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im a 15 year old guy. since i was 7 i wanted a serious relationship where id meet a girl in high school and marry her. now im in high school. i met a girl. and id love to marry her. but she doesnt like to think about commiting. i dont know what to do about. how to approach it. i wanna know if it can work between us, i wanna know if she could love me like i love her, eventally to the point where id be with her forever... (link)
wow you sound so sweet just give her sometime.. it'll help trust me


sum guy led me on and i liked him for 2 yrs but hes a big ass flirt n he changed a lot i cant talk to him i love him um how do i get over him? PLEASE HELP ME ILL JUST GIVE OUT 5S ILL DO WHATEVER IM IN SERIOUS PAIN I SERIOUSLY CONSIDER CUTTING MYSELF BUT IM TOO SCARED SO IK I WONT PLEASEEEEEE HELP


thanx (link)
I had this happen to me once.. All you have to do is try to forget about it.. i know it will be EXTREMELY hard but its the best thing.. maybe get your eyes set on someone else.. you never know it could help


My bf doesn't love me... I know because I know .. The way he looks at me blabla .. yeah .. I feel like shit.. I'm pissed because I know he doesn't love me, I'm really sad and I have 3 days I just don't stop crying ... now what? (link)
ask him are u sure u know this for sure? u don't want to do anything drastic.. i mean just ask it can't hurt more than crying for 3 days...


before my ex-bf asked me out my class was on a felid trip. we went ot a resturant and my n' my ex-bf sat next to each other. by the end of our lunch we were holdin hands n' sittin really close. but that was even before he asked me out. then after he dumped me it was like none of that ever happened and he never liked me. it makes me sad bcuz now that we are broken up we dont talk at all...we talked so much before...so what do i do? (link)
he doesn't sound worth it.. any guy who uses u should feel the pain it causes.. the best thing would be to get over it and just u know rub it in his face that ur fine with out him Confidence is key.. hope it helps


i'm 17 and never kissed anyone, how pathetic is that? the thing is, it's not like i'm ugly or anything because i know many people who have liked me or would've kissed me, but i don't want to make things weird between my guy friends by doing anything with them and the other guys who have liked me are not exactly top rate...another thing is that i never even tell people who i like cuz i don't want to be embarrassed...i don't know what i'm waiting for - someone who i feel comfortable with?? the perfect person who doesn't exist? i'm not the kind of person who would do things just to make myself appear cooler but as i get older it just gets more embarrassing to say i've never kissed anyone (link)
you should be proud i would be.. theres no reason to be embarrassed.. So what you've never been kissed i would think thats pretty cool that your not just ganna give stuff like that away just to act cool or whatever..


okay so the usa cup is goin on in mn and since im a mayjor fan of socca im down tehre like everyday and the cup is a mayjor spot to find some really hottie hot hot guys there. and im really horny so i wanna meet some hotties but i don't knoe how to catch their attention or how to start a convo with them so will you please gimme some tips? asap cuz the usa cup is almost over
please
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i found the funniest way to meet a new guy go up to him and just use a cheesey pick up line and just laugh it off with them.. it helps get u more comfortable i figured


well i have/had this friend we grew apart and i noticed now that she had been lieing to me about certain things but i just forget about them since im not her close friend anymore. and with my previous b/f, whenever she would find out something about MY relationship with MY b/f @ tha time she told EVERYONE and it wasnt n e of her business. sumtymes i miss her then other tymes i just hate her and wish she would leave me alone. she talks to my boyfriend a lot because her soon-to-be boyfriend is my boyfriend's friend. everytime my boyfriend and her start talking i feel really pissed and i dont know that to do. i mean he can be her friend its just that i always get a bad feeling considering she was my bestfriend and now she thinks she can "flirt" with my boyfriend that i have now that and she did with my pervious boyfriend. i dont know what to do. (link)
talk to her about it its not right for u to do that at all flirting with another girls guy is just wrong those i can say alot of girls do it mostly out of smite to the other girl.. just tell her how u feel about it it all should end up fine hope it helps


