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Hey waddup? My names April, I'm 19 years young and I live in boring ol' Tennessee where hardly anything ever happens. I'm really young, true but believe me I have been through more things at only 19 than your average 30 year old. I am married with no kids. You can add me on Myspace but just make sure when you send a friend request you mention in a message you know me from here. ( Or else I just won't add you.) I am a really nice person until you screw me over, then I can be a royal bitch. I do have trust issues that I am learning to deal with. I am very open minded and I don't judge people. I think that is a major no no lol. Just don't ask me questions and exspect to hear what YOU want to hear. I don't sugar coat anything for anyone. I will be 100% honest with you. I just want to help, so I really don't care about ratings. So anyways, yea just ask away and I'll get back to you soon =)

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here's the issue. my name is cecelia and i have been with my husband for almost five years now, were going on our 2 year anniversary, we have two toddler sons. i love him alot with all my heart and soul but for the last past two years things have gotten bad. it's like when were good were good but when were bad were BAD. i've tried talking to him and half the time he dont want to talk and when he dose he only talks about his issues. every time i begin to say something he interrupts me and keeps talking about him. he dont want to listen to me. he says he love me but he treats me badly, like he talk to me badly sometimes and pushes me away. we've came to the point of breaking up but he wont leave the house. im not happy but i dont have the strength to leave him what should i do?

It's really easy for someone to say "leave him" when they aren't the ones in love or in the paticular relationship. SO I'm NOT going to say that :] I will say though that if you do still love him, try marriage counciling. (sp?) It may do you both some good. it sounds to me like you guys just have a problem communicating. I hope everything works out for you. -Adorkable

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Today when my boyfriend was fingering me, all of sudden all this blood came out! It was really weird and it's not my period definitely. Now my stomach hurts and it keeps making really loud noises! I think he popped my cherry but im not sure? If anyone has any websites on whats supposed to happen to you when your hymen breaks then can you send them to me? thanks!!

It sounds to me like he did infact pop your cherry. Of course, that rarely happens that way, but indeed it does sometimes happen. Go to ask.com and ask your question there to learn more. Hope it helps -Adorkable

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I have an amazing boyfriend who loves me and cares about me and wants to be with me. The problem is that i still think about my ex sometimes because he was my first real boyfriend. Should I hold off on going into another relationship because of my ex or should I go for it and take a chance on this new relationship?

There will ALWAYS -let me repeat this- ALWAYS be feelings for the first guy/girl that you have your first relationship with. The problem is, you can't base your whole life on "well..if I'm not over him completely, should I wait or give this new person a chance?" Because then you could be missing out on someone even better. I say move on. Just don't judge your new relationship by thinking of the old one. I swear I should say some of this in the mirror lol Good luck -Adorkable

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Ok well heres my sittuation.
I have a bf and hes in anyones eyes great. He treats me very very well, is very nice, and i can tell him anything. The thing is, I don't really like him that much. We've only been going out for a week. And i really didn't want to go out with him in the first place but i just couldn't turn him down b.c hes super nice and he really likes me.
I know that sounds weird but this kid is seriously really really nice and sweet - i have no idea why i dont like him like him.

Well yeah so theres him which i barly even like, and then we have an ex that i like very very much. Its been over a year, and not too long ago we tried starting up things but he just stopped talking to me pretty much. But i relaly really like him, like A LOT. I really just want him back. But we never really talk and hes kinda a douch half the time. SO yeah your prob. wondering why i don't like the nice guy, and do like the dick? welll i ask myself the same question.
Urgh it just stresses me out and i have no idea what to do :/

Well sweetie, you have the same problem I use to have. YOU FALL FOR THE BAD GUYS. lol It really does have some negative effects on your life. I mean, you have the "nice" guy that would treat you like a princess, and then you have the "dick head" that treats you like crap, but you can't seem to not melt around. What you need to ask yourself, is whats better for you? Maybe you don't like the "nice" guy because you have never given him a chance. Maybe he has a little bad boy in him somewhere lol. Just give it a try. Ask yourself where you see yourself in a few years. Getting hurt by the bad guy, or being happy with the nice guy? Hope it helps hun! -Adorkable

