I love helping people. I was a psychology major in college with a minor in family and child development. I love trying to problem solve and have a way of reading between the lines. I'm in a wonderful marriage (it has taken alot of work and alot of ups and downs) and have survived several family crises. I can often speak from experience. Ask me anything, I'm here to help.
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ok there is this guy i really like and apparently he likes me too but he wont go out with me because he doesnt like my friends..... i dont know what to do because i cant get over him but at the same time i wouldnt be able to hang out with him and my friends at the together
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Loose him. If he doesn't like any of your friends than he's actually dissrespecting them and in essence disrespecting you to. Friends are forever boyfriends come and go. Let him know y;all are a package deal and if he chooses you he chooses your friends to.
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 4 months, and all we have done is make out. I told him before that i want to do more n he says that he feels the same way. But he never has done nething about it. im ready to have sex like i really love him but i dont know waht to do. Please helpp
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You are just too young for sex. I promise, there are alot of issues that come with sex that a 14 or 15 year old is really not ready for. I lost my virginity at 18 years old...And I realize now that I wasn't prepared for it then. It is such an emotional attactment for girls and for boys it's just banging another girl. The emotional baggage means nothing to them. Wait until you know you are ready! I mean really know. Wait for the perfect guy that deserves to have your virginity... I know you love this boy, but just think it through. Sex is a BIG deal. It should be one perfect time with the one perfect guy..Just think about it.
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hey im a 17 year old girl i have a boyfriend how is to much with me but i think hes a woosse... in the way that if im not with him every minute of every day he gets bitchy... if i ask for a night off he bitches... cryies you name it... he does it.. and it just makes me feel bad... and he wins... i feel like im in jail... he says he dosnt mind but the next day he says i hated it and makes me feel bad like i dont what to do... hes driving me insane... and when i try talking abt it he just makes me feel bad... i need help (link)
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Ok well here it is. You need to break up with this guy. He's totally insecure and controlling.He should want you to enjoy life and be happy. Boyfriends are supposed to be fun and supportive. I promise you, this will only get worse. He's manipulative(using guilt trips to play on your sympathy). And controlling and manipulative is not a good combination. There are plenty of fish in the Sea and this one needs to grow up a little.
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I'm 21 and dating a guy right now. He reminds me of an axboyfriend of mine that died. He was my first and my first love too. This new guy reminds me of my ex so much. He acts the same, has the same mannerisms, dresses the same--as in neither of them ever wore blue jeans---and I'm falling so hard for this guy. I'm afraid of losing him again. I think it's a sign that I was supposed to meet and hook up with him. We're taking things real slow..and that's because we like each other so much...what's your imput? (link)
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Do you like him because he reminds you of your old boyfriend or in spite of that. No matter how close the match is everybody is different and it wouldn't be fair if you just liked him because of who he reminds you of.
Make sure you are in love with the total package and not just the similarities. Your wise to take things slow.
Good Luck!
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I have this friend that I have been there with all the time. I wanted to ask him out but I don't think I've ever had a chance, been nothing but a friend and someone to free load hw off of... So, he asked one of my best friend out.. It was really wierd because, I was happy for him and her.. and everything, but I was angry and cursing myself for not taking a chance because I could just ask him after they broke up. She made some excuse that she was too busy to go out with him and he was completely crushed. So I left him alone with this, because well.. I'm his friend and I wouldn't want to just aggravate things further. Now there is some girl that is a cheerleader going after him.. She always has short flings with guys and is very capable of having a time to get a guy in her house and do things. I really don't think this is what he needs right now, and I don't want him to be even more depressed because then I will have to wait even longer for him to be ok for me to ask him out again.. *sigh* it's all so very complicated and I just hate this. I always forget what I want to say around him, feel nervous.. gah.. It's really funny because, he just doesn't see it.. like I never have a chance.. (link)
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Let him lick his wounds for a bit then if you feel the time is right, start to let him know how you feel.I think this is not too too complimented. Get over your fears. He could already like you too. You will never know unless you put yourself out there. But don't wait too long,,,,,another girl will surely be in the wings.
And if this doesn't work out for you, then there will surely be another boy waiting in the wings for you. (there probably already is :) )
***** Allie
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i am so confused rite noww! Im goin out with this kid, but im kind of gettin bored with him and he is getting bored with me i can tell! And my best guy friend likes me! I just found out but i dont like him in that way. Then, my ex - boyfriend from like the beginning of LAST YEAR says he wants me back and i do but my friends tell me i shouldnt go out with him cuz there was a rumor he cheated on me with a girl from another town ..i like some kid in my class but i dont even know if hes single and i dont want to let everyone else down so what do i do?! thank you!! ♥ kelsey (link)
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See this sounds like so much fun to me! Young Love. It's cunfusing, exciting, and a little stressful. First break up with the first guy. That should be easy because you both want out. I'm pretty sure about that!
Now and this is where the fun comes in who to go after next. Kelsey I'm gonna tell you something that most people probably won't say....Go after both boys and see how it goes. You'll find out really quickly how you feel about the X boyfriend but I think you should explore the new boy to! Why not. Goog luck Kelsey! Keep me posted. This is so interesting!
