blake" has a kid and lives two hours away...
okay Blake....
the night before i broke up with my bf Blake came to see me... he told me that his girlfriend broke up with him 2 days ago... and he kept making suddle moves on me the whole night, but i didn't lean in for a kiss because i STILL had a bf... it's been a week since he came to see me and he hasn't called or texted.. but i really like him..... some of my friends think he used me just for a rebound, some of my other friends think that it was just a coinsedence and that hes just really busy. I personally don't understand why he would drive 2 hours just to rebound, when he couldve found another girl closer...
now Bob...
bob used to like me...but he didn't tell me until i asked him if he did... and i had just started going out with another guy. I liked bob too....now bob's being a jerk and we're both REALLY mean to eachother... but you can tell that we hate being mean eachother if that makes any sense at all....
i like them both... but i dont know what to do...
i guess:
1) do you think its okay to text a guy if he doesn't text you back or would you sound to desperate and should u just wait for him to text you?
2) how do you ask a guy if he likes you without asking that direct question?
3) what are some things i could say to bob that hint around at me liking him but don't sound slutty cuz he does have a gf?
4) Was Blake just using me for a rebound?
thanks.
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Hmm, first the questions:
1) I see nothing wrong with texting a guy but in general you shouldn't over do it. It's not about looking desperate but more of how it can seem clingy or become annoying (I speak from experience).
2) I suppose you could ask them if there's anyone out there they like at the moment and observe their reaction towards you or just see what they say. If they just say yer there is and give you a 'look' then it may even be you. But generally the only way to be sure is to ask if it's you or ask who it is.
3) Telling him that you like him whilst he has a gf may be a mistake anyway. Think of it this way... if you tell him you like you and he says, "great I like you too" and proceeds to dump his girlfriend for you. The think you need to ask yourself after that is how long will it be before another girl comes along telling him she likes him and he dumps you for her.
4) My guess would be yes. I'll be very upfront with you. You mentioned the 2 hour thing. I don't think that would stop a guy at all if he was on the rebound and thought he may have a chance to ease his pain (and generally the way guys ease that pain during a rebound is thorough sex). That aside I generally have a bad feeling about any guy who would make a move on a girl knowing full well she has a boyfriend. :/
Overall I think the choice really is yours. You need to decide who you will be happiest with and who will treat you properly and isn't just out to mess you around. There is no certain way though to know which it is out of the two - it's just how relationships work and why most relationships don't work out. Sometimes we just pick the wrong guy (or girl).
Good luck. :]
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<b> 1) do you think its okay to text a guy if he doesn't text you back or would you sound to desperate and should u just wait for him to text you?
NO, ITS NOT DESPERATE. MAYBE THEYRE NOT BY THEIR PHONE OR SOMTHING. THEYL BE FLATTERED, IT DOSENT SOUND OBSESSIVE OR DESPERATE, YOU CAN TEXT HIM FIRST.
2) how do you ask a guy if he likes you without asking that direct question?
ASK HIM, DO YOU LIKE ANYBODY? OR LIKE, ASK HIM IF HE WANTS TO PLAY WHO DO YOU RATHER WHERE YOU NAME PEOPLE AND HE SAYS WHO HE WOULD RATHER DATE, KISS, ETC. OR, ASK HIM WHAT HIS TOP FIVE IS. TOP FIVE IS THE 5 PEOPLE HE LIKES THE MOST.
4) Was Blake just using me for a rebound?
NO! BLAKE WOULD NOT DRIVE 2 HOURS JUST FOR AREBOUND. HES PROBABLY LOST HIS PHONE, OR, HES HAD A LOT OF HOMEWORK OR A BASKETBALL TOURNAMENT ORSOMTHING. DONT STRESS ABOUT IT. YOUR NOT HIS REBOUND. HE PROBABLY REALLY LIKES YOU. JUST INVITE HIM OVER AGAIN AND LET HIM MAKE HIS MOVE.
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1) Text him and ask him what he's doing. It won't sound desperate at all. But only text him once.
Maybe he just hasn't had time to call/text or whatever.
2) I don't know about this but I would just go ahead and ask it. I mean, what do you have to lose.
3) Just tell "Bob" that you like him. Don't play around because you could send him mixed signals and that would just be bad.
4) Not if he drove that long to come and see you. He probably just hasn't had the time to call/text you. I am sure he has an explanation.
Good Luck. I hope I helped.
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