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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.
I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.

People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.

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So me and my friend were getting revenge on these 2 girls. Yes I know it's bad, and I learned my lesson. But they found out and said that tomorrow I would be sorry. I don't know if I want to tell the teachers either, because then they will talk to her about it. Then she'll know and try to hurt me even more because i'm a "snitch". She's a really violent girl and I'm not a fight type of person. Please help. Yes I know it was bad of me to get revenge and everything but i'm really scared. Please please help me, I don't want to go to school tomorrow. Also, we're both about to go to high school.

I have to go to school eventually, and I only have to go like 20 more times before Summer then I probably will never see her again. But I'm scared. The only time she would be able to hurt me would be after school, but there's teachers near me. I still feel like she would try to do something. Should I stay near the teachers at all times? Please help as soon as possible. Sorry if this is long I just really need advice here.

This is a tricky one but you have several alternative options- some better than others. I will give you most of the options that will help you deal with it in some way:

Firstly, Go to school. Hold your head up high and be prepared.
if you\'re not going to snitch on her If you\'re really against talking to someone about it, ...this\'ll be some unconventional advice but ...

try as best you can to hold your chin up and act like you don\'t give a shit.
(Trust, do it right and you\'ll look pretty cool)

Hang around in public places, go home with people. So if you really think she\'s going to get you and attack physically, at least let it be in a place where there\'s LOADs of people and teachers nearby to see and get her into trouble quickly without being a snitch. Don\'t hit back, cus then you are no better. (On the other hand, just break her nose and she wont even look in your direction again. Oops, we\'re probably not supposed to give that kind of advice though!!)

Try your best to be unaffected by whatever she does- because that will make you strong, and really piss her off. If something she says or does to hurt you doesn\'t work, then she just looks like a stupid bitch, right?

(Soz, I am angry on your behalf now, because I was once in a similar situation to this.)
2ndly; BETTER COMEBACKS....!

Internet search them. Don\'t go for nerdy ones, don\'t go for the \"ugh gaaaay\" overused, derogatory types. Go for funny, witty ones. If there is a bitchy-word fight (which may be more likely in this day and age) You\'ll come out on top! If comebacks are clever, people will root for you in an argument. If they are no better than hers, then you\'re just as bad as each other.

Alternatively, use a physiological trick. When customers ring up helplines angrily complaining, the call centre\'s are trained to act very calm, agreeable and helpful. It is impossible to fight someone who refuses to hit back, or make you angry enough.
So avoid her but if she approaches you (not to attack but to talk or complain) just be pleasant at first, not a suckup, but just polite.


However, if things get too bad it is probably best to tell someone who can help you!!! I know you have your pride, but the best thing, beyond all of these, is probably to tell a teacher what you just said- someone who can speak to her and try and get her to cool off and/or dare not try anything.

Teachers, above all else, are supposed to care for their pupils and protect them from any kind of bullying.

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I broke up with my boyfriend today and he seemed kinda sad about it. He's a mostly quiet person... But I didn't really know how to break up with him, but I kinda lied to him (Yes, I know it was bad, but I wasn't thinking and I was scared). I told him that I got in trouble for dating him and that we should just stay friends. He asked who got me in trouble and I just didn't answer. He also said "Wow I wanna shoot whoever did that" and that kinda got me scared... He asked if it was my parents then said "No I wouldn't do that"... But like I don't know if he was just upset or actually meant it. He's a sweet guy so I wouldn't think he would do that, but like I don't want there to be like a school shooting... I'm a VERY paranoid person so I could just be overthinking this, but what do you guys think?
Also, please don't tell me to tell like an adult about this because it could probably just be nothing but I don't want to be wrong either.

I think you may be overthinking it.

If it keeps bugging you, come clean. Just tell him you weren't feeling it anymore, it wasn't right to keep going etc. etc. Its only kinder to end it before you're in too deep.

You needn't worry though. You broke up with him for a reason so stick to it.

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I'm a junior in highschool and there's this boy in my history class. He sits two seats to my right and there's another kid that sits between us. Is there a way I can start a conversation without it being weird or awkward? I don't really know him, but I would like to.. any ideas??

Right, EASY.
Talk to the kid who sits in between you two about anything. ANYTHING--

Even more devious, talk about something you know this boy is interested in. Maybe he'll join in the conversation. And hey, you may make friends with the other kid too~

There is no reason not to talk to anyone. Keep doing it and eventually you'll be in there with in-jokes and history banter.
Then there's no reason you cant talk to him outside class either.

Then just you wait till that kid is off sick.
THERES YOUR CHANCE!

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My boyfriend keeps asking me which kind of kiss I want it to be. So when I ask him he says French. But he has never kissed a girl before so I'm not sure how to know when or what type of kiss it should be. I have kissed a boy twice the same boy within a span of five minutes but it was easy because that boy took the lead but this one doesn't have A CLUE.
Additional info: we are both in sixth grade and have been dating for 4months.
I have kissed him on the hair(on accident), the cheek, and the neck. Also any advice will help.and we both want to kiss already because it is starting to interfere with our grades and school work because we are both stressing out about it.
ANYTHING HELPS. THANKS:)

hmmmmm To be honest, I don't think you should be French kissing in the 6th grade!