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okay well..theres ths guy kevin..andd we've been like dating on and off since 7th grade, were now in 9th. well we havent gone out since december of 8th..but we've always been talking on and off since them. well i know i like him ALOT! and one night he told me that he liked me and i didnt think that i liked him until like the next day so i told him iliked him and we were like talking. then one night one guy im'd me and told me to call him tonight..but i told him if he wants o talk to me, he can call me. well while i was talking to him i kinda gave up on kevin and i was going after this guy. [ he goes to my school in 11th grade] and then me and that other kid stopped talking bc hbe wa getting to gross and then kevin started talking to this girl who i'm friends with and all. and i told kevin i liked him but wasn't going to go after him because i didn't wanna fuck up what they had going on. well kevin went after me and yesterday in class he was sitting next to me and he kept like rubbing my leg and i ddin't care but i said stop bc he is talking to that girl and he didn't so whatever i said stop and he still didn't. then i was in a classroom with my friend talking about kevin and he passed and she saidd like there he is and i went in the hall and talked to him and we were standing in the hall he was leaving and he grabbed my boob! and i went into the room and immediately told my friend. then aftterschool isaw kevin hug the girl hes talking to and since she rides my bus i had to tell her waht he did bc i dont think it is right not to..ya know? i didnt want her to get hurt when he was trying to do stuff with other girls. and she told him what i told him and he denied then admitted it today but he won't talk to me and claims i made it up juss to get them not to go out and he said he truly hates me. im a mess right now. was it the right thing to do by telling her? i feel like it was right bc i didn't want her to get hurt and yeah he's talking crap and evertything about me and tells me how much he hates me.. i dont know what to do. help me pleasee

Yea sweetie you did the right thing. I mean, if you have any doubt what so ever, then just put yourself in her place. What if you were dating a guy and he was all up on some other girl? Wouldn't you want to know? You did her a favor. As for the guy, he doesn't deserve you anyways. So don't sweat it. He is just pissed off because he got caught. Guys do that. You'll get use to it. Just know that you did the right thing. Good luck hun! -Adorkable

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first off me and this boy had like a little thing, it lasted for a little while but then we just drifted and stopped talking. now we don't talk at all. i know he doesn't like me or anything, but i still might like him. i honestly feel stupid if i say hey or something online or in a text cause if he just replys back like hii or something i don't know. but its so confusing. i really liked him, i don't think i've ever liked anyone like that before, he's been in my head for ever. how can i talk to him again or get him out of my head.

ps we don't go to the same school.

It sounds like there WAS something there, but then it just went away, and don't feel bad. This happens to everyone. Part of life. My advice to you is to just come and tell him you still like him. You will never know how he feels until you ask. If he says he don't feel the same way anymore, thats fine. Then it's time to move on to a nicers, cuter guy. Your young hun. There will be PLENTY more guys out there lol. Hope it helps;

-Adorkable

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ok my boyfriends friend just died. liek i have no idea what to say to him. i feel so bad

A time like this I don't think there really is a "right" thing to say. All you can do is be there for him and let him come to you if he needs to talk. Don't force conversation or sympathy down his troat. Often people try and do that thinking it's the right thing to do, when infact it's the worst thing they could do. Take him out to dinner or a movie, try and get his mind off of things, and DON'T bring up his friend until he does. Sorry for his loss;

-Adorkable

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so the cutest guy that i work with has a crush on me or should i say HAD. the deal is taht hes 24 and im only 17 and the other night when he tried to kiss me good night i freaked out and told him that i didnt think i was ready and that mabye we could another time. But then the next time i went to work he wouldnt even give me the time of day! we said hi and everything but he went from loving me to completely ignoring me! i really do like him but how do i let him no that? ps i no its risky cause hes older but idc anymore

Ok the fact that he is that much older than you is a huge sign sweetie. if he gets mad at you for you not kissing him, then a buzzer should go off in your head. Sounds like he is just worried about one thing only. I know this is not the answer you were hoping for, but I give my 100% honest advice. You can try talking to him about it and let him know you do like him, see where it goes. Hope it helps;

-Adorkable

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Hi Adorkable! You really give good advice so I was hoping you could help me with something. I like this guy, but I am with another guy. I don't want to hurt either one. What should I do?

Thanks sweetie :] I'm just here to help. Anyways, sounds like you have a real delima on your hands! I understand you not wanting to hurt either guy, but to be honest by not telling them how you are really feeling, in the end you could end up hurting them both. Just be honest with yourself; which one could you see yourself being with? Which one do you care about the MOST? Hope it helps;

-Adorkable

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ok lets say my best friends who are also best friends with my crush tell me that my crush (who says he likes me) never actually liked me or maybe that he was only using me to get some, what's a good answer to that? (not to my crush, but what do i tell me friends that will sounds cool and not too hurt and stuff, and something not too mean so i dont have to worry about them telling him about it) what do you think?

