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Q: A boy. Never met before. Pretty cute. Not all that popular. I don't know if he is single or not. How do I go up to him/talk to him. I would like to get to know him. CONVO STARTERS??!?!
here a CONVO STARTER:hi.

Q: ok so this week im going to florida. and i found out the guy im going wiht is also!!! and his room is liek right next door to me!!! what do i do to get his attention?? with out like walking outside in my bra? lmao.
LMAO! YOUR SO FUNNY. um talk to him. next time you need an answer ask yourself.

Q: I realized, I flirt a lot, with just about EVERY guy in my school..and i have a boyfriend..what are some ways that I could stop flirting.. I feel bad.. but sometimes I can't help it..i'm a natural flirt..thanks.
i guess you are just a "natural flirt" boy are yo full of yourself. try not being so promiscuous slut.

Q: me & my bf are totally in love.
but we graduate this year and are going to dif.high school.help?
Keep in touch, alot. Call eachother everyday, after schoo, maybe go out together after school to the mall, resturanut, anywhere. Always hangout on weekends. And be truthful to eachother.

--natalie

Q: well usally theirs steps in a relationship and you usally tell your bf/gf that you want to go to the next step in a relationship as in my case french kiss or make out. but this person lives in another state. when they come to visit i'd like to take this step. so i was gonna tell them i wanted to make this step. but is that a good idea because i hardly ever see this person. i dont want to go to far and then not see them for a while and reck our relationship. any advice? thanks
call them and talk to them and ask them their opinion. I'm sure their on the same page as you. I know it may come off to you as emabrassing to ask them where they are but in the long run it will help!

-natalie

Q: Ok well me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months on tuesday. I love him so much and he loves me. Me and him argue almost everyday on the phone. We argue everyday unless we see eachother. But sometimes when we see eachother and he goes home we will talk on aim and get into an arguement. they are silly arguements and don't last very long. I always get mad at him but he has probably only gotten mad at me once or twice in our 7 months. We are so close and have gone prety far so i dont know if that imformation was improtant. But we argue almost everyday. And me and him are on the phone right now and havent spoken for a good 20 minutes because of an arguement. We will get over it soon. He probably already has and im just not the one talking. Anyways im going to ask my question... Is it normal for a young couple such as our selfs to be argueing about stupid stuff everyday?
thats pretty abnormal. you shouldnt argue. dont waste your time with someone you cant be happy with. he might not care enough for you to stand a second or two to actually be happy with you. if i were in your position i would break up, but thats just me because i cant stand fights. he might be using you if you said had "gone far." and if you still stay together and go farther just imagine having his baby. he would leave you in a second because someone who argues so much is immature and cant handle a baby.

Q: I am going out with a guy named dustin and he is cool and all but he tells his friends he is going to kiss me and invite me to the movies and stuff and he hasnt yet. It has been 3 weeks and we havent hung out or anything. We dont really have much to talk about and he doesnt like hugging. I kinda like him still but then this other guy came along..josh. he is soo sweet and weird (like me) and HILARIOUS! he is really easy to talk to and we have "chemistry". What should i do? Should i break up with dustin? What is the best way to break up with guys?

thanks in advance!
i think you should break up with dustin. if hes not gonna make a move and you "like" him then you should move on to the guy who has a personality like you and you have chemistry with him, and thats a big focul point in love. the best way i would say is, i like this other guy, and its not really you that i dont like its just we havent moved in the relationship.
i would say that if i was you.

--natalie

Q: how do you know when a guy likes you?
when you like him back, and you're not
in a relationship.. just acquantences I guess
and your not sure..

when your a 7th grade girl in middle school..
sometimes you can see it, if there either looking at you, act kind of shy around you, or actually come up to you and joke around and stuff. you could always ask one of his friends, or if your REALLY not shy ask him. but i wouldnt even do that. you could meet him and most of the times its pretty obvious. hope who you like likes you back.

--natalie

Q: I need advice on this guy that I like... The problem is that my other friends all like him and he basically flirts with every girl he meets. So what should I do? Forget about him? Still like him? Or ask him out? Or.. something else...?
I say go for it! If he likes you too then maybe he will cut down on the flirting and focus in you!