okay so i was at this socca turny and i met this boy he really wasnt soo cute but he was really really sweet and he spoke spanish so i really didn't have much to say to him but he was all putting his arm around me and all his freinds thought that i was like his gf but really i wasn't and then when he had to leave he was all like can i get a kiss so i was just gonna peck him on the cheek but when i went in he like turnd his face and went for my lips and then he like all pulled me closer and all and then he opend his mouth to french me and all and i wanted to make out with some one but not really him so for a second i was into it and then a sec later i pushed him away and now my friend is all making fun of me cuz i made out with some guy i didn;t even like! and i think that she is totally right! i mean i just met him and all and now i can't stop thinking about it! and i totally regret it! idk wut to do. he prolly thinks im his gf now so if i c him he'll prolly wanna talk to me and kiss me again when really i don't wanna talk to him again.
please help (link)
it was a quick thing.. it ment nothing to you.. but to him who knows will you really ever meet the kid again?? and if u don't like it don't let it happen if u don't wanna talk to him then don't people can't make you do anything u don't want to do.. even if they pull u tight to them.. and your friend are being kinda lame talking about it tell them just not to remind u of it they should stop.. hope it helps


when you call a guy that you met through someone else, what do you say to them?? answer asap!!! i rate! (link)
ask them about them self get to know them it will help


Ok... theres a guy i dated and ... i broke up with him lik 2ce ~ only cause the first time was because i was scared to put my heart in sum1s hands again... but we got thru that and got back together... and the 2nd time was because everyone got in the way and i was really confused about everything and so i jus ended it cause i didnt kno what was going on... i finnaly realized i shouldnt let people get n the way... and that i really trusted this guy... and i kinda want him back... we both admitted we still love each other... but he dont want to get back with me yet... he said why would he wanna jump into it cause hes scared id break up with him again... and i dont kno how to prove that i wouldnt... i dont really know where me and him stand... we still talk all the time... last night we talked about some of our good times and he was lik i dont lik to think about it cause then it makes me want it ... and im lik well whats wrong with wanting something... and hes all idk... so im so confused should i wait for him?... should i just give up and say its over... cause me and him had something ive never had before... he was different from all the other guys... he gave me this feeling... idk... this advice girl needs some advice... wanna lend a helpin thought?... (link)
make sure he knows that you want to make things work out between you two.. you might want to give it all some time and just tell him how you feel about everything then let him think about it all.. hope it helps


Help some one i really fancie my paper boy and hes sooo cute but the problem is im really shy and dont want to talk to him,Can anyone thing of another way to let him no i fancey him?
thank you roxie
ps ill rate you if you help
pps PLEASE HELP (link)
if u really don't want to talk to him.. write him a letter it may help he would know how u felt and u wouldn't have to talk to him.. but sooner or later ur ganna have to talk to him.. hope it works out


well im having a few trust issues lately....ever since my bestfriend and me went out and broke up i havent been able to trust anyone....he told me he'd always be there for me and stuff and then breaks up with me and totaly ditches me as a friend all together and now me and him have absolutly no contact....not only that but thanks to him im having other relationship issues...i cant trust anyone and everone knows that all relationships are based on trust....i dont know what to do part of me says take a chance and get hurt whats there to lose. I've found the perfect guy but im scared to trust him...what do i do?
Sincerly
Confused in Love
Nikki
13-f-Tx (link)
trust is a hard thing once its gone it takes a long time to get it back if the other person is willing.. but this one guy should havent had all ur trust.. Your parents have ur trust too.. so you still have trust in people but just not enough.. Make sure u know all about this guy and u can even tell him that u have hard time trusting so he will know that... hope it helps


Hey theres this girl that im just dying to be with and she knows that I like her. Im 16 and shes 14 but her parents dont let her date guys my age cuz theyre more near her brothers ages. What should i do to get her parents to let her be with me? (link)
maybe if the parents got to know you then it would be better. but when i was 13 i wet out with a 16 year old and my mom wasn't too thrilled but she never told me i couldn't date him. Make sure the parent know how u feel and everything it should help


ok i met this boy nick like in the middle of the skool year...and i hated him soo much...he was going out with my friend....and i dont know i just hated him...then one day i went skating and he was there and i started liking him...well a week later he asked me out and we were goin out for like a month then we broke up...we were on and off all year...well then a month before skool let out he moved....it was the hardest day of my life saying goodbye to him....he was my first love ever and thats the truth.....well now he still calls me and everything and we r still friends and he wants to go back out and i love him sooo much and wanna say yah but i cant cuz ill never c him cuz he moved what should i do~!? (link)
do u have stong enough feels to be able to not see him every moment u want to see him? if so then go for it when not.. just don't get hurt..