Ok, this sounds like your friend maybe jealous and want him for theirself. Just brush it off and act like it do't effect you at all, laugh about it. Remember, someone who is trying to hurt you, the WORST thing you can do to them is smile about it.

-Adorkable

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okay, first off i am 15. the guy i like is 19. we really get along greatly, we talk on the phone for hours and never run out of things to say. we even finish each other's sentences sometimes. a lot of people have been saying he just "wants some" but, mostly everyone knows i'm not that way, including him. i really like him but i dont want to be called a whore for dating him considering everyone says college boys only want one thing. another thing i worry about is my parents. what they would think if i told them. what should i do about people talking about me? please help me. :(

Really it doesn't matter what other people think sweetie. I could be the responsible adult here and tell you that he is waaay to old for you, and for you to just find someone your own age, but it's not going to change the feelings you have for him. Stop worrying about what everyone is saying. If they are calling you a whore and you are not doing anything even close to that, then don't sweat it! YOU know who you are and where you stand. Don't let anyone tell you any different. ge ain't nothing but a number so just take things slow and be careful. Hope it helps;

-Adorkable

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So there is this guy and me and him dated and when we did it was like all we did was have sex. but it wasnt like that when i was with him i never wanted to leave his arms. i have liked him for years and when he was finally mine i did not want to let him go. but he broke up with me and he kept telling me he still liked me. he broke up with me because he needed to focus on school which was true but he always went out with 3 girls after me. also almost getting one of them pregnant. and he lives about 20 minutes away and i dont see him like i would like. but when i do i get the feeling that he does still like me but other times that he doesnt. what should i do to get him back!?

You said; "He said he needed to focus on school." Yet he is out there screwing around with other girls and almost getting one knocked up? Ok, this will be very blunt, and excuse me if it's brutal, but hun you need to hear this. MOVE ON! Let me de/code 'guy lango' for you. When they say:

"It's not you, its me" =They don't want to be with you

OR

"We're better off friends" =They just wanted some ass

AND THE INFAMOUS

"I need to focus on school or work" =Met somebody new.

He is just keeping you around like cheat codes to a used video game. Only to bring you back when he needs to use you. Find somebody better hun. You can do waaaay better. Let him find some new "cheat codes."

-Adorkable

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I've gone out with this one guy like 3 times over the past 3 years. But he moved away a couple of months ago. I loved him but now I've moved on from him. But lately I've started talking to him again. & he keeps saying that he likes me alot still and that he loves me. (And that's the first time he said he loved me.) But I don't believe a word he says anymore. He's proven to me that he can't be trusted. And I honestly don't like him anymore. Like I'm fine talking to him but he always yells at me about other gujys and it really annoys me. & I've told him that. This guy is seriously a jerk. & sometimes I just don't want to talk to him at all. But he always manages to lie his way back into my life. What should I do? :(

Well, I hate to be this obvious, but this question is really silly. Here are the facts sweetie:

1) You don't LIKE him anymore
2) He seems the "jealous" kind
3) He has already proven he can't be trusted.

(and a relationship without trust, is not a relationship at all)

So there, here is my point hun MOVE ON AND TELL HIM TO HIT THE ROAD! Be friends with him if thats what you want, but set it to him strait, let him know he is not going to act like a jerk towards you. Only you can put your foot down. Hope it helps;

-Adorkable

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ok heres the story i went to a valentines dance with this guy who i really liked and still do like and he liked me and maybe he still does but i kissed him at the dance and then after i tried to talk to him at school but he would not look at me he would look at the ground and now he just does not talk to me at all and he told my friend's boyfriend that he did not like me anymore but for all i know my friend's boyfriend could be lying cause he's a ass and the guy i went to the dance with is always standing with his friends looking at me i am so confused someone please tell me what to do and if they think he still likes me because i hae not liked anyone this much before and i just feel like i am falling apart.

Ok this is going to be a little rough, so prepare yourself. Sounds to me like there was 'something' about you he just didn't like. You had your first sample of a (sorta) one night stand. Wlecome to the world. Guys will do this, break your heart, and along the way you'll break a few hearts yourself. Just leave the guy alone. You can't make someone like you. His loss anyways. Go find you a really nice honest guy. Your better off without him sweetie. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but jus begging for attention makes you look pathedic and just gives the guys more to talk about. So get over him, and move on with some cutie.