--Natalie

Q: my boyfriend and i were together for 6 months and i liked him for a year(it took us a while to go actually become a couple) well, i broke up with him a month ago because we fought too muchand when we first broke up i thought i should go out and have fun and flirt so i kissed two other guys and when i did i kept thinking about him and how much better of a kisser he was, how much nicer he was, etc..and ever since then its been off and on missing him insanely..to not wanting to talk to him(thats only when he wants to talk about stuff about him missing me and stuff though)to feeling like i absolutely love him..weve hung out since we broke up and on impulse i ran up and hugged and kissed him and felt SO HAPPY and i still find myself wanting to be with him..and other guys just dont seem to compare to him and i still always wanna call him when im sad and need someone..but sometimes i dont even think about him much and after the breakup i wasnt even that devastated..just felt empty..is this love or something im mistaking for love? im sorry its long haha i go into detail too much i gotta fix that i suppose
No problem. the long ones are the best. i would totally say its love. and you should so talk to him and see how he feels too. I really hope it works out for you two!!!


--natalie

Q: hey i just asked a question about kissing guys necks. but i forgot to add something.

how can i let him know that i want him to kiss mine too? without actually saying it. ive kissed his neck many times and hes kissed mine once but for like 2 seconds. and i wanna get the same treatment! haha

thanks
You could always intensify the kiss to turn him no to do the same or whisper in his ear sexily my turn. so you could do that. or actually like tell him, but that would kind of be wierd. i hope i helped.

--natalie

Q: so i pretty much just have some questions; any help would be awesome. is second base supposed to feel good for the girl? if i'm moving my hands around and go "down there" but don't want to do anything more then just touch and kiss, will he get the wrong idea? should i stay away from there altogether until i want to go farthur? is it better to unhook your bra or go over, and if he can't do it should i?

thanks for the help, i now its alot of questions!
yes second base is supposed to feel good for a girl and guy.um he might get the wrong idea but you can always tell him. i dont really think you should stay away, as you call it its second base, there are steps that get you ready when you want to go farther. and if you do, use a condom. i think you should unhook your bra, because if he cant it would be awkward.

Q: I Am 16 And I Have A Boyfriend And I Love Him ALOT!!! Lately It Seems Like All I Can Think About IS Doing Stuff With Other Guys! However When I Am With My Boyfriend Or Talking To Him...I Dont Have That Problem! So What Exactly Is Going On Here...
Just puberty, while your going through that you have new thoughts about guys and what not. every girl has those feelings. Its normal. And thats good that you dont think about doing stuff with others when your with your boyfriend.

Q: Okay, I'm fourteen, a girl, and in desperate need of some advice. There's this guy I like (he's two years older than me, if that makes any difference) and he goes to a different school than I do. So, I only see him once a week at karate--sometimes not even that! Now, I found out that he likes practically everything I like. He seems a little nervous when he talks to me though, and I find him occasionally looking at me. But if I look at him, he quickly turns away.
Now here's the problem. I convinced him to try out for his school's play, since he never did before, and he tried out. Not so bad, right? My friend's friend knows more about him though, so I asked her about him. She said he was in all of the previous plays, that he's never had a grilfriend, and that he's a loser! That's horrible! But, did he really lie to me? We're friends, why would he do that? It's just...some people say he likes me, and it's just...no one I know is like him. And the signs are there...so...does he like me?

I think he pretty much does like you. If hes a nerd who cares! if he likes you and you like him then go for it! its love! heres a quote that i like: I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

i hope you get something from this advice and this quote. =]

--natalie

Q: My boyfriend got me a neclace for Christmas. I got him a neclace for Christmas too. He told me on the phone he got me a Teddy bear for Valentines Day. I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO GET HIM!!! he has a new watch and I cant just get him another neclace! Guys or girls, what do the guys want? what can I get him for Valentines day?
get him a gift card to best buy if he is interested in electronics, hollister if he has a good sense of style, and movies if you guys want some alone time.
maybe even throw in a little cute coupon. like heres a coupon for one kiss from me! hope you like! or something cute like that.

--natalie

Q: 13/f
maybe guys around my age can answer this queastion. do guys with girlfriends ever think about liking another girl that they are friends with?
because i know that when im going out with a guy, even if i liked another guy right before it happens, i kind of forget about it and just focus on my boyfriend.
so do guys with girlfriends ever pay attention and fall for other girls while there dating someone else? can they like two girls and be dating one of them and just not tell the other?
any answer appreciated...thanks!
i know im not a guy, but yeah definitley. They always have drifting thoughts about other girls than their girlfriend. its pretty normal. or sometimes a guy is really involved with their girlfriend and dont really think about girls. so it really just depends on the relationship and the guy.

--natalie

Q: well i think i like this guy im not really sure... thats my problem.... everytime i think of him i get exited and i smile and stuff... but im always afriad to hang out with him... this is the situation... he likes me im positive about that... but i didnt like him.. and i think im now starting too... but i think i might be afriad to like him because of what other people think... cause everyone i kno hates him.. so why do i like him? should i like him? i dont kno what to do... and im afriad hes gunna ask me out and im not gunna kno what to say...
You shouldnt base your decision on what other people think. And if you truly like him theres nothing stopping you. Yes you should like him if thats what you feel, dont worry about the other people. If he asks you out, and you feel that you like him then say yes, take a chance! if it doesnt work out, then move on. but im telling you if you like him go get him girl!