* Allie1
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ok so i'm 14 and haven't been on a real date...or been kissed. i'm starting to think that something is wrong with me. what should I do? (link)
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ENJOY YOUR YOUTH!! You should think "those boys are going to have to wait for me to WANT to go out with them!
Honey nothing is wring with you AT ALL. 14 is young. I promise you will start dating when you are truly ready for it. Most girls start dating @ 15 and some @ 16. Don't rush it. Enjoy your friends.
I can tell from your question alone that you are articulate and intelligent. You will be fighting the boys off soon enough. I promise!
Allie
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(sorry for the length) Ok my boy friend and I have been together for roughly seven months. A week before we started going out we would stay up till like 4 or 5 in the morning talking with each other. Now he seems to be more interested in a comnputer game than in me. When we're both online at the same time he doesn't seem to want to talk to me much. Well a few months back his friend sent me this conversation they had about me and it really hurt me because my bf said some very hurtful things about me. I asked him aobut it and he had stayed home sick the day that conversation occured and was on a lot of medicne and he blamed it on that. After I read that conversation I thought my heart broke. I want to tell him that I love him and I want to know if he feels the same way about me, but I'm kinda afraid of what his response would be. What should I do? (link)
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Do you really believe him? You believe this medicine thing? He is lying. I can tell you that with 100% accuracy. Tell yourself that you deserve better. Because you do.Do you really want to compete with a video game? You have cause to be scared about his response because I guarantee that you will not like it. This guy is not worth it. Tell yourself that you are worth more than this. Than set this guy free!
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Me and my "boyfriend" have been goping out for more than 5 months, Im not sure how long but, it seems like were just friends! I mean were we good friends before we dated and now it seems like were jst friends! I know this one guys likes me but I dont wanna break up w/ my boyfriend because I dont want to break his or my heart and if we did break up it might effect our friendship!! Please help! (link)
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If it feels like you are just friends to you ,then chances are it feels like that to him to.If that's the case, you will still be able to be friends. Talk to him about it. I've learned that good communication can clear up almost all confusion.
And if you want to go out with this other guy, then you are not "in love" with your boyfriend. The great thing about being young is that you get to date all these different people so that you can learn what you do and don't like in someone.
But talk to him!! It works everytime!
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Well I have been going out with this guy for about a month now. Well I was a a party and I wanted to go over to my old b/f's house which is a really great friend too and say hello. :P Well when I went over there I realized that he had moved. And it crushed me soo much. But I dont know why. Maybe it was cause I never got to say goodbye or I still had a thing for him. And that sux to even say that. Cause I am happy with my b/f I have now. I wanna know so bad where he went cause I would still like to keep intouch with him. But what I wanna know is that is it bad to think that I may still have a thing for him? (link)
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You definitely still have a thing for him. 100%. And no, there's nothing wrong with that. But if he didn't even tell you that he had moved and where he had moved , he probably doesn't feel the same way. And I would think that a good friend would inform you that he is moving and would give you all of his new information so that you could continue to keep in touch with him.
Then there is the new boyfriend. Was he just a transitional boyfriend? I can't help but believe that if you truly love him then this whole thing wouldn't bother you so much.
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I just want to know when it is the right time to tell him my feelings? I know deep in my heart i am in love with this man. At the same time i am scared to tell him how i feel because, i don't know how he feels about me in that way any way. I am afraid to tell him because i dont want him to get scared and leave the relationship. At the same time it is killing me not to tell him. (link)
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To be completely honest, it worries me that you aren't more secure about this. I get the feeling that you want to tell him this only to hear it back. Take a deep breath and let the relationship take it's course. If you are with the right person, you shoudn't worry so much about him leaving the relationship.
Well if you think you are just both thinking the same thing, then don't be afraid to tell him! But just say it casually like, "I love spending time with you!" If he scares easily,then a casual approach is probably best. GOOD LUCK!
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ok is it weird for girls to bite guys lips? cuz usually guys bite mine but iv never bitten theirs... and what about running my tongue across my bfs teeth when were making out? my firend told me thats good but i dont know... please help ill rate hi and if u guys have any other ideas please tell me! (link)
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Well, biting a guy on the upper lips gently is good. But running your tongue across his teeth I think is a bit strange. Unless you are a dental hygenist. :)
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My heart has been broken by my best male friend
but i still love him...should i still be friends with him or wat? (link)
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Most people might say be friends with him. But if your heart is involved right now, than it's just not possible. I would take some time to lick your wounds. Tell him that being friends with him right now is just too hard. Hopefully as your heart mends over time you can revisit your friendship with him.
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I think about sex all the time.....but i know if it came down to doing it i wouldnt do it...I dont want to have sex but i think about it all tha time....im plannin on waitin until marriage...but wat do these thoughts mean? (link)
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Of course uou are thinking about sex all the time. That's totally natural. But I can tell you this, if you are 100% sure, than you are not ready. This is a HUGE decision. It will impact you much more than you understand right now. You have the rest of your life to have sex. My advice id wait until you KNOW that you are ready. Believe me. That time will come.
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