-Adorkable

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I've always wondered how couples make their relationship last. How do 2 people stay together for 2 years & still be so happy with each other? I understand that it takes love but there's gotta be something else to it. So if anyone can share how they have made things last, I would really appreciate it.

To me it's like fixing soup lol (don't think I'm crazy, go with me here.) You throw in a little love, along with a little lust, a dash of trust. and a whole lot of friendship and WAAALAAA; you have a great relationship. For my husband and I, it took us a long time to realize this. I think other than love, friendship is the main key to having a great, long relationship.

-Adorkable

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i am a 15 year old guy. i have always like girls and i mean ALWAYS. never ever felt even the slightest love directed at a guy. 4 months ago i asked a girl out. after that, i had a crush on another girl a little less than 2 months ago.
I am really confused because about 3 weeks ago i started wondering i may be gay after i saw some line reading a soccer review where the player said "its a man's game". i have no clue why but that set of a chain reaction in me. after this i can count about 3 instances where i haven't been aroused that much by porn. i have never watched gay porn but for some reason it seems more exciting but not so arousing. i think it might be the hero worship happening now. i am sexually attracted to women ONLY and masturbate thinking about them only and do not fantasize about men.
my relationship with my dad is good but i don't see him so much because he is busy and my brother left for college last year. have not been able to meet my friends so much cos i have study leave for exams.
please help. i really need it

At 15 you are what we older folks like to call "curious." With your dad and brother not around you are spending alot of time with your mom..right? Being around a woman for a long period of time can rub off on you, get you confused about things. My advice to you would be to get out of the house more often and start just hanging with the guys. Have spit contests, play video games, talk about chicks. Do what men love to do. Pretty soon you will start feeling like your old self again. If not? Maybe you need to watch atleast ONE gay porno to see if there is any attraction what so ever, and then go from there. Just so you know, there is nothing in this world wrong with being gay. My bestfriend is gay, and you couldn't ask for a nicer guy! Hope it helps

-Adorkable

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Hey..my boyfriend and i are pretty serious. we have a 13 month history..took a couple month break but we are good now. we are both 18. just today we saw a WWE wrestling show and of course the beautiful divas were prancing around in basically nothing with theit whole thongs showing. my bf was lovvvving this..took pictures, he got the S.I Swimsuit edition today, likes his porn videos,and tonight after the show asked how i would feel if he went to a strip club! i feel weird about it.he says its normal and i guess it is..i guess its ok..its not like hes cheating..any input?

When my husband and I first got together it was a HUGE deal. I guess this is because you feel that you only want the person you love looking at YOU like that. Which is fine, everyone feels that way at one point or time. Here is the truth though. My husband and I grew out of the "no porn, no looking at other girls/guys" faze and I realized as long as he is not cheating with another woman there is really nothing wrong with it. He is a guy, guys do that kinda stuff lol it's just in their nature. If it really bothers you right now though, just talk with him about it. You just need to remember at the end of that wrestling show, who did he leave with? YOU!! I know it's hard to understand now, believe me it was back in the day for me also, but he's a man, so let him get these things out of his system. Hope it helps sweetie.

-Adorkable

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okay, i'm really bad with guys. i don't know why but whenever i talk to them i sound all nervous and stuff. but thats beside the point. does anyone have any good flirting advice? or can any guy tell me what kind of hints to you that a girl likes you. also, guys, what do you like to talk about with girls so i can have a good convo with the guy i like

Number one rule: BE YOURSELF! lol Acting like you are into a certain sport etc. is not going to help you in the long run. guys are really attracted to girls with confidence. Know you are a great person with or without a guy. Be sweet, but confident. It's a HUGE turn on!

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okay to make long story short, I should start off by saying im 16/f

well I am not allow to date or have bf or anything like that but ive been seeing this guy for over month and half... its going pretty awesome. anyways what i was wondering is, how I say I love you? in a such cute/romantic/unique way?

I was thinking of giving him this picture I drew... its a single rose (the one i sketched from the roses he gave me on valentines day) and it has a poem saying

Roses are red
Violets are blue
and i wanted to tell you that
I love you too

but I'd like to know some other ways just in case that doesnt work out or I dont find that (because I had to hide it from my 'rents and I hid it too well and cant find it :( so any ideas???)

Aw thats really cute. I like that. Honestly though, it should be special. You don't need iseads it should just come from your heart. Believe me when the time is right it will come out perfect.

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