--natalie

Q: the girls at my school are getting gayer and gayer everyday, gay in the way that they are acting different and weird not actually gay. Ever since we changed school from 8th grade to freshmen all the girls think there hotshit now and try to boss around all the guys like there nothing so ive started not to listen to them anymore and now im hated?? and all other guys agree with me also. Like girls think there using you know and just start flirting with you to make them feel good about themselves when they really dont want anything from you. I Dont get it. And how should i act towards them without being a total dick cause thats how i have to act to show them there not hotshit.
gay? i dont actually think your using the term right. but anyway. Maybe you should try to talk to your friends, tell them using the guys is wrong, and the guys even think so themselves. If they dont listen, you'll make new friends. highschool shouldnt be segregated into cliques, be open with new people. My highschool isnt like that. maybe even start hanging out with the guys. you shouldnt act like a dick to show them how there acting, its immature. sit down with them and take it seriously.

Q: I've never really done this advice and answer thing, but I've always wanted to and really need some advice from an outsider because it feels I can never talk to anyone about my problems.. Its just that me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months and we are very serious. I really do like him and we really do have a great relationship. He makes me laugh alllll the time. And he shows me he cares about me a lot. Its just that he acts very immature sometimes and hurts my feelings a lot. I cry sometimes too. He kinda gets mad at me when I hang out with my friends because he feels like I'm ditching him. I would probably be mad too. Its just he never does it to me b.c we always hang out with his friends. B.c he's 2 years older then me. But its just, I really think that I love him. But he thinks of himself a little too highly. Like he is really really cute and he's the big hotshot on the fb team and baseball anddddd track. Not even joking. He's scores all the touchdowns, and is the best guy on the badeball team. And is county champs for track. Soooo what do you expect. His parents don't really like me that much either and they think we hang out too much, and I don't like them much either. he has threatened me all the time in going and hanging out with his old friends, so that is just what he did when I went and hung out wit my friends. B.c we got into a fight, He went to his ex grilfriends house and then after they went out. I do trust him and I don't really think anything went on, its just that it upset me . We had a big fight over it. But I think everythings alright. I do think he feels the same way about me, but sometimes I think he uses me to do stuff. If u know what I mean, in a sexual way. I don't want to make him sound like sucha bad guy, b.c he really is great to me. But he sometimes makes dumb fights about the stpidest thingsss! I hate it. But he's just does it for attention.. I usually get really jealous becuase he flirts sometimes and kinda talks about girls sometimes to get me jealous. But I think he's doing it on purpose. He's stupid like that. What do you think I should do. I really hope you can help me. Thank you so much
theres two options here, either you brake up or stay together. I suggest if her keeps on acting like this you break it off. what girl wants to be treated like dirt? even if the guys a big athlete star. Hes not worth it. Or ig you talk to him, tell him your feelings. If he does't respond then you have a clue that he doesn't want to take this relationship seriously. If you do stay together, have days apart. Like say Friday or something its you and his friend time. You can go to your friends house and he can go to his. Then when saturday comes around you guys can go on a date or what not. I think his parents would be very fond of that plan. Just remember this is up to you, give him atleast one chance and if he blows it brake up with him because he doesn't deserve you.

Hope i helped!
--natalie

Q: ok so theres this guy thats been a friend of mine, but yesturday there were sparks, and stuff. we were hugging and kissing, but the thing is yesturday I was staying at a hotel by the beach, so I'm not sure if he just hasn't called me because he thinks I'm still there. But, I feel, i don't know, i guess kind of weird because once, this guy, not the same guy, another guy, came up to me and randomly kissed me, and so I thought he liked me, but he also requested me on myspace and stuff, but it turned out he was drunk, so I kind of felt stupid, so should I be worried if the guy is kind of quiet today?? I'm not asking because I'm desperate or anything, it's just because the drunk one left me nervous!!

xoxo
No he might be quiet. But maybe this time you could make the first move! Show him you like him and like doing stuff with him.
Go for what you want.
--Natalie

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Boochie
hi. my name is natalie, im 17 and im really good advice giver, all my friends say so. I've been through a lot so i can probably relate to you. Ask me anything, i wont judge or laugh just be honest.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.


really just express yourself and dont care about what others think, its a waste of time and they're opinion is not as important as yours.

i truly hope i can help.

_natalie_

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