Okay im gonna give you two guys and you decide which you like best okay? PEYTON:sweet,kinda best friend,hot,kinda talk to,wants 2 keep relationship secret,football playa,beatiful eyes, charming,shy,can protect me,and sweet! ADAM best friend, hot, always, talk 2, sensitive,wants to tell every1 about relationship,baseball playa charming,and sweet! Plz answer as soon as possible!! .
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depends on wat u want in a guy i mean they both seem nice but idk how long u can keep a relationship a secret its ganna get out soon im having the same trouble with my boyfriend he doesn't want to tell his mom about me because she will be obsessive about it i told him he should tell her and so.. do u want a secret relationship or not? its all up to u in the end. Hope it helps

i would pick Adam


How do I really know if i'm ready to have sex? My Boyfriend and I have been together for a lil over a month... and I feel conforable around him ... but im not sure if im ready to have sex with him yet... how will i know if im ready? (link)
u will just know.. its hard to explain but are u sure u wanna give it up at 14? i am 14 too and idk maybe u should just experiment with oral sex if u want.. but just make sure u wanna do watever u do! hope it helps


Alright my boyfriend and i have been on and off for almost a year..hes changed alot..we have been going "steady" for 4 months now he sayd he loves me but i dont belive it..he has hurt me so many times and the only thing that makes me believe it just a little is i said if u love me you'll quit smoking pot..and hes been clean for 2 months now and i was not doing it to be a bitch but i did it b/c he is always on trouble with the cops and now hes on probation for 3 years..i just wanna know if i should believe him when he tells me..hellllpp pllz! (link)
3 simple words how they just mess everything up.. If he loves u he has to show u i agree.. making guys prove there love can take a long time.. cause everyday ou learn to love them more.. hopefully he didn't jsut quit smoking cause of the cops u prob had a part in it to.. hope this helps


ok..i've just started talking to this guy on the internet and my friends have told me good (: things about him and im really starting to like him..but he has a grl friend and shes younger than me..how do i give him hints that i like him but i still want him to know i respect that he has a grl friend? (link)
Have u ever met this guy? Is he serious with his girlfriend? You can still flirt with him even though he has a girlfriend and u can even tell him u like him... if its the best thing idk.. it depends on how serious the relationship is between him and his girlfriend

hope it helps


I have a boyfriend who I love sooo very much!! I wouldnt do anything to hurt him! I have a few good guy friends who I ONLY talk to on the internet because my bf doesnt like me hanging out with them. Well, one of my friends asked me to go to a party with him tonight or we could go to the mall another night. I'm not sure I should because I think my boyfriend would be mad! What should I do? And if I shouldnt hang out with him, how do I say no without saying my boyfriend wouldnt want me to. He always says "F*** your stupid boyfriend" :-/ Thanks for the advice!! (link)
1 Ur boyfriend shouldn't be able to pick ur friends for u he should be sure that ur only his girl.. something prob makes him feel diffrent like jealous about that so u might want to talk to him..

2 Your guy friends care about u, u can tell... but having them saying stuff like that prob doesn't help anything.. they should realize where ur coming from standing behide ur boyfriend cause u love him and if they wanna be like fuck him and shit like that then u have to tell them how that makes u feel..

hope it helps babe


im fourteen and mi name is sarah.
i duno what to do n e more bout jordan my boyfriend. i mean, i think I love him. But then other times, I just feel it would be better off as us just being friends. But everyone says he loves me so much. But... i mean... ugh. I dont see myself being with him forever. Im starting high school in like 30 days. I wana get into a relationship there. With new guys, and new people to hang out with and everything. I don't want him like tagging along... kinda ya no? I duno.. I want to start off fresh. But he cares so much.... if i told him i couldnt go out with him anymore then he would kill himself. Thats what he said to me b4. in front of mi face he just said out of no where... sara if i lost you...... i dont think i would be able to go on. I dont think id be able to last. like that scared me. I mean... ugh it sux.. im so confused.
Do you think i should dump him?? or just keep going out with him? (link)
follow ur heart no matter wat anyone says on here it wont change wat u feel is the right choice.




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