But, hey, that's your decision, I'll only provide you with the facts:

French Kissing, is essentially a kiss with tongue.

Tongue often means tracing it along the persons lower lip.

That is literally it. Ussually, when you are mentally ready for a French kiss, it comes naturally to both people. Same with a normal kiss really. Don't over think and youll be fine- don't "plan" it either.

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Hey so me and my boyfriend are both in 6th grade and we have been going out for 4months and havent actually kissed yet like I've kissed his head(on accident) his neck and his cheek. But we have never actually kissed lip to lip if you know what I mean. And I need help on how to kiss him lip to lip for the first time because he doesn't pick up the hints of when I'm ready. ANYTHING helps thank you. :)

6th grade? Well, no need to rush- most of us don't get our first kiss that early---

BUUUT- For your information and curiosity:
The classic thing to do, which does actually work is too get close enough to stare into his eyes. not in a creepy way. Look at his lips, look back at his eyes, smile a little. be quiet.
Its what they do in the movies.

If he doesn't get that then he's probably a little young for a kiss on the lips yet. Boys can be pretty dense sometimes. trust me!

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Well this boy that I talk to on Facebook everyday told me he likes me and I like him too. I have only known him for a month though. He lives very close to me and Ive hung out with him a couple of times. Should I ask him out or wait a little longer?

Hang out more than a couple of times just to be sure.
In fact, just ask him to hang out more often, just you and him alone... and see if you can flirt, and get a good response. If youre sure he had fun with you, definetly ask him out again, and make it more of an "official first date!"

But don't be too clingy and desperate. If he says no, just play it cool, and don't ask again. ;) You'll still have got his attention by asking, and who knows, he may ask you later.

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This year I met this guy,(we'll call him Alex) who's in my group. He told me he ended his relationship of a year after finding out she had cheated on him for the second time(he forgave her the first). He went to a party last night with me. Everyone thought we're together and they kept asking but we both avoided answering. He spends his mornings with me at school, just us two and I think he might like me. But last night he said, "This chick is always texting me. I'm just not ready for a relationship just yet, and she doesn't get that." So did he say that so I would get the drift? Or was he just saying he doesn't want anything with her?

I'm not sure from what you described;
The good signs :
he didnt say he WASNT with you at that party ~hence avoiding answering
He likes spending time with you
He mentioned he's not into this other girl at all.

The bad sign :
He blantently said he's not ready for a relationship. He has just been hurt after all!
>but that might just be her, not you< ;)

I think you shouldnt overthink it and just enjoy spending time with him, and who knows where things might go...
But watch out for a few more signs; does he flirt with you? Does he compliment you? Do you catch him looking your way often?

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Im a classy girl having torble figureing out what to do for an up coming event to see 6th graders off to middle school and since i had only been there for about 1 mouth i want them to have somthing to remember me by sooo.....my question is can u help me come up with an idea thats not to lame but not to out of there?

Talent show? Well that obviously depends on your talent! Can you sing, dance or do magic? The easiest thing i think; You could write a poem... i know that sounds lame, but if you make it funny, or deep and epic, about change or memories of elementary school, it will go down alright. Just a suggestion :) good luck in whatever you do!

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There's this guy that i've liked for 5 years. He makes me laugh a LOT, he stares at me like all the time, he smiles at me, and more. But lately, i've noticed something: he's been talking to certain girls right in front of me. 2 girls. But only in front of me or when i'm around. Like this one time, we were in English class, and he asked one of the girls an English question when I walked by them. Does he like me or not?

Yeah. Im no expert on this really, but talking to other girls in front of you sounds like a really cliche way to make you jealous. If you talk often, and he stares at you and smiles, then he MUST like you one way or another. Apparently, most people want the person they like to make the first move. So be brave~ ask him what he thinks of you!

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I'm in 6th grade and I really like this 7th grade boy but we haven't really met but i know who he is well and my friend is best friends with him that's a guy. I have his # but I feel awkward texting him and I only see him in the halls...he went to my elementary school and we had no idea who eachother wwere. I really wanna be with him. I know it's strange, but any help? Also how do I make him get to know me and try and make him fall for me meaning like me too

Start off by saying hello everytime you see him- eventually you'll get know who each other is. Then if you see him randomly sitting near you in the libary Ect.... why not ask for help with something? like homework? He's older than you right? THat should work out, and besides, youre a friend of a friend, its not as awkward as you think :)
(*DONT STALK HIM THO~ trust me, i've been there done that and seen the consequence :/
Good luck! :D

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after Christmas break we got this new kid. hes so funny! but i can never talk to him because he's friends with popular people and this other friend group. my friend group doesn't have any guys, or at least cute guys. in all these people i know they have fun and go ice skating with a bunch of girls and cute guy friends. with me its not like that. what can i start a conversation about and make it not be awkward?

Everytime you see him, pass him by at school or whereever say "hey!" or "hello!" Or "hI!" , smile wave ect...you get the idea. If he's really a nice guy, he'll wave back, (even if he doesnt know you well)and eventually you might get into more of a conversation!
-ALTHOUGH That conversation might be "Why d'you keep saying hi to me?" its still a starting point